Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)

[anon]

yup back off na, unfortunately may mga guys lang talagang nawawalan ng interest sa girl after having sex. I'm not saying mali yung ginawa niyo nor am I saying mali ka kasi bumigay ka kaagad, kasi hindi naman talaga. I guess ok na rin na 1 month pa lang ang lumilipas, at least hindi pa ganun katagal yung time na invest mo, the fact that he became like that just because of what happened, just shows kung anong klaseng guy sya, for me you dodged a bullet

+1

eh papaano if di naman sila nagsex nung guy after the first meeting and the second and the third hanggang hj and finger lang? ano ibig sabihin nun? i hope he wont read this. hahaha

the guy might still want to go all the way with the girl. nabitin ata e

[iwannabeasupermodel]

no, i dont think so.

i have a friend who's a nurse and has a doctor gf. their work status quo wasn't an issue at all.

but they're not childhood sweethearts/sweethearts during highschool/college?

[anon]

If you've only finished a four/five year course, will you guys be intimidated to get serious or to date a doctor? chos 

Most guys (especially insecure ones) would be intimated; a few will find it a non-issue.

[sacred cow]

But if you're a female doctor, the men tends to get intimidated so we're not so marketable daw. So we only have a chance daw with felllw doctors or attourneys  or phd holders. Ugh, is that true? If you've only finished a four/five year course, will you guys be intimidated to get serious or to date a doctor? chos 

I feel so shallow and stupid asking this, parang first world problem ugh.

No, most of us don't care about status and career when it comes to women (except guys with low self-esteem). When a woman thinks she's superior to us because of her career and acts bitchy, bossy, and condescending, that's when we have a problem.

If you're affectionate, attractive, and don't give a guy a hard time about things, you should do fine, no matter how high or low status your career. It's your personality that defines you, not your career.

[entwife]

hmm,.. I know a lot of female consultants that are still single. Naging joke na nga na kahit sino na lang na may SSS, pwede na eh,. Haha. Maybe the ratio of these women to men is 10:1

[jtansanco]

eh papaano if di naman sila nagsex nung guy after the first meeting and the second and the third hanggang hj and finger lang? ano ibig sabihin nun? i hope he wont read this. hahaha

^ What's the point? Remember girls, the ultimate goal of a man is to put his thing between your legs. As long as you don't give that to him, he'll continue to chase you. But once he does, that means he has "conquered" you already and the chase is over and he's going for a new victim. That's how a player thinks. If you're into fubu, then enjoy. Now, if you want to have a relationship with him, don't f*ck or do adult activities for at least 6 months after being bf/gf. Let's see if he'll stay with you.

[sacred cow]

^ What's the point? Remember girls, the ultimate goal of a man is to put his thing between your legs. As long as you don't give that to him, he'll continue to chase you.

Nope, guys who know better don't chase...they replace. amateurs lang ang naghahabol ng matagal nang walang napapala (assuming sex nga lang ang habol).
If a guy really likes you it doesn't matter if you have sex with him within a few days or after 6 months, as long as it's consensual. It would just be disappointing for a guy to know that a girl is holding off sex just because she is testing him, not to mention that it is immature and childish.

it's also stupid to espouse holding off getting intimate just so a guy would "chase" you. why play stupid mind games? Wouldn't it be worse to find out after a long time of him chasing you na sex lang pala ang habol niya?

But once he does, that means he has "conquered" you already and the chase is over and he's going for a new victim. That's how a player thinks. If you're into fubu, then enjoy.

just because a guy knows how to get laid, doesn't automatically mean that he's a player. Your definition of a player is someone who fools/manipulates a girl into bed (e.g. with the promise of a relationship), guys who really know "game" knows how to manage the girl's expectations and are honest with their intentions at walang lokohan na nangyayari, both are on the same page and both are left satisfied after the deed.
 

