Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 8)

[j.adore]

Normal din if you're on your period lol.

If not, baka you're one of those who like variety by adding drama in the relationship. Iba iba kasi mga tao but I do know people like this and it works for them.

Tama try to find other things to think of or do. Sayang energy fighting over nothing. Save it for the serious stuff 😉

[budgetchic]

For the guys, when would you ask your girl to have a baby?
Does this consider you really see your future with her and want her to be the mother of your baby?

[Girltalker2]

^ a guy that loves you and respects you will first think of marrying you then baby. Pero Ang kapal nya to ask if you want a baby but no marriage? Ano tingin nya sayo, paanakan?

[patchuchai]

Hi guys, based from my previous post, I'm into a relationship with a 60 year old guy, I'm 42 na. My problem is we are turning 5 months, first 2 months was ok still with kilig factor, then as time goes by mas lalo kayong nagkakakilala. Complicated coz he is married with 3 kids all grown up, then they separated, he went into a new relationship at nagbunga ng teenager na ngayon, then eventually got separated. Five years he was alone until I came in the picture. We have our intimate moments, but as time goes na feel ko ang complication, ok lahat naman ng relationship may pinagdadaanan pero sa amin medyo kakaiba, I was hoping na hindi ganoon kabigat mga problema niya, Saken kasi health issues. tapos naka stuck siya for 3 years, goal niya mapatapos ng college anak niya. Ngayon tama nga si Girltalker2, ano ba ang future sa kanya. Sa ngayon kasi couldnt bear a child, high risk pregnancy if ever at obvious nasa age na siya hindi na nya kakayanin mag support financially. Nag-iisip na ako to call it quits, pero paano ko gagawin iyon, sa ngayon ako lang nahihingaan niya ng mga problema niya. Idadaan ko ba thru text..lol, pano kaya. Naiinis lang ako kasi he works as a driver right now, kinuha siya mag drive ng son niya sa grabcar. Eh naiinis ako kasi pangit ang setup ng pagsahod sa kanya, nakakaawa he is working so hard pero kakarampot lang nabibigay ng son niya. Parang he is just treated as an investment by his son, parang hindi na father and son. Kaya nag-iisip ako kung iiwan ko siya kakaawa naman. Yes, I'm still in love with him, but how far, I dont know.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^ oh i feel bad for your situation sis, but i have realized na a relationship should have a always have a "future". i've just gotten over from my first serious relationship, it didn't have a future. i thought for the longest time na i'll be just okay with it (being in a relationship with someone na wala namang future). but my friends and family have taught me na a relationship should have a future. so ayun. i guess their constant drilling that to me also helped me to get over it.

[patchuchai]

hi sis, natanong ko sa kanya iyon, ano sa tingin mo future natin, sagot niya in 3 years matatapos na anak ko, the moment na matapos siya magagawa ko na gusto ko, ang makasama ka na, paggising ko ikaw kayakap ko, mga ganoon. sabi din naman niya, if someone comes into your life at mabibigyan ka niya ng mas magandang future, piliin mo na siya basta sabihin mo lang sa akin. Ok lang sana kung wala na akong feelings eh, kaso meron ang problema talaga ano ba future ko sayo. How will I call it quits??

[j.adore]

Seems to be a change of heart in your case..

Mahal mo kasi and the excitement was there so you proceeded with the relationship. Now, the gravity of the complications are dawning on you and you're having second thoughts.

Same decision lang yan at the start, love or security? You can't have both in his case.

If you choose love, you need to work hard kasi he leans on you.
If you choose security, you need to leave him kasi parang wala plans of a better life.

Unless you can see he's striving hard for both? Baka factor din yung age thinking he's old na at ayaw na niya magpursige. May mga ganun talaga.

So is the love enough to sustain you through all the complications?

[patchuchai]

Hi Sis, thanks sa feedback mo. Ngayon problem ko paano ko sasabihin or gagawin to call it quits? tipong kapag nag-meet kami sabihin ko na agad sa kanya, wala ng paligoy ligoy pa? I know its gonna be hard.

