Kahihiyan sa pamilya.. Please help :(

[iamreese]

mas makakabuti pa ata kumpara sa ipa-abort eh lumayo ka na lang muna, imbes na ipaabort eh ipa-adopt mo na lang mas maigi pa yun at least buhay si baby at may maganda pang future nagaantay sa kanya. Kung ako papipiliin eh adoption na lang, wag na abortion please.

[quennna]

nawawala na si jemster... di na nagparamdam (
feeling ko nagsabi na sa parents nya yun eh..
hope shes okey..

[k_heart]

hay naku sis jemster, i hope that you will realize that your unborn baby is now also your family! I'm praying na makapag isip ka ng maayos and for you to stop blaming others for your actions.
Tama yung isa nating sis, if you will do the right thing and look back at this episode of your life 5 or 10 years from now, matatawa ka na lang sa episode na ito of your life.
Do you think your family will be happy, pag pina-abort mo ang baby mo? Don't let that be an option. Our life on earth is too short para lang mabother sa mga chismis chismis na yan. Do what is right! Do what will make God happy, do what is human!
Your baby naman is made out of love, return that love by giving the baby a chance to live.
I'm not regretting what i have posted before, because it is my belief.
I hope that you have made the right decision. Will cheer you on and pray for you.

[sassyrosel]

I feel for you, sis jemster.

When I was in my first pregnancy, it was unplanned. I just graduated from college and started working for about 4 months when I have my first born. My parents were really disappointed, most especially my dad, he's a OFW and he never knew I have a boyfriend until the day I'll be giving birth.

I am the eldest, and because of the HIGH expectations, I felt I was a disgrace.

However, we survived. What I did first was to tell my parents, my mom already have an idea, but she was scared to ask me and found out the truth. And the rest is history...

You need them, most especially now. You don't need emotional burden because it'll harm your baby. You need to be more strong now for your baby. And I think you're in the right age to know what is right from wrong.

Always asks God for strength to endure all the hurts you might encounter. And like other sisses here said, He will ever give you burden you can't carry. Pray harder!

[jemster]

hi sisses I wan to thank you for all the advices. I was silent for some time because i really don't know what to do.

My problem is getting worst.. My bf lost his job last week, I have no job. My mother talked to me last night that I need to work dahil ang laki daw ng nagastos nila sa pagpapaaral saken. Kelangan ko na daw mag abroad. Mas nakakaguilty.

Now im torn again. My decision would be maglayas na lang dito. And then adopt the baby after i Gave birth. Hay. I hope I would be stronger.

[honey-ecclaire]

I'm glad to hear from you again...

hirap nga talaga na ganun ang expectation ni mother mo sa yo,..
I'm so happy that you didn't mention about removing your angel...

IMO lang ha,I did layas din nung time na nalaman ng sis ko na I'm preggy and she wants me to remove the baby...
Umalis ako ng bahay,they were all worried naman sa akin of course(yours is different story though)..Dun naman nila na-realize that I'm decided to keep my baby...
mga three days din yun and nakipagkita ako sa kuya ko and sa pinsan ko and they want me to go home para for once matapos na din...I did and all the drama happened...
So getting away might be good though

I knew someone who abort her baby for six times,same guy ayaw kase mag-contraceptive ayun she's kinda lukaret now..I mean medyo off yung mga sinasabi nya sa topic...

So it will ahrm you too sis,...

[sassyrosel]

^^Hi sis, jemster! Bakit naman ganun? Why do they need to tell you pa na ang laki ng nagastos nila sa pagpapaaral sayo? Wherein the first place, it's their responsibility to bring you to school. 

I dont know if talking to them will work at this time. May I ask, anong plan ni bf? Kasi I think nagtutulungan kayo to resolve the issue.

[maiandra]

Thank God sa desisyon mo sis. Kami before nung nalaman ko na pregnant ako while in 3rd year colege, nagtanan kami ng then-bf now husband ko. I wouldn't recommend that of course, pero walang di nadadaan sa maayos na usapan basta firm ka sa decisions mo. Every decision now should be for the benefit of your baby.

[jemster]

^^Hi sis, jemster! Bakit naman ganun? Why do they need to tell you pa na ang laki ng nagastos nila sa pagpapaaral sayo? Wherein the first place, it's their responsibility to bring you to school. 

