Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)

[lalee888]

^Spot on!

Regarding the kissing game: it's not a gendered issue. The issue is that someone who is already committed put themselves in a compromising position. If you respect your commitments, you won't put yourself in any compromising situation (in this case, skip the game and just observe/enjoy from the sidelines). You can still be social and have fun without doing something that will hurt your significant other.

[jtansanco]

Guys, here's the situation:

Drinking game. Penalty, kiss the person to the left. Ang taya, si guy na in a relationship. To his left, si single cute girl.

Guys, would you still kiss (no limits kung saan/paano) the girl as part of the game? If you do, do you consider that cheating?

Not cheating considering I can kiss her anywhere. I can take her hand and kiss her there. 

[Girltalker2]

Guys, here's the situation:

Drinking game. Penalty, kiss the person to the left. Ang taya, si guy na in a relationship. To his left, si single cute girl.

Guys, would you still kiss (no limits kung saan/paano) the girl as part of the game? If you do, do you consider that cheating?

Tsaka naisip ko pala...
ganyan na ba generation ngayon or conservative lang ako?
I don?t like to join these games pala kahit single ako. Nor do I want my daughter joining such games!
No way!

[oshiawase]

Why do engaged guys still refer to their fiancee (for one year already) as "girlfriend"?

[jtansanco]

^ "Hi everyone, this is ______, girlfriend ko" is easier than saying "Hi everyone, this is ______, fiancee ko". Since Tagalog is the main language in the PH, "fiancee" sounds kind of foreign and "girlfriend" is considered a common term so men use it more often.

[simang]

^^I don't think I ever referred to my then-fiancee (now husband) as fiancee in person back then, we were engaged for 1.5 years. It just doesn't sound natural to me I guess. I would write about him as my fiancee here, but in person I don't remember calling him that. I've always referred to him or introduced him to others as my boyfriend or partner.

[roxykarlo]

hi, i just want to ask how to know if a guy is interested in a girl who is married and the husband is barkada ng guy? it all started kasi when my son is having his 8th birthday party and i invited the barkada of my hubby which is also the ninong of my son. we have met twice pa lang talaga and when he attended my son's bday party, 3rd time kong nakita siya. by the way, my husband is an OFW since, 5years na. so okay ang party, kinabukasan, xempre i thanked all those who came to the party through online messages and texts. when i messaged him, that was where it all started. nag memessage kami til 12mn but it's pure and clean messages, nagpapahanap siya sa akin ng magiging girlfriend niya because he is sill single and 40 na  so quite old na. after sometime, mga 3days of messaging, i stopped messaging him kasi i dunno -- iba yung nararmdaman ko, feeling ko ako yung hassle sa kanya kasi kulang na lang magpaalam siya sa akin kung saan siya pupunta. so until now, di rin siya nag memessage. pero online siya. sa tingin nyo, anong nangyayari sa kanya? LOL. naguguluhan ako. by the way i love my husband and he knows that, ako lang nag stop communicating sa kanya kasi parang may mali eh. sana ma gets nyo ako. need advice from guys here.

[Girltalker2]

^ not a guy, but I?d say you did the right thing.
You shouldn?t be texting that much with the opposite sex unless you?re looking for a bf.

[argento]

iba yung nararmdaman ko

may gusto ka sa kanya.

tingin nyo, anong nangyayari sa kanya? LOL. naguguluhan ako.

namimiss mo siya kaya naguguluhan ka.  sooner or later magmemessage ka rin.

[TomHansen]

^^^ Yup may mali nga, medyo late ka nang bumitaw sa conversations niyo pero ok na rin tinigil mo, good job!.

Tama din na di ka kumagat sa "hanap mo naman ako ng gf" style ng mga lalaki kasi ibig sabihin magkakaroon kayo ng constant communication which is a big no no lalo na sa isang married na babae. Dont worry sis mawawala din yan siguro natuwa ka lang kasi may bago kang nakausap and wag mo nang isipin kung ano man ang nangyayari sa kanya, try not to be curious sa kanya, unfollow mo sa fb para di mo makita posts niya sa feed mo..

