Didn't have a debut - depressed...

[PinKisH_23]

Sis ako rin, di rin ako nagdebut. Although mom did ask me once, mag stop ako ng 1 sem sa college at magpapa party sila or tutuloy tuloy lang ako sa college without the party. Syempre I chose to continue with school, di naman kasi namin afford ang mga party na ganyan at di namin hilig mag entertain ng uber daming tao.

Naghanda lang ng konti ang mama ko, ganun lang. Pero it didn't affect me negatively. Na inspire pa nga ako to study harder.

Anyway, ang pinaka issue ko was never akong nagka childrens party nung bata pa ako, when I turned 30, nagpa Jollibee party ako with the cake, party hats etc. It was fun.

So don't let it affect you, kung gusto mo mag paparty ka pa ala-debut when you turn 30. Wala naman sigurong problema dun.

[whitelady17]

waaa sis pinkish, ako rin eh type ko magpa jollibee party sa sarili ko pag dating ng 30 Kiber ba nila noh.

[imnuttz]

ako rin walang 18th bday party. never pa ako nag party ng bongga para sa mga nagdaang birthday ko actually. nakakalungkot din na ok lang din. kaya nga hindi ako sanay na naghahanda pag bday ko, kasi sa bahay ganon lang e palilipasin lang ang araw. siguro sa hirap din ng buhay nuon. eh ang hubby ko ngayon gusto nyo sine-celebrate kahit dine out lang. ngayon na may daughter ako sa kanya ko nalang tine-turn over ang mga pangarap ko when i was a little girl. through her natutupad na din ang mga pangarap ko dati. pinag party namin sya nung 7th bday nya at hopefully sa 18 sya mabigyan din namin ng party.

PinKisH_23, ang hirap ng options mo. mag party pero mag stop ng school  pero cool ang jollibee party ha

[PinKisH_23]

@sis whitelady17 korek sis, eh ano naman kung magpaparty tayo sa Jollibee na medyo matanda na, hehe nakakatuwa kaya, I even kept some of the balloons na di kinuha ng ibang kids na ininvite ko.

@sis imnuttz uu sis try mo rin, super fun

[cuppie_cake]

Cheer up sis, see ang dami na nating di nakapagdebut. I'm one of those din, financially kulang talaga since single mom ang nanay ko so exact lang for my tuition, honestly sumama ang loob ko noon since mga friends ko puro nagdebut, buti na lang summer ang birthday ko kaya atleast wala ring questions from my classmates kung bakit wala. But as time goes on, nawala na din yun I guess those were the days na medyo immature pa ako and medyo spoiled din (I'm an only child kasi). Now, because of this thread naisip ko na one of my dreams of going to disneyland when I was a kid will come true na din (I get to share it pa with my kids) so atleast one dream fulfilled for me. Agree with sissies here, paghandaan mo na lang your wedding makabawi ka man lang.

[whitelady17]

gusto ko pag nagpa party ako, adults only lang sa jolibee hehe para wala ng magulo.. since mas marami ang hindi nag debut dito, eh tayo tayo na lang mag celebrate ng birthday lol

[cuppie_cake]

^good idea sis.. 

[mommy_ni_trisha]

wag ka madepress sis.. hindi lang ikaw ang walang debut party, marami tayo.. nung debut ako ni wala kaming handa although binigyan naman ako ng papa ko ng gold necklace na hanggang ngayon na 27 na ko, tinatago ko pa rin at balak ko siyang ibigay sa 2 yr old daughter ko pag debut na rin nya..

wala rin ako maalalang nagkaroon ako ng children's party.. except siguro nung 1 yr old ako kasi may nakita akong pic dati naming magkakapatid tapos may balloon na nakalagay "Happy 1st Birthday <name ko>"

like sis imnuttz, sa daughter ko na lang ginagawa yung mga bdays na pangarap ko dati.. before sya mag 1 yr old, monthly cinecelebrate namin bday nya, kahit konting handa lang for the whole family.. sympre nagbonggang party ako for her nung 1 yr old sya kaya lang wala na nun parents ko kasi nagmigrate na, pero umuwi mama ko for vacation nung 2nd bday ni baby kaya nagpaparty ulit ako.. ngayong mag-3 na siya siguro simpleng party na lang, for kids na lang talaga.. di ko matiis na di bigyan ng party daughter ko kasi she LOVES party as in after nung 2nd bday nya, halos everyday until now kumakanta pa rin sya ng happy birthday for herself, eh its more than 8 months na since nag 2nd bday sya..hahaha nakakatuwa lang.. 

[imnuttz]

^enjoy talaga mga kids sa party. ang anak ko nga last year nag 7 sya may party din. aba gusto daw nya sa next birthday nya ganun din  sabi ko mamumulubi naman kami nun at special lang talaga ang 7 years old kaya bonggang celebration sya. hehe!

whitelady, masaya yan tayo tayo nalang magpa 18th bday for ourselves. 