I dont know if talking to them will work at this time. May I ask, anong plan ni bf? Kasi I think nagtutulungan kayo to resolve the issue.

- sis sassyrosel kahit ako biglang parang lalong naoressure dahil sa sinabi ng mom ko. Hay ako ata talaga ang inaasahan nila na bumuhay sa pamilya namin. Sobrang hirap na ng pinagdadaanan ko. Knowing na nangyari ito sa ate ko before. Si bf would go then with what my plan is. Last week naisip namin magpacivil wedding muna, pero ayun nga bigla sya nawalan ng work. hay. Medyo magulo pa din ang isip ko sa ngayon.

[adonis69]

Jemster , dapat ang BF mo ang magtrabaho dahil siya lalaki ikaw buntis ka bakit mo pinapahirapan sarili mo?maraming trabaho bastat di maselan ang BF mo.pwede sa mga call centers pwede rin siyang mag abroad maraming trabaho dito sa abroad.Dapat mag civil wedding na kayo di naman malaki gastos dyan.wag morin pa adopt ang baby mo o pa abort dahil araw araw mong nasa konsensiya yan di ka patatahimikin ng konsensiya mo.sabihin mo sa BF mo magpakasal na kayo tapos maghanap na siya ng trabaho bastat di maselan may tiyaga BF mo makakapagtrabaho o magkakaroon ng income yan.wag mong pahirapan sarili mo nandyan na yan buntis kana sana noon bago kayo nag sex naisip na ninyo kung ano gagawin na tama kapag nabuntis ka.wag mo dagdagan ang problema mo kapag nagpa abort ka or kapag pinaadopt mo baby mo uusigin ka ng konsensiya mo arawaraw buong buhay mo nasa isip mo yan.kung sasabihin mo sa mother mo & magpapakasal na kayo isang sakit lang yan matatagap din ng mother mo yan sa una magagalit pero makakabawi rin kayo bastat magtrabaho maging responsible ang BF o magiging asawa mo.

[sofiameredith]

ako sis nabuntis ako at the age of 18 nag aaral pa ko non.... nung nalaman sa amin na buntis ako natural may galit at puro iyakan ang nangyari pero tiniis ko lahat yon katwiran ko eto na eh.... yung then bf ko now my husband supportive naman, kinuha ako sa amin tapos sa kanila na ko tumira.....that time wala siyang trabaho, byenan ko nagpalamon sa amin at tumulong para matuloy ko studies ko.... di rin ako tumigil sa studies ko, tuloy tuloy ako pumasok kahit malaki na yung tiyan ko keber na talaga wala ako pakialam sa kanilang lahat... awa ng Diyos nalagpasan ko naman.....

fast forward tayo 11 years na lumipat malaki na anak ko.... kahit papaano ayos naman buhay namin nabuntis ulit ako after 11 years ang tagal namin inantay na magkaron ulit ng baby eto 2 buwan lang sa tiyan ko kinuha na ulit sa akin ni Lord. sobrang sakit pero baka may iba pa siyang plano sa akin....

kaya sis, wag na wag kang mawalan ng pag asa.... may buhay na nakasalalay sayo..... may buhay sa sinapupunan mo na maraming ibang babae ang umaasam katulad ko, kaya sana pangalagaan mo yan..... makakaraos din kayo ng baby mo.....

[jemster]

^ sis sofia, if not noly for my parents, i would want to keep the baby. My mom highly depends on me, magwowork na ko next week and i'm planning to stay dun at wag muna umuwi. Kaya lang parang akala nila bata ako parati, they don't want me to stay sa mga boarding house. Hay. Grabe minsan i'm tired of all the things na naririnig ko sa kanila. Kaya gusto ko na lumayo at mamuhay without them.

[airwaterfire]

hi jemster..binantayan ko talaga thread mo, sana mag reply ka. good start na yang work mo. mas mabuti yan lumayo ka muna sa parents mo. ano ba naman yan, 25 ka na...

take care of yourself and the baby. masarap talaga ang pakiramdam once you will see her after delivery. God bless..

[jemster]

^ thank you sis airwaterfire, knowing them baka ipahanap pa nila ako in the long run at halughugin ang buong bansa makita lang ako. I want to be independent and free from them kase sila lang yung reason ko bakit gusto ko mawala si baby nung una. Pero,  i underwent ultrasound last week and naluha ako when I see my baby kahit 1 inch pa lang sya, pero she's healthy kahit na wala ko vitamins at super stress ako. Hay gusto ko na lumayo sa kanila.

