Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 9)

[mysterioza_me]

^Haha baka naman kasi si guy talaga ang mali kaya waiting din si girl na mageffort si guy. Lumalaki ulo ng lalake kapag laging si girl ang nagpapakumbaba.

I'm planning to give my bf a personalized pillow. Yung may pic ko haha. Sorry ha ambabaw talaga ng bf ko. Anything na may marka ko gusto niya.

[lonely_dad]

^ayos yun at least yakap niya lagi yung unan kahit di kayo magkasama 

[amethyst028]

^nope not normal sis.

My bf likes all my posts kahit yung mga pinaka walang kwenta. Madalas siya ang pinaka first sa like at laging may comments at love emojie pag selfie ang posts ko. we don?t have the ?in a relationship? status sa fb. We just never got around to changing it but it doesn?t affect the quality of our relationship.

Regarding like ng post ng workmate ok lang yun kasi ka work niya naman yun. Syempre lagi niya nakikita so parang nakikisama lang siya unless you think may malisya. I have ex officemates na guys na lagi nag la-like, minsan love emojie pa and madalas may comment na ?dyosa?, ?pinusuan ko na? mga ganun pero wala lang mga happily married guys na sila.

For me focus on the quality of your relationship in real life not the one you have virtually. Kasi kung solid and stable kayo in real life you don?t have to worry about anything else.

[shinies]

Importante din ang virtual life ngayon (pwera na lang kung walang socmed accounts yung tao). Pwedeng petty yan para sa iba pero andiyan din yung issue na nag-iiba persona ng partner online.

Kung parte talaga ng activity ni BF ang maglike ng posts, dapat mas madaming like kay GF niya. Red flag yang mas nageeffort siya sa iba kesa GF niya.
Di naman pwede na sa virtual life niya, si workmate ang i-special treatment niya. Tapos supposedly kay GF special IRL lang. Kelangan consistent special si GF online at IRL

bea31, sis mukhang madaming ibang problema.. Dapat magusap kayo ng masinsinan ni BF at ilatag niyo ano ba talaga mga issues niyo.
Maginternalize ka din kasi sabi mo kahit ex mo ganyan trato sayo..

[mysterioza_me]

Is it normal na hindi malike ni boyfie post or pic ng gf? Pero sa workmate niyang girl, emoji reaction pa ang like at halos lahat ng post ng girl may reaction?

For me hindi ito normal. Dyan sa mga simpleng pa-like-like na yan at comments nagsisimula or nagkakaalaman ng current fling ng partner. Mababaw na basis siguro sa iba pero subok na yan. Kung ila-like niya yung iba bakit yung sa iyo di niya magawa na i-like? Sa bf ko nga ni-set pa niya ng "see first" ang mga post ko para di niya ma-missed.

[momlory]

question po. May 2 akong friend yung isa nasa 8 years in a relationship nasa early 30s na sila ngayon pero hindi pa rin nag propropose yung lalake.

Another friend of mine 12 years na sila  early 30s age pero same din hindi pa rin nagpropose yung lalake. Sooner si guy nalaman niya na nakipagflirt sa iba. Sa ngayon hanging ang relationship nila for 2 years na. Pero siya pa rin daw pinili ng guy.

Bakit po may mga lalake na kahit nasa right age and with money naman to settle pero bakit hindi pa rin nasa isip na magpropose or ikasal?

[amethyst028]

^wala naman kasi iyan sa tagal ng relationship sis. Ever heard of people na months pa lang magka kilala kinasal na? Hindi kasi batayan ang years na pinag samahan. What is the quality of their relationship? Happy ba sila?

Most men kasi they have to be motivated to take action. And the girls have to state what they want. If they want marriage they should say it.

Age and financial status is not the only reason for guys to think about marriage. Are they ready emotionally, mentally, psychologically? I know a lot of guys na 40?s and 50?s na nag aasawa kasi dun pa lang nila na feel na ready na sila. And kung sino yung partner nila that time yun na ang papakasalan nila given na ok rin yung girl.

[momlory]

ok sis ako naman iniisip ko baka hindi pa rin kasi sila sure sa girl?
 Or maybe hindi pa rin sila handa physically, emotionally or kung anong reasons.

[dismembered]

^ Possible na hindi sila sure sa girl... pero pinakamalaking factor jan is hindi pa sila sure sa sarili nila. Hindi sila sure if kaya ba nila mamuhay ng committed at ng may mga responsibilites and obligations.  May mga guys na kahit kakakkilala pa lang eh magpapakasal na, yun ay dahil sure sila sa gagawin nila at kung ano man ang hantungan ay paninindigan nila, except lang siguro sa case na happy go lucky at hindi alam ang meaning ng kasal kaya nagpakasal agad agad.

[Shadow Angel]

^relate ako dyan sa basta ready ang guy kahit pa bago lang kayo pakakasalan ka.

[annhalay]

Question to guys!

This guy  said to me "its feels weird not talking to you all day" tapos one time we were talking tapos may nasabi ako that got he agreed to it and said "minsan gusto kitang pakasalan" in a joking tone.   is he dropping some hint that he likes me?? or overreact lang ako kasi im starting to like him? haha



BACKSTORY:
I have this officemate na cool, kalog din, kabiruan and  almost everyday halos kami lang magkausap kasi kami yung team sa tasks sa office namin. We dont talk much about our dating life kahit always kami naguusap but sure I know he is single naman.  at times  nagsmall talk naman kami about dating lang he would share na he'll go on a date or may ime-meet tapos he will ask me kung maganda daw yung girl iistalkin namin sa FB or instagram. At times he'll ask me if may dinedate din daw ba ako tapos gusto niya makita yung picture but I dont want to share so much to him. medyo weird lang kasi parang may onting spark na sa side ko pero syempre ayoko naman na masyadong mahalata lalo pa sa kanya baka magkaroon kami ng ilangan factor sa office at lalong nakakahiya if he finds out.

