is it really a big deal for you is your in-laws doesnt like you?

[spnliz]

not a big deaL... kung ayaw niLa sa akin, mas ayaw ko sa kaniLa...

I TOTALLY Agree!! di ko pag pipilitan sarili ko sa ayaw sa kin, deadmahin nila ako deadmahin ko rin sila!

[theisofairy]

noon i try to please them pero kahit maging mabuti ka di mauubusan ng sinasabi. wala na kami paki ni hubby sabi nya la naman daw sila natutulong samin, kung sino lang daw mahal kami yun lang mahal namin so kung ayaw nila eh ayaw ko din sa kanila.

[xiayou79]

ako yun tao na type na sensitive...well, it's a big thing for me....ayoko kasi sa lahat yun madami nasasabi yun tao sa akin...quiet person lang ako kahit masama na loob ko sa isang tao hindi ako nagsasalita and trying to be nice pa rin...

[sol019]

Yung mother at mother's side, gusto sa akin.
Yung father at father's side, ayaw sa akin.

I know rin naman kung bakit. Mas free-spirited ang mother's side ng bf ko, and they are more open. I enjoy being with them 

Yung father's side naman nila, masyadong judgmental, gusto nila upper class and everything.

Hindi ko alam kung paano set-up namin if ever na magkatuluyan kami, pero I imagine na magiging mahirap kasi mas malaki ang influence sa financial stability ni bf ang father's side nya. Natatakot ako kasi baka mamaya alisan siya ng mana or something. Wala naman ako balak nakawin yun  Family niya rin yun at masasaktan ako kung itatakwil siya ng pamilya niya dahil sakin... 

[wifeynikawin]

yes big deal. umbaot pa sa point na nung mgbf pa kami ni hubby, tinext ko yung mommy nya na masama loob ko at me iba siyang gusto para sa anak.she just had a chemo session. ako pa ang sinisis at lumabas na masama.pero okay naman..we were fine...she died 2 years ago.peace na kami a year before she passed away.

[angeleigh]

YES...

kahit ano pang sabihin natin, magiging issue pa rin yan between u and your husband. kahit pa sabihin natin na he is on my side. family niya pa rin yun e.

so im very lucky na gusto ako ng mga mamanugangin ko. hehe

[honey_iya]

^agree! tsaka believe me mas magiging ok pagsasama niyong mag asawa kung ok ka sa IL's mo, kaya as much as possible eh mas ok talaga na ok relationship niyo with your IL's...pero kung ginawa mo ng lahat at di ka parin magustuhan eh di keber nalang, huwag ipilit ang ayaw

[cheogie]

yah big deal talaga... kasi kapag me ginawa ka na parang di nila gusto or di mo sila kinunsulta sinisiraan na ko kay hubby eh.... hirap lang lahat na ginawa mo tapos in the end di ka pa rin nila matanggap...... sabi nga ng mga friends ko kasi nawalan sila ng malaking kayamanan eh.....

[pinkpotato]

yes for me this is a big deal

if they doesn't like you, i guess you just have to show them your natural self try not to make patol na lang. hubby will be affected if something goes wrong in between. tsaka totoo, family nya yun, mahal nya rin mga yun.

[Mai]

I used to think it's not a big deal, tipong you and me against the world ang pinoportray na role. But after sometime, family relation is very important, harmony as well, especially pag lumabas na ang mga apo.

[pinkstar712000]

Long time ago, when were were just starting, it really is a big deal. Ginawa ko lahat para ma very good ako ng MIL ko. In the long run, I realized nobody among us can do that. She's the only person I knew who always have negative things to tell about others.

Now, it doesn't matter, kasi like man nya ako o hindi, love ako ng husband ko.

[cessaborro]

i came from a big family and we would sometimes have reunions and family gatherings, so dati parang imporatante sa ki na magustuhan ako ng mother in law ko. so nung may marinig ako na may sinabi syangmasama sa kin, sabi ko baka dahil hindi pa lang nya ko nakikilala so pagbibigyan ko. and then nung nagkakilala na kmi, akala ko wala na kong maririnig na masama sa kanya. akalain mong pati yung magiging baby namin sana sinabihan nya ng masama, dun na na nagpanting tenga ko. now, wala na kong pakialam whatever she said about me and i don't want to see her anymore. ang importante maganda relasyon nmin ng asawa ko. buti na lang di nman close husband ko sa kanya so we rarely see her.

[kurengkeng]

YES.

im lucky to have wonderful ILs. from the tatay to the youngest siblings of my hubby.pati mga pamangkins. sila yung tipong hindi nakikialam sa aming mag asawa.

not for anything else, but they are still a part of your husband.
when you become husband and wife, they become your family as well.

bf ko palang si hubby, they treat me as a queen na when we visit them. medyo may kahirapan kasi sila and family ko naman medyo angat ng konti. so when we go there they clean the house kasi alam nilang maselan ako  they cook meat kasi pag sila lang,puro gulay kasi ilocano and cant afford. e alam nila di ako eat vegies. 

eto kasi palaki at laging sinasabi  sakin ng mga magulang ko e, na wag ko daw babalewalain ang inlaws ko. pag nawala daw sila (my parents), sila na ang magiging magulang ko. but then again, this is because we have a wonderful relationship, both sides. sabi nga ng mommy ko, im maswerte dahil mabait mom and dad ng hubby ko.

ibang usapan lang if you have disagreements with them.
BUT then, siguro if we have problems, i will still exert effort to be friends or at least man lang, be civil with them. ibang usapan na pag may problemang malala.

[satya]

yes it is

[orange15]

..yes i guess it would affect me if my in-laws doesnt like me.. although i wouldnt really fuss about it, just as long as they don't backstab me towards my hubby..

[Kady_14]

Sa akin YES... it's going to be a really big deal. Kasi family na kayo. Unless you have thoughts on getting another husband. Comes with the package since you decided to marry their son.

Sabi never ending conflict if you are not in good terms with them. So as much as possible ikaw ang mg-adjust. If youl ove your hubby.

[charnel]

sa akin yes, kaya unang araw pa lang after the wedding I humbled myself kasi doon pa kami nakatira sa compound nila hiwalay na kami ng bahay but in the same compound. And sometimes mother knows best. pag naging close mo sila believe me, mas kampi pa sa iyo ang inlaws mo kaysa sa sariling anak nila.

[angeLmina]

^ korek sis.. same experience 

[biancs]

yup, mahal na mahal ng hubby ko family nya eh.

[avesoriano]

If ever... YES

I want my (future) husband's family to be my family too and vice versa.

for me its a big deal... people will say hindi naman sila ang pakikisamahan... pero trust me its not entirely true.. his family will always be part of your marriage life..when you married him.. you married the whole him... and part of him will always be his family.. kahit na sabihin mo pa not good terms sila and ikaw ang kinakampihan..you still have to deal with them once in a while...big deal kasi...its really emotionally tiring.

wih me kasi i hardly exert effort na kapag napagod na ako trying to prove myself sayo.. i will try to please you initially.. i dont show pretentions pero ipleplease pa rin kita in the way that i know..if we fail to meet in the middle.. that will be a problem...

mahirap magdalang sama ng loob..i was idealistic before marrying him.. through the years meron kaming rough edges mostly about his family...dont get me wrong mahal ko asawa ko.. im just saying kung meron akong anak at nagliligawan pa lang sila.. best to choose a man na kasundo mo ang pamilya.. will save you a lot of headaches