[snowhite_12]

How can i make him feel better that im not that type of person? My boyfriend is super seloso at judgemental. Nag invite yung friends ko for a small gathering. I told him dati hindi ako pupunta because of so many reasons but then i change my mind na il just  go out and be home early.Nag pa alam  ako thru message. Now nag post ako sa instragram at laking galit niya na nag sinungaling daw ako at sabi ko hindi ako pupunta.ang totoo nag pa alam ako and i just change my mind na sumama. Gusto pa nya tapusin relation namin just because of that. I screen shot our conversation and send it to him.na nag pa alam talaga ako. I Apologize dahil ayoko lumaki yung away. hindi ko pinatulan na galit ako sa reaction niya for accussing me of being a sinunggaling.Now hes not talking to me. Hindi na ako nag message. Pwede ba pa advice

[Girltalker2]

^^ patchuchai, there's no other way but to tell him straight. Just meet him and tell him you can remain friends, but for now you cannot be lovers kasi wala kang nakikitang kasal or future with him. Selfish mo naman if you impose on kasal on him eh di nga puede. Plus he has other obligations din, konsyensya mo pa kung Ikaw ang priority nya at the expense of his kids.

You want to meet and find the love of your life and you cannot do that while he is your BF kasi that would mean cheating him. So you can remain friends nalang muna if he wants.

Ang point is you want to find someone compatible to you with no baggage. You are single, free, financially stable. Walang sabit at walang problema. Doesn't he think you deserve someone who also is in the same boat as you are - walang sabit/baggage?

^ @ Snow White hayaan mo nga sya. Ano problema nya, di pa naman kayo mag asawa ganyan na sya. If I were you, I would just let him be. Gusto nya mag break? Buti pa kamo! Any GF wouldn't last with his Pag uugali unless magpaka martyr ka.

[patchuchai]

Hi sis, medyo na misunderstood mo siya. Mabait siya at hindi siya manloloko. Ako nagsabi sa sarili ko madali lang sana kung wala nakong feelings kaso meron. Ayun lang talaga ano ba ang future, wala naman makapagsabi diba. Kaso sa ngayon he has so many problems at feeling ko dapat hindi ko problema kaso naapektuhan ako kapag nagkwento siya.  Lagi nga niyang sinasabi napaka suwerte niya coz i am caring at sinusuklian naman niya. Kaso on my part suwerte ba ako sa kanya? My family event sila sa weekend, after noon maybe its about time. Thanks mga sis.

[Girltalker2]

^ sis patchuchai, my last paragraph was not for you, for SnowWhite...
Added Na sis snowwhite's name to my post to avoid confusion.

Do you really have to go to the family event? Or you're just waiting for it to finish (but you're not going), tsaka mo sya kakausapin?

We enter into relationships because we think we are lucky to have him/her, di ba? If not, then don't.

[TomHansen]

For the guys, when would you ask your girl to have a baby?
Does this consider you really see your future with her and want her to be the mother of your baby?

Kapag sigurado akong mahal namin ang isat-isa at subok na yung relationship namin, we're financially stable at hindi magugutom yung bata, kapag matagal na kami..

Hindi rin, sa panahon ngayon kahit may baby na yung ibang couples nagkakahiwalay pa rin kaya hindi dapat siya gawing barometer if the guy really see his future with you. Pagbasehan mo pa rin yung how he treats you, yung takbo ng relationship niyo.

Hi sis, medyo na misunderstood mo siya. Mabait siya at hindi siya manloloko. Ako nagsabi sa sarili ko madali lang sana kung wala nakong feelings kaso meron. Ayun lang talaga ano ba ang future, wala naman makapagsabi diba. Kaso sa ngayon he has so many problems at feeling ko dapat hindi ko problema kaso naapektuhan ako kapag nagkwento siya.  Lagi nga niyang sinasabi napaka suwerte niya coz i am caring at sinusuklian naman niya. Kaso on my part suwerte ba ako sa kanya? My family event sila sa weekend, after noon maybe its about time. Thanks mga sis.

Sis before mo siya sagutin kinilala mo naman siya at ang setup ng buhay niya, hindi mo ba naisip yung possible future mo sa kanya? Na yung mga problems na ganito na-foresee mo na sana bago mo siya sagutin. If gusto mo siyang hiwalayan then you have the right sis mas mabuti na yun for him kesa kasama ka niya pero pinipilit mo lang ang sarili mo. He's old, marami nang napagdaanan kaya im sure handa siya sa possibility na iwanan mo siya, he'll take it as a man.. You can still be friends pero as much as possible wala nang intimacy sana once maghiwalay na kayo..  Goodluck!

