is it worth a shot?

[meisaia]

let him go. you're better off with someone else.

[gurlzat03]

ako kaya, ano kayang mararamdaman ko kung magkita ulet kami? sana para lang din akong lola ko na amnesia girl! 

[_gigles_]

^do you feel you get the closure you wanted from that convo that? mga guys naman talaga hindi sila aamin sa fault nila kahit na its obviously too out there. They'd still put the blame on us just to wash off their guilt. One thing I realized recently you cant really believe or trust a word a man say, not til he really proves it.

[_gigles_]

^sa ngayon mahirap pang tanggapin yan pero eventually in time matatanggap mo din and you'll realize and be thankful na nawala siya sa buhay mo. Honestly ngayon narerealize ko na it felt better yung nawala siya kasi parang mas magaan na yung loob ko dati kasi parang lagi ang bigat ng feeling ko, dahil may feeling na ako na he has been cheating on me. And kung tumagal pa yung relationship hindi rin talaga ako masaya kasi deep inside I know something is wrong, ga** lang ako dati ayoko aminin pero I knew deep down sooner or later the relationship will end din talaga. Now I am glad that it happened sooner.

Everything just takes time, you cant expect to wake up in the morning and wala na yung pain. You had invested so much time, feelings for this person for it to go away just like that. One day at a time you will be better as long as you keep yourself away from him.

If there is one thing I learned from the book "He's just not that into you" if a guy really wants/loves you there are no excuses he will do everything to make it happen. I think it also goes for us girls din, diba if we really love someone kahit anong problema/issue pa yan we try our best to make things work. So whatever reason he blame on you, it still boils down with hes the one who gave up and left with another woman. That action said enough.

Goodluck sis! I know one day you'll be okay, one day you'll find the happiness you deserve. 

[gurlzat03]

^^ hugz sis paloma.. i totally agree with sis gigles advice. always remember that time heals all wounds... one thing that i learned is that there is no such thing as closure, pero there is a word called "acceptance". believe me, sobrang hirap mag-move on especially if you know that you love the person so much. sabi nga ng mga sis natin dito, ganyan talaga ang mga guys.. mapa-pride, lam mo 'yung parang paaasahin ka na magiging kayo pa, pero eventually hanggang dun lang. syempre pang boost nga naman ng ego kung 2 girls ang nagkakandarapa sa kanya di ba?

iiyak mo lang ng iiyak sis, eventually mapapansin mo na mapapagod ka na rin kakaiyak.. pero bigyan mo lang ng time kung hanggang kelan ka lang magiging ganyan. kasi baka naman mapabayaan mo na ang sarili mo.. above anything else, you should love yourself. surround yourself with good friends, ngayon mo sila sobrang kaylangan at maiintindihan ka nila.. also, appreciate the people around you. dun mo lang maiisip na madami pang iba na mas malala ang problema kesa sa 'yo. always remember that there is someone out there who knows what is best for us, you just need to put your complete trust to him and everything will be okay..

[calin22]

Sis Paloma: ginawa ko na din to so i can relate.. at this May lang din.. medyo okay na ako ngayon pero not totally.. im in the process of healing pero at least hindi na ako napaparanoid tulad ng dati.. sis unang una dapat iforgive mo ang sarili mo.. Forgive yourself kasi magselfself pity ka lang at magstart ka iquestion ang sarili mo kung anong kulang sayo... I know sis mahirap yan.. pero yan ang first step.. and sis dont forget to ask guidance kay GOD... with him everything is possible

Sis if you need someone to talk to.. pm me.. i believe kasi when you find time to listen to other people's problem mas mainintidihan mo ang situation mo at mafefeel mo na hindi ka nag iisa..

[_gigles_]

^honestly I can say I've been there done that, I totally can relate and understand what your feeling. Nagiging t**** talaga tayo pag nakikinig tayo lagi sa puso natin. We know what we should and shouldn't do kaya lang most often than not we listen to what our heart says. How was I able to snap out of the bobo phase, I think I got hurt way too much that I get to tell myself enough is enough. Its his loss and I have no more regrets. Sometimes I think tama rin na ibuhos mo na lahat, masaktan ka na ng todo todo para on your way to moving on there will be no more regrets, no more looking back nor any what ifs.

if you need someone to talk to you can pm me, I know that feeling of wanting or the need to talk to someone else about what your feeling. and talking about it helps.

