As you age, your idea of love changes. Romance transforms into something more functional that at times, lambing gets lost in the familiarity and comfort. There are also times when love breaks you and makes you feel like you’re at the end of your rope, but when that happens, you need to look back at how you first approached relationships.
In the recent digital press conference of Star Cinema’s newest movie Can’t Help Falling In Love, celebrity love team Kathryn Bernardo and Daniel Padilla share the lessons they’ve learned from both their professional and personal relationship. The rumored couple have been starring in movies together since 2013, and according to a recent report by Nerisa Almo on PEP.ph, Daniel seems to have confirmed their official relationship (which doesn't come as a surprise, as they've pretty much been exclusively together anyway).
Here are some quotes from the couple to remind us that surprisingly, the voice of reason sometimes comes from those younger than you:
1. Kathryn: "Gusto ko na wala akong pagsisihan, so ibibigay ko lahat."
So many people spend so much time planning the perfect relationship, but most of the time, love is simply throwing caution to the wind and giving it your all. “Kasi ako ‘pag nag-invest ako sa isang tao, whether sa kaibigan, or sa important na tao sa buhay ko, ibinibigay ko talaga lahat,” shares Kathryn. “Ayaw kong pagsisihan na ‘Kasi hindi ko ‘to binigay sa kanya, may pagkukulang ako, kaya nawala’.”
2. Daniel: "Pursigido lang ako magmahal, hindi desperado."
Daniel has never been in a situation where he has been desparate for love, but he knows that it takes effort to keep things going. Being in a relationship means having the drive to invest in it and make it a daily decision to commit—all while keeping sight of each other's individuality.
3. Daniel: "Kapag mali ko ako pa rin naman talaga [ang nag-a-apologize]."
When asked about who says sorry first, Daniel says that he does. “Dapat naman talaga ako. Kapag mali ko ako pa rin naman talaga. Kahit mali mo [Kathryn] ako pa rin,” he jokes. “Pero ganun talaga eh. Wala namang perpektong relasyon na hindi kayo nag-aaway. And parang kailangan mong pagdaanan ‘yon para mas makilala niyo pa ang isa’t isa lalo, para mas malaman niyo pa kung gaano niyo kamahal ang isa’t isa. And pagsubok ‘yan na kailangan muna lagpasan para lalo kayo mag-grow.
4. Kathryn: "Huwag niyong papalipasin ang isang araw na hindi kayo nagkakaayos..."
Kathryn notes that she doesn’t like to end the day without fixing misunderstandings with Daniel. “Yon ‘yong itunuro sa amin dalawa ni Mama—na kayong dalawa, huwag kayong maghihiwalay o matutulog, huwag niyong papalipasin ang isang araw na hindi kayo nagkakaayos kasi nga… ‘pag tanda mo, madadala mo ‘yong papatagalin niyo, na hindi talaga siya okay.”
5. Kathryn: "Ayaw ko naman na pilitin mo ‘yong sarili mo na mag-stay sa isang relationship... na wala na ‘yong love..."
With a movie that starts out with a possible annulment, Kathryn believes that staying in a loveless relationship just because a couple is kept by marriage may not be the wisest thing to do. “[I’m] speaking for myself. Ako kasi naniniwala ako na ‘pag ‘yong dalawang tao hindi na siguro nagwo-work ‘yong isang relationship, ‘yon ‘yong gagawin ko ‘pag nangyari sa ‘kin—annulment."
Kathryn shares that she knows how much effort is needed to make things work, but sometimes, even the best intentions don’t result in favorable outcomes. When that happens, she shares that it’s okay to make the difficult decision of bowing out and moving on. “Mahirap kasi i-sustain ‘yong love... Ayaw ko naman na pilitin mo ‘yong sarili mo na mag-stay sa isang relationship kasi kasal lang kayo na wala na ‘yong love, wala na ‘yong desire niyo para sa isa’t isa.”