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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #20 on: April 15, 2017, 09:25:18 pm »
^ Yes. Lawyer na ako ngayon.

Wala pa naman nagsasabi sa akin na intimidating ako. Kung meron, I would disagree. Napaka-friendly ko nga sa mga boys. Most of my friends sa law school at legal profession mga lalaki. So I doubt boys would find me intimidating.

Ang disadvantage nga lang sa pagiging one of the boys ay  lalaki din tingin nila sa akin. :-(

Wow congratulations, Atty.!

Ay mahirap din ang maging one of the boys. I am not but some of my nbsb friends are. I asked my male friends about it and they really just consider those friends as "sisters" and never more. :(

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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #21 on: April 15, 2017, 09:34:54 pm »
^ Thank you, sis.

Iyon nga eh. Kung one of the boys ka naman, tropa tingin sayo. Mga friends ko na lalaki napaka-open sa akin sa lahat ng bagay pero di yata gf-material tingin sa akin.

Kung i-assess ko looks ko ngayon, I know I am not ugly. Meron ibang girls dyan na less attractive than me pero may bf at manliligaw. Kaya it makes me wonder ano pa kulang sa akin kaya di ako maligawan ng mga boys na iyan.

Iniiwasan ko na lang magself-pity. Puro pagpapaganda at career na lang ina-atupag ko.
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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #22 on: April 16, 2017, 09:50:15 pm »
^sis young maiden, Congrats also!!!

Alam mo sis, there's nothing wrong with you.
Intimidating man o hindi, feeling ko guys na may problema. When I was in your shoes one time - I just told myself to enjoy life... kung may partner o wala, ok lang.

hindi ko 'gets' most Pinoys actually. Kaya Siguro di ko makasundo or madali ako ma-turn off. Marami din nagsabi sakin di ako friendly at palangiti. So what... in the end, I was just open to dating - kahit anong nationality, Basta eligible, earns a decent living, same or higher educational attainment. May minimum checklist ako. Eventually I was able to find him. May bonus pa as he is into healthy living/sports and a very devout catholic. :))

dadating din time mo, at ito mag advice ko for you --- keep your standards and be open. Focus on self improvement, all the time. And ask God to guide you. I asked for His guidance and for Him to protect me from stupid and *sshole guys. Kung sakit lang ng ulo, huwag nalang please. :))

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« Reply #23 on: April 16, 2017, 10:21:35 pm »
^ Salamat din sis.

Almost 8 years na ako single at mag 27 na ako this year. Sanay na ako. Kung meron darating, okay. Kung wala, eh di wala. Ayaw ko na i-stress ang sarili ko sa non-existent lovelife ko.

Focus na lang ako always sa career at pagpapaganda.

I have hidden feelings for a guy friend pero di naman mutual ang feelings.
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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #24 on: April 16, 2017, 10:54:03 pm »

^ that's fine. Just be friendly with him. Nothing wrong naman if both of you are single. Just enjoy his company. For me it is a good way to get to know him.
But stay on the look out Parin for other guys - meaning be open to friendships.

Di kasi ako masyado naniniwala as 'ligaw' kasi who in the right mind would profess his love to you eh di ka naman nya lubos na kilala. Kaya for me, anyone manligaw agad - for me, nakakaduda. just mingle and make friends. Everything starts with friendship naman eh. Then if both are still interested to get to know each other more , tsaka Nyo na pag usapan if gusto nyo i-level up. Otherwise, puede ring just remain friends and you move on to the next. :))  Bata ka pa. Believe me, I found my guy much much later than your age (wala na sa calendaryo). Kaya you have so much time on your hands.


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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #25 on: April 17, 2017, 12:16:12 am »
I can relate. Almost 5 years na akong single.  Feeling ko walang nagkakagusto at wala rin naman ako nagugustuhan na ulit sa ngayon. Feeling ko wala na akong feelings. Lol. Pero last month, may nagpakita ng interest kaso wala na follow up. Sabi nung isang friend ko, baka daw kasi hindi ko napakitaan na open ako. Di ko ma-gets. Pano ba kasi ipakita na open ka? Btw, I'm 30yo.  :(
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« Reply #26 on: April 17, 2017, 03:41:37 pm »

^ just be yourself. Don't be conscious, don't over analyze. Sabi nga nila, chill lang. treat each invitation as getting to know, and new friendships lang :)

Kung may nagpakita ng interest kasi it doesn't mean magpapakasal na kayo. It is a long process. And di naman dahil single ka for some time, gusto mo na agad sya.

Minsan the guy is not interested. Pero if you talk to him, say hi, smile, be friendly, it can be the start of a good friendship. Kahit Hindi maging kayo, ok lang, kasi this gives you some exposure to the opposite gender.

But be careful din. At maraming guys magaling mambola. So be open but at the same time protect yourself, protect your heart :)

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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #27 on: April 17, 2017, 06:27:29 pm »
^thank you so much sis. i'll keep that in mind.  ;)
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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #28 on: May 30, 2017, 06:13:17 am »
As of this writing i have met two guys na lol... pero tinitingnan ko pa yung latest if ito na ba talaga

