Long Distance Relationship, Does it even work?

[sarah29]

It does work. My fiance and I are LDR. And it's very, very, hard.. hirap din ako mag hang out with couples dahil nalulungkot talaga ako. Di ko kaya. Naiinggit ako masyado.

Well anyway, we skype everyday. 3-4 hours pa.. minsan more than, minsan less kung busy talaga. We text each other a lot. Yung tipo na he will tell me throughout the day kung ano ginagawa nya, ganun din ako. Even when he's out, ganun din. Allowed sila mag fb/gmail/browse sa net sa work so chat chat din kame sa work. Basta everyday may communication. May times na hinde kame napakag skype sa isang araw.. miss na miss na agad namen isa't isa. Pero bihira lang naman yun. We're very honest with each other din.. alam na din passwords ko on everything, including bank accounts, ganun din naman ako sa knya.

We're getting married in 2 months, too. Plan namen however, dalin ko na sya dito. Pag tumagal masyado papers uuwi nalang ako. Hinde din kase healthy sa magasawa na LDR pa din.

[annd]

im in a ldr right now. twice a year naman sya umuuwi. and hopefully, by year 2015, magkasama na kami. pero di pa sure yun. minsan, gusto ko na sumuko. sobrang busy niya kasi sa work. ako naman, pag-aaral lang inaatupag ko. ayun, minsan, nakakatamad na makipag-usap kasi parang mapaka routinary. thanks to globe na unlimited internet, lol. lagi kami nakakapg usap at nagtatawagan, through viber, whatsapp, bbm, kakao talk, line. lahat na ata ng instant messaging nasubukan na namin. per the best pa rin yung viber. sana kami na talaga kasi ayoko na ng iba that's why gusto ko mag work out ito.

[kwang sun]

for me it doesn't work. lol. despite the viber, line at lahat na ata ng chat apps na meron na , kung hindi naman gusto makipag communicate at nag houdini mode na ang isa eh there's no hope for it na.. especially that communication is the key pa naman when it comes to this..

[mulan-wushu]

Yes, it works as long as both parties are willing to make it work. Full effort!

I'm no expert as i myself never thought i'll be in this kind of relationship. I'm in a long distance relationship for 7 months now. We met online also 6 yrs ago. Our problem now is how we are going to be together since there is no fiance visa for same sex in the US.  Atleast for you guys there's really a big chance of being together while us, we're waiting and looking for options. 

There is na, di ba? Ill be trying my luck na makahanap ng work sa US to close the gap between us, hopefully, makahanap din kagad...kahit part time muna... 

[lovely_chic]

I used to believe that LDR thing works for me but it's not. Really hard especially when you want him physically but you can't. I am happy coz I've finally moved on from that breakup.

[kwang sun]

^ so happy for u sis..how did you move on? any tips ?

[lovely_chic]

^ My only advice is let yourself grieve and cry.. And never communicate with him coz I did that and it was really wrong coz akala ko magiging okay pa ang lahat sa amin pero hindi, mas lalo niya pinaparamdam sa akin na wala na talaga siya amor  so I decided to stop then dun na nag sinked in sa akin na masyado kong sinasaktan ang sarili ko for 2 years. Tama nga yung sinasabi nila na love yourself first.

[kwang sun]

^ i was in that limbo.. paulit ulit niya ko sinasaktan pero pinapatawad ko siya..i have just learned "emotional abuse" pala yung tawag sa pag neglect sayo e.g hindi masyado nagrereply, talks to you as he pleases
once your in this kind of relationship..just right now he messaged me..i will never respond to him ever again..i will let myself cry until mawala na tong hurt na to

[Reassesiren]

Dati ako ngakaron ng relasyon ldr, ako nasa abroad my ex nandito sa pinas una mahirap pero kaya naman dahil may fb, skype pero dumating yung time bihira na lang kami magusap kung hindi ako mauunang gumawa ng effort tumawag mangulit wala. Nauwi sa break, sabi nya paguwi ko ayusin namin pero may gf na sya.