How can i make him feel better that im not that type of person? My boyfriend is super seloso at judgemental. Nag invite yung friends ko for a small gathering. I told him dati hindi ako pupunta because of so many reasons but then i change my mind na il just  go out and be home early.Nag pa alam  ako thru message. Now nag post ako sa instragram at laking galit niya na nag sinungaling daw ako at sabi ko hindi ako pupunta.ang totoo nag pa alam ako and i just change my mind na sumama. Gusto pa nya tapusin relation namin just because of that. I screen shot our conversation and send it to him.na nag pa alam talaga ako. I Apologize dahil ayoko lumaki yung away. hindi ko pinatulan na galit ako sa reaction niya for accussing me of being a sinunggaling.Now hes not talking to me. Hindi na ako nag message. Pwede ba pa advice

Nagpaalam ka naman pala sa kanya at nag-apologized ka na kahit hindi naman dapat dahil wala ka namang ginawang masama. Anong sabi niya hindi niya raw ba nareceived yung text mo? Hayaan mo lang siya wag mo munang kausapin unless magsorry siya BUT dapat marealized niya yung pagkakamali niya hindi yung kakalimutan niyo lang yung nangyari para hindi na maulit..

[patchuchai]

Hi sis, gusto kong pumunta sa family event nila, para makita ko siyaxat family niya para masaktan ako ng bongga! Feel ko mas madali ng mag quit.

[junetwentythree]

How can i make him feel better that im not that type of person? My boyfriend is super seloso at judgemental. Nag invite yung friends ko for a small gathering. I told him dati hindi ako pupunta because of so many reasons but then i change my mind na il just  go out and be home early.Nag pa alam  ako thru message. Now nag post ako sa instragram at laking galit niya na nag sinungaling daw ako at sabi ko hindi ako pupunta.ang totoo nag pa alam ako and i just change my mind na sumama. Gusto pa nya tapusin relation namin just because of that. I screen shot our conversation and send it to him.na nag pa alam talaga ako. I Apologize dahil ayoko lumaki yung away. hindi ko pinatulan na galit ako sa reaction niya for accussing me of being a sinunggaling.Now hes not talking to me. Hindi na ako nag message. Pwede ba pa advice

I've already spoken out heavily against overly jealous boyfriends. He's threatening to end your relationship because he did not agree with you going out with your own friends? Do you know how ridiculous that sounds? How is it that you warrant so much distrust from him? And that you'd have to get his permission to do things? And that you don't have your own free will? I'm sure you have your reasons why you stay with this man. But think long and hard about someone who is this possessive. Would you really want to live a life that's this restrictive? He sounds like a stellar dude alright.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

How can i make him feel better that im not that type of person? My boyfriend is super seloso at judgemental. Nag invite yung friends ko for a small gathering. I told him dati hindi ako pupunta because of so many reasons but then i change my mind na il just  go out and be home early.Nag pa alam  ako thru message. Now nag post ako sa instragram at laking galit niya na nag sinungaling daw ako at sabi ko hindi ako pupunta.ang totoo nag pa alam ako and i just change my mind na sumama. Gusto pa nya tapusin relation namin just because of that. I screen shot our conversation and send it to him.na nag pa alam talaga ako. I Apologize dahil ayoko lumaki yung away. hindi ko pinatulan na galit ako sa reaction niya for accussing me of being a sinunggaling.Now hes not talking to me. Hindi na ako nag message. Pwede ba pa advice

oh sis we shouldn't be wasting our time with immature (and insecure) guys like this. choose a man who is sure of himself and who thinks mature enough. andaming problema sa mundo, more worthwhile problems and he's giving himself a headache over such petty things. time's awasting sis. our ova are not forever, sadly.

[snowhite_12]

Nag admit naman siya sa mistake niya that it was his fault noong nakita niya yung screen shot. Kulang nalang sabihan ko na mag memo plus siya para di niya malimutan  conversation namin.baka ma highblood pag sabihan ko hehe. anyway i told him about my concern and he said he is having a hard time with my gimmick dito and lakwatcha doon sa kabila. He is scared i might meet someone else which i always explain its not going to happen.he wants me to save also para sa future which is my point naman pero mai times talaga i want to go out and experience new activities.

