Problems You Encounter Wile Planning Your Wedding Part 8

[pretty_B]

hi! idk if you guys consider this as a "problem" but i just like to ask what do you think you'd do if you are one of the first na ikakasal sa barkada? as in first ka sa hs at college barkada mo? and sa family naman, ikaw yung isa sa una ulit since matagal na yung last wedding ng family?

[kdramaholic]

hi! idk if you guys consider this as a "problem" but i just like to ask what do you think you'd do if you are one of the first na ikakasal sa barkada? as in first ka sa hs at college barkada mo? and sa family naman, ikaw yung isa sa una ulit since matagal na yung last wedding ng family?

I think sis it will only be a problem if they're not happy for you.. Or nagiging problem sila during preps kung part sila sa entourage mo.. Or if they say/have said bad things about you getting married. Ok lang yan sis na mauna kasi it's not about competition, nagkataon lang na nagpropose sayo si h2b earlier.

[pretty_B]

^well, mejo nappressure kasi ako na mauna sa barkada. what if ako pala yung pinaka waley na kasal, etc. alam mo naman kasi ngayon dahil na din sa media, pabonggahan na ang mga kasal. yung ganun ba. siguro, ako din ang problem. perfectionist din kasi ako tapos baka insecurity ito. huhu. though ngayon palang sineset ko na yung mind ko na every wedding is perfect in their own way naman. 

[pinkonearth]

^Sis, tama si kdramaholic, it's not a competition.

At the end of the day, you will not be getting married to get "likes" or for your photos to be published or shared in social media- it's you and your fiance's union before God.

Don't feel pressured in any way and focus on preparing for your wedding. Hindi mo naman goal to get the approval of many.

Personally, the weddings I really liked are those small, intimate and simple ones. To me, they're very heartfelt.

Don't fret, sis! Remind yourself lang the reason why you're getting married.

[stylus]

Sis pretty_b.. ofcourse you will set the standard dahil ikaw ang pinakauna amongst your friends. Kung nagpprepare din ibang friends mo for their own wedding at hindi biglaan, there are chances na mas bongga yung wedding nila. But i do not see that as a problem. Kung sayo man maging pinakawaley, di nila kasalanan yun. Every wedding can be perfect talaga on its own. Pero every wedding din has its own glitches. Walang nakakaalam nyan at walang nakakakontrol.

Wedding preps can be very stressful. So choose your battle. Wag mo na problemahin yung mga bagay na di naman problema. Or mga bagay na wala ka naman control kasi masstress ka lang. Just look at the bright side, ikaw pinakauna ikakasal. So kung ano man ang gimik sa wedding mo, di na nila pwede ulitin kasi lalabas na nanggaya sila.

[kdramaholic]

^well, mejo nappressure kasi ako na mauna sa barkada. what if ako pala yung pinaka waley na kasal, etc. alam mo naman kasi ngayon dahil na din sa media, pabonggahan na ang mga kasal. yung ganun ba. siguro, ako din ang problem. perfectionist din kasi ako tapos baka insecurity ito. huhu. though ngayon palang sineset ko na yung mind ko na every wedding is perfect in their own way naman. 

I understand sis.. Always remember na magkaiba din ang taste ng bawat isa satin. Pwedeng yung maganda para sayo ay di yun ang maganda for your friends or anyone. Most importantly, marriage is not about how beautiful your wedding is nor a competition. Yan din lagi ko nireremind sa sarili ko na yung kasal namin is not to please or impress everyone. It's all about kung ano yung dream namin na ma-achieve for the big day. As early as now dapat ready din tayo sa criticisms kasi at the end of the day aanhin naman natin ang magandang kasal kung panget naman ang pagsasama niyong mag-asawa? Kaya you have to relax and plan your dream wedding without thinking of other people.

[MS_JanDel]

^well, mejo nappressure kasi ako na mauna sa barkada. what if ako pala yung pinaka waley na kasal, etc. alam mo naman kasi ngayon dahil na din sa media, pabonggahan na ang mga kasal. yung ganun ba. siguro, ako din ang problem. perfectionist din kasi ako tapos baka insecurity ito. huhu. though ngayon palang sineset ko na yung mind ko na every wedding is perfect in their own way naman. 

