Single for so long

[kwang sun]

I have been single for so long sometimes I ask myself what is wrong with me? May mga nagkagusto naman sa akin na guys before but why now wala na? Huhu I need advice

[young_maiden]

I know the feeling, sis. Almost 8 years na ako single at may mga times talaga na I feel so lonely. Iyong feeling na gusto mo ilabas lahat ng stress o sama ng loob mo pero wala ka man lang mapagsabihan. Kahit na may mga friends ka na willing makinig, iba pa rin iyong feeling na bf ang makikinig sayo.

Heto na. Lalaiitin ko na naman sarili ko. Hindi nga kasi ako ligawin eh. Ang weird lang sa situation ko eh nung teen years ko na pakiramdam ko ugly duckling ako (overweight and madami acne sa face), kahit papano may nagkakagusto sa akin. Naliligawan paminsan-minsan. Iyong iba naman gusto pa akong fubu.

Pero nung nag law school ako at talagang umunlad na looks ko (hindi naman artistahin pero at least better-looking na) at nawala na acne ko sa face, wala na talaga halos lumalapit. Last na naligawan ako  nung 2012 pa. Meron din nagpaparamdam na sex lang ang gusto pero bihirang-bihira na.

Last year nakachamba ako ng guy na matino. Ok naman looks at personality. Every day at night kami nag uusap sa viber, text at fb. Kahit ano napagkakasunduan namin. After our first date, nagpaparamdam pa rin siya. So syempre sign na iyon na I captured his interest di ba. Iyon nga lang after the 2nd date, nawala na din. Iniisip ko nga baka may nagawa o nasabi ako na naturn off siya nung 2nd date namin.

[itsmeangel]

pwede ba ako sumali dito? I am feeling down din, and I agree with you young_maiden, iba kapag nakkinig sayo bf about stress and problems... feel ko nga sobrang malas ko, kasi it's not that walang nagkakagusto pero like you puro not serious lang ang gusto, and naexperience ko na din yang mga nangiiwan sa ere bigla. like after some time na talking kayo and date, then wala na.. hindi mo mappigilan magask kung may mali ba sayo or may nagawa ka ba.. pero i guess that's life, hindi lang talaga siguro ako swerte sa love life for now lol   

[misslovelyjoy]

In my opinion, hindi dahil walang nagkakagusto sa atin. Some men are just really intimidated with some women kaya kahit gusto nila hindi sila nag-eeffort na magpakita ng interes.

[Shadow Angel]

Madalas kapag Ang circle of friends or environment mo ay mas ahead ka sa guys tapos may aura ka nakaka intimidate kahit maganda ka hindi basta maliligawan.

[Girltalker2]

Eh ano ngayon if single? You can find friends, girlfriends naman siguro who can listen to you.

Kasi sa panahon ngayon, di naman sa nagbubuhat ng banko, pero feeling ko wala talagang quality ang karamihan kasi sa mga lalaki. Kung baga if 50% of the women out there are grade A in quality, baka sa guys 10% lang. and most likely, taken narin.

Life doesn't stop just because you don't have a love life. Kasi kung maghanap ng bf/asawa ang ultimate goal mo sa buhay para Maging masaya, talagang magiging miserable ka kasi it is not within your control. Kahit pa may magkagusto Sayo, kung Hindi naman ok (which imho is a high chance), Alangan naman Sagutin mo for the sake of having a BF, eh you will end up not happy din.

Just be happy and find more meaning in life. Dadating at dadating din Yung para sayo.

[lonely_dad]

after i separated from my ex ive been single for almost a decade bago ko nameet si mrs

[kvandenhaak]

I was single for about 9 years ata during my 20s. Looking back, it's not na walang nagkakagusto. I was just picky. I never gave suitors a chance. Either gusto ko lang or hindi. Problem is most of the guys na natitipuhan ko, either hindi na available or hindi ako type...saklap...LOL!