[iamnicolecruz88]

Nagpaparamdam na yang si guy sis. Mga pa simple na style. Tryin to reacg your radar. This stage is what I like about guys. Haha

[amethyst028]

^^just to be sure, judge him by what he does not what he says. Kung sa mga actions niya he is showing that he likes you then he does. Guys says things in the moment then forgets all about it later. So huwag ka agad mag fall sa mga words lang.

And guys go hard for the girls they like. As in manliligaw or magpapa ramdam yan di nila kaya itago yung feelings nila. So if he is sending mixed signals then it?s probably that he enjoys your company and that?s just it. Observe mo pa.

[mysterioza_me]

^For me lang if he truly likes you sasabihin niya in a formal way, ibabakuran ka kasi baka maunahan pa ng ibang guys na handa manligaw ng formal. Hindi tulad niya puro pa-joke or parinig lang. Yung mga pa-joke na ganyang ?testing the waters? lang  yan, kung bibigay ka jackpot kung hindi naman atleast walang ego na nasaktan kasi indirect naman paramdam niya na type ka. Wag ka masyado padadala sa mga ganyang banat. Diyan madalas nagsisimula ang ?akala ko kami na e.? Assumera pa naman ang mga babae.

[Girltalker2]

^ I agree.

One of the lessons I learned nga - kahit na magsabi pa sya formally that he is interested, if his actions are not consistent and leaves room for doubt, then trust the doubt part muna hanggang sure ka.

Secondly, I always try to guard my feelings. Meaning ayoko ma fall sa kanya more than he does. Especially at this stage. I won't allow my feelings to just develop like that. It's just me. Kasi nasaktan nako before kaya ayaw ko mangyari.
But I hear the other people saying, na di ka lubos nagmahal if you always control your feelings. Ako naman darating tayo dyan. For now, getting to know palang... bf palang... ayoko ibuhos lahat unless I know he is willing to give up everything for me. Kung ganun, then ako din. Para naman patas labanan.
So my second point here is - too early in the relationship to fall. Don't allow to fall deeply if it is not serious pa. but some women ok lang kasi nga it's a risk naman talaga that they're willing to take.

[kvandenhaak]

^Agree. It's quite hard to guard your feelings lalo na yung stage na pinakikilig ka. Guys will do everything at this stage to win you. Then kapag nakuha ka na, they will start to lose that interest if they aren't that into you. Ganyan ang mga lalake. Guarding your emotion is vital, not easy but doable.

[JessicaJones]

 I'm a happily married person. Then a guy at the office started flirting with me. I know he's married din and he knows I'm married. We even talk about our kids minsan. Suddenly he starts asking me out, which of course I'd say no. Pero nag-uusap pa din kame and he will still sometimes flirt. Question to guys, pano niyo pinipili kung kanino kayo magfflirt? Do you really just like the girl or pag tingin niyo sasakyan kayo? I talk to a lot of guys in the office since most of them are guys. I don't think that I treat him any different. I'm just wondering if I may be sending signals that I'm not aware of? Or trip lang niya talaga?

[Girltalker2]

Question to guys, pano niyo pinipili kung kanino kayo magfflirt? Do you really just like the girl or pag tingin niyo sasakyan kayo?

Im a girl ha, pero I will answer. Guys can just correct me if I'm wrong.

Pag type ka, like ka, baka makaisa, sige lang. especially sa mga malalandi na guy.

Sa mga Super malandi na guys naman, parang kahit Sino ata puede na, papatulan nila. Hahaha

But I don't quite get your questions bakit kelangan mo pa malaman ang motive nitong lalaki na ito unless you're interested patulan.

I talk to a lot of guys in the office since most of them are guys. I don't think that I treat him any different. I'm just wondering if I may be sending signals that I'm not aware of? Or trip lang niya talaga?

But that's the point. He flirts with you na nga eh and asks you out. And the fact that you still talk to him, can make him think na ok lang pala sayo landiin ka. So for me, tingin ko  Tutal he has nothing to lose naman eh, Kung patulan mo sya eh di ok. If not, wala din naman mawawala sa kanya.


Guys pursuing married women - tingin ko what motivates them is the slim chance na maghahabol Yung girl since you're married din naman. Tapos tendency if magka fallout kayo, quiet ka lang din at he knows your secret so ayaw mo ipagsabi din nya.

When a married guy asks you out, it is for me a sign of disrespect to his Wife and to me. Anong akala nya sakin easy to get? Papayag sumama sa kanya? Anong akala nya sa Wife nya, tang*? Kapal din ng mukha nya.

Yes initially it's flattering but actually bwiset sya.

Secondly, all the more you should be insulted if a married guy asks you out or flirts with you, knowing you are very much married. Di Lang Wife nya, ikaw ang binabastos, pati hubby mo and your family.

Question ko Lang is why do you still give due attention to this jerk? 

Sakin I usually treat men equally din, in arms length. Especially at work. Not much kwento unless we are in a group. Once a married guy also asked me out. Since we were friends (at least I thought), I ignored him. And from then on, never ko na sya kinausap since we were in different companies narin. So lost touch na. And he knows wala sya sa lugar, kaya di na umulit.

Para sakin, Bastos ang colleague mo. He deserves to be ignored and treated like a jerk din. Not equally like other men colleagues.

[kvandenhaak]

Blatant bastusan when you're both married and still flirts with you. She doesn't respect you at all.

[Shadow Angel]

Agree ako dyan bastos ang ganyan klase ng lalaki kung ako magagalit ako at never ko sya kakausapin unless about sa work.