Tampuhan 101: Silent Treatment VS Confrontation

[xhien]

^ it's good for you both if di nyo babalikan yung causes ng pinagawayan nyo, minsan kasi may sumbatan portion then dun lumalabas yung dating sama ng loob na never napagusapan.

yun nga lang minsan kasi ganun kami..di maiwasan maisumbat yung mga nangyari na

[pinkmallowpie]

kunwari nagkatampuhan kayo ni guy, binibigyan ka nya ngayon ng silent treatment ng ilan araw na, do you make the first move para kausapin siya? kung oo, what if ikaw na nauna mag reach out sa kanya pero hindi ka pa rin kinikibo, do you still find ways para kausapin siya or hihintayin nyo na lang na siya naman ang unang lumapit sa inyo?

[showermist]

he does the  silent treatment which really pisses me off big time.

it doesn't usually last for days but when it does i usually ask him this, "gusto mo na bang pag usapan yang pinag gagaganyan mo o gusto mong iparanas ko sa iyo ang nakakabinging katahimikan?" most of the time it works. he will talk. hehe.

ako kasi yung taong walang masyadong pasensya. it's either he will settle it with me right away or prolong it.

i am not a very good at this ahahhaha

[devilish_einjel]

ako pag nag tampo silent treatment talaga e tapos saka na yung confrontation.. minsan naman nagpapalambing lang. haha

[rumplehuey]

ako silent treatment kaso madalas iniignore ang pagiging silent ko so I end up confronting him.

[TuscanSun]

actually, the silent treatment is just a knee jerk reaction of guys. we are not good with handling our emotions so theres an auto shut off in our brain that makes us quiet. those who scream and become violent are those who cant do this shut off mechanism. now, the problem is how to get back to 'normal' from the silent treatment. when pride takes over coupled with sheer stupidity, the silent treatment gets extended. when this happens, what showermist does is best option for women.

[REDBUNCH]

sabi nila most of the guys will go on silent treatment pero pagdating samin ako un silent mode and un [textspeak!] hindi nya kinakaya..as in  i can be forever if i want...

[ItsTricky]

Which method do guys prefer: Silent Treatment or Confrontation?

i prefer silent confrontation... no shouting. if you shout, i'll shout too.

Which style is more effective? San mas nakaka-kunsensya?
San mas naapektohan ang guys sa Silent Treatment or Confrontation?

silent treatment works on me.

[whitebishop]

my 0.02 generally guys need space sometimes kapag may conflict. ang mga lalaki madalas ang gusto solusyon sa conflict hindi salitaan. so we get frustrated if words are thrown in our direction without the girl seeking to find resolution

[eilegna]

as for me.. silent treatment muna.. baka kasi kung [textspeak!]-ano lang masabi ko...sinasabayan nya nman ako..
then sa gabi, pag tulog na [textspeak!],umiiyak ako kasi mabigat kasi sa pakiramdam..
pag ngising sa gabing yun,. ayun -- confrontation na..

madalas, pinapalipas na lang nmin.. baka kasi lumala pa..
bgla na lang naaayos esp pag simpleng tampuhan lang naman..
like pag di nagsabay sa pagbabrush hehe cute
toinks!

[mariaclara-]

mas okay yung confrontation. depende na rin siguro sa way nag pagcoconfront. much better if malamig na ulo niyo.

[popi]

extremes naman yung option.  May midway naman, pwedeng pag-usapan muna yung cause of conflict

[donzski_doinks]

silent treatment muna. palamig nang ulo. baka kasi kapag confront agad, lalo gumulo. minsan kasi pag galit ang tao, kung ano-ano nasasabi nya. nawawalan ng control. so yun ang in-avoid ko.ayokong may masabi sya o ako na makasakit sa damdamin ng isa't isa.. kapag nakita kong malamig na ulo namin pareho, tsaka ako lumalapit sa kanya at sasabihin ko "lets now talk about what happened"

[jamila_19]

nag away kami kanina ng asawa ko .... silent treatment ang lolo. hinayaan ko lang siya na tumahimik pero hindi ako nakatiis at niyakap ko na lang siya at kinausap ng maayos. after ng ilang minuto eh hindi pa rin siya nagsasalita pero nadaan ko na lang sa lambing at sa malalim pa na lambingan... hehe! after eh lumabas kami ng bahay, namasyal at kumain sa labas then parang wala na nangyari. hehe! hindi ko alam kung kelan niya ako babawian sa ginawa ko... hehe! sana lumipas na lang ang mga araw at hindi na niya bibigyan ng malaking issue iyong nagawa ko... hehe!