[calin22]

 

why he left me, if last meetup his reason was pride, status in life, work, salary. this time the reason was, nagkasalisi daw kami ng nararamdaman. during the time na hinahabol nia daw ako tinataboy ko sya, kaya nun ako na daw un may gusto parang napush na sia away. what a lame reason, kung ayaw mo na pala eh di dapat hindi na naging tayo pa. napakasamang tao.

Sis, eto ang exact same reason ng ex ko saken.. alam mo after reading your post today.. narealize ko na parehong pareho pala tayo ng pinagdadaanan.. alam ko sis mahirap talaga eto.. pero minsan kasi FEAR lang talaga ng hindrance kung bakit stubborn tayo eh.. takot ka sa mga bagay na hindi pa nangyayari.. like mabubuntis ng ex mo ang current niya, like feeling na nag iisa ka at walang mag-mamahal.. mga ganun...

wag naten ipilit ang bagay na ayaw na.. kasi the more you chase a person.. the more he runs away...  kasi alam niya everytime na babalik siya sayo.. may babalikan siya.. dun pumapasok ang term na "taken for granted". Kaya sis be strong.. kaya naten to.. besides di mo kailangan magstick sa tao na hindi niya alam ang gusto niya sa buhay... maybe this guy is not mature enough to handle any relationship.. sooner or later baka ipagpalit lang niya yung new girl niya sa ibang babae pa.. and one thing i have learned.. ang character ng tao mahirap baguhin.. kung babaero siya noon.. mambabae at mambabae padin yan.. unless na makilala niya si GOD sa puso niya... ganyan na ganyan ang ex ko sis.. 


the best thing na pwede mong gawin is palawakin ang territories mo.. try a sport or join any single groups.. ganyan ang ginagawa ko now.. or better yet.. volunteer for your church

sis i know its hard for you pero once you see the light... makikita mo na you're wasting your time for someone na hindi worth it... at Sis, gusto mo ba siya na ang future husband mo? hmmm... i think you deserve better...

Sis, where do you live? maybe near lang tayo ng ofis.. or malapit ang location.. I'm offering my friendship sayo if you want and definitely hindi ka nag iisa..


Stay strong and Godbless you

[_gigles_]

I think we all go through that phase the need or want to talk about it over and over again. Trust me my friend have taken too much of that from me. And the feeling of deep inside we know what we did is wrong and we know what we should and shouldn't do. Somehow letting it out or sharing it someone somewhat eases the pain rather than keeping it all inside. I know how hard your going through right now, I've been there. I wish you all the luck sis! And it is helpful to go out and meet new friends, get yourself fond of other things and just try to be busy. 

[calin22]

calin & gigles: hello mga sis! thank you ha kasi kahit paulit ulit mga sinasabi ko at pagrarant ko about sa misery and pain i've been going through, naiintindihan nio ko.

sa ngayon, tinatry ko ipakita sa lahat ng tao na kaya ko to, na malalagpasan ko to. pero kung tatanungin ako at sasagutin ko with all honesty, i can say na hindi ako talaga masaya and hindi ko alam kung makakaya ko. pede naman siguro, i could fake my happiness until it becomes real, diba? narealize ko kasi di ko na pwede ipakita sa kanya or sa ibang tao na talunan ako. feeling ko naaawa na silang lahat sakin and ayaw kong kaawaan nila ako.

i'm starting to accept everything, all the bad and painful things that happened to me. wala naman akong magagawa diba kundi tanggapin and i'm quite sure eventually as the day/weeks/month goes by, magiging OK din ako.

i gotta keep praying. He definitely saves the best for last. so siguro kahit di ko pa maintindhan masyado ngayon, malamang hindi sya un best na nakalaan para sakin.

mga sis thanks for the new friendship you are both offering. btw, sis calin tiga bulacan ako eh, ikaw ba? i work here sa makati along paseo, how about you? sige sis baka pede ko sumama sa mga activities mo, para i could meet new friends. or gusto nio tayo tayo magmeet up over coffee? thanks everyone. Godbless us all

Sis.. naiyak naman ako sayo post mo, alam mo matagal ko nadin finafake ang happiness na pinapakita ko sa ibang tao kasi alam ko pikang pika na makinig ang mga tao sa paligid ko.. paulit ulit daw kasi ang kwento ko.. wala naman daw magagawa.. sis i feel you.. pero gaya nga ng sabi mo GOD will save the best for last.. time lang talaga makakapagsabi neto.. alam ko nakakapraning maghintay pero kaya naten ito sis.. Patience lang.

sa The fort ako work sis sayang.. at ang layo pala tayo, rizal pa kasi ako hehe anyway.. drop me your number.. lets meet over a cup of coffee sometime..

