Singles at 35 and up

[shopaholic_in_rehab]

Turned 40 this year. Single pa din. Honestly hindi ko na enjoy maging single after ng break up. Yes may mga times na masaya, shopping, travels and all pero ramdam na ramdam ko na may kulang. Pero hindi din naman ako naghahanap, i seldom go out din kasi. Office bahay lang routine. Hoping pa din na one day, darating din si the one.

[nessy]

Okay. So, I am turning 35 in  7 months so I thought magpost dito. Tulad ng mga ibang sis dito, madalas din akong tanungin kung baket di pa ako nag-aasawa or baket wala pa akong anak. Matamis na ngiti lang ang sagot ko dyan. Anyway, single ako just recently. Magulo itong last relationship ko. Babaero at once nag-deny pa na kame daw. Sobrang nasaktan ako pero yon din and turning point ko. Dun ako natauhan. Ngayon I am in the process of healing pero okay naman. I'm getting by. Buti na lang may work ako. And paunti unti mini-meet ko ulet mga old friends ko. Saklap lang eto rin yung mga friends nya. We came from the same High School kase. So same circle of friends. Pero keri lang. Kaya ko to!!! hahaha

[aoshi_01]

Freshly single for about 2 weeks now. After 13 years, my boyfriend broke up with me because of issues he has with my parents. I am now 36.

After the breakup, I am trying to keep myself busy. I also enrolled in a gym para magpapayat kasi baka naman makatulong din sa sobrang bulusok pababa ng self-esteem ko.

[pt_2000mf]

4-0 this year and still single - though I'm happy and content but still dreaming that someday I'll gonna find someone pa din. 

[saqqara]

35  and single, although I have an 8 year old son but you know you want that someone who would hug you and tell you everything's gonna be okay.

[Querelle1.5]

Kaka break ko lang din at mejo old na.  Nice to know I'm not alone at nag Akala din kami na. 

[sweet21]

I'm 33 and single. Most of my friends are getting married and having babies ako 2 years na single, after my bf of 4 years cheated on me nag li low talaga ako. Parang norm na kasi ngayon, yung testing the waters na mag sex na muna tapos kung mabuntis saka na magpakasal. Medyo na trauma ako sa previous relationship ko, kata ngayon I'm taking my time. Although alam ko walang perfect na guy pero ayoko din naman mag settle. Gusto ko someone who is of good character, values and yung maiintay ka at papakasalan ka hindi dahil nabuntis lang pero talagang mahal ka at may plano. According to my friends, mahirap yung hinahanap ko. Ako kasi yung type na independent, my father gave us a comfortable life and ang gusto ko din sa future husband ko ganon din not necessarily sa finances ok, kasi money come and go, pero yung man of character. Karamahin din sa friends ko ngayon, mas pinipili nila mag baby na lang muna tapos saka ang kasal or either mag live in. Though I don't see anything wrong with it, it just that sometimes it's frustrating na baka ganon na nga talaga ang norm ngayon. I wanted to be valued, thats why Im taking my time. Kung pano ko i value ang sarili ko yun din sana ang i trato sakin ng future husband ko. Pero yun nga lang 33 na ako haha. May pag asa pa naman, pero sana dumating na sya.

[J.warner]

Dont settle for less sabi nga nila.
I have big respect sa mga taong ineenjoy pagiging single nila regardless of age.
Wag magpa pressure. Paki ba nila

[sweet_maldita]

After ng breakup namin ng ex-husband ko, hindi na ako nakahanap ng partner talaga. Sana dumating na si mr. right kasi iba pa rin talaga yung may kasama ka sa buhay.

[kittehdoll]

Im 34 with a partner, but i feel single because of complications sa relationship.
Im scared and excited at the same time kung whats out there for me. Sana i'll be okay padin at kayanin if ever things turns totally bad between us.

[Isay1999]

Since may thread about singles in late 20s and early 30s, I just thought of opening a thread about singles na wala na sa kalendaryo at malapit narin mawala sa lotto.

What are your thoughts right now and what do you think you should focus your efforts on?

I am thinking more of retirement, one should already be financially independent by this time.  If with kids, makes sure you also have enough income to sustain them and ensure that they finish their studies.

Taking care of oneself is very important.  Nang di malosyang and to age gracefully.

Always have a positive outlook.  Maybe not necessarily on love, but about life. Be cheerful and happy (mahirap ah!)

Ano pa ba?


--- i like this! so positive!