How do you improve.. Character?

[17glut]

stay away from people na puro reklamo at pangungutya lang ang alam sabihin, yung tipong halos wala ka nang maririnig na positibo galing sa kanila... tsaka ewan ko lang if this will help you pero get as much alone time as possible para lang marelax ang isip mo

[alexsy]

maiksi ang pasensya ko 

[desiderata]

This is why you need to encounter "adversities" to serve as a wake-up call; for character-building. Siguro wala ka masyado'ng problema, sa pera, wala ka'ng nakakaaway na ipagsisigawan ano'ng mga defects o kamalian mo; di mo nararanasan yung sitwasyon na kailangan ipagtanggol mo sarili mo whether tama o mali sila sa 'yo. Yung mga sitwasyon na napahiya ka, nahihiya ka, nanliit ka, at unti-unti natuto ka'ng mag-isip na baka nga tama sila, o kailangan i-improve mo sarili mo o di kaya'y i-prove sa kanila na mali yung inakala nila o pagturing nila sa 'yo.

Kase yung pagbabago, minsan hindi nadadaan sa pabasa-basa ng mga self-help books. Kailangan talaga may "pinanghuhugutan" -- based from some (painful) experience. Di ba sabi sa Bible, "consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance." Kung may perseverance ka, ibig sabihin, mapasensya ka'ng tao at di basta-basta sumusuko o nangangagat, lol...at ito'y bunga ng iyong mga pinagdaanan, natuto ka'ng maghintay.  Kung may pasensya ka, that means, you're more considerate at nakakaintindi ka sa iyong kapwa. Hindi ka nagrereklamo kung may konting pila o traffic.

Ganun pa man, kahit kulang ka sa karanasan, maaari mo namang turuan ang iyong sarili unti-unti. Siyempre may saysay ang mga self-help books o mga inspirational material. Kahit mag-facebook ka na lang buongmaghapon, marami ka'ng makukuha'ng mga nuggets sa mga shared items sa iyong wall.

Pero ika nga, experience is the Best teacher. Why not try subjecting yourself to "uncomfortable" situations? Kung nasanay kang mag-drive papunta'ng work, bakit di ka mag-try sumakay ng pampasahero? O maglakad kaya ng ilang bloke habang hindi pa nananghalian? Magdonate ka kaya o magbigay sa mga nangangailangan kahit na it means di mo mabibili yung designer bag na pinag-iponan mo ng ilang buwan? Huwag ka muna kaya'ng kumain sa favorite Japanese rastaurant mo at dun na lang sa isang karinderya o sa tabi-tabi? I-experience mo'ng magutom, mauhaw, mapagod...mahirapan. Tiyak mas lalalim ang pananaw mo sa buhay at magiging "mas" mabait ka at maunawain kesa sa dati...Sorry, ang haba. -p

[mebpa]

i'm also quite negative person. but that's because of what i had been through. i lost trust in people and in authority. i always see people as "user" or unfair. but sometimes i feel that no one is suffering more than i do when i feel that way, so now i try to see the light in every situation. i don't frown that much or think of much negative thoughts coz I will only look older.

[freelancer_babe]

Go out, explore the world. Experience other cultures and try to live their way of life. I often find travelers to be very open-minded, relaxed and have very balanced outlook in life.

Handle problems and solve them instead of piling these up. Nothing is solved by doing nothing at all.

Think positively. Avoid situations where you might run yourself into negativity (that is, fights, or even petty arguments). For example, I've often encountered people arguing with the driver because of change that was not given right away. I avoid that kind of trouble by simply having a lot of smaller bills and plenty of loose change in my pocket and also knowing how much exactly to pay. It's like doing "defensive driving" at all.

Sometimes working for someone develops character (as long as you have a great boss). Kasi you are driven to do stuff to satisfy performance ratings. But managing own business or being in freelancing also develops character too and understanding of the things usually ignored when still working at the office. As long as you are doing something for profit or not, you are certainly developing character. "An empty mind is the devil's workshop."

If you do have a religion, try to seek answers there. You might be surprised that there could be.

There are really people thrives well in negativity. Avoid them. Their negativity can be contagious.

[killbill]

Gusto ko lang idagdag pa is everytime na may mga pagsubok na dumadating sayo. Defining moment yun for me. Magandang opportunity yun to improve your character. Either mag crack ka under pressure or you get creative. Ikaw ba yung tipong pag may problema eh idadaan sa pag inom na puro tatakbuhan mo lang problema mo or haharapin mo at mag iisip ka ng solution? Mga ganun ba.