[Shadow Angel]

^^^tama sila STOP as in totally stop communication with the guy. Sana di ka matukso na imessage pa ulit sya or replyan.

I will not do anything na alam ko macocompromise ang relationship ko with my husband kahit walang malisya or what. Ayaw ko ng ganyan na may magpapagulo pa sa isip ko or madivert ang attention ko other than my husband.

Just want to share lang may friend si hubby na feeling close sa akin hindi ako comfortable lalo na pagsinasabihan nya ako napakaswerte ng asawa ko dahil sa akin feeling ko may ibang meaning kaya sinabihan ko si hubby na hanggat maari wag invite sa bahay na kami lang better to invite him sa labas na sila lang. Si hubby naman sa kawork nya kapag nagmemessage sa kanya hindi nya nirereplyan ang katwiran nya ayaw nya makipagclose sa kawork other than work related mas gusto nya mga friends nya outside work.

[kvandenhaak]

^Insulting sa akin yang ganyang style. Alam ng taken tapos lalapit pa.

[Girltalker2]

^ agree sis. Kabastusan Di ba? Wala nang respect sayo, wala pang respect sa relationship mo with your partner/husband. Worse, hubby?s Friend pa daw!
It?s an insult kasi anong akala nya or anong tingin nya sayo, easy to get?

[roxykarlo]

hello. thanks to all. yes, tama kayo lahat. i never spoke or communicated to him again. i also blocked him on all my accounts. and alam ko i did the right thing because in the 1st place i am married. thank you guys!

[moonandstars]

Why are some guys afraid of commitment?

[moonandstars]

My ex fiance called off our wedding one month before the supposedly wedding date. Yung reason nya sa kin was that he was not ready for a commitment yet. One year kaming nagprepare for the wedding then suddenly bigla siyang natakot to get married? Any insight on this guys? 😢

[RoadrunnerXCX]

Time not  love makes the men commit. He is not ready to commit but it doesn't mean he didn't love you.

[AprilGal26]

hi sis @moonandstars, felt sad about your story. Anyway, I think better na he told you about that and became really honest this early instead of being tied sa kanya all your life tapos bigla na lang nyang mafifeel na hindi pa sya ready. I felt the same way before, but the difference lang is, we were married na when I realized that hindi pa pala ako ready and not super inloved with the guy ( I am not saying na he is not into you kaya sya nagbackout). I mean, we all have different reasons and realizations in making decisions. So yun, we separated din after less than 2 years of marriage. Kamusta kayo? Kayo pa din ba after?

[TomHansen]

@moonandstars, sorry sa nangyari pero tingin ko mabuti na yan kesa kinasal kayo. Malamang merong ibang babae yan, hindi man karelasyon pero natipuhan. Nagpropose siya sayo dahil mahal ka niya at gusto ka niyang makasama nung time na yun at hindi basta basta magbabago yung dahil lang sa hindi siya ready sa commitment...

Move on sis, swerte mo hindi kayo kinasal bago siya magkaganyan kung hindi mas mabigat na problema pa ibibigay niya sa iyo.. Someday you'll find someone na ready makipagcommit sayo at hindi titingin sa ibang babae. Enjoy being single muna.

[young_maiden]

@moonandstars


Bigyan kita free legal advice. Hihi. You could file a civil case for damages dahil sa ginawa niya. Wala siya criminal and civil liability sa pakikipaghiwalay sayo pero pwede mo siya ihabla ng civil case para macompel siya bayaran mga nagastos sa preparations ng wedding nyo. Allowed ng batas iyan. Meron supreme court case na hinabla ng bride si groom dahil umatras si groom sa kasal at gusto ni bride mabayaran siya ng danyos. Panalo siya.