Ngayon single ulit and in my 40s. Medyo iniba ko naman. Otherwise, I will be single for a long time again. I am not getting any younger.

[sfile]

Well, for someone who never been in a relationship. I always dreamed I will be in one but I guess not everyone will have a fairytale ending. I've fallen in love but was never catch. I gave love its chance but most guys prove to me they are not worth it. The more I realized that guys who interacts with you doesn't mean they already likes you. It's just a platonic relationship. Alam kong kahit anung gawin pag-aayos at pagpapaganda ko, an introvert person will always be a wall flower.

Like what others say, "Pag swerte sa lovelife, malas sa career. Pag swerte sa career, malas sa lovelife." And I am the second one. I chose a career that most Filipino guys won't be in. Being in the wrong place to target guys, I already put myself in low chance of getting into a relationship. Yes, I chose career over love because I think that's my purpose. Love is not everything in life. I chose career because it makes me feel happy unlike love.

[kwang sun]

Madalas kapag Ang circle of friends or environment mo ay mas ahead ka sa guys tapos may aura ka nakaka intimidate kahit maganda ka hindi basta maliligawan.

Ganun ba yun sis? Ganun ako eh parating may circle of friends haha...di k oalam... dati may nagkakagusto ngsyon wala zero....  nakakainsecure... haaai..


Thank you sa mga sissies dito.. hehe... atleast I am not alone

Siguro nga naging picky ako for the past few years kung meron man dumating mga hindi din nagseseryoso

[Shadow Angel]

^observeration ko ganun before kasi may other circle friends ako na ganyan ang environment. Sa group na un may nagsabi na may crush or may gusto sa akin pero hindi ako maligawan dahil nakakaintimidate ako tutal di ko naman type ang guy balewala lang sa akin. Wag mo sisihin sarili mo na naging masyado ka picky or what. Karapatan mo un na magkaroon certain standards or gusto makita sa isang guy. Dahil ang relationship or pag aasawa hindi naman basta basta. Mas gusto ko pa maging single kung makakasama ko rin lang puro red flags or un tipong alam ko hindi pasok sa gusto ko. Like responsible, walang bisyo, may stable job etc. Ang masklap pa if makuha mo or magustuhan mo tambay talaga at walang pangarap sa buhay. Di ko pinangarap na ako ang bubuhay sa lalaki.

[stebsy]

I have been single for so long sometimes I ask myself what is wrong with me? May mga nagkagusto naman sa akin na guys before but why now wala na? Huhu I need advice

Nothing's wrong with you babe. Something's wrong with them 
I've been single for a while too until I met my jowawis. Super friends lang talaga kami and I wasn't expecting na magiging kami. I wasn't expecting i'll get into a relationship ever again. But, he fell inlove with me so may ganun. I thought I'm not lovable. My friends were giving me advice not to be too headstrong. I'm intimidating guys daw. Scary daw ako. Stuff like that. Just be yourself. The guy who'll accept you as you are, yun na yun. Age doesn't matter too. Hindi rason ang age para ora orada mag jowa at mag asawa. Magiging miserable ka lang pag nag pa pressure ka. Enjoy lang. Make friends. Be happy and enjoy being single.

[kwang sun]

Sometimes kasi I ask myself if my standards are just too damn high lol. Like what they said walang "ideal" talaga lol. A guy told me that i'm just too idealistic. Gusto ko kasi older sakin but not too old  but usually nagkakagusto sakin mga younger guys which i don't like like too young talaga 5 years gap lol ...


I am thinking i'm going to end up single til i'm old lol


^^thanks sissies sa taas ng post na to

[stebsy]

Sometimes kasi I ask myself if my standards are just too damn high lol. Like what they said walang "ideal" talaga lol. A guy told me that i'm just too idealistic. Gusto ko kasi older sakin but not too old  but usually nagkakagusto sakin mga younger guys which i don't like like too young talaga 5 years gap lol ...


