Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)

[mysterioza_me]

^ I think she is praying that her fukcboy take her seriously
Or someone better comes along.

1) fukcboy takes her seriously - alam natin that this is almost impossible. Mauna magunaw ang mundo for this to happen

Hay. Tama. Kalokohan nga ang manalangin ng ganyan 🙁

Saqqara siguro better change your number para di ka umaasa na kokontak pa siya. Or i-block mo ang number niya para di ka na niya makontak. Sa ganung way di ka na aasa.

[saqqara]

^sis can't help but comment. don't just pray, take some action too. gusto mo mawala yung ganyang feeling then do something. distract yourself. hindi mawawala yan kung sa guy lang na yan ka nakafocus. your world does not revolve around him. your happiness does not depend on whether he will call you or not. tama yung mga sisses natin dito, stay away from that guy hanggat hindi ka pa fully invested. hanap ka ng ibang pagkakaabalahan para di mo na siya maisip. travel. magpaganda ka. go out with friends. meet other people. maraming paraan sis. you deserve someone much much better sis.

Salamat sis gumagala naman ako with family lately at least dun nawawala ang na feel ko.

Hay. Tama. Kalokohan nga ang manalangin ng ganyan 🙁

Saqqara siguro better change your number para di ka umaasa na kokontak pa siya. Or i-block mo ang number niya para di ka na niya makontak. Sa ganung way di ka na aasa.

Hindi pwede e block sis marami kasi clients na tumatwag sa akin sa number na iyun. Ang hirap pero I'm trying to be okay naman po. Gumagala naman ako with family  tsaka prayers rin nga, for sure mawawala soon itong anuman na feel ko.

[mysterioza_me]

^Number lang niya ang iba-block mo sis para he cant reach you na. All other numbers/people can still contact you.

[red_yesha]

Isa na naman pong babae ang napaasa ng isang fuc boy.
Bakit ba ito nangyayare? Kasi you let him fool you.
Mag eenjoy ka sa umpisa but at the end of the day, uuwi kang biktima, talunan at luhaan.
Kung gusto natin seryosohin tayo ng lalake, dun tayo sa matino at alam natin na mamahalin tayo at secured.
^^palayain mo na sarili mo sakanya. Avoid him.

[three8one]

Promise sis pine pray ko talaga like mawala yung na feel ko you know na nag expect ako tumawag siya or what, obviously hindi na siguro, one time lang ata gusto nun.

guy ako po sis.

kaya nga eh, promise are meant to be broken. hehe! gawin mo rin, kasi kahit anong dasal mo, kahit I grant pa yung prayer mo na I change na yung heart mo sa nararamdaman mo about your fubu tapos yung flesh mo eh ganun pa rin ang ginagawa wala rin silbi talaga yang panalangin mo at pinagsasabi mo rito. pasensya po medjo harsh yung comment ko pero gusto ko lang talaga magising ka at makawala ka jan sa ginagawa mo ngayon.

[otra_vez]

saqqara: let me start by saying that i don't think na dehado ka. i think women should be able to enjoy sex, even if it's just a casual thing, even if it's with multiple partners. i think your problem and i think this is a common problem among women who engage in casual sex then end up all heartbroken and confused, is that you are using sex as a tool to get what you really want, which is a boyfriend. instead of sex as a fun and pleasurable activity that women have a right to enjoy , it becomes a kind of a bargaining chip.

people are not that difficult to understand. if he is not calling you, he is not spending time with you, he doesn't like you. he doesn't want you as a girlfriend. he doesn't even want you as a friend. go with their advice-- delete his number, stop romanticizing this guy. sometimes it's just a matter of stepping back and trying to see someone with as much objectivity as possible. most likely, you'll realize that you don't really know this person well enough and that he probably doesn't possess the qualities you want in a partner.

lighten up. it takes time but you will eventually move on. just be smarter next time and if you want a relationship then be honest about it. be straight and be discerning.

[saqqara]

guy ako po sis.

kaya nga eh, promise are meant to be broken. hehe! gawin mo rin, kasi kahit anong dasal mo, kahit I grant pa yung prayer mo na I change na yung heart mo sa nararamdaman mo about your fubu tapos yung flesh mo eh ganun pa rin ang ginagawa wala rin silbi talaga yang panalangin mo at pinagsasabi mo rito. pasensya po medjo harsh yung comment ko pero gusto ko lang talaga magising ka at makawala ka jan sa ginagawa mo ngayon.

 Ay Sorry bro three8one
  Thanks sa advise fortunately we're not communicating po, I just have so many questions in mind lang po and doubts. Nagising na ako, and Hopefully I will move on.

saqqara: let me start by saying that i don't think na dehado ka. i think women should be able to enjoy sex, even if it's just a casual thing, even if it's with multiple partners. i think your problem and i think this is a common problem among women who engage in casual sex then end up all heartbroken and confused, is that you are using sex as a tool to get what you really want, which is a boyfriend. instead of sex as a fun and pleasurable activity that women have a right to enjoy , it becomes a kind of a bargaining chip.

people are not that difficult to understand. if he is not calling you, he is not spending time with you, he doesn't like you. he doesn't want you as a girlfriend. he doesn't even want you as a friend. go with their advice-- delete his number, stop romanticizing this guy. sometimes it's just a matter of stepping back and trying to see someone with as much objectivity as possible. most likely, you'll realize that you don't really know this person well enough and that he probably doesn't possess the qualities you want in a partner.

lighten up. it takes time but you will eventually move on. just be smarter next time and if you want a relationship then be honest about it. be straight and be discerning.

