flirting = cheating? what do you think?

[IronLady]

mga sis. question ko to. how do you draw the line between flirting and cheating ba? mejo naguguluhan ako. kasi pag ako nalaman ko na nakikipagfren2 ang bf ko sa girl na alam na nyang may gusto sa kanya, o sumasama sya dun. o na parang mejo sweet na gestures ni girl sa kanya at hinahayaan nya lang. magseselos na ko. parang ayoko na sa kanya, kasi parang in a way inientertain nya yung girl, in a way tumingin sya sa iba. kahit pa hindi sila or anything. masyado bang selosa pag ganun? kasi kapag kinonfront mo si bf baka sabihin lang na wala silang ginagawang masama and na ako naman ang gf or bawal na ba sya makipagfrends sa girl? pero if its bothering me naman diba? natanong ko lang, di pa naman nangyayari saken, if ever mangyari i wouldnt know how to handle.

[carolskitot]

its normal to feel that way, kahit ako magseselos ako eh, pero kelangan kausapin mo sa bf na it bothers you regarding sa pa-tweetums ng girlalu and tell him na nagseselos ka...at dun mo malalaman kung papano ka sasagutin ng bf mo, at you should keep the conversation flowing na parang dika nagbibigay ng kung anong eklavu kasi you trust him so much.

[IronLady]

pero mga sis, kung kayo ok lang sa inyo na makipagfrend2 pa din bf nyo sa girl na alam nyo sya ang puntirya? i know na kay bf na rin yun pero naman, bakit ako pag alam ko may pumoporma sakin, lumalayo ako, kasi may bf na ko. wala lang, siguro naisip ko din sa sobrang swit-switan ni girl e madevelop din sa kanya si bf, lalo pa at sila ang madalas magkasama. parang di ko kayang close-closean sya sa girl na may gusto sa kanya. haha! praning lang no?

[azel]

^pareho tayo sis, praning din ako. i don't like girls being too close with my guy. lalo na yun mga pa-tweetums. gusto kong jombagin, haha. selosa kasi talaga ko, hehe. especially, kung may gusto sa guy ko, naku wag sya makalapit-lapit baka kalbuhin ko sya, haha! i hate malanding girls na nagpapansin sa mga guys na alam nilang may gf/wifey na. yun mga makati pa sa gabi. ang daming guys dyan na single na pwede nila i-flirt o pagpa-cute-an, so they should stay away from my guy, hmf. haha. possessive lang? hihi. kasi ako, dahil committed ako sa aking lovey doo, i stay away from men, ayoko nadidikit sa mga guys lalo na sa malalandi guys, haha. i don't want him to have anything na masasabi sa akin or pagselosan or something.. imo lang

[violet_dmd_75]

Kadalasan ang cheating starts with harmless flirting

[Mr.Punch]

^ On that note, there's no such thing as "harmless" flirting when one or both of the parOies are already committed. 

Of course, cheaters will deny that.

[carla27]

^i agree there's no such thing as harmless flirting

Ganyan nag simula bf ko. Yung girl una nagparamdam na like nya si bf tapos tinukso tukso ng mga so called friends ayun muntik muntikan ma develop buti nahuli ko agad. At napitol ang sungay.pati mga so called friends ni bf bumingo sakin.

You will feel naman if may ngaganap ng kalikohan. Just follow your instincts.

[gab54]

for me, flirting = cheating, if not flirting is the beginning of cheating...   

[IronLady]

ngayon na-confuse ako. how would i know if bf is flirting or just being friendly? only when he responds na rin sa mga sweet gestures ng girl? so if di dedma lang sya kahit pa madalas nya samahan yung girl na may gusto sa kanya, ok lang?

[janix athena]

TS, it's perfectly normal for you to feel that way. I can relate kasi selosa ako. If ini-entertain ni bf mo yung girl, yun na ang pagtubo ng damo na sisira sa garden of your relationship. I would suggest kausapin mo si bf and tell him how it makes you feel. Sabi nga ng hubby ko, anong mapapala nya sa sangkatutak na friends kung ako yung mawawala dahil sa sama ng loob. He should respect your feelings and kahit sa tingin nya wala silang ginagawang masama, he should still stop in consideration of you. If he still tries to argue, ask him "Kung merong may gusto sakin and ini-entertain ko to the point na we're hanging out together pa, how would that make you feel?" That should wake him up. Kung hindi pa rin girl, sorry, I'm afraid mas mahal nya ang sarili nya kesa sayo. You're better off with someone else.

