Author Topic: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?  (Read 31471 times)

jl042655

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #100 on: August 02, 2014, 02:43:32 am »
Hi mga sis,

Still down in the dumps sa breakup namin ng bf ko. He cheated on me with his ex, strung me along with his promise na aayusin niya daw everything then get back to me, only to find out later na sila pa din all along while nato-torture ako sa kakahintay sa 'pag aayos' niya.

Super in-love pa din ako kay bf and problem is nakikita ko pa siya madalas kasi we work together. Sobrang crushed ako with what happened, I've been tempted to quit several times. Kaso di ko magawa kasi sayang yung pinagod ko being an 'intern' sa isang managerial job. Kumabaga, need tenurity na lang at papers para makuha ko. Plus, yung friends ko discouraged me din kasi ayon sa kanila, ako na nga na-agrabyado, ako pa daw mawawalan.

Anyway, I mope around a lot. Di ko na makuha makipag socialize. Feeling ko it's too much of an effort. I prefer to be alone, kaso that has a lot of disadvantages kasi I tend to overthink and overanalyze. Kaso I prefer it that way. What i do is watch movies. Nagkukulong ako sa kwarto. Problem din is since nagkarelationship ako, I withdrew from friends so parang nag drift apart na din ako sa kanila. I self-pity a lot din. My self-esteem has suffered a lot as well.

Another problem din is si ex won't leave me completely alone. When I don't text him, he texts me. Plus super naglalambing siya ngayon kung kailan I started to detach slowly. Andami kong pathetic moments sa kanya asking him bakit hindi ako pinili. So parang my ego took a blow din that he chose his ex.

I asked him if siya na talaga pinili, and he refuses to answer. He tells me hindi niya daw alam because he initially got back with her dahil sa guilt. (He cheated on her like 6 times before, and she kept accepting him back) He told me na tanggap daw toh ni girl kaya he doesn't hear a lot of accusations or negative thing kasi finoforget na ni girl yung mga kasalanan niya. I asked him is mahal niya and he said he doesn't know either.

When I ask him if he loves me, sabi nya hindi daw nawawala yun. Kaso bottomline, he can't commit anymore even though he still acts like a bf to me sometimes. Sa sobrang heartbroken ko, I think I'm depressed. May insomnia na ko, which has been going on for weeks, and terrible migraines.

I really need help. How to fall out of love..?

cybelekronos

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #101 on: August 04, 2014, 02:55:49 am »
jlo42655, sis, di na sya worth mahalin o iyakan, madaling sabihin kalimutan mo na sya, pero yun talaga ang tama, niloko ka nya, niloko nya ex din nya, napaka immature ng ex bf mo at kayang kaya nya kayo paglaruan at manipulate.

please di sya healthy, di ka rin matatahimik if dumating time na bumalik man sya sayo, pasalamat ka nga di ikaw ang pinili nya. wala ka ng sakit sa ulo, di yan magbabago, kawawa lang un girl na makakasama nya.

wag ka na mag pa bilog, pa bola, as much as possible, wag mo na kausapin o pansinin, mag palit ka na lang ng # mo para di ka na nya ma contact alisin mo na sya anything na mag kakaroon kayo ng communication, sa work naman ignore mo na lang sya, mahirap gawin pero dun din patungo mo, kaya better simulan mo na.

i know napakahirap maka move on, lalo na minahal mo ng todo, kinalimutan mo lahat,iniwasan mo lahat para sa kanya, pero sis, simulan mo na sya kalimutan, isipin mo lahat ng negatives, lahat ng panloloko nya, yung ginawa ka lang 2nd best, ginamit ka lang, isipin mo un time na hindi ka nya pinili..

maraming stages ka pa pag dadaanan, sis, need mo ng kausap, need mo ng outlet para makalimutan sya, iyak mo lang hanggang mapagod ka, mag lagay ka ng due date na hanggang dito na lang pagmukmok mo, then after nun mag start ka na kumilos.

sa ngayon, maranasan mo muna yan, pain, umiyak, magalit, then umiyak uli.

