is it really a big deal for you is your in-laws doesnt like you?

[twnx26]

a bit but its not like mawawasak na marriage namin kung ayaw nila sakin basta ba walang papanigan si hubby..

buti n [textspeak!] like ako ng in-laws ko.

[cristina]

for me it doesn't a big deal anymore why?
1. si hubby naman ang pakikisamahan ko eh
2. as long as wala silang ginagawang masama sa akin keber na lang
3. mas meron naman akong pinag aralan sa kanila no (lalo na kay SIL)
4. you can't please everybody

[belayski]

even if i try and believe it doesn't, it does.

i still get affected by their comments, etc. di naman ako sagad sa anesthesia noh. or maybe im just being too sensitive, because i know how to read between the lines, and marunong nga ako makiramdam. although minsan deadma, kc lalaki pag pinansin mo.

i think it matters [textspeak!] for me, because i dont want being talked about at my back, especially when they make chismis to their other relatives.

[satya]

i learned to live with it...huwag nalang masyado dibdibin....my friend told me...ikaw lang ang magkakasakit...may mga bagay na dapat huwag nalang pansinin.who ever said life fair diba...if they dont like me...its their lost!!! 

[gitee]

yes.. kasi i want them to be my family and i want them to think that im one of there own like treat me like their real anak eventhough asawa ko lang ang anak nila.. para  madali ang lahat if ever may ifafavor ka sa kanila vice versa at mabilis pag dating sa decision making.. di mahirap..

[proudmama]

Yes it is a big deal for me!

##3 Important MIL ko sa hubby ko and it somehow ruins our relationship coz hindi niya ako kaya ipagtanggol

I feel you Sis! Lucky for me, I don't live with my MIL and SIL.  Minsan lang din naiinis ako kasi parang hubby ko dahil syempre mom niya yun lahat ng sinasabi ko against her mom parang feeling ko mas sa akin siya naiinis kesa sa nanay niya.

Ako I don't give a damn. I am happy with my kids gusto pa ng MIL ko magsama sila ng anak niya In fairness, im happy naman with my hubby minus my MIL and SIL I could never ask for more 

[cati]

they sucks.....i don't care i can live without them! I've lived half my life without them....karma sana sila

[prettyness]

sa [textspeak!] ko lang naman ako may problema eh, pero i don't care narin kung ayaw nya saken till now aba! ayoko rin sa kanya noh! alagaan nya mag isa sarili nya pagtanda nya!

[pompz]

Dati its a Big Deal kc bago pa kayong mag asawa- pero habbang tumatagal - ay naku What the Heckkkkk- Pkialam ko sa kanila- lalo na nalaman ko wala daw clang swerte sa manugang- hahahah kami kaya swerte sa knila?

[angeLmina]

YUP BIG DEAL TALAGA.. PERo sinasabi ko na lang sa sarili ko na kaya ko to.. hindi ko na lang dinidibdib saka yung MIL ko din naman nagsabi na simulat sapul ganun nasya.. at ayaw na daw nya ako mawala sa kanila..hehe bait daw kasi ako,, hindi katulad ng mga naging asawa ng anak nila..thanks for the papuri.. pero iba pa rin ang nakabukod.. malungkot nga lang.. kaya dun kami nakatira sa MIL ko.. masaya sila kasama kahit moody si MIL.. she a good mother.. lalo na sa mga anak..sa side naman ng hubby ko.. wala naman daw sya reklamo sa parents ko nung una kasi ayaw sa kanya dahil ala work.. pero nung pareho pala sila ni papa ng mga likes,,ayunn parang magama na sila.. sa die kasi namin puro kami girlss sa side ng hubby ko puro sila boyss kaya ayun..heheh ang haba ata nito ah

[jiffy]

Nah...  we dont live with them so di sya big deal for me.. plus i sila close ng hubby ko kase lumaki naman sya sa lola..

[angeLmina]

bakit yung hubby ko.. lumaki naman sa lolo pero ayaw pa rin magbukod..kaasar nga eh.. mahirap yung hindi mo mapatunayan sa sarili mo at asawa na nagasawa ka na talaga di ba?

[Ianne]

No, wala naman syang worth e. she lived all her life just for herself and she will be all by herself till the day she die.

[lima]

if ever..

NO!! if they dont like me, i dont like them either.

[cometkeiss]

yeah, it matters to me.

[~TiCkLeS~]

it used to matter to me pero ngayon hindi na, it will just cause you head aches at lagi lang sasama ang loob mo kung iintindihin mo pa yon, magiging cause pa ng away nyong magasawa, i don't care any more if they don't like me as long as i'm doing my obligations at responsiblities sa pamilya ko at wala akong ginagawang hindi maganda sa kanila then problem na nila yon if they don't like me basta wag lang nila ako i- back stab at wag sila mag-meddle with how we raise our own family, they just have to back off, leave me alone and mind their own business

[proudmama]

^correct ka dian sis. I don't give a damn if they like me or not. I can pretend they don't exist.

[badw33d]

in real world it does. and it always does, like said, blood is thicker than the water. no matter how you ignore everything, at the end of the day, they're family. so i think its better to get everything accept the reality from both sides, then go to another level.

[nicz]

it matters to me coz we live with my MIL's house and with us is my SIL din. First 2yrs ok kami until i knew from my katulong kung anong back stab ginagawa nila sa akin. I was so hurt that time that until now di na ako naniniwala sa mga kabutihan pinapakita nila sa akin coz i could feel na they have so many words behind my back. For 2 months na rin di kami nag-uusap ng SIL ko. Nasaktan ko raw sya when i had my words to her kase naman nakikialam na sya kung ano gusto ko sa anak ko. I tried to get along with her after the incident but twice nya ko dinedma, so why make so much effort to someone who doesn't like you anymore. Eto naman si MIL ko feeling ko pinagkakaisahan nila ako ni SIL. Eversince naman talaga lahat ng kilos ko at ng katulong ko pinupuna ni MIL. Sobrang limited yung kilos mo. Most of the time im not looking forward of going home after work.

I would say na it matter's kase for several days nag-aaway na kami ni hubby just because of his family. I've been trying to convince him na magbukod na kami and he said by the first quarter of 2008 maybe we will have our own place, apartment siguro.

Nakakainis lang din coz whenever i say things to my hubby against his MIL and SIL  ni wala man lang response..as in quiet lang sya. i feel he's just in the middle and never ko nafeel that he took my side..it really hurt me. sobrang nakakadepress na. I have been holding myself telling my parents about my situation coz alam ko di makkatulong and ayoko may masabi sila sa family ng hubby ko. Pero yung MIL and SIL sobrang broadcast ako  sa clan nila. Tinitiis ko na lang yun but you cannot always control yourself kaya talaga minsan, dinidedma ko na lang sila. wheeewwwwww!!!!!

[twix]

its a big deal talaga iniisip ko nalang kaya ko ito, dahil bihira lang kami magkita dito sa manila sa in-laws ko kasi itong tinitirhan namin ngayon
iba pa rin talaga yung may sariling bahay  na pinaghirapan may peace of mind hay its may life...