[stacies83221]

It depends, I use both tactics - Silent treatment and confrontation. If the issue needs some clearing of our heads, i go for silent treatment. It is extremely important for us to be calm before we start talking about serious matters. Before, I go ahead to confronting and going direct to the source of the problem but ive learned that by doing so, it more or less just adds gasoline to the flame. Through out the years, Ive come to realize that it is not always worth it to use sooo much energy confronting and discussing topics issues that obviously will not benefit both parties. Going cold turkey proves to be effective. Then after the tension has subsided, we do a sitdown and talk about it. Ayun. But I am still the kind of person who goes directly down to business... I hate vague answers and beating around the bush... Lay down the issue/ problem on the table and then lets find out a solution or compromise. Tapos ang usupan.

[brendzy]

I was like that before but he became so insensitive eh. He got too tired of guessing and I've mastered hiding my feelings, it just continued to pile up and became serious. But I've finally learned to open up and let go of my pride and decided to build more happy memories with him instead.

i think I am like this sis...kaya siguro si hubby deadma na sa akin pag nagdadrama ako. very madali naman ako kausap, pag galit, galit, after an hour or so, mawawala din. ok nako. but for deeper issues, I'd rather confront after I calm down.

[jaymejorrol]

i'll go for silent treatment.. kami kasi ni gf kapag may tampuhan.. usually hinahayaan ko sya magsalita at maglabas ng saloobin.. hindi ko sya sinasabayan kasi baka lalo lang kaming magkaroon ng misunderstanding.. kahit sa text, pag alam kong galit sya hinahayaan ko sya magtext then sasabihin ko 'text moko pag di kana galit' then kapag mejo malamig na ulo nya.. dun ko sya kinakausap.. para mas malinaw at mas matino ang usapan.. kapag high blood kasi minsan hindi na natin nacocontrol yung mga words na binibitawan natin eh.. lalo lang sasama loob natin..

try this one.. if you're wrong, just say sorry.. if you're right, just hush up..

[sweet.trish]

Ayaw ng guys ng silent treatment. Try mo to gawin sa kanila,  winner ka hehe.
Eto ginagamit ko kay bowa dati. Lalo syang nabwibwisit kasi he couldnt figure out kung anong naiisip at napi feel ko. Ilang texts na walang reply, bigla yung tatawag at magsosorry kahit ako yung mali. Ang mean ko. Hehe.

[px17]

Silent treatment. Ayoko mag salita hangga't init na init ulo at dugo ko..Baka kung ano masabi ko eh. Kasi pag may nasabi man akong masama magkakasakitan ng damdamin at lalong lalala away. Pero after nun pagkalma na ko dun na ko makikipag usap.

As for my pinakamamahal na bf..silent treatment works for him. Suyo to death siya sakin! pero naaawa din ako kasi napapagod na kakatanong kung bakit kaya kakausapin ko na. Triny ko din dati sakanya na confrontation agad. ABA DIDEADMA AKO! kalorky! Pag ayaw magsalita pinagsasalita pag nagsasalita pinapatigil. hahahaha.

[jaymejorrol]

Silent treatment. Ayoko mag salita hangga't init na init ulo at dugo ko..Baka kung ano masabi ko eh. Kasi pag may nasabi man akong masama magkakasakitan ng damdamin at lalong lalala away. Pero after nun pagkalma na ko dun na ko makikipag usap.

yap.. kaya mas ginagawa ko ang silent treatment.. minsan dedma muna until lumamig ulo namin both.. marami kasi ngbbreak dahil lang sa mga simple situations tapos lumalala lang dahil sa mga words na binibitawan natin pag mainit ulo.. and tiis lang.. alisin yung pride.. hehe