[pinklilac]

This is why you need to encounter "adversities" to serve as a wake-up call

Kase yung pagbabago, minsan hindi nadadaan sa pabasa-basa ng mga self-help books. Kailangan talaga may "pinanghuhugutan" -- based from some (painful) experience. Di ba sabi sa Bible, "consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance." Kung may perseverance ka, ibig sabihin, mapasensya ka'ng tao at di basta-basta sumusuko o nangangagat, lol...at ito'y bunga ng iyong mga pinagdaanan, natuto ka'ng maghintay.  Kung may pasensya ka, that means, you're more considerate at nakakaintindi ka sa iyong kapwa. Hindi ka nagrereklamo kung may konting pila o traffic.

Pero ika nga, experience is the Best teacher. Why not try subjecting yourself to "uncomfortable" situations? Kung nasanay kang mag-drive papunta'ng work, bakit di ka mag-try sumakay ng pampasahero? O maglakad kaya ng ilang bloke habang hindi pa nananghalian? Magdonate ka kaya o magbigay sa mga nangangailangan kahit na it means di mo mabibili yung designer bag na pinag-iponan mo ng ilang buwan? Huwag ka muna kaya'ng kumain sa favorite Japanese rastaurant mo at dun na lang sa isang karinderya o sa tabi-tabi? I-experience mo'ng magutom, mauhaw, mapagod...mahirapan. Tiyak mas lalalim ang pananaw mo sa buhay at magiging "mas" mabait ka at maunawain kesa sa dati...Sorry, ang haba. -p

Agree ako dito. Sa case ko yung mga painful experiences ang nagpa improve sa character ko. Mas na appreciate ko lahat sa buhay ko..

[tealover]

@pinklilac, that's exactly what I had in mind.  Na if we have been through tough times, and nalampasan natin un, that will build strength of character.  This is something money can't buy, kaya I'm thankful when I think of the things I have went through when I was younger, years of frugality when others can afford so much more, and the constant bullying built my character and made me the person I am today.    Pure joy! 

[pinklilac]

@pinklilac, that's exactly what I had in mind.  Na if we have been through tough times, and nalampasan natin un, that will build strength of character.  This is something money can't buy, kaya I'm thankful when I think of the things I have went through when I was younger, years of frugality when others can afford so much more, and the constant bullying built my character and made me the person I am today.    Pure joy! 

Ako rin sis thankful dahil mga nadaanan ko dahil nalampasan ko lahat at mas naging better person ako...

[lizatorres]

have patience and love the people around you.

[tomatostellar]

Sana people would still check themselves aim for character building. Napapansin ko kasi may mga taong proud na proud sa mga kamalditahan nila; minsan pati mga anak nila mag uma-attitude pinag tatawanan pa!

[ashley_0713]

Sana people would still check themselves aim for character building. Napapansin ko kasi may mga taong proud na proud sa mga kamalditahan nila; minsan pati mga anak nila mag uma-attitude pinag tatawanan pa!

^tama sis! sila tong dapat model ng mga anak nila pero sila pa tong nag totolerate ng mga mali.

[chinbaptista]

By giving help to others, be nice to other, always pray and smile.

[killbill]

"You have two ears and one mouth."

There are times na pag may problema ang isang tao, we don't necessarily need to shove down advices sa throat nila. Or wagas maka sermon at kung [textspeak!] ano pang pagmamarunong, pang ju judge (directly or indirectly). Sometimes need lang naman nila ng makikinig sa kanya. Hindi porke may nag vent na kesyo ganyan ganun eh magbibida bida na tayo na dapat ganyan ganun kasi ganyan ganun blah blah.

[lonelymiss28]

learn from your mistakes, be happy, be a blessing to others, don't sweat the small stuff, learn to forgive, pray for guidance.

[tealover]

Ako rin sis thankful dahil mga nadaanan ko dahil nalampasan ko lahat at mas naging better person ako...

Sometimes it's hard lang to forgive and forget the people who have made life difficult for us nh?  I remember being bullied in elementary, and my friend reminded me how blessed i am now kasi dati they  called me names for no reason just because I walked pass them in the hall.   

I can't even imagine (though this was what i used to do to get by the years of bullying. i always imagine i will be "somebody" one day) that I would reach this point in my life and that I can do almost anything I want, and buy almost anything my heart desires.  I really pray and thank God for turning my life around and hope that I can help others one day to believe that life will get better if you trust in God. Of course you have to work also, so God can help you.

[rachelbuena]

Be strong in whatever life can give you. Lots of problem but you need to give your best para malagpsan lahat ng yun.

[lenzyfrancisco]

Always think positive.

[kiwi0719]

Always think positive.

--Agree with you. Optimism is everything. It's a matter of perspective, hey say. Hope lang I can always apply this in all situations.

[cheloucustodio]

Don't forget to pray ask God for forgiveness and always thank him  in everything he does for us.