tips on moving on...

[jessicasst1]

  Hi girls.. I really need your advice on this..

I would really love to hear your advice regarding my problem coz I really don't know what to do.

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years, we spent  3 years away from each other because he went back to his hometown while I was in Cebu. At first we didnt have relationship issues until one time he told me about this guy that he considered his bestfriend, I noticed that everytime he was with this guy he rarely texted me. This guy was his classmate when he enrolled in a culinary school, he even told me that they watched movies together.. I was really upset when he said this to me because I remembered what my co-workers told me that they think my boyfriend was gay. I was hurt but I ignored what they said. I didn't tell my boyfriend about this, not untl he said that they were sleeping in my boyfriend's room < in the same bed>.

I felt really devastated at that time. I love him so much, I was  very supportive of him with regard to his career plans. He's an engineer, then he studied to become a transcriptionist, enrolled in culinary arts and now he's busy studying another vocational class. His indecision is taking over every time <he's already 31 yrs old and I'm 27) plus the distance has taken its toll already. He told me that he cared for me so much to say that he still loves me and he wants whats  best for me and its because of this reason also that he's confused and at this moment his not able and maybe will not be able to give what I want. :

i felt totally betrayed and devastated. I don't know how to get over this.

[piatos]

^grabe uso talaga ang conjuding...haayst ang hirap at ang sakit.. 
isipin mo na lang blessing yan..paano kung kagaya kay bb gandanghari..asawa mo na tapos biglang nagladlad...mas masakit yun..pray ka lang na makapagmove on..masasanay ka lang sa pain..

enjoy ka lang..
1.  go out with your friends..
2.  watch a movie
3.  maging busy sa work
4.  make over

[r0bbyroxanne]

ako gumastos talaga ako para sa sarili ko, spending my time para sa sarili lang. todo makeover tapos, shopping. tapos going out with friends and family.

[MaraMeow]

Focus on yourself na lang sis. Pagandahin mo na lang sarili mo lalo and don't stress yourself too much. Wag mo na masyado isipin. Tama si sis piatos isipin mo na lang blessing yan. Atleast habang maaga pa nalaman mo na kaysa tumagal pa mas masakit yun.

Don't forget to SMILE lagi sis!!
You'll get better in time. (hehe parang kanta Lang e)

[r0bbyroxanne]

sabi nga nila matatawa ka nalang pag na ka get over ka na.. ako pinagtatawanan ko nalang sila ngayon..

[MaraMeow]

^Hahaha I agree sis!

[amethyst028]

think of all the bad things in your relationship, all the stuff na hindi niyo na pwede ayusin.
then imagine the kind of relationship you want, the kind of person na gusto mo makasama.
tapos pray.

pag may nawala kasi may dadating na higit pa. and minsan kaya hindi ibinigay sayo kasi hindi ka niya
deserve. always look at the bright side. na ngayong single ka na pwede mo na gawin yung gusto mo na hindi mo magawa dati kasi lagi ka niya pinag babawalan.

take up a new hobby, join a club, sports, gym. everything happens for a reason.

sabi nga if you love someone set them free. if they come back it's meant to be. malay mo hindi pa ngayon, malay mo kailangan niyo pa mag improve separately, someday when the time is right you might find each other again. kung siya talaga para sayo ibabalik siya sayo. just trust. kung hindi naman kasi may mas higit na ibibigay. win-win pa rin diba?

[aquacharly]

Do not look at the relationship as a waste of time.
It made you happy for a couple of years, period.

Count your blessings.  Better he accepted & admitted his "confusion" quesa he kept himself in the closet so to speak & dragged you along with his secret. Tapos pano na pag he really needs to liberate his true self? Mahirap if you will be like Carmina V  to his BB Gandang whatever. Buti if may Zoren ka. Eh kung si BB lang? Mas malaki ng kahihiyan, mas malaking complication & you will go through big time self doubt: Was I not enough of a woman for him? Yan, you will ask yourself. 

You're lucky he is decent enough to admit it before you 2 got married.
So, count your blessings -- naka iwas ka.

That's how you move on -- be grateful you both found out his true nature soon enough.

[kittypaw]

For me this is the easiest way to break somebody's heart, that you will find out na your partner is gay or somethin, kasi alam mong gay ang gusto nia kesa pagpalit ka sa girl mas masakit yun, kung bibigyan lang ako ng choice when my partner cheated on me, sana gay sya para wala ng mga questions sa utak ko.

My advice:

Change your routine, maintain mo yun for 2 months min. and pinakaimportante yung mindset. Once na tinatak mo sa isip mo yung gusto mong gawin it will lead you somehow.

[lovely_carrot]

No sense in telling you to forget him kasi you're mind will do the opposite anyway. When I went through my last break up, I just went through my usual routine. Eto ka, kasama ko pa sya sa work dati so mas malupit yun di ba.

I didn't even stay away from things or places that would remind me of him, for me there's no use. I faced it head on, eh wala  We all deal with grief/break up differently. But one thing's for sure, there will come a time that you'll get used to it and you won't have to think about him anymore.

Don't wallow too much in self pity, be thankful instead na nalaman mo di pala kayo para sa isa't isa.

[Girltalker2]

Ways to move on

1. Pray na sana makalimutan mo sya

2. Listen to woman power songs, not love songs or sad songs na naiwan ka

3. go to the parlor, spa, magpaganda ka

4. go shopping, go out with friends

5. engage in activities or enroll yourself in a course you like. it can be academic or kahit na dance lessons lang

6. going to the gym helped a lot, sports also

7. travel

[hawhaw]

gaano ba kadali mag move on? gaano katagal? i need advice mga sis.. after almost 10 yrs.. my bf left me dahil sa galit nya sakin.. no third party, cheating o kahit ano.. dahil lang sa galit nya na kakabintang ko sa kanya.. alam ko may mali ako.. pero tama bang sabihin nya sakin na hindi nya ko mapapatawad? ang sakit sobra..
hindi ko alam kung bakit humantong sa ganto, dun sa loob ng 9 yrs hindi kami nagkakagalit ngayon yr lang na to.. pero tama ba un ginawa nya na iniwan nya ko?