this time need mo na mag reach out sa mga friends mo, sa family mo, kahit isang tao lang makausap mo everytime na need mo mag rant, makakatulong yun. then tulungan mo rin sarili mo

bago pa lang ako dito kaya alam ko di pa ko pwede i pm, pero pag ok na sis, pwede mo ko kausapin pag need mo ng kausap especially sa madaling araw, gising ako at willing ako mag basa o makinig sayo.  :D

cheer up, be thankful, nawala na sya.

frappysabz

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #102 on: August 13, 2014, 11:43:06 pm »
i play with my kids. talk to my mom and friends. keep myself busy like exercising, singing and watching movies. sana totally makalimutan ko na siya.

prettyellowish

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #103 on: August 14, 2014, 07:18:17 am »
I pray.
work.
Pray again.
work again.
Continue till maka move on

baliwsayo

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #104 on: August 15, 2014, 10:28:41 am »
dance lagi para masaya pakiramdam
start dating again.. lol! well, misery loves company kasi eh.  ;D

estelle21

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #105 on: August 26, 2014, 11:01:49 pm »
    • nagpapaganda (make up, porma)
      nakikipag bonding sa family and friends
      nagpapatalino (aral-aral)
      nagsisipag sa work
      kumukuha ng extra work/side job
      sinusubukan maging mas mabuting tao
      nagpa-practice ng self criticism XD


Frozen Toes

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #106 on: September 01, 2014, 01:59:22 am »
Live a full life he chose not to be a part of. And repeat. Works for me. :)

snix

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #107 on: September 16, 2014, 06:44:07 pm »
When My ex broke up with me, I went through the usual crap. Not a day goes by that I didn't cry.. It's a good thing ai have friends na I can cry and rant to. Kaya nga always make time for your friends kahit may love life ka na. They are the ones who will be there for you kapag may mga ganyang nangyari.

I went to church a lot, I underwent skin treatments, joined palanaforma and other fitness activities para malibang ako at maging confident na rin.. Nakakababa ng self-esteem ang hiwalayan.

Late ako lagi umuuwi from work para hindi ako masyado magisip.

And the best thing that worked for me is I went soul-searching sa Caleruega. Refreshing siya and you learn to be closer to God.

Just try not to be alone too much. It's more sad that way

pumpkin13

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #108 on: September 17, 2014, 05:43:59 am »
Pede bang mag meet up ang mga sawing tulad ko and just have fun?  :(

fastlove

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #109 on: September 17, 2014, 05:22:20 pm »
pwede.. bakit hindi,  kung  dyan mapapadali ang recovery period diba


Pede bang mag meet up ang mga sawing tulad ko and just have fun?  :(

pumpkin13

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #110 on: September 18, 2014, 12:02:37 am »
Wala lang, sometimes kasi it's better to meet new friends na wala sa circle nyo ng ex mo. I don't have many friends who are outside our circle so madalas mag isa lang ako.

tisaygirl123

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #111 on: September 23, 2014, 10:54:31 am »
pumpkin12^^

Yes, pwedeng pwede. Just to have fun pero ingat baka masaktan ulit.  ;) ;)

pumpkin13

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #112 on: September 23, 2014, 09:41:08 pm »
^Yes, sis. Have fun with new people lang para malibang and para na din to gain new friends. Not to the point na hananap ng kapalit or rebound. Sa case ko kasi, most of my closest friends are my ex's closest friends, too. Though I'm glad I have them, they are also a reminder of my ex. Kahit pa anong iwas pag usapan yung tungkol samin, nafefeel ko lang na may kulang sa group kasi wala sya. We are a group. Feel din nila na kulang. Minsan naman sila yung magkakasama, wala ako. Nagiging awkward kasi naiisip din nila na wala ako.

tisaygirl123

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #113 on: September 24, 2014, 10:59:32 am »
^ yes, labas labas din kasi and meet and great.. about the rebound feeling ko ok naman makipag date ng exclusive if you're comfortable with that.
You have to move forward. Ako nga eh yung ex ko, sister ng super close girlfriend ko and friends ko ay friends din niya. We studied the same school simula high school and halos neighbor kami ng ex ko. Neighbor din ang school