Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 4)

[sacred cow]

Kapag nagtext sya, huwag ka agad sasagot.  Mag antay ka ng konti mga isang oras kahit atat na atat ka na sumagot haha    

this could also make the guy think that the girl has low interest level in him, kung marami siyang sabay2 na katext...lugi ka kung gagawin mo 'to. mag-aantayan lang kayo at magpapatagalan sa pagreply, medyo stupid na tactic IMO

[simang]

I dont see the point of hiya if you like the guy. I guess if you're comfortable with yourself talking to a guy you like is just like talking to a guy friend. Stop playing games. And stop over thinking things!

[fleur_de_liz]

ang hirap intindihin ng guys. hehe
pero tama naman, minsan kelangan talaga magpakita ng interest sa guy to let them know you like them..
if gusto ka naman ni guy then kahit ano pa gawin ng girl still he'll stick to her

[louise1]

@louise1

ahaha...kaya nga guys shouldn't be so assuming talaga. it's always the girl's actions and not her words ang dapat paniwalaan

Ouch! girl's actions talaga? hahaha... i guess dapat magtugma ang words and deeds.

[Prinsesa Mumela]

@ Argento

Oo naman! nakakadegrade pag narereject kami ng guys no. Iba ang girls kahit simpleng crush lang. mas yung feelings kaya pag nareject, ouch talaga. kayong mga lalake, dami nyong choices eh samantalang kami pag nagustuhan namin kayo eh kayo at kayo lang rin ang nakikita namin.

@ Girltalker2

Thanks sis. I'll try to do that. Shy type kasi kaya ang hirap gumawa ng move 

@Simang

Well, thats it eh. Di naman kasi lahat ganun kaconfident to approach the guy that he likes eh mananatya pa yan. One can't help but overthink kasi ganun talaga ang mga girls. asa dna na ata natin yun diba? kaya nga buti may ganitong klaseng thread para maliwanagan tayo ng mga guytalkers.

[fleur_de_liz]

agree with you Prinsesa Mumela
may mga girls talaga na hindi kayang magpakita ng interest sa guys..

minsan kasi pag pinakita ni girl na gustong gusto nya si guy eh nagtatake advantage naman si guy kaya it's really hard for us girls na magpakitang gilas kay guy.

[Girltalker2]

this could also make the guy think that the girl has low interest level in him, kung marami siyang sabay2 na katext...lugi ka kung gagawin mo 'to. mag-aantayan lang kayo at magpapatagalan sa pagreply, medyo stupid na tactic IMO

Sino nagsabi na kelangan sya lang ka text mo.  Kaya nga ang payo ko din ay maghanap ng iba, huwag lang iisa.  Baka may asawa na iyan or babaero, di mas lalong tepok ka.

Tsaka kung marami syang kasabay na text, may ambisyon ka pang makipag compete?  Eh di hanap ka ng iba na sayo lang ang attention. 

I dont see the point of hiya if you like the guy. I guess if you're comfortable with yourself talking to a guy you like is just like talking to a guy friend. Stop playing games. And stop over thinking things!

I guess this comes with age and experience. Kapag di kasi sanay, madalas mahiya.  Kahit naman mga lalaki, natotorpe kaya di rin maka complete ng sentence kapag nagsasalita.


^^^ Agree that guys shouldn't be assuming.  Pero this is so true para sa mga babae. Hinding hindi puede mag assume.  Isa iyan sa Dating 101 na rules.  Never assume. Kahit pa hingin ang number mo, kahit pa lagi kayo magkasama, kahit pa laging ka text, minsan nga kahit magsabi pa ng kung ano ano, hindi ka puede mag assume, unless proven na hindi sya sinungaling, nagsasabi ng totoo at nagprofess na mahal ka talaga nya. Tandaan, maraming bolero at sinungaling na lalaki, especially mga Pinoy.

agree with you Prinsesa Mumela
may mga girls talaga na hindi kayang magpakita ng interest sa guys..

minsan kasi pag pinakita ni girl na gustong gusto nya si guy eh nagtatake advantage naman si guy kaya it's really hard for us girls na magpakitang gilas kay guy.

Exactly kaya I really do not recommend being out there professing your "likeness" with a guy.  Rule of the game - huwag sisiryosohin unless sure ka na serious sya sayo. Otherwise ikaw ang lugi.  Nabanggit mo narin na emotional ang mga girls dinidibdib lahat.  Kaya nga importante not to do that.  Not to put all your attention to one man unless sure ka sa commitment nya sa yo, unless BF mo na sya. 

Just play it by the guys' game.  Ganun din naman sila, may shortlist. Bakit hindi mo rin gawin yun. Magshortlist ka ng mga guys you want to get to know.  Then start your conversations of getting to know them etc. I am sure, out of your shortlist, may taken na, so tanggal na sa listahan.  Tapos baka meron turn off wrong grammar sa English haha. etc etc.  So the longer your list, the better, para ang attention mo hindi lang sa iisa, tapos madali lang din magtanggal kasi nga may iba ka pang options.

