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[sportygurl]

1. ^do you think it's possible for a guy not to fall for his girl hangout buddy?

2. if you already have a gf, would you still hangout with your girl buddy? yun kayong 2 lang (lunch, movie...)

[angelzero]

^ Actually, that's something I really want to have. A girl hangout buddy but thing is, whenever I ask them out, they say it's a date so wala nangyayari. He's not a loser for sure but I guess it's rare that they have a true friendship kind of set up. Question is, are they both single? Meaning, they're not in a relationship with someone else? And, are they both straight?

How I wish I can find someone like that.. Us guys can't invite another guy out because that'll look so wrong..

Kung girl and girl, pwede.
Kung girl and guy, they say dating/couple na.
Kung guy and guy, gay stuff na.

i think i forgot to mention the most important detail: They both like each other. Especially the guy. But with my friend, i know she likes him but she has intimacy issues. They're both not seeing anyone else, but they said that they're not exclusive. Cuz it's easy to understand guy-girl platonic relationships, but this one is different. They do couple stuff like going out, hanging out w/ each other's families and friends, even fighting like bf-gf. Ang wala lang talaga is intimacy and yung label na they're in a relationship. And last time I asked guy about their situation, sabi nya "Why put a label on it?" or is he just kidding himself? If the girl already admitted she has unresolved personal issues, shouldn't that be already a signal for the guy to run away? Help me understand what makes a guy be so into someone whom he knows he doesn't have a clear chance of being her bf?

[jtansanco]

^ and (1) sportygurl - I read somewhere that a guy "can't" be just friends with a girl while a girl CAN be just friends with a guy. Since you put a clearer scenario, then that means the guy is in it for the chase. Guys REALLY like chasing someone whom he can't have. Even if the answer is a clear 100% NO, our minds always tell us that we should keep going at it because our minds believe that there's still a way to get a YES from the girl. We don't expect anything na e so we don't mind continue doing it.

^^ Actually ganyan yung girl na nililigawan ko before. May time na super okay kami tapos biglang mawawala and then after quite some time, okay na ulit and then mawawala nanaman. In short, if he's bored, he knows you're available for him kaya siya nagpaparamdam sayo. I think he prefers to be single just like the girl I courted so don't waste anymore time with him. Give him a piece of his medicine. If he asks you out, tell him you're busy.

^^^ (2) sportgurl - If I have a girlfriend, I would want my gf and my best friend to be good friends because I don't want any jealousy to happen. Pero if hindi match personality nila and medyo magka-away sila, priority is the gf but I can't completely shut my doors to my buddy girl. Mapag-uusapan naman yan.

[rastagurl11]

The topic that sportygurl raised is very familiar although may konting pagkakaiba.... Kilala mo yata ako eh hehe. I was just lurking and waiting for jtansanco's answer.

^ and (1) sportygurl - I read somewhere that a guy "can't" be just friends with a girl while a girl CAN be just friends with a guy.

-- I learned a new lesson. Kaya pala nagtampo si guy when I started telling the barkada about this crush of mine and how our friendship is developing. Suddenly all his texts stopped and didn't get to hang out with our group for quite some time.

[clouds_1028]

Yeah it happens that others would think na your a couple na basta maghang-out lang kayo even though the truth for both of you is friends lang kayo. Ako I have a lot of guy buddies (my college school was Don Bosco) and comfortable talaga ako sa kanila kahit na puro dota ang pinaguusapan. Minsan i go out with a guy friend just to watch a movie or go malling and wala lang talaga yun for me kasi alam namin na were both just buddies. I don't count it as a date except when he says so. masarap din kasi yung feeling na may guy buddy ka na you can hang out and be comfortable with.

[jtansanco]

^ Okay nga yung ganon e. Ako, before, whenever I ask a girl out just because I'm bored, tinatanong talaga nila, is this a date? Grabe... And sinasabi pa talaga nila sa akin, "hindi friend ang kailangan mo, girlfriend". I'm like.. I'm bored, I don't have any prospects, I just want to watch a movie or kumain sa labas na may kasama kaya ininvite kita..................... Oh well.

^^ Awwww.. Heartbroken na yan.

[clouds_1028]

^Yeah I know the feeling. Judgmental masyado ang mga nasa paligid. My guy buddies would normally invite me to go out with them kahit 2 lang kami and I would say yes without even thinking na date ba 'yun or not. Swerte pa nga kapag libre ako! Hahahaha

[schumine]

I agree, masarap talaga yung feeling. I have a guy friend (BestBud) since college, napagkakamalan talaga kami mag bf/gf. Tinatawanan lang namin, nagsasabihan pa kami ng I love you. He really knows when I’m sad or not in the mood kahit panay ngiti ako. The best lang talaga.  We hangout a lot when he was still here in PH, we watch movies together, food trip, etc. Best ever is we play luksong baboy! Haha! I missed him a lot, wala ako nasusuntok, naaasar at nalalambing. Never naging issue samin ni bf si BB. BB doesn’t have a gf until now, I’m just wondering why? Whenever I asked him, he will just say “I’m busy with my career cheekz”.