[sassyrosel]

- sis sassyrosel kahit ako biglang parang lalong naoressure dahil sa sinabi ng mom ko. Hay ako ata talaga ang inaasahan nila na bumuhay sa pamilya namin. Sobrang hirap na ng pinagdadaanan ko. Knowing na nangyari ito sa ate ko before. Si bf would go then with what my plan is. Last week naisip namin magpacivil wedding muna, pero ayun nga bigla sya nawalan ng work. hay. Medyo magulo pa din ang isip ko sa ngayon.

Sis, you'll be a mom soon and will start to have your own family. You should start to prioritize your OWN family.

I honestly dont know what to say...
It's better to let them know because malalaman din naman nila. I think paghindi mo pa sinabi, kakapusin ka ng time for the things that you should be doing. I'll pray for you, sis.

[jemster]

^ sis sassy, my parents are way way different from other typical parents, They want me to get married after I turned 30 pa daw, they want me to go abroad kase nga ang laki laki daw ng naubos nila saken na pera. Sana man lang daw makapagpatayo ako ng new house para sa kanila at iparamdam ang maginhawang buhay though hindi naman kami naghihirap. Hay parang ako ang inaasahan kase nga my elder sister got pregnant at an early age at married na kaya hindi na sila umaasa. too much pressure is on me. Gusto ko nalang lumayo, may konti pa naman ako ipon and i'm gonna start working soon. Hay.

[honey-ecclaire]

sis,ikaw na nga talaga ang inaasahan ng parents mo na magbigay sa kanila ng magandang buhay...
pero feeling ko may hunch na si mommy mo na you're stress,madaming iniisp and na baka preggy!
Those can feel ng isang ina...they can see if nagbabago na ang figure if their daughter is expecting kaya siguro ganun yung hirit nila sa yo,pero super pressure talaga yun na asang-asa sila sayo....

I'm glad that your bf is supportive all the way,ang sarap ng feeling after you surpass all of this mare,though malayo pa talaga ang tatakbuhin ng buhay mo,galing talaga ng mga baby,(as you seen sa Ultrasound mo)they know how to please their mom...

Be firm and tough lang sis,your parents should be your second priority now,you can still fulfill pa din naman ang mga gusto nila kahit may family ka na eh,at mapagbabago mo pa din sila na wag umasa sa iyo...

[sassyrosel]

^^they want you to get married when you turned 30?

ikaw ano gusto mo? as i read it, parang lahat eh yung gusto lang NILA, pano ka naman?

when i was in your situation, naisip ko din na magtago, lumayas, i even asked my friend's parents to stay with them to lessen the expenses. however, they also advised me to tell my parents.

maybe you're correct, your parents are not like other parents we have, but i think it's their right to know what's happening.

[potpotpo]

Ang parents mo kakaiba...responsibilidad nila na pagaralin ka..hinde un sinisingil sa anak..saka buhay mo yan dapat ikaw ang masunod.. ang parents support lang dapat sila hinde dapat ang ngccontrol sa buhay mo.

Dont worry sis alam ko malalagpasan mo din ito..just count ur blessings, at ang pinakamalaking blessing mo is si baby

[Beng01]

My goodness, i've been following this thread since day one and ngayon lang ako nakapagcomment. 

Hindi ko malubos maisip bakit ganyan ang parents mo lalong lalo mommy mo?

Ano ka ba negosyo, na after nila magpundar at gumastos sayo eh dapat kumita ka kaagad ng limpak limpak para sa kanila?

The best way na you can do is tell them of your situation, and expect the worst, kung palayasin ka man nila, edi lumayas ka na. Lalo if they dont want the baby, then ikaw na mismo magtanggol sa baby mo. Umalis ka sainyo and keep the baby.

I know it's sounds like parang ang dali lang, but I am telling you sa unang lang mahirap, masakit sa puso--pero malalagpasan mo din ang pagsubok na ito, lagi mong iisipin "ngayon lang naman ito".
Think of your welfare, keep the baby.

And to your bf, dapat gumawa siya ng paraan para at least man lang masuportahan ang pagbubuntis mo.