[simang]

^i have to agree, if a guy treats you like an option among many others, treat him like an option as well

[sacred cow]

minsan kasi pag pinakita ni girl na gustong gusto nya si guy eh nagtatake advantage naman si guy kaya it's really hard for us girls na magpakitang gilas kay guy.

so gusto niyo kami palang guys lang lagi ang nag-iisip kung gusto ba kami or hindi, isn't that unfair? eh nasa DNA din naming guys na maging dense, tapos kapag hindi na kayo pinursue kasi akala hindi kayo interested saka kayo mag-iiyak at maghahabol or magtatanong dito sa GT.

Meron ngang tinatawag na Brad Pitt Rule (or kung sino man na crush ni gurlaloo), The BP rule says that if Brad Pitt had invited her, would she have gone- women say yes if they like you and no if they don't. And as men, you want a woman who acts interested in you.

[sacred cow]

Sino nagsabi na kelangan sya lang ka text mo.  Kaya nga ang payo ko din ay maghanap ng iba, huwag lang iisa.  Baka may asawa na iyan or babaero, di mas lalong tepok ka.

so pa 1 hr 1 hr ka magrereply sa bawat katext mo, para lang magpakipot, too much hassle. sabihin nating 5 'yan na nanlalandi sa'yo thru text, tapos magrereply ka after 30-1 hr per message...masyado naman atang obvious yun, masyado effort mag backtrack sa pinaguusapan with each guy

[argento]

minsan kasi pag pinakita ni girl na gustong gusto nya si guy eh nagtatake advantage naman si guy kaya it's really hard for us girls na magpakitang gilas kay guy.

its up to you kung magpapa take advantage ka sa guy.

[fleur_de_liz]

Yeah.. nsa girls nga kung they will allow guys to take advantage with them.. im just trying to say na.most guys kasi they do take advantage pag alam nilang type nga sila ng girl. Minsan kahit di nila type si.girl still they take advantage.

[sugardrop]

^
It's like getting a free toy with your happy meal.

[ysa.belle]

if hindi mo na love ang girl, pupuntahan mo pa ba araw araw?

[jtansanco]

^ Of course not. Us guys don't want to waste our time and money for someone we "don't" love anymore.. 

[argento]

if hindi mo na love ang girl, pupuntahan mo pa ba araw araw?

for sex yes.

[queenteaser]

Pls help me to understand this.

My bf broke up with me two weeks ago. As in, wala na. Kasi nag usap naman kami may closure so ako super nagpaka busy para makalimot and all that. I changed my number. I deleted all our pics. I did everything para makalimot.  Maka move on. Like every day is a STRUGGLE. Ganon kahirap. Yesterday when I checked my mailbox nakita ko yung e.mail nya saying "Thank you for teaching me what love is... God Bless." Nung nabasa ko parang hindi ko alam bakit ako nawala sa sarili. Akala ko im coping up na. Sooooo many questions, bakit kaya sya nag-email? Anong purpose nya? Nang eechos lang ba sya? nakarealize ba sya? Or PINAPASAKITAN lang nya ko? Gusto ko lang maliwanagan BAKIT sya ganon. Hindi ko nalang sinagot, but I ADMIT, naapektuhan ako. 

Ano kayang iniisip ng mga lalaking ganito? TIA sa mga sasagot.

[louise1]

Pls help me to understand this.

My bf broke up with me two weeks ago. As in, wala na. Kasi nag usap naman kami may closure so ako super nagpaka busy para makalimot and all that. I changed my number. I deleted all our pics. I did everything para makalimot.  Maka move on. Like every day is a STRUGGLE. Ganon kahirap. Yesterday when I checked my mailbox nakita ko yung e.mail nya saying "Thank you for teaching me what love is... God Bless." Nung nabasa ko parang hindi ko alam bakit ako nawala sa sarili. Akala ko im coping up na. Sooooo many questions, bakit kaya sya nag-email? Anong purpose nya? Nang eechos lang ba sya? nakarealize ba sya? Or PINAPASAKITAN lang nya ko? Gusto ko lang maliwanagan BAKIT sya ganon. Hindi ko nalang sinagot, but I ADMIT, naapektuhan ako. 

Ano kayang iniisip ng mga lalaking ganito? TIA sa mga sasagot.

bakit sya nag-email?
hmmm...
-he just wanted check if you're okay after the break up and thankful for all the memories you had together. pafriendly effect lang nya. been there na kasi.

just ignore it and move on. it wont be an easy phase but im sure you'll get there.

[simang]

^^i did not get what you meant by "nakarealize ba sya"

Obviously you're still healing. His email will mean something if you give it meaning. Whatever his reason is for sending you that message should not be your focus. Give yourself more time to heal. For all you know, wala lang naman talaga yung email na yun. He just wanted to say thank you and that's it. Don't stress about it. You'll be fine. :-)

[jan888]

^maybe sis queenteaser meant if her ex realized he made a mistake of breaking up with her?