Ngayon naulit ulit may pinakilala sakin guy pinsan ng friend ko taga us una ayoko kasi d ko pa nakikita yung guy pero mapilit pinsan nya. Pumayag na ko nagkachat kami halos araw araw tipong kung ano ano na lang pinaguusapan namin hanggang naging mutual na yung nararamdaman namin.nung bday ko last month lang pinadalhan nya ko ng flowers at chocolates nakakilig. Hindi ko maisip na magkakagusto ko sa taong hindi ko pa nakikita. hindi pa kami nagkakausap sa phone puro chat lang ayoko marinig boses nya baka mas lalo ko sya mamiss at andun yung excitement namin sa isat isa. Sana matuloy ang paguwi nya this year para magkita na kami.

[angelic_daphne]

Soi far, It did not worked with me and my two exes. It was hard and It needs constant communication and loyalty. Currently I'm with someone who lives just near my workplace and he loves it that I am just within his reach. LDR may work for others.

[kwang sun]

I personally think na if a guy really wants to see you in person, he will really make an effort to see you.. lalo na pag nameet mo lang sa internet lol...yup, they may give you presents , but what if hanggang doon lang gusto nya? just an online relationship? ..

[young_maiden]

I used to believe in LDR years ago. However, when my ex cheated on me with another woman, I lost faith. Saludo ako sa mga couples na nakakaya ang ganitong set-up pero ayaw ko na talaga pagdaanan ang ganyan. For me, it's better to be single than to be in a long distance relationship.

[ymgsiri]

@young_maiden : So sad to hear that. Luckily it worked for us. Siguro kase that time we were longing for someone to be with the rest of our lives, so kahit mahirap natiis namin && now we are married and together na.

[kwang sun]

that's true young maiden

[nixiquita]

it does work. but its really really hard. its not for most people, ako aminado ako, i cannot make a LDR work ever. wala akong capacity to make it work, regardless of who the guy is. no matter how much i love him. i dont have the patience and strength to be away from the person i love. im very clingy.

its hard work. but it has its moments. sweet little things that makes the struggle and ride wort it. so i admire people who can keep the rel going despite the distance or time diff. kudos to you guys and be strong! goodluck

[t_r_i_s_h]

It works! Yun nga lang you must exert extra extra effort lalo na kung magkaiba talaga kayo ng time difference. Been there, done that. We were too young then and hindi pa uso smartphone that time. Wala pa ngang skype nun hahaha so yun!

[sexykha]

it doesn't work for me e for more than 3 years na in an LDR - my exbf ended up having an affair..
I thought since we do video chat every week and texted almost everyday, enough na yun pero hindi..
I can tolerate his bisyo like yosi and inom but having an affair is a no-no..
and now, he wants me back but I refuse.. its better this way..

[Cessiechu]

LDR works naman lalo na kung may goals kayo as a couple kung kelan kayo mag settle down sa isang location or until when. Di kase pwedeng forever naman. I am in LDR and we have been together for 5 years now. Mga 3 years na kaming LDR. Mahirap lalo na sa initmacy part knowing ang mga lalake pero you just have to trust your partner.
Payo ko lang ha, once in a while try mo mag striptease on skype hehe! pampadagdag excitement para kahit malayo kayo diba andon parin yung urge niya sayo

[palamig]

1st time ko masabak sa ldr, pang 3rd month na ngayon. pero nung unang buwan grabe yung pag aadjust na ginawa ko,grabe ang lungkot anjan yung bigla ka na lang maiiyak dahil namimis mo sya pero wala ka magawa. hindi naman pwede matawagan kasi nasa barko sya,  nagkakausap lang kami sa phone pag nasa port na sya sama na din ang online. pero everyday may email sya sakin yun lang pwede. ang laking bagay na nun para sakin.

magwowork naman ang ldr kung pareho kayo mag eeffort,tulungan lang yan.. mahirap talaga kung sa mahirap. konting tiis na lang at malapit na naman sya umuwi happy na ulit 

[Cessiechu]

hi sis palamig -- Sobrang relate ako dun sa line na"miss na miss mo na pero wala ka magawa" gosh!! yan yata ang dahilan kung bakit naging tough na ako ngayon haha! nasanay na lang na wala ako magawa Anyway, na realize ko 13 days na pala kaming wala communication bigla ko nanaman naalala. Hayy! Miss ko na sobraaa. Uuwe siya by June or first week ng July. Can't wait! I think kelangan naten masanay talaga..