Now, if you want to have a relationship with him, don't f*ck or do adult activities for at least 6 months after being bf/gf. Let's see if he'll stay with you.

this sounds like it was taken from "The Rules" guidebook, really a poor manual on how to manipulate men.
A girl who doesn't have sex or does adult activities with you is NOT YOUR GIRLFRIEND, we may be in the Philippines and this is a conservative country...but let's not delude ourselves, girls want to do adult activities just like guys. Not escalating with a girl physically is a one way ticket to the friendzone.

[simang]

^i was smiling while reading your replies, sacred cow. It felt like i was reading my male version's journal haha

Here's what I think: a guy whether a boyfriend material or just a player thinks about getting laid. Kahit pa seryoso si guy in making a relationship work, he still thinks of sleeping with the girl he's with. That's guy's nature. The difference is, the non player one knows how to make himself worthy of the sex. And probably understands that the sex is not just a reward for being a boyfriend material but is something that is shared intimately. So kahit pa gano kabait ang manliligaw mo, he will think of sex with you, and will want to have sex with you.

If a guy is a player and wants solely sex from the girl will leave once nakuha na nya yun. Whether it's after a day, a week, 6 months or a year.

[sacred cow]

^ hahaha..ditto! except on the last part, some don't leave agad after getting what they want...some keep coming back for more

[iwannabeasupermodel]

Most guys (especially insecure ones) would be intimated; a few will find it a non-issue.

No, most of us don't care about status and career when it comes to women (except guys with low self-esteem). When a woman thinks she's superior to us because of her career and acts bitchy, bossy, and condescending, that's when we have a problem.

If you're affectionate, attractive, and don't give a guy a hard time about things, you should do fine, no matter how high or low status your career. It's your personality that defines you, not your career.

It's the filipino men's way daw to feel intimidated.
If that's not an issue then yaay! Chos!

[jtansanco]

Nope, guys who know better don't chase...they replace. amateurs lang ang naghahabol ng matagal nang walang napapala (assuming sex nga lang ang habol).
If a guy really likes you it doesn't matter if you have sex with him within a few days or after 6 months, as long as it's consensual. It would just be disappointing for a guy to know that a girl is holding off sex just because she is testing him, not to mention that it is immature and childish.

it's also stupid to espouse holding off getting intimate just so a guy would "chase" you. why play stupid mind games? Wouldn't it be worse to find out after a long time of him chasing you na sex lang pala ang habol niya?

just because a guy knows how to get laid, doesn't automatically mean that he's a player. Your definition of a player is someone who fools/manipulates a girl into bed (e.g. with the promise of a relationship), guys who really know "game" knows how to manage the girl's expectations and are honest with their intentions at walang lokohan na nangyayari, both are on the same page and both are left satisfied after the deed.
 
this sounds like it was taken from "The Rules" guidebook, really a poor manual on how to manipulate men.
A girl who doesn't have sex or does adult activities with you is NOT YOUR GIRLFRIEND, we may be in the Philippines and this is a conservative country...but let's not delude ourselves, girls want to do adult activities just like guys. Not escalating with a girl physically is a one way ticket to the friendzone.

And the Filipino mentality? Bash someone trying to give his own opinion on questions of others. Like I said, I give my own opinion based on how I know, observe, and experience things in my surroundings. It's not my fault I grew up different than you so my mindset is unlike yours. I'm not like you; I'm not like any men out there; I'm just someone answering the questions of these girls because I was the one who created this thread in the first place.

Now, let's go back to the topic. You give your own opinion on the women's questions and stop telling me what to answer because we're two different entities. I'm not here to tell women what they wanna here. I'm not here to tell men what SHOULD be said. I'm just saying things the way I see it after living in the Phlippines, Taiwan, Japan, and the US.

[jan888]

^like!

[louise1]

but they're not childhood sweethearts/sweethearts during highschool/college?

no, they aren't. They just met through a friend. the girl is living here in manila while the guy is from pangasinan. things are working out for them. even if the guy is now studying in australia and the girl is still here in Manila.

[argento]

If you've only finished a four/five year course, will you guys be intimidated to get serious or to date a doctor? chos 

I feel so shallow and stupid asking this, parang first world problem ugh.

Papatol ka ba sa college grad na ordinary employee lang?

