Problems You Encounter Wile Planning Your Wedding Part 8

[sensi]

^^sis hindi ko pa sure if ilan kasi wala pang final guest list... but ill confirm with him pag may estimated number na sa side niya. pero nakakatakot lang malaman. haha

[MS_JanDel]

^That's our problem too, pero sa side ko. Sa province kasi namin yung wedding namin so syempre relatives din gustong pumunta. We have decided na 200 or less ang guests namin. I'm thankful my mom never invites guests. She tells our relatives and even her friends that who we invite is our call and that we are going for a small wedding. I don't want to invite relatives who I'm not really closed to and will even give limited seats, as in 2-3 seats sa isang family (malapit na relatives). Kahit gaano pa sila kadami sa isang family yun lang allotted for them. hahaha..

[LilaFowler]

^ madami na din yung 200 guests pero I guess maliit pa yun for a Filipino wedding.

Mommy ko lang naman ang makulit sa guests. Pero may mga relatives kasi na 10 years ko ng di nakikita gusto nya pang invite and may kamag anak na di na kinakausap ng Dad ko because of a family feud, gusto pa din nya mag extend ng invitation.

[MS_JanDel]

^True sis! Ang dami ko din kasi friends. hahaha.. We also have relatives na hindi in good terms with my mom naman, mga siblings ng father ko. She told me na if I want to invite them okay lang, pero for me, wag na. Okay lang din naman sa papa ko. Less hassle, less guests on the list. hehe

[sensi]

^yup sis, maganda na yung rsvp and nakalagay dun sa card if ilang seats saved for them.
one thing that saved me from having alot of invites sa side ko, hindi sa pinas ang wedding. kaya hindi talaga madaming maka attend from my side. but ill have few friends who would fly to attend.

isa pa yan sis, yung mga invites ng parents! haha! kahit u dont know them na hala gusto parin iinvite. kaloka lang.

[sensi]

hi mga sis, i need your advice, may "friend" akong included sa abay and then we had an argument and now I no longer want to include her. Ngayon pinahold ko na sa designer yung pagpapagawa ng gown niya. Should I tell my ex-friend na tatanggalin ko na siya? Or should i wait for her to give up her spot?

if ako, i would tell her than wait for her to give up her spot. kasi malay natin wala na talaga siyang care sayo o sa wedding mo, so no care narin pag contact niya sayo to just say na she's giving up her spot.
so if wala na talaga friendship niyo, it would be best to tell her in a civil way.

[maedonnas]

so no care narin pag contact niya sayo to just say na she's giving up her spot.

may point ka jan sis, Hanap na lang siguro ako way and time. Thanks sis 

[meixin]

before you do, irreconcilable na ba talaga? Kasi din if you do this, there would be no turning back.. If she suddenly feels bad for what happened and wanted to make things right with you and you do this, it would permanently ruin your chances. I don't know ano pinag awayan nyo, pero kasi baka mamya dahil fresh na fresh pa yung anger kaya mo naiisip ito..

[sensi]

basta ba wala na talaga ang friendship niyo sis,and sure kana,then tell her.

[pinkonearth]

^Sis, yes, the sooner you can inform her, the better. Baka she has plans kasi related to her being part of the entourage, etc. Iwas-sumbat na rin na why did you not tell her earlier.

Aww, I hope you find the grace to talk with her and I hope she understands naman where you're coming from.

[exquisitegem]

yes, i agree as well. Inform her that she's no longer part of the entourage. Grabe naman yung away nyo sis if umabot sa point na hostile na kayo sa isa't isa hehe

Anyway, for my guest list problem, good thing is that nagpromise naman si h2b ko na magcelebrate pa rin kami sa ilocos. Isa sa bahay, and another celebration sa kanila. This is for the benefit of those na hindi makakapunta like yung mga old relatives namin na hindi na carry bumiyahe...

[pinaydiaspora]

maedonnas better inform her politely na hindi siya ma offend. Besides it's your choice who you want to be included in your wedding especially as part of your entourage

[MS_JanDel]

Sis sensi yes sis! Dapat indicate nalang sa rsvp yung allotted seats for the guest(s) para mas macontrol. I don't want na over dominated ng relatives ko yung wedding. hehe. Yes!! Parents' invites!! So thankful my parents never do this, saves me a lot of stress.. hahaha

Sis maedonnas i agree with our sissies. You have to inform her. Maybe she's waiting for you to tell her too. Para din mainform mo na yung papalit sakania sa entourage. 