[BebieLuvs]

^ super like...esp yung last lines...

[yellowkitten]

I think it depends. If he's being friendly lang, I don't mind. He can flirt din, as long as we're not together. I don't really mind. He feels the same way about me flirting with other guys.. I think it's a natural thing to do, flirting. And I trust him, so I know at the end of the day, it's me he loves and he'll always come home to me.

[gab54]

Parang Al Galang's love letter to Baby Vicky, harmless flirting daw... 

[Foodict]

If its constant flirting with only 1 person = CHEATING na yun and a prelude to something much more intimate. Its a slippery slope, maya may pahawak hawak na yan, then akbay then they stand very close to each other, maya may kiss na sa cheeks then sa lips and boom. Temptation 1, Fidelity 0.

[karmark16]

Hmmm... I think nasa lalaki talaga yan, I mean he should be considerate sa feelings mo bilang babae, if he knows na may tendency sia na magkagusto sa isang babae then wag nia gawing friend un kasi alam nia na makakasira sa relasyon nio un. ang bf ko most of his friends are girls pero I am not threatened naman, kasi he introduces me to them naman, at if ever may lakad sila sinasama nia ako, so I feel very safe. I know din kasi some guys na nakikipagflirt para lang sa self esteem nila which is horrible kasi mas importante naman ang relasyon ninyo kesa sa ego nia no!

[Girltalker2]

for me once naging close ang isa sa inyo with another person sa opposite sex - close emotionally (kahit hindi physical) - for me that's cheating.

pero sa tao, iba iba ang definition kasi ng cheating.  may iba, so long as they are not physically intimate, kahit may flirting, hindi pa cheating kasi hindi pa naman married.  pero sakin basta naging close, kahit pa they are not having sex.

[caterpillar-girl]

For me yes I would consider flirting as cheating. I would be very upset if I found out my boyfriend is flirting with somebody else. Bakit nya kelangan manlandi ng iba eh nandito naman ako? Hehe. Seriously,  I can't quite grasp the concept of harmless flirting.  Magfiflirt ka ba sa mga taong di mo type? Of course not. Not unless ikaw yung type na kahit sino nalang, ayos na!

If your bf hangs around with a girl na alam nyang may gusto sa kanya, malamang he enjoys the attention, even if it's unintentional. Tao lang naman sya. But therein lies the problem. He is putting himself at the risk of enjoying it too much. And who knows where that can lead. He's opening himself to the possibility of cheating. It's like when you're dieting. Why would you hang around in McDonald's when you know those fries and sundae cones are just there, waiting for you. I'm not saying tumambay ka lang lagi sa vegetarian restaurant, but you know, kung pwede namang wag mag McDo, wag mag McDo.

[ettevyvi]

for me, flirting = cheating, if not flirting is the beginning of cheating...   

ride on!

i guess it's okay to flirt in the flirty level. not in the sense that you're going to pursue the guy/girl. then... that is clearly cheating. especially kapag itinatanggi mo na may karelasyon ka.

[yellowkitten]

Magfiflirt ka ba sa mga taong di mo type? Of course not. Not unless ikaw yung type na kahit sino nalang, ayos na!

Obviously, even if we are in a relationship, we will still feel attracted to other people. This is only natural. I think it's a big turn on for me when a girl starts flirting with my guy and he entertains her. Eventually, I enter the scene and she's so disappointed! The thing is, a huge part of this is trust. This may not be okay for other people. It might not work for them. But for us, it works perfectly. We trust each other and we know that it would never go any further. It is kind of an ego booster din. And we get the feeling that we are free, even if we are in a relationship. Walang feeling ng nasasakal.

[rheinfall18]

in my opinion, it is case to case basis naman. but generally speaking, flirting = cheating? agree much on this. why flirt others kung may partner ka naman. simple as that. ^^