[jtansanco]

I was chatting with my friend about dating and all that, see all this time i  am under the assumption that as long as you're a doctor, your market value is way way up there. She told me that is true, but only for men. But if you're a female doctor, the men tends to get intimidated so we're not so marketable daw. So we only have a chance daw with felllw doctors or attourneys  or phd holders. Ugh, is that true? If you've only finished a four/five year course, will you guys be intimidated to get serious or to date a doctor? chos 

I feel so shallow and stupid asking this, parang first world problem ugh.

Back then, yes. Now, maybe not.

Key points:
- You might be "smarter" because you're a doctor.
- Your salary is higher than the guy who wants to date you. (He might think that bringing you to a normal restaurant is not your thing because you might prefer a fine dining experience because you're "richer")

Going back to my own answer. If i'm earning P20k/month, I'll be intimidated and will not even think of dating you. But if i'm earning P120k/month, I will ask you out for a date regardless of your profession. It's the "status" thing.

[fleur_de_liz]

here's the story:
i just got my bf 2 weeks ago. so very fresh pa yung relationship namin. the guy had his relationship with this girl for 7 years and the girl is known na by his family sa province. they broke up since the relationship naman is very rocky na talaga and when i came to the guy's life naman eh wala na sila, kaso parang 1 week pa lang silang nagbreak ni girl nung pumasok ako sa buhay ni guy. actually matagal naman na kami magkakilala ni guy (sila pa ni girl magkakilala na kami pero i really dont know na may gusto na pala sa akin si guy kahit nung sila pa nung girl) then nung nag-break nga sila the guy admitted na matagal na nya akong gusto, he asked if he can court me and i told him na wag muna in respect nga sa nangyari din sa relationship nila ni girl. masyado pa kasing fresh na kakabreak lang nila then after a week this guy nga eh manliligaw na sa'kin. i told him to try experiencing singlehood muna but the guy is very persistent. kahit tinataguan ko na sya still he make all his effort para ipakita sa'kin na gusto nya talaga ko. in short, sinagot ko sya after 2 weeks ng panliligaw nya. then napag-usapan namin na uuwi daw sya sa province nila on July and gusto nya daw ako isama doon so i agree naman para ma-meet ko rin sana yung mga relatives nya, then yesterday when we're plannign about the travel na pauwi sa kanila he then told me this " i was thinking na wag muna kitang isama sa province kasi baka sabihin nila ang bilis naman ng pangyayari, na nakahanap agad ako ng kapalit ni (name ni ex gf) pasensya na ha? ayoko lang kasi na hindi maganda yung maging dating ng pagpapakilala ko sa'yo sa kanila, hope you understand"

honestly medyo na-hurt ako pero hindi na lang ako kumibo.

tama ba yung decision nya na wag muna ko ipakilala sa relatives nya? or is it his reason lang at ayaw nya lang talaga akong ipakilala talaga sa mga relatives nya? does it mean na hindi sya ganun ka-seryoso sa'kin?

[sugardrop]

"Meet the parents or family" needs perfect timing. And he has a point. Hindi din impossible na maisip ng family/relatives nya na you're the reason why nag-break sila ng 7-yr gf nya and other stuff. Yun lang kasi the excitement it gave you na uy, ipapakilala na nya ako then biglang wag muna. Be patient, dear.

[fleur_de_liz]

it hurts me lang din kasi he was the one with that idea tapos biglang babawiin. yes i was excited naman talaga to meet his rellies kaso parang hurting lang kasi biglang babawiin na sana inisip nya muna yun mga ganung bagay bago nya ko niyaya sa province nila..

[sugardrop]

^
He probably wants you to really meet his family but realized it was too early.

[jtansanco]

^^ Give it time. You're the one who said that everything was too fast. I definitely think it's for the best that you don't meet his parents/relatives at this stage of your relationship. Meeting them might give them a negative perception about you. They "might" think that you're the reason why he broke up with his ex or you're just a rebound or something like that even though it may not be true. I'm sure he'll make it up to you one way or the other.