[gurlzat03]

ang masasabi ko lang mga sis, let's all think positive.. true enough, minsan maiisip natin ka-plastikan lang lahat ng pinapakita nating saya at ngiti.. pero at the end of the day, isipin din natin na wala na tayong ibang pwedeng gawin kundi mag-let go & move on.. always remember that prayer is the best weapon in everything that we do.. Goodluck!

[_gigles_]

^true that! Honestly minsan hindi ko na alam kung ano ba ang tunay at fake na smile na ginagawa ko. I think I had fake too much smile and hid my emotions too much that I dont really know whats true and whats not. I am neither happy nor depress right now, and I guess I'm alright with it. I know this sound wrong but at this point I'd rather feel nothing than to get hurt again. I'm just not ready to feel the amount of pain I felt. I'm not closing my doors totally, just I guess I'm just taking a break and giving my heart time to fully heal.

[gurlzat03]

^ we have the same feeling sis.. normal lang pala ang nararamdaman ko.. feeling ko kasi parang hindi na normal eh, kasi alam mo 'yung feeling na parang nagiging boring ka na kausap kasi wala ka ng maikwento about your lovelife?! siguro nga kasi sobrang hurt lang tayo sa previous relationship natin.. and in time, we can move on completely..

[_gigles_]

^haha omg!! ganyan din ako! pag kinakamusta ako ng mga tao wala na akong juicy makwento. haha pero mas ok na rin siguro ng ganito, I dont want to jump into a new relationship kung hindi pa rin ako fully ready. I might just end up pushing him away or something and I dont want to be unfair to him din. Hay pero minsan namimiss ko yung feeling na whatever crap happens around a hug from him can just make you feel better, or the simple feeling of being inlove. sometimes when i see my friends happy inlove naiinggit ako, parang feeling ko kasi it wont happen to me anymore. hay maybe someday, just not today.

[gurlzat03]

^ wah sis! kambal ba tayo ng tadhana?!  parehas talaga tayo eh, kaso sa sobrang strong ko yata eh lagi kong nilalabanan ang emotions ko kaya eto ngayon, parang it wont happen na talaga.. pero that's life, i know that i am better now as compared before.. basta let's just God kasi he knows what's good for us.. excited na ko sa bakasyon ko, hopefully i can have my peace of mind.

[_gigles_]

^saan ang vacation mo sis? pero sabi nga nila it comes when you least expects it so we'll never know diba? I just dont want to keep my hopes up or get my world revolve around my love life. I'm just trying to focus on the other things in my life. Minsan feeling ko hindi pa ako fully nakaka-move on or that I cant really move on not til I give my heart to someone else. But hindi pa ako ready dyan, okay naman ako ngayon ng ganito na lang muna. 

[gurlzat03]

SG sis, dun ako magce-celebrate ng birthday ko.. i like your statement: " Ijust dont want to keep my hopes up or get my work revolve around my love life".. pang status message sa fb.. pero tama un, un din ang nararamdaman ko.. sinasabi ko naman 'pag may nagtatanong sa 'kin, sinasabi ko na hindi pa talaga ko naka-move on but I'm trying.. ako din, sabi ko nga sa sarili ko, by next year siguro ready na ko to love again in case may darating. at least, this year focus muna ko sa sarili ko, para when the time comes that I'm ready, I will never loose the lessons that I've learned from my past relationship. a better me will be coming..

[miyay]

loving that kind of guy seems like an exercise in futility......so NO.

[_gigles_]

^^wow inggit! haha enjoy sa vacation sis! you deserve it!  somehow nakakagaan ng loob knowing that there is someone out there who totally understands and know what I'm going through, minsan kasi nakakatamad to explain my feelings to other people. But partly I feel bad cause I know how much it hurts and just how hard it is that I dont want to see other people feel the same way I'm feeling. Everytime I hear a break up kahit na hindi ko kilala or kahit mga celebrities, it breaks my heart pa din. haha But I know one day we'll be okay, one day we will look back at this post and just smile and realize just how much we've grew 

[calin22]

^^^ sis kelan ka punta SG.. ako din eh dun ako magVACAY.. baka magkita tayo dun? nakisingit lang hehe