Tampuhan 101: Silent Treatment VS Confrontation

[jassylicious]

I'd go first with confrontation in a diplomatic way, they are not fortune-tellers, sometimes they really don't know what's on our mind. Sometimes they really don't know what the issue is so we can't expect them to do something about it.

If confrontation doesn't work anymore, he is already aware of what the problem is, then silent treatment would be okay and leave it up to him on how he'll deal with you.

[dquiambao]

Silent treatment muna, if parang walang nangyari pa rin at parang deadma lang sya...confrontation. Basta puno ang bala ko...pero kung kulang pa...wala munang suguran sa gyera

[redhead69]

It depends on the situation. If its better to use silent treatment or use confrontation. Sometimes we need to use this kind of treatments, pero IT DEPENDS pa rin. hee hee

[simang]

When you're mad dapat di ka nagkoconfront. Maraming masasakit na salita ang pwedeng masabi na kahit na magkabati na kayo, maalala at maalala mo
Pa din one way or another. ako i only confront him kapag clear na yung utak ko. Girls are emotional so if i feel like heavy yung nararamdaman ko, i just cry and keep them to myself. Pero pag nakapag isip na ko, that's the time i confront. Madalas pag kalmada na kayo parehas dun nyo mas napapagusap ang mga bagay rationally.

[AnJelatine]

Kapag matindi ang inis ko (buti bihira), silent treatment muna tapos kapag cool na, saka confrontation.
Kapag simpleng inis, simpleng confrontation lang din.
Kapag tampo-tampo lang, confrontation na pa-lambing/pa-biro

[runami]

Ako parang baligtad. Nauuna ang silent treatment ko then confrontation. Nag iisip ako ng madaming masamang bagay then saka ko sasabihin lahat kapag nakagawa na ko ng speech. Hahaha.

But I prefer confrontation. Para mas mapagusapan ang problema.

[Pink_Sugar]

Confrontation. Lagi kaming silent treatment kaya lalong nalalim ang problema sa huli

[lovely_carrot]

I learned my lesson the hard way.

BF and I both have tempers, lalo na sya. So what we did before whenever we argue is to just not talk, to avoid any confrontation. Sometimes it took weeks bago kami magusap and we live in the same house ha so it was just crazy..

The last argument we had ended up in break up, nagkabalikan naman kami after a few months and we both agreed to talk about our issues if we ever have one again. Pwede naman manahimik lang muna to cool off then when we're both calm, we can start talking like how adult people should.

No to shouting also, I have a daughter ayoko mapick up nya yung ganung ugali someday.

[FOURever]

Silent treatment sa umpisa. Then confrontation after few hours. Make sure wag papalampasin ang araw na di kayo nag uusap mapa-friend or lovers

[msbhelz]

Silent Treatment muna pag may hindi kami pagkakaunawaan ni bf hindi ako nagsasalita. Hanggang magcool down na at ayun kausapin ko na sya ng maayos. Same goes sa ibang situation. Ako kasi [textspeak!] tipo na hayaan ko muna lumamig lahat bago magusap. Mahirap kasi pag nagsabay kayo. Nagiging urge pa kasi lalo ng awayan. Haha.

[ystariray]

Initially, silent treatment talaga ginagawa ko. Hindi para ifuel pa yung inis niya or kung ano pa mang dahilan. Silent treatment, kasi I get too emotional at times. Sa sobrang daming emotions ko, kung confrontation agad ang gagawin ko (which I already tried) either makapagbitaw ako ng mga salitang pagsisihan ko pag malamig na ulo ko, makapagsalita ng mga bagay na di ko naman talaga minimean, or  di ko masabi lahat ng gusto ko sabihin kasi pag nagstart nako magsalita habang mainit ulo ko, puro iyak na lang ako sa galit. hehe.

Usually, kinabukasan dun na yung confrontation. Ang style ko pa nga, inoopen ko yung confrontation thru a letter. Habang cool down time, sinusulat ko lahat ng gusto ko sabihin sa isang letter then pag ready nako sa confrontation, binabasa ko yung letter sa harap ni h2b. Ang rule pa namin, let each other finish muna, bago magcomment. Ayun, effective naman samin yung gantong style, kasi mas nahihimay yung issue at walang issues/points na namimiss. At naiiwasan pa namin yung sigawan/harsh words episodes. (Thank God). Then we have a rule din na after nung confrontation, pag resolved na. That's it na. Bawal na ulet halukayin sa mga susunod na away.

Pansin ko lang, karamihan sa guys na kilala ko, confrontation agad gusto nila. Siguro dahil na din sa "fix it now" mentality ng mga guys. Pakiramdam ko lang naman yun. hehe

[rheinfall18]

for me sa tingin ko ganito yung nangyayari - silent treatment kapag sila ang may kasalanan pero kapag si girl ang may kasalanan confrontation ang nagaganap..

[danielle07]

Hindi ako magaling makipagsagutan. And if ever man na sasagot ako pag nagaaway kami,usually masasakit na salita lumalabas sakin,kaya mas pinipili kong manahamik (which he really hates naman) . The last time na nagpadala ako sa galit ko,may nasabi akong di ko dapat sinabi, kaya kami nagbreak

[sacred cow]

^ dapat di mo kasi sinabing maliit [textspeak!] ano niya...ahahaha jk

[danielle07]

^magiging sinungaling ako pag sinabi ko yun sis haha