 Thanks sis otra_vez baka yun nga need ko kaya nadala ako,  ikaw ba naman ilang years walang bf may ngpa sweet or what hindi kasi ako f@&% girl kaya marupok. I know it takes time and like I always pray right now hopefully in God's time I will move on.

[saqqara]

I once tried a non-serious relationship before. In my experience, even if I made it clear that as long as there's nobody else is involved then it's fine to play it by ear, it's not a guarantee that he will do it. The best thing to do is to burn the bridge. That way, it's done...it's over...there's not turning back.

Hopefully I will move on sis

[sweet21]

I don't understand why all of a sudden bigla na lang ako binati ng ex ko. Simpleng hi lang naman pero deadma ko sya. Samantala dati halos ipagtabuyan nya ako nung nakipag break sya sakin haha. Does this mean he wants to be friends? Or wants to address na ok na wala ng hard feelings.

[three8one]

^ yes, ibig sabihin nun okay na sa ex mo. wala ng hard feelings. pwede na kayo mag greet ng casual once magkasalubungan man kayo anywhere.

[Gabby11]

Ano ang reasons nyo Guys pag tumatanggi kayo sa pag aya ng gf/wifey nyo sa sexy time?

[mysterioza_me]

^Baka pagod lang.

[three8one]

Ano ang reasons nyo Guys pag tumatanggi kayo sa pag aya ng gf/wifey nyo sa sexy time?

hindi na tumatayo si utoy! haha... joke lang.. di naman ako tumatanggi, sugod ng sugod!

[chinablue]

^lol. sabi ko din sa husband ko ako pwede tumanggi pero siya hindi pwede. kase if tatanggi siya giyera na ito. haha.

[three8one]

^ pag tumanggi sya kamo, bukod sa giyera pwedeng may ibang gumawa para sa kanya. hahaha! biro lang.

[young_maiden]

^ bro, natawa ako sa hirit mo. :-D

[simang]

Ano ang reasons nyo Guys pag tumatanggi kayo sa pag aya ng gf/wifey nyo sa sexy time?

Tinanong ko husband ko, sabi nya mostly due to physical exhaustion and puyat daw possible reasons.

di naman ako tumatanggi, sugod ng sugod!

usually naman ang lalaki kahit 'wala sa mood', konting lingering touches lang magiging ready na rin. Haha

[three8one]

^ haha! kaya nga marupok kami sis, kaladkaring lalake. pero, pag hindi na talaga interesado ang lalake sa asawa, partner, gf, kulasisi, kabit etc.. kahit magti twerk pa kayo mga babae sa harap namin deadma na talaga.

normally din bukod sa physical exhaustion eh yung mentally exhausted na din, minsan dami iniisip na mga bagay bagay, either responsibility sa pamilya or sa trabaho.

[young_maiden]

I need to vent this out.

I communicated again with this guy na classmate ko noong grade 4 at kapitbahay ko pa.

Nagsimula lang naman sa isang wave from him sa fb. Since then, everyday na kami magkachat. Paminsan-minsan tumatawag pa siya. Single siya, by the way. He has no gf/wife sa ngayon.

Naninibago lang ako sa guy na ito.

Lagi decent yung topics namin. We talk about everyting simula childhood dreams, family. future, etc. Pag niseenzoned ko na siya, he will find a way to begin the conversation again. every day he greets me good morning at good night. May mga times pa na tumatawag pa siya. One time nakipagvideo chat siya sa akin at hiranahan ako.

Does he like me o bored lang siya? Sa trauma ko sa mga kalalakihan, natatakot na ako magtiwala. Pakiramdam ko pag malandi o sweet si lalaki sa akin, bored lang siya. A part of me is tempted na maghanap na lang siya ng iba na pwede magpalipas-oras sa boredom niya. Buti napipigilan ko pa sarili ko.

Heto pa. Ayoko ng efforts na puro hanggang online lang pero di ko naman siya marequire na mag effort in person dahil nasa barko siya ngayon. seaman kasi siya. He assured me naman na pag-uwi niya he will do anything to prove himself at yung sincerity niya.

I appreciate him dahil may respeto siya sa akin. Sinabi ko sa kanya na ayaw ko pag-usapan ang sex at hindi ako umiinom when he asked me if I did it already at kung umiinom ako. nirespeto naman niya at hindi na niya namention ulit. After that, tuloy pa rin usapan namin. Tuwing di ako nagrereply, mangungulit siya.

I also told him na serious relationship na ang hanap ko. yung pangmatagalan na. tanggap naman niya. he said he appreciates my honesty.

On the other hand, ASSUMING na he likes me, parang di ko naman kaya ang LDR. Mas prefer ko pa rin yung bf na lagi ko makikita at makakasama. Worse, seaman pa siya. Eh di ba notorious mga seamen for being cheaters. I know hindi naman lahat pero yun na talaga reputation sa kanila eh.

I am so torn. Nag enjoy ako kasi meron na ako nakaka-usap on a regular basis, someone na interested sa nangyayari sa daily life ko. pero yun nga ayoko ng LDR kung sakali. Saka if ever he wants me to be his gf, prove naman siya sa personal at wag naman sa online lang. For some reasons, mas lamang pa rin yung mindset ko na baka bored lang siya at pinagtitripan lang ako. Baka pala marami kaming girls na kachat niya di ba.

Should I ghost him na lang or continue getting to know him?

[Girltalker2]

^ what are his plans long term?
Maging seaman forever?

Hindi naman purkit kinakausap ka nya, bf mo na sya and committed ka na sa kanya.

You can always be honest with him na you have reservations on him being a seaman kaya you are still free to date. But you like his friendship naman so ok naman kayo as friends.