[whitelady17]

oo sis diba, tayo na ang mga celebrants tapos tayo tayo lang rin ang mga guests lol, wala ng hiya hiya, since tayo naman eh alam natin kung bakit natin gagawin iyon, ang ibang hindi maka connect bahala sila hihi

[cristal28]

add me too. ako din syempre walang debut. worse talaga wala naman nag abala kahit lugaw man lang on that day. january that year my sister told my parents that she will get married na, shes of age na naman and then she told my parents that they plan to do it on the day after my supposed to be debut, my mom told my sister if she can move the date of her wedding since no reservations where made pa naman but sadly she stood her ground. akala ko okay lang sa akin sabi ko no biggie and during that time i was still contemplating if i will have  debut or just a party. moving forward, ayun wala ako debut and ayaw ko naman i stress out ang mom ko to prepare for my birthday kahit simple lang kasi the day after may wedding. i do not want her to be too tired. during that time grabe ang sama ng loob ko sa sister ko nung palapit na ganun pala yun noh. i even think na she is sooo selfish, ang debut minsan lang siya anytime pwede naman siya ikasal and pwede pa paulit ulit. hehe. so yun no debut no party no nothing ut my mom knows what im feeling during that time. she really tried so hard but syempre during that time di ko naman na aapreciate yung ginaawa niya but i am not mad at her syempre sa sister ko lang that time. hehe but now wala na. don't sweat the small stuff sis, i am turning 30 na and believe it or not never namin napag usapan ng mga lifelong frends ko what happened during the debut. while most of us girls think that becoming 18 is such a biggie, that is just during that time parang what you are feeling right now but after years passed by parang its just another birthday. you will have more memorable birthdays to experience so hindi kawalan ang hindi ka nag celebrate ng debut sis. smile

[red_one]

me too walang ring debut party when i turned 18. not only because walang budget, another reason was, di ako mahilig sa ganung klaseng party. i prefer simple dinner and that's it.

[schizo_me]

bakit parang ang daming nadedepress at age 28? lol.

Off topic : Saturn Return =D

[prettykhae]

dika nag -iisa sis TS. ako rin naman hindi rin nagdebut, ni handaan ala rin.. ala kasi ako nun sa haus on that day... nag aaral ako at nasa malayong lugar. importante, laging andyan yung good health. kasi magdebut kung ala namang ihahanda. buti kung meron. isang araw lang kasi yun e... be practical na rin.

[sexy_maldita0089]

Ako din sis TS, di rin ako nag-debut pero choice ko naman yun eh. Kasi one day celebration lang naman yun after nun wala na. Gastos lang.. hehe I am just practical sis 

[kutingkulilit]

may nagdedebut pa ba sa panahon ngayon? hehe

ko din hindi nag-debut... during that time kasi nasa states nagwwork mom ko, yoko naman magparty-party ng walang nanay. pinera nalang din. pero hindi naman 50k o 30k ang laki nun rawr haha (well for an 18y/o ha hehe) 200$ lang ata binigay sakin, way back 2003 nagshopping nalang ako.

nag sort-of "debut" ako lol last year when i turned 25, they had an intimate formal party for me parang debut lang ang peg hehe! minus the 18 roses 18 candles ahaha meron lang program and games hehe

tama advice ng mga sis natin dito, if you're having sad thoughts about not having a debut, hava it when you turned 30  it's never too late.

[health.gal]

Hi,

I'm looking for some advice.  I think one of my biggest regrets in life is that I never had an 18th birthday debut.  I really regret it.  I'm 28 now and I still think about it, how I wish I had a debut.  I get so depressed when I hear about others who have it. It makes me so sad and it's been so many years that I've been depressed about it.  I feel like I'm the only one in the world that never had a debut.

I don't know how to get over this depression.  I'm just sad all the time and feel so much regret.

If you have time please your advice.

Thank you.

Hi Sis,

After reading all of the advises posted here, how do you feel now? Are you still "depressed"? Do you still feel sad?

[prettykhae]

Sis ako rin, di rin ako nagdebut. Although mom did ask me once, mag stop ako ng 1 sem sa college at magpapa party sila or tutuloy tuloy lang ako sa college without the party.

sis same tayo, these were the exact words from my mom.

[potpotpo]

ako din hinde nag-debut, hinde rin ako binigyan ng pera naghanda lang ng cake, spaghetti saka lumpia saka coke  oo tanda ko talaga  ayus lang naman kasi e sakto sakto lang naman pera namin nun

to TS wag ka na ma-depress, next birthday mo pwede [textspeak!] debut ang theme mo 

[schizo_me]

ako din hindi ng debut. Kahit nga maghanda ayoko.