Question: So its really possible to you guys this kind of relationship? Is there any possibility that the guy will fall to his girl buddy? Or you guys already set your mind that this girl is just a buddy & its a big NO NO as gf. Hmmm?

[jtansanco]

^ It's possible but it's difficult for the really straight guys. Baka yung ibang guys closet gays so it's easy. For us SOME guys kasi, it's still the attraction. Sure, we'll be your best bud because we're also attracted with your looks. Siguro ayaw narin i-gamble yung friendship kaya yung iba, payag na sa friendzone. For other guys, it's either maging gf kita or wag nalang. No such thing as friendzone.

Sige, let me ask the girls who have guy best friends.. What if you realize na crush pala kayo ng super close guy best friend mo? I'm sure it'll be difficult to remain as friends once may na-fall sa inyo.

[angelzero]

Why do tall guys like petite girls. Why, despite their towering height, are they intimidated by tall girls?

[jtansanco]

^ I think it's because of the heels. Girls like wearing 3-5 inchers so, like me, I like girls who are 5'2-5'7 although I have a 5'10" frame. Another personal reason is that petite girls look fragile na parang I would love to take care and protect these types of girls.

I also read in a study that tall guys really like petite girls. Just not sure what the average height difference is. Parang... Those who have a bigger height difference have a better chance of ending up together compared to couples with almost the same height.

[angelzero]

what?! so i might not end up with my bf cuz i'm only 1 inch taller than him?! 

that brings me to my follow up question. why do short guys like tall girls?

[sportygurl]

do guys have lustful thoughts about the girl they are courting?

[jtansanco]

^ It varies per guy. Others court for the sake of sex. That's how players play. But for me, I can't. The respect factor is there for me. I can watch porn. I can fantasize famous actresses. But for the girl I'm courting, the respect is there. So, NO for me.

^^ That's what studies show! Nako, for sure, conscious boyfriend mo sa height difference kung nasa labas kayo especially during the times na naka-heels ka. Well, it's not that they like tall girls. It's just that limited lang market nila. Most girls like taller guys so hirap manligaw yung mga shorter guys so these guys just try to compensate in other ways.

[cute_pompom]

When a guy says that he's not conservative, what does this mean?

[cute_pompom]

^ It varies per guy. Others court for the sake of sex. That's how players play. But for me, I can't. The respect factor is there for me. I can watch porn. I can fantasize famous actresses. But for the girl I'm courting, the respect is there. So, NO for me.

^^ That's what studies show! Nako, for sure, conscious boyfriend mo sa height difference kung nasa labas kayo especially during the times na naka-heels ka. Well, it's not that they like tall girls. It's just that limited lang market nila. Most girls like taller guys so hirap manligaw yung mga shorter guys so these guys just try to compensate in other ways.

Do you think short guys are not choosy compared to tall ones?

[jtansanco]

^ Think of it like this. Both tall and short guys are the same except short guys will think that height is a factor. Height has become an issue for them.

^^ Not conservative... I guess he can easily adapt to the situation? It's like having a "change" in an environment is not a problem for him.

[angelzero]

^^ That's what studies show! Nako, for sure, conscious boyfriend mo sa height difference kung nasa labas kayo especially during the times na naka-heels ka. Well, it's not that they like tall girls. It's just that limited lang market nila. Most girls like taller guys so hirap manligaw yung mga shorter guys so these guys just try to compensate in other ways.
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Actually he likes it that I'm taller than him. Ako naman conscious nung una pero nasanay na lang na ako yung mas matangkad. He encourages me pa nga to wear heels pero ayoko. Aside from it not being comfy, ayoko rin na mag mukhang ate nya LOL!

[jtansanco]

^ Haha ikaw naman naconscious... Game! Wear 5-inch heels when you're with him for once!

[schumine]

^ It's possible but it's difficult for the really straight guys. Baka yung ibang guys closet gays so it's easy. For us SOME guys kasi, it's still the attraction. Sure, we'll be your best bud because we're also attracted with your looks. Siguro ayaw narin i-gamble yung friendship kaya yung iba, payag na sa friendzone. For other guys, it's either maging gf kita or wag nalang. No such thing as friendzone.

Sige, let me ask the girls who have guy best friends.. What if you realize na crush pala kayo ng super close guy best friend mo? I'm sure it'll be difficult to remain as friends once may na-fall sa inyo.

IMO, crush is okay pa e, Its not that difficult naman.  pero pag naging bf mo si guy best friend everything will change. So for me its a No No.