is it really a big deal for you is your in-laws doesnt like you?

[chinita_charm]

ako wala akong paki sa kanila. kahit ayaw nila sa akin. busseeettt sila.

[maldita_AQ]

^^^hahaha! natawa naman ako bigla....ayaw ba sayo?

but still mas maganda sana if ok kayo with inlaws..

[chinita_charm]

hindi lang ayaw. ayw na ayaw na ayaw. at ako 100X times mas ayaw. tee hee. masyado dw kcng pogi ang anak nila para sa akin [textspeak!] mapunta. mas gusto nila [textspeak!] mayaman. sus akala mo naman kugn sino silang mga ipokrito. bussseeettt!

[maldita_AQ]

^^ay ganun ba sis....hmmm...kakainis nga yan..pero still wala narin naman silang magagawa kasi kayo na eh right? may anak na ba kayo?

[chinita_charm]

wala pa. 6months pa lang kami kasal (shocked nga sila up to now pa tee hee) then every 2months [textspeak!] kami nagkakasama ni hub kc nsa abroad sha.

hindi kasi big deal sa akin if they dont like me. i dont like them either. isa pa hindi kami umaasa sa kanila. kundi sila ang umaasa sa amin pero ang sukli nun karimarimarim na mga salita pa ang inaabot ko..

Im blessed thats why im happy and thankful. eh sila? la lang. tee hee

[LeStSkY]

before i used to give them something kasi gusto ko good shot and everything.. siyempre yung naman ang like natin di ba, pero masama rin pala na sobrang bait mo sa in-laws mo kasi darating ang time, well hindi naman lahat ha, na pagsobra bait mo sa kanila matatke for granted ka na, and yeah paginaway mo parang wala ka ng natirang magandang nagawa sa memories nila.. and it felt so bad, and sama kaya yung pakiramdam, and i hate the feeling na they doesn't like me na for that na inaway ko sila because i think i'm on the right side di ba .. i hate it.. gusto ko lahat mahal ako hehe [textspeak!] nga e, pero lahat tayo gusto sila maging close para happy family

pero paano kung sila ang may ayaw sayo?

[honey_iya]

^eh di keber sis hangga't maari mas maganda talaga na ok relationship natin sa mga in-laws pero kung sila naman ang may ayaw eh di huwag nalang...as long na ok kayo ng asawa niyo, yun ang mas importante.

ako kasi never nagpakitang gilas sa in-laws ko. kung ano ako yun ang pinapakita ko sa kanila. so far, ok naman kami magkasundo although minsan nagkakasagutan lalo pagdating sa anak ko pero gusto ko lang ipaalam sa kanila na kami parin ni hubby masusunod pagdating sa pagdidisiplina sa anak namin, kung may problema sila eh di keber!

[maldita_AQ]

wala pa. 6months pa lang kami kasal (shocked nga sila up to now pa tee hee) then every 2months [textspeak!] kami nagkakasama ni hub kc nsa abroad sha.

hindi kasi big deal sa akin if they dont like me. i dont like them either. isa pa hindi kami umaasa sa kanila. kundi sila ang umaasa sa amin pero ang sukli nun karimarimarim na mga salita pa ang inaabot ko..

Im blessed thats why im happy and thankful. eh sila? la lang. tee hee

ay ang hirap nga girl! hmmmm....im at your side na..haha!

[chinita_charm]

^ oks lang girl basta ang mahalaga sa atin [textspeak!] ang pinapahalagahn ng ating mga hubs.

 +100 points na agad un:)

[maldita_AQ]

yeah you're right sis!

inlaws...talo parin! hahahaha

[LeStSkY]

^eh di keber sis hangga't maari mas maganda talaga na ok relationship natin sa mga in-laws pero kung sila naman ang may ayaw eh di huwag nalang...as long na ok kayo ng asawa niyo, yun ang mas importante.

ako kasi never nagpakitang gilas sa in-laws ko. kung ano ako yun ang pinapakita ko sa kanila. so far, ok naman kami magkasundo although minsan nagkakasagutan lalo pagdating sa anak ko pero gusto ko lang ipaalam sa kanila na kami parin ni hubby masusunod pagdating sa pagdidisiplina sa anak namin, kung may problema sila eh di keber!

oo nga keber nalang nga, wala naman ako need sa kanila, hay, ang hirap ng ganung feeling, and tama ka importante magkasundo kayo ng husband.. and pwede ba anak natin ang mga bata, huwag na sila mangialam

[loveden]

hmmp! wala ako paki... basta ba si hubby love na love ako at good shot ako palagi sa kanya eh paki ko sa kanila kung ayaw nila ko...

siguro maiinis lang ako kapag sinisiraan nila ako kay hubby at kinakampihan pa sila ni hubby... away na'to!!!

[charmmi_kitti]

i dont care! hindi naman sila ang pinakasalan ko ei..

[LearnAndEarn]

Yep big deal... But you have to live with it..

[aquacharly]

If your in-laws do not like you,  leave it at that.  Believe me,  no matter what you try to do -- if they have decided not to like you --  nothing will change that.  Live and let them be with their emotional baggage.  That goes for parents-in-law and siblings-in-law.

Just be yourself, do not fake it by trying to be what you are not/trying to impress them.  Eventually, because you are consistent with what you are,  they will come around to appreciating what is good in you.

So!  the practical thing to do is to distance yourself.  Less contact, better relationship.  Do not live with them!  That way,  you avoid the little matters that cause irritations that build up over time -- differences in managing your helpers, your home, your finances, etc etc.   Best to just meet up for special occasions like birthdays and Christmas or New Year -- whenever people are predisposed to be well-mannered and in a good mood. 

[prettywu]

for me it is!
i need to have a smooth relationship w/ my hubby's family!
maybe time will come, they'd also like me! if that's the case! I hope it won't happen to me in the future!

[aquacharly]

Who doesn't want smooth relationships anyway?

But when you are there wanting one, but the other party is not ready or refuses -- just leave it at that.  Given time,  they will come around to appreciating what is good in you too.

In the meantime,  do not bang yourself. Do not make yourself over into somebody because you want to please your inlaws.  Respect them, they should also respect you. So prudence is the best tact here.  Keep  your cool,  keep your true self. Everything will come out okay in the end.

[iristacey]

for peaceful co-existence, mabuti na ang maging kasundo mo ang in-laws mo.. sa awa naman ng Diyos, wala kame problem ni bf in both of our families.. open kasi relationship namin from the beginning..

[inca]

Well, you SHOULDN'T care if they don't like you kasi you really can't please everyone. But of course you hafta admit, nakaka-affect din talaga. Para nalang hindi na maging big deal, just be yourself. If they like you, at least they'll like you for who you are. If they don't, so what? As long the reason they don't like you is because sila ang may problema and not dahil nagd-drugs ka or masama ginagawa mo, then that's fine. 

[bump]

as ive posted before, early stage nun marriage namin ni hubby i was affected. I cried and tried to win their affections. pero as time flies i don't care anymore. problema na nila un kung ayaw nila saken. what matters most is i am taking good care of my hubby and my son. and if they complain that i go home late, wala ako magagawa. that is part of my job. mas lalong mahirap if i don't work kasi sigurado may masasabi din sila. so enjoy your time na lang w/ your family. magkakasakit lang kayo kakaisip sa kanila.