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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #29 on: June 06, 2017, 11:23:28 am »
Ako 25 years old na. Until now wala parin ako naging boyfriend.
In short NBSB. May mga nagkakagusto naman kaso may sabit. Its either na walang trabaho or may bisyo. Eh ayoko naman nun. Minsan iniisip ko ano pakiramdam ng magkaboyfriend yung tipong may maghatid sundo sayo, yung may mag tetext or call sayo na kakamustahin ko o kaya magsabi sayo ng I love you hehe..  Yung mga ganung bagay na puro kasweetan hehe.. Minsan iniisip ko panget ba ako kaya wala masyadong nanliligaw. Pero tingin ko hindi naman. Worst eh yung napagkamalan na baka tibo daw ako haha! Pero hindi, I'm sure straight akong babae hehe. Pag may namemeet akong ibang tao nagtataka sila bakit wala pa ko naging bf. Kasi maganda naman daw ako lol. Tsaka sabi nila napakaswerte naman daw ng magiging bf ko. Iniisip ko din na tatanda ako sigurong dalaga dahil wala akong chance na may makilala na lalake. Kung may makilala naman akong lalake, its either may gf na or hindi ako type.
Sa ngayon focus nalang talaga muna ako sa career dahil wala pang lovelife.
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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #30 on: June 10, 2017, 09:11:27 pm »
Sabi nila.. kapag swerte sa career hindi swerte sa lovelife at 'pag swerte naman sa love life hindi naman swerte sa career pero ba't ako haha hindi swerte sa dalawa.

Nakakalungkot wala man lang interesado or may gusto sa akin. Kahit magyaya makipagdate wala.
Sabi nila maganda naman ako pero bakit ganoon?
 

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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #31 on: June 12, 2017, 04:44:06 pm »
Some men are intimidated with independent women. Well, that's how I see it.

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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #32 on: July 14, 2017, 09:29:39 am »
^ Yes. Lawyer na ako ngayon.

Wala pa naman nagsasabi sa akin na intimidating ako. Kung meron, I would disagree. Napaka-friendly ko nga sa mga boys. Most of my friends sa law school at legal profession mga lalaki. So I doubt boys would find me intimidating.

Ang disadvantage nga lang sa pagiging one of the boys ay  lalaki din tingin nila sa akin. :-(

i feel you. yung mga guy friends ko parati nilang sinasabi sakin na pang tropa daw kasi ang dating ko. which i dont understand sometimes.
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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #33 on: July 14, 2017, 09:31:15 am »
technically i've been single for  13 years I guess. may mga dumating pero parati nalang na uudlot or walang formality hanggang sa nawala na.
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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #34 on: September 10, 2017, 10:30:27 pm »
I can relate too. I'm 32 and 5 years na akong single. Wala rin ako naka-date during those times haha. Ewan ko ba hindi siguro talaga ako ligawin. My nagugustuhan ako pero hindi ako gusto. Meron din mga nakikilala at nagpapakita na my gusto sakin kaso takot na ata ako magkarelasyon wahaha

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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #35 on: September 14, 2017, 09:03:07 am »
Pag guys tingin sa inyo one of the boys or super comfortable around you it means you are not their type. Kasi guys na attracted sayo would be nervous around you or shy. They tend to be quiet and can't be themselves around you na co-conscious so watch out for those guys na parang suplado or di ka masyado nilalapitan baka nahihiya lang kasi type ka.

Ako before matagal rin bago nagkaka relationship mga 3 years pagitan, then when i tried to be more open meaning mas friendly, go with the flow lang, live in the moment, happy and positive kahit ako lang mag isa dumami guys na lumalapit sakin. Hindi ako nauubusan ng suitors and pag nag break kasi di kame compatible may kapalit na agad.

Now i can say i have found someone na halos lahat ng hinahanap ko nasa kanya na. Of course no one is perfect, may mga issues pa din but they are super minor lang. naayos din namin agad. Malayong malayo siya sa mga guys na type ko pero hindi naman physical ang nagustuhan ko yung heart and mind niya.

So that's another thing rin wag na masyado sa physical kasi karamihan din ng gwapo, matangkad, mayaman mga self centered. Parang you exists to serve them yan ang napansin ko. Mas ok pa yung mga average looking, they really know how to please women. Lahat gagawin nila for you. Sarap ng feeling ng ganun.

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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #36 on: September 14, 2017, 09:08:28 am »
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Mas ok pa yung mga average looking, they really know how to please women. Lahat gagawin nila for you. Sarap ng feeling ng ganun.

agree ako dito  ;D

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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #37 on: November 21, 2017, 02:47:16 pm »
I've been single for 3 years bec my last 2 relationships were so traumatic. Not that I thought that there's something wrong with me but I knew that decision making was not my forte. I tried to focus on myself, family and work for 3 yrs. It went so well. I went out with guys and observed how cheaters do their thing. I saw the pattern. I called them out when they least expect it. Maybe they thought I was still dumb.

Eventually, I met someone and been going out with him for how many months now. It just sucks that although I'm sure that he loves me, the paranoia is still here. I'm still walled and guarded. I push him away when I think things are going so smoothly. Before, I get surprised when people leave, now it shocks me when they stay. 3 years of healing isn't enough. I don't think it's about the length of time, it's about not running away from the root of the problem itself.

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« Reply #38 on: December 05, 2017, 07:30:29 pm »
Single for more than 3 years. And hindi ko naeenjoy. I tried pero temporarily lang happiness.  Mas maraming times na malungkot and nagseself pity.

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Re: Single for so long
« Reply #39 on: January 22, 2018, 02:24:26 pm »
One of my fears ay pag tumagal yung period of being single ay hindi na ako marunong maging girlfriend ulit. Even in my last relationship, nauso pa din yung bachelorette mindset ko dahil nasanay ako na alone. Yung sobrang independent na hirap mag-adjust sa "couple" setup sa una.

Hirap ako maka-meet ng ibang tao. Tingin ko normal lang standards ko, di masyado choosy, di ako nagdidiscriminate sa background. Ayoko lang makipagdate sa katrabaho, pero saan naman ako maghahanap ng potential dates? Sa wedding reception siguro ng mga ikakasal kong mga kaibingan? Online dating ay fail din. Di ko naman hilig magpunta sa mga bar. :'(

 


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