[budgetchic]

Hello guys,

Do you think I offended him? Kasi feel ko nga na naoffend ko siya.
The story kasi, we've planned to go out of town. We're not lovers. He's been asking me since last year na gala daw kami minsan but I refused because of my hectic sched. Night shift pasok ko.

so the plan nga was to go to beach, swimming. Yes, just the two of us. We will share 1 room kasi mahal nga naman kung kanya-kanya pa. I already agreed but there's this feeling na medyo nag-aalangan ako. Because of that, I asked one of his girl friend (M) na kilala ko. Classmate namin sya nung HS and up to now, katropa nya yun. And btw, we already reserved a room pero di pa confirmed yung booking date. Hati kami sa bayad.

Of course, before telling it this girl I asked her kung pwede wag maingay. I believed her so I told her everything. Asking her kung nakikipagdate ba si guy w/ other girls na sila lang 2. Nothing to worry naman kasi sila-sila lang namang mga girls (HS tropa) ang nakakasama niya gumala. In fact, mga mommies na nga yun. Eto na nga, I asked her "mabait naman yun diba? sorry for that question". She answered, "hahaha oo naman mabait naman un at di maniac. E di pagbigyan mo siya, lumabas kau minsan."

Now, nalaman ko kagabi na sinabi pala ni M sa kanya. Hindi ko alam kung sa personal sila nagkausap or sa FB lang. Nashocked ako and at the same time nahiya ako. Hindi ko na ikwekwento yung napagusapan namin, basta sabi niya "Porket isa lang may plano na. wag ka mag-alala budgetchic wala akong gagawin masama hmmpp."

Nahiya at naguilty ako bigla. Tapos biglang tinanong niya, kung pwede magsama kasi yung katropa daw nyang girl (di ko kilala) gusto sumama dahil nainggit. Sabi ko, good for 2 lang yun and strict yung resort na yun. (Sa totoo lang na disappoint ako bigla. Ayoko magpaka-plastik, gusto ko rin siya masolo. Not sexually but para makilala ko pa siya at makakwentuhan.

I apologized, sabi ko "pasensya na. Nagtanong lang naman ako kay ___ "
Tapos sabi nya, baket ko naman daw natanong yun sa kaniya? Sabi ko, "Di ko alam eh, siguro baka may magalit" . Tapos sabi nya, "weeh? para sakin budgetchic di kita ayain gumala or kung san man kung may gf ako kasi malamang kung di siya kasama di din ako gagala hahaha. Sayo ang baka may magalit dyan."

Sa totoo lang, I-cacancel ko na sana yung plan namin na ito, kaso baka magalit nanaman siya kasi pinapaasa ko daw lagi sya sa mga lakad namin. Di naman natutuloy.

Any advice or comment?

[TomHansen]

^ mahirap niyan sis kasi pinalalabas niyang may nagawa kang kasalanan baka mag-overcompensate ka kapag magkasama na kayo. Huwag mo siyang intindihin sa kadramahan niya IKAW ANG BABAE kaya right mo na magtanong tanong lalo 2 lang kayong mago-out of town, walang mali dun sa ginawa mo gusto niya lang maguilty ka. Huwag kang manghinayan sa reservation at matakot na magalit siya e siya yung nagddrama sa inyo, sabihin mo sila na lang dalawa nung kaibigan niya magsama..

Mag-mall at sine muna kasi kayo sis ng ilang beses bago kayo mag out of town. type mo 'tong guy na ito ano?

[budgetchic]

^ ganun ba yun bro?
pero kasi pinanindigan ko talaga na siya naman talaga nagpumilit. Pinilit na indirectly nagask siya na idate ko siya, na lumabas kami manood ng sine at kumain. Hindi nalang kasi nya aminin na type nya ko at nahuhulog na siya sakin. Hahaha feelinger eh noh? Paano may mga patama pa siya sa FB posts pa.

Napapaisip nga ako, sa dami-dami ng babaeng nakilala nya, baket magttyaga siya maghintay sa akin? Baket ako ang kelangan nyang isama sa kung anong gala man. Ano purpose nung nabanggit nya na magsama ng kasama? Pagselosin ako? Ganern?

Hays.

Yun nga ang plan ko. Try ko kaya na biglaan siya iinvite, tignan ko lang kung game siya.
At oo, type ko siya. LOL! Nagpapa yummy lang ako dun. Tinitignan ko kung hanggang saan yung patience nya.

Dapat ba na magconfess na ako ng feelings sa kanya? Or should I wait na siya muna magconfess (kung meron man)?