[britzm]

what i did during the wedding prep was send pm or call them. make small talk.
then i ask them sino sino isasama nila para bilang ang upuan. tapos susundan ko ng, "ah ok, 10pax per table so ang kasama niyo sa table ay si -name-"
sa parents, i asked them may ipapasama pa ba sila ibang tao.
turned out well. kahit may mga gate crashers, yung number of guests during the wedding may konti.

[prettylove]

hi mga sis, i need your advice, may "friend" akong included sa abay and then we had an argument and now I no longer want to include her. Ngayon pinahold ko na sa designer yung pagpapagawa ng gown niya. Should I tell my ex-friend na tatanggalin ko na siya? Or should i wait for her to give up her spot?

My say on this is at the end of the day it is still your decision sis. This also happened to. i have a friend and we had an argument and I didn't get her at first but end up getting her na din sa ento ko. As in malalim ang issue namin at malala pa kasi barkada ko sya at sobrang close kami before but the thing is naisip ko this is our wedding, meaning a new life and a new start so removed all the hatred and kinuha ko na din sya and she accepted it naman. Tho' hindi na kami ganun ka close kahit kinuha ko pa sya kasi the trust wasn't there anymore but I know na I closed the doors na sa mga hate and negative vibes and I moved on. At ang hirap kasi ng may masama ang loob tapos ikakasal ka, I don't want to think na she will wish us bad but it is really possible so para iwas sa mga nega comments and wishes na hindi maganda iniiwasan namin ni fiance ang magkaroon ng samaan ng loob sa kahit kaninu as much as possible.

[LilaFowler]

I think it's still better to allocate seats. Kasi if you ask them "ilan kayo" you lose control of the guest list.

I am writing on the RSVP card how many seats and the name of those invited.

what i did during the wedding prep was send pm or call them. make small talk.
then i ask them sino sino isasama nila para bilang ang upuan. tapos susundan ko ng, "ah ok, 10pax per table so ang kasama niyo sa table ay si -name-"
sa parents, i asked them may ipapasama pa ba sila ibang tao.
turned out well. kahit may mga gate crashers, yung number of guests during the wedding may konti.

[exquisitegem]

yes, I agree with LilaFowler. No. of seats reserved should be indicated in the invitation para aware yung guest na di sya pwede magsama ng marami. And if he/she confirmed on rsvp, i'll ask na who will accompany him/her para malagay yung name sa table assignments. ☺️

[meixin]

^Madali lang naman yung solution sa posting nega vibes, unfriend and block hehe. I also agree on thinking about it, pero kung talagang ganyan na din ang ginagawa niya, medyo it gives you no other choice.. and you need to find a replacement pa.

[LilaFowler]

^ do you still want to include her? If you do, then ask her if she still wants to be in your bridal party. She can't say you removed her kasi you gave her a choice.

If you really don't want her to be in the bridal party, just let her know now. Kasi mamaya she's making preps for the wedding tapos di naman pala sya kasama. Just tell her that since you've had a falling out, it would no longer be appropriate for her to be part of the bridal party but she is still welcome to attend as a guest (kahit hindi, at least she can RSVP not attending).

Don't worry about stuff she will say in social media. It's your wedding and you have the right to choose your own bridal party. If she goes around posting stuff on facebook it will only reflect badly on her.

[peachlipstick]

Medyo mahaba pero almost similar problem with sis maedonnas the only difference is hindi ko siya friend, bestfriend siya ni h2b na gusto kong tanggalin sa bridesmaids list.

Background story:
This girl kasi has been "bestfriends" with h2b since high school and since I have guy friends na naisama sa Groomsmen, pinagbigyan ko na isama si girl sa Bridesmaids.

My problem is I feel na wala siyang respeto sa relationship namin ni h2b. Commenting on my h2b's posts with matching "Bes" pa and I think she is trying to flirt with my h2b when they chat- hindi naman pumapatol si h2b pero sobrang disrespectful lang sa akin dahil nag-i-i love you siya kay h2b and nagpapabili ng regalo for her birthday amongst other things.

Oh and I almost forgot to add, may history pala siya of being a mistress. Recently lang siya nakipagbreak sa kinabitan niya na may asawa and ang h2b ko ang sinasandalan niya. Sabi ni h2b hayaan ko na daw kasi wala daw ibang malapitan si girl. Ang salbahe ko nga kasi sabi ko kay h2b: "Wala siyang ibang friends at ikaw pang ikakasal talaga ang nilalapitan niya? Masama siguro ugali niyang kaibigan mo na yan"

I really want her out of the entourage kaya lang gawa na ang gowns and the invitations have been printed pero hindi talaga ako comfortable.