I am thinking i'm going to end up single til i'm old lol


Ok lang naman yung may high standards, that's how you value your self. But sometimes you'll meet an exceptional guy who falls out a bit off that standard. If that certain trait/character is not in the formula, would that relationship still work out?
Maybe he's 5 years younger pero kung magisip super mature, daig pa tatay mo. LOL Is it really the age or maturity that matters? Pero ako man meron guy na may gusto sakin noon, 5 years younger din. There's something in me talaga na ayaw kahit napaka gwapo at bait ni Russian guy. Ewan ko kung nasa pinoy culture in my heart yun. Pero your values and beliefs will play a big role talaga in deciding.



^^thanks sissies sa taas ng post na to

[MR.TURKO]

Miss baka naman kasi nahihiya manligaw sayo kasi sabi mo nasa law school ka. Siyempre expected high ang standard mo. Kasi kami mga lalaki takot din ng rejection. Huwag ka malungkot may manliligaw parin sayo. Darating sayo yan.

[kwang sun]

^ sino po ba ang nasa law school? Hahahahah

[firegl]

Basahin mo ito sis

http://www.christian-courtship.com/1-Cor-7.html

[amethyst028]

@TS don't worry it will come, you will eventually meet someone.

based on experience kahit hindi mo hanapin darating din naman. before i tried all sorts of ways, pati mag attend ng class, mag gym, mag hiking, online dating, i even attended meet ups for real estate investing thinking na madaming guys dun.

but when i stopped looking and started focusing on me with not a care in the world if i will find love again or not that's when guys gravitate towards me. i got asked out on a weekly basis by different guys mostly people i already know, even an ex asking to get back together.

the universe is really playful like that sometimes, just when you think you're done that's when someone worthy comes along.

[oshiawase]

I know the feeling, sis. Almost 8 years na ako single at may mga times talaga na I feel so lonely. Iyong feeling na gusto mo ilabas lahat ng stress o sama ng loob mo pero wala ka man lang mapagsabihan. Kahit na may mga friends ka na willing makinig, iba pa rin iyong feeling na bf ang makikinig sayo.

Heto na. Lalaiitin ko na naman sarili ko. Hindi nga kasi ako ligawin eh. Ang weird lang sa situation ko eh nung teen years ko na pakiramdam ko ugly duckling ako (overweight and madami acne sa face), kahit papano may nagkakagusto sa akin. Naliligawan paminsan-minsan. Iyong iba naman gusto pa akong fubu.

Pero nung nag law school ako at talagang umunlad na looks ko (hindi naman artistahin pero at least better-looking na) at nawala na acne ko sa face, wala na talaga halos lumalapit. Last na naligawan ako  nung 2012 pa. Meron din nagpaparamdam na sex lang ang gusto pero bihirang-bihira na.

Last year nakachamba ako ng guy na matino. Ok naman looks at personality. Every day at night kami nag uusap sa viber, text at fb. Kahit ano napagkakasunduan namin. After our first date, nagpaparamdam pa rin siya. So syempre sign na iyon na I captured his interest di ba. Iyon nga lang after the 2nd date, nawala na din. Iniisip ko nga baka may nagawa o nasabi ako na naturn off siya nung 2nd date namin.

Wow lawyer ka na ba ngayon?

Nakaka frustrate talaga ano? Sabi ng ibang close friends ko, intimidating daw ako. Baka ikaw din?

Pero yung "intimidating" argument, for me, hindi laging totoo eh.

[young_maiden]

^ Yes. Lawyer na ako ngayon.

Wala pa naman nagsasabi sa akin na intimidating ako. Kung meron, I would disagree. Napaka-friendly ko nga sa mga boys. Most of my friends sa law school at legal profession mga lalaki. So I doubt boys would find me intimidating.

Ang disadvantage nga lang sa pagiging one of the boys ay  lalaki din tingin nila sa akin. :-(