Ballsy Aquino-Cruz is the eldest daughter of Ninoy Aquino and the late Cory Aquino. While some people prefer making a name for themselves, Ballsy accepts what life throws her way without complaint. “I know I’m usually known as someone’s sister or daughter,” she says, “but I’m happy enough being like that. I’m proud to be Cory and Ninoy’s daughter.”
In the May 2011 issue of Good Housekeeping Magazine, Ballsy opens up about herself by talking about her life experiences. Read on to find out about five lessons Ballsy has learned about life, love, and motherhood from someone she loves and respects: her mom, Cory Aquino.
1. ADOPT AN OPEN PARENTING STYLE WITH YOUR KIDS.
Ballsy was used to confiding in her mom while growing up because she felt that by telling her her problems, she was able to relax. “That’s why ever since they were kids, I always told my sons, ‘There might be times when you made a mistake, and you don’t want to tell anyone—but just tell your parents. Tell me because as a mom, I’ll know what to do—and I’m like that with Lola. I’ll always try to help you.” Her sons have heeded her words. Up to now, they still confide in her despite being adults themselves.
2. TEACH YOUR CHILDREN BY EXAMPLE.
Ballsy never gives her children “direct, unsolicited advice.” She prefers to teach through stories just like her mom used to do. “I feel that by using examples, I can show my kids what’s important.” She recalls an incident in which, when her son Jiggy was in school, he told her about his scholar friend from the province who was feeling insecure; she in turn told him of how her father, Ninoy Aquino, made it a point to befriend his classmates from the province because he knew they felt displaced.
3. HAVE STRONG FAITH IN GOD.
Ballsy makes it a point to pray constantly, a habit she’s also passed on to her children. “I don’t think there’s anything we asked [Mama Mary’s] help for that the Lord did not grant us. My mom used to say, ‘How hard it must be for those people with no faith because whom can they turn to?’ Mom also used to say that God will never send you problems you cannot handle.”
4. ACCEPT YOUR PARTNER FOR WHO HE IS.
Ballsy recalls how her mom used to tell her not to try and change her husband. “It’s not about finding the perfect partner,” Ballsy explains, citing something she read before. “It’s about being the perfect partner. I guess that’s what Mom meant when she used to say, ‘Alam mo naman na ganoon siya, pagpipilitan mo pa? (You already know that he’s like that. Why would you insist on changing him?)’”
5. KNOW YOUR LIMITS.
Cory used to tell her daughters, “Don’t be too efficient.” She was referring to how her husband, Ninoy, took for granted that she could cook and prepare for house parties at will—all by herself. “Nagkamali ako dun,” she used to say. “Don’t make it appear like it’s so simple, so that your husband can appreciate you.” Taking her advice to heart, Ballsy doesn’t attempt to do everything on her own—she plans the parties, but doesn't adopt a hands-on approach at all times.
To read the rest of mommy Cory’s advice, grab a copy of Good Housekeeping Magazine’s May 2011 issue out on stands this week!
Also in this issue:
- Mother’s Day Special –Make this your month!
- Educational Plans: No or Go?
- Little Girls Gone Wild: Is your child one of them?
(Photos by Sara Black)
Want to read more articles from Good Housekeeping? Check these out on FN:
- 5 Parenting Tips from Tintin Bersola-Babao
- 5 Cooking Tips from Janice and Gelli de Belen
- Jaclyn Jose and Andi Eigenmann Share 5 Tips on Mother-Daughter Bonding
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