Hi sis! I understand what you feel! But don't be pressured. As long as you're happy with your wedding, how it went, when you got what you really want I'm sure you want feel insecure. Definitely, there will always be a wedding na mas bongga or mas magastos ar mas monumental sa group of friends niyo kesa sa magiging kasal mo, that's something you can't control. But if you are happy and satisfied sa wedding mo, mababawasan yung feeling ng insecurity. Just focus on how you can make your wedding special for you and hubby.

[pretty_B]

Thank you mga sis! kdramaholic, pinkonearth, stylus, MS_JanDel huhuhu. kailangan ko lang din siguro talaga marinig yang mga sinabi nyo. on point yung mga sinabi nyo. mejo napraning kasi ako sa usapan namin lately ng hs barkada ko. 

^Sis, tama si kdramaholic, it's not a competition.

At the end of the day, you will not be getting married to get "likes" or for your photos to be published or shared in social media- it's you and your fiance's union before God.

Don't feel pressured in any way and focus on preparing for your wedding. Hindi mo naman goal to get the approval of many.

Personally, the weddings I really liked are those small, intimate and simple ones. To me, they're very heartfelt.

Don't fret, sis! Remind yourself lang the reason why you're getting married.

yes sis, ako din man i love a small, intimate and simple wedding din. mejo nahihirapan lang kami magadjust ngayon sa number ng guests kasi close kami parehas ni bf sa mga relatives namin. i am trying na maging 100pax lang. sana kayanin. and hindi din naman ako madalas magpost sa social media kaya yung number of likes hindi ko na pinoprob. mejo nasstress lang ako sa possible bad comments ng mga visitors. baka makarinig pa ako behind my back. tsktsk.

Sis pretty_b.. ofcourse you will set the standard dahil ikaw ang pinakauna amongst your friends. Kung nagpprepare din ibang friends mo for their own wedding at hindi biglaan, there are chances na mas bongga yung wedding nila. But i do not see that as a problem. Kung sayo man maging pinakawaley, di nila kasalanan yun. Every wedding can be perfect talaga on its own. Pero every wedding din has its own glitches. Walang nakakaalam nyan at walang nakakakontrol.

Wedding preps can be very stressful. So choose your battle. Wag mo na problemahin yung mga bagay na di naman problema. Or mga bagay na wala ka naman control kasi masstress ka lang. Just look at the bright side, ikaw pinakauna ikakasal. So kung ano man ang gimik sa wedding mo, di na nila pwede ulitin kasi lalabas na nanggaya sila.

thanks for reminding me sis na every wedding has its own glitches na di natin macocontrol. i think i/we just have to be prepared for these glitches para smooth ang maging flow ng wedding natin. natuwa din ako sis na hindi na nila magagaya mga pagimik ko since ako ang mauuna hehe.

I understand sis.. Always remember na magkaiba din ang taste ng bawat isa satin. Pwedeng yung maganda para sayo ay di yun ang maganda for your friends or anyone. Most importantly, marriage is not about how beautiful your wedding is nor a competition. Yan din lagi ko nireremind sa sarili ko na yung kasal namin is not to please or impress everyone. It's all about kung ano yung dream namin na ma-achieve for the big day. As early as now dapat ready din tayo sa criticisms kasi at the end of the day aanhin naman natin ang magandang kasal kung panget naman ang pagsasama niyong mag-asawa? Kaya you have to relax and plan your dream wedding without thinking of other people.

kunasabagay sis, iba iba naman din nga tayo ng taste. i know magkakaroon ng flaws ang kasal ko (hopefully na minor lang), but i need to be reminded always na my wedding is not to impress anyone.

Hi sis! I understand what you feel! But don't be pressured. As long as you're happy with your wedding, how it went, when you got what you really want I'm sure you want feel insecure. Definitely, there will always be a wedding na mas bongga or mas magastos ar mas monumental sa group of friends niyo kesa sa magiging kasal mo, that's something you can't control. But if you are happy and satisfied sa wedding mo, mababawasan yung feeling ng insecurity. Just focus on how you can make your wedding special for you and hubby.

thank you sis! hopefully mabawasan nga ang insecurities ko. i have a lot of sisters here naman who can help and inspire me sa pagpaplan ng wedding.

