is it really a big deal for you is your in-laws doesnt like you?

[joden]

it doesn't matter siguro kasi they live far away from us..hehe..

pero it matters din kasi nga family yun ng hubby mo eh..and mahal nya family nya and it matters lang siguro kasi baka mahirapan si hubby dahil magiging torn siya between his family and me kasi nga ayaw saken ng parents nya. ako ok lang, keri ko, no big deal kung ayaw nila saken kasi nga malayo naman kami and we will seldom see each other naman. kay hubby ako mas magwo-worry.

[achie08rn]

it really doesn't matter coz we don't live with them and maayos naman ako sa kanila pero sila medyo unfair after all ng nagawa ko for them. hay, pero kami ni hubby di na ginagawang issue yun kasi alam niya na pareho kaming may point ng mama niya. he just have to deal with both hahaha.

[baby michael]

it used to ba a big deal pero now parang ipinagpapasalamat ko pa na hindi ako ang favorite nilang DIL. buti nga yon ng hindi sila punta ng punta dito sa bahay namin at hingi ng kung [textspeak!] anong pabor like papasama sa ganito, magpapa drive etc. etc... at least alam nila kung saan sila lulugar..hindi naman kami umaasa sa kanila in any way so walang pressure na pakisamahan or what. pero civil naman kami pag nagkikita, hindi lang talaga kami close.

[myduque]

basta kakampi ko ang asawa ko, as of now okay naman na.

[marieanna]

Sa akin nung una Yes, pero sa tingin ko naman basta kakampi ko si Hubby ok na ako doon pero syempre iba pa din yung gusto ka ng in-laws mo kasi matutulungan ka nila if ever may kailangan ka especially financially.  kaya ako love ko MIL ko kasi everytime may problema ako sa anak nya sya kagad ang tinatawagan ko tapos ayun kakampihan nya na ako.

[nanoc]

yes because they will always be my husband's family, and as much as i want to make them part of my family, its really hard if they don't want you to be part of theirs. iniisip ko minsan na wala akong pakialam kung ayaw nila sa akin, pero in the end it still hurts and lagi mo maiiisip kasi you'll see them often, di maiwasan e.. and you know what they're thinking behind your back.

[antisocial]

"Acceptance" is a big factor in my personality. As much as I would like to believe that you "can't please everybody" --- I would like to be in "favorable" terms with in-laws.

Family is family no matter how you look at it.

Even sa friends, co-workers, classmates --- I can't stand it if I know that someone doesn't like my guts. Nakaka-irita. Parang di ako makatulog. I want to feel accepted by everybody. As long as everybody feels "ok" about me, then I'll be ok.

Reasons? It mostly involves practicality. If you are on good terms with your in-laws, you can scratch each others backs.

[pinkeewinkee]

maybe it doesn't matter! ayaw ko din sa kanila! walang pilitan! lol pero xempre mas ok if your in laws like you 

[alpha_ni_08]

for me sa simula it matters. kasi alam ko naman kung pano nila tinrato yun mga ibang naging gf ni hub. they treated the girls so bad. to the point na napapahiya na yun mga babae pero they don't care. sa simula big deal saken, kasi plus points yun gusto ka ng family ng partner mo. pero parang ako mismo yun tinabangan sa kanila.

now it doesn't matter anymore. hindi na BIG DEAL saken if they like me or not. ang importante is ok kami ni hubby. hindi rin naman importante sa kanya eh. he is his own person. hindi sya nagpapadikta sa family nya or sa mga kamag anak nya.

[kiwi]

No. Don't give a damn whether they like me or not. Basta hayaan lang sana nila kong palakihin mga anak ko sa paraan na tingin kong tama.

[cati]

nope nope nope...not a big deal anymore

[Pretty_ava]

it's not a big deal for me. if they dont like me, i dont like them either.  especially the mom of my hubby, kase naman, only son ang hubby ko and napaka spoiled sa mom nya.  kaya when he got me pregnant, talgang iyak ng iyak ang mom nya kase nga my aagaw na sa unico hijo nya.saka mas mahal ako ng hubby ko kesa sa kanya.

well, no choice kame parehas ng MIL ko kase magkaka sama din kame nun pag my okasyon...saka kung matary ang MIL ko, alm nia na mataray din ako..di ko talga sya uurungan.alam ng hubby ko yan.  la [textspeak!] ako problem sa [textspeak!] ko, sobrang bait ng dad ng hubby ko.

[mami violy]

it's not a big deal, kiber ko ba kung ayaw nila sakin basta kami ni hubby ok at nagkakasundo kami. saka di ko naman sila araw-araw nakikita or nakakasama kaya wala akong paki kung ayaw nila sakin fine basta wag lang nila idadamay ang anak ko. kung may occassion naman isang araw lang yun na magkikita-kita kami at plastikan na lang kami but it is safer kung tahimik lang ako at least makita ni hubby na civil ako sa family nya.

but lucky enough kasi ok naman ang mga in-laws ko.

[catherine]

No, just continue being nice to them and ignore whatever negative things they throw your way, they're already your family.

[mixzey]

not a big deaL... kung ayaw niLa sa akin, mas ayaw ko sa kaniLa... ang importante kami ni hubby nagkakaintindihan...

[preciousbabygirl_11]

kinda big deal.. kc makaka apekto sa pagsasama niyo pag di kayo ok ng mga in laws mo.. kc kahit ano pa nag mangyari, blood is thicker than water..

[jackieso]

Its a BIG deal for me, coz di ako kinakampihan ng asawa ko... nagkakampihan sila at my back.... 

[JINJIN:*]

it matters a lot for me.

When hubby and I were on our first year..sobrang nahirapan ako, and his family is actually the reason why we broke off the first time. It was painful dealing with the family coz I can feel how they dislike me like laging mainit ang ulo pag anjan ako, they dont talk to me as if I dont exist, pag tumatawag ako they always say wala kahit nanjan, at ang tawag saken is "babae" lang, they cant even say my name. Ganun...but later on in life they learned to like me, and its a good feeling na nakuha ko ang luob nila without me exerting any effort.

[chinita_charm]

Its a BIG deal for me, coz di ako kinakampihan ng asawa ko... nagkakampihan sila at my back.... 

hayaan mo silang magkampihan

[raven03]

it can have a certain effect on me, right now ayaw sa kin ng family ni bf. parang nakakapagtaka kasi mapapaisip ka na "What is wrong with me?!" I'm more than what their child deserves (yabang, hehe).

Pero case-to-case basis yan eh, kung hindi kasundo ang in-laws dahil they have a more negative effect on you and your family, I guess hindi mo na gawing issue na they're not okay with you and steer clear away from them na rin.