[lovely_carrot]

^ IMO Sis, he only wants an easy way out. Nakakita sya ng rason para iwanan ka na and so he did..

I don't know what else to say kasi hindi ko pa naexperience yan and i know hindi din madali pinagdadaanan mo. If there's anything good that will come out of your misery right now, its that you were given another chance to right your past mistakes in your future relationships and you were given another chance find someone who will truly deserve you.

It may not feel like it but you will get better in time. 

[pret_ty68]

"Out of Sight ,Out of Mind" So do not feed your mind with information about him. Delete him on facebook and other social networking sites and refrain from getting updates about him. Kung pwede nga kahit sa common friends nyo iwas ka rin muna.

[graZiousa]

sis make yourself busy.. magpaganda ng bongang bonga. meet friends and go on dating..

[glacy_rein]

^agree and focus on developing yourself for the better

laging isipin, hindi ikaw ang nawalan

[Chikoys21]

Hi Everyone!

I need advice on this.

I had a boyfriend who is 12 years older than me. Worst comes to worst. he was married.
We had our relationship for more than a year. Actually everything went well kahit na ganun ang sitwasyon namin. Admittedly, hindi na daw nia mahal yung asawa nia pero dahil may anak sila, he can't leave her. Ang sabi daw kc nung babae e ilalayo ang mga bata kapag hiniwalayan nia [textspeak!].

i remained to be with him kahit masakit at mahirap makihati. Pinanghawakan ko [textspeak!] un sinabi niang ako ang pinili nia at mahal nia.

then may nangyari, may biglang nanggulo samin. believe it or not. Ang hirap iexplain kung paano at sino [textspeak!] actually. Ang malinaw lang is isa [textspeak!] sa mga naging ex ni bf na gusto daw maghiganti. So she planned to ruin everything. She even made up stories pra papaniwalain c bf na nanlalalake [textspeak!]. Which is very impossible. Napaka techie pa dahil she actually gave him pictures na may kasama aqng ibang lalake na nagpunta dw sa motel? Eh never aqng nagpunta dun na may ibng kasama maliban sknya. kaya nakakapagtaka kung paano ngyari. Eto pang isa, nagagawa nun bruha i-tap ang cp nun asawa ni bf. She was messaging me gamit yun mismong number nun babae. Nagagawa niang kontrolin yun mga tawag at messages sa number nun asawa na hnd man [textspeak!] hnhawakan ang cp nun asawa. Ang balita ko e may kakilala ang bruha n tga network pra mgwa iyon. Pinagbabantaan nia [textspeak!] palagi at even blackmailed me.

Nakakaloka [textspeak!]. Tapos sumabay pa yun sakit nun asawa nia. Nag5050 ang buhay. Sa mga nangyayari sknya, inicp ni bf na bka wake up col daw sknya un pra bumalik sa asawa nia. Niantindihan ko [textspeak!]. Peo hnd [textspeak!] nakipaghiwalay. Tapos bglang isang araw nakipagkita [textspeak!] sakin at galit na galit. He was accusing me of panlalalake at nkipaghiwalay. Sawa na daw [textspeak!] umintindi at pagbgyan [textspeak!] s mga kalokohan ko. I was really in shock kc dq maintindihan. Ni hindi nia tinanggap mga sasabihin ko dahil idedeny ko [textspeak!] [textspeak!] daw tlg. Grabe. Ni hindi nga ako sumasama kht p s mga kaibgan ko pag lumalabas. As in hnd q alam kung paano at san nanggaling mga bintang nia. I was the very ever loyal na gf sknya. Ni hindi ako tumingin sa iba at kahit yun mga ngpaparamdam na lalake e d q pinapansin. Ni lumabas e dq rin gngwa. As in ofis -bahay ofis-bahay [textspeak!]. Haaay.


I wanted to move on na. Kalimutan n ang lahat peo hirap [textspeak!] kc nakatatak sa [textspeak!] nia na niloko ko [textspeak!]. na ako ang gumawa ng mali sknya, Sabagay [textspeak!] na ring saysay pa para patunayan dahil break na kmi. Kaso nakakababa yun gnwa nia sakin. Ayoko basta tanggapin nlng kung anung tngin nia sakin kc  hnd [textspeak!] ganung klaseng babae. kapag tinanggap ko nlgn bsta yun ibinibintang nia e prang inamin q na rin na totoo yun..


Anong dapat kong gawin lalo pa kaworkmate ko [textspeak!] at npakaimpocbleng iwasan [textspeak!].

[piatos]

^sa simula lang mahirap sissy pero mas mabuti na sa inyo yan.  Napakalaki ng galit siguro ng ex niya para magawa yun hahaha. kaloka siya 

[MaitaOfMakeupOnDemand]

With any breakup, love yourself more and keep busy. keep busy. keep busy. The more challenging your tasks, the better because you will automatically give more effort to the task than thinking about the guy.

Surround yourself with friends and do other things with them and do not talk about the guy. And pray everyday. Pray and be thankful for all the good things in life because now is the time to think about the positive things only.

You just think that you can't get over someone, but the truth is, only those who truly want to move on do. You have to want to move on. You can do it!

[piatos]

sabi nga nila matatawa ka nalang pag na ka get over ka na.. ako pinagtatawanan ko nalang sila ngayon..

tama natatawa na lang ako