[MS_JanDel]

^Go sis! I'm sure your wedding will be memorable and beautiful. 

[kdramaholic]

^ Kaya relax ka na sis kasi I'm sure your dream wedding is going to be an awesome one! Happy preps!

[exquisitegem]

sis pretty_b, go sis! ☺️ Just do what makes you happy and set your wedding based on your standard, not anyone else's. Tama ka, wedding industry has become a full-fledged ideology promoting extravagance, luxury and mindless adherence to appearance pero panlabas lang yun, what matters most is masaya kayo ng partner mo. That's the real essence of celebraring the union. At the end of the day, we should prepare for the 'marriage' not the wedding.
☺️

[pinkonearth]

Yes, tama sila, sis!

Expected na there will be people who might be insensitive and drop comments kasi your wedding isn't how they imagined it to be, but it is YOUR wedding. So as long as you and H2B are happy, you can care less, hehe!

Be excited and pray for your wedding planning and decision-making! I'm sure it will turn out well!

[LilaFowler]

@pretty_B The only people that need to be happy and impressed is you and your husband to be. You just need to follow your own vision for the wedding. If your guest want something else, eh di magpakasal din sila.

The wedding is only one day. It's nothing compared to the length of your marriage.

[pretty_B]

thank you, thank you, sisters! hope mawala na lahat ng negative vibes sa akin/atin for us to be able to prepare well for our wedding! aja!

[britzm]

ang wedding ay wedding at hindi pyesta!
nung may mga nagrereklamo nung prep at kasal namin, sabihin ko lang noted. o kaya, "oo nga po eh, ay wait lang puntahan ko lang si ano..." bahala sila. desisyon ko pa din mananaig lol.
tapos yun, let go nung confrontation incident. baggage na nila yun

[exquisitegem]

Share ko lang din yung 'problem' ko. hehe Like most of us here, I am having a hard time trimming down our guest to 200. I told myself before that I want an intimate wedding, family and close friends lang. But when we were doing our guest list, hala andami naming close friends! Gaaah! Feeling ko dapat 250 na lang yung guests. But we agreed kasi na 200 lang. kasi masyado nang madami yung 250. So there. I guess we just have to be strict on rsvps para hindi masayang yung slot. ☺️

[sensi]

Share ko lang din yung 'problem' ko. hehe Like most of us here, I am having a hard time trimming down our guest to 200. I told myself before that I want an intimate wedding, family and close friends lang. But when we were doing our guest list, hala andami naming close friends! Gaaah! Feeling ko dapat 250 na lang yung guests. But we agreed kasi na 200 lang. kasi masyado nang madami yung 250. So there. I guess we just have to be strict on rsvps para hindi masayang yung slot. ☺️

hehe sis nakaka relate ako dito sa problem mo. gusto ko lang rin close friends and konting relatives lang din. a simple one lang. kaso pagdating sa side ni FI, hindi pala pwede, kasi panganay at only boy sa family, 3 sisters niya lahat married at a young age. siya mag 34 na saka magpakasal. so talagang sa lahat,most awaited event yung wedding niya. sa side ko naman kahit bunso at only girl ako, they said they just wanted me to be happy.
so guests namin, wag nalang ako mag expect na sana konti:(

[LilaFowler]

I already knew na guest list ang maging problem ko kaya I decided to have a destination wedding. I have 50 guests in mind na gusto kong maka-attend.

Medyo disappointed ang Mom ko pero ayaw ko maging parang town fiesta or free family reunion ang wedding namin.

[exquisitegem]

sis sensi! ilan guests mo? oo nga! pag most awaited event, madami talaga pupunta. Feeling ko mas marami bisita si H2b.kasi may post grad friends pa sya haha although sa may Alta Veranda yung venue namin, along Cavite near tagaytay. So medyo malayo sa city. Kaya I'm sure na yung mga pupunta is willing talaga magsacrifice kahit mej malayo hehe

[meixin]

Hi mga sis, what do you guys mean FI? Father In law ba yan? or fiance? sorry medyo nakakaconfuse kasi, masyadong magkalapit na abbreviation.. If it is fiance, I think the norm here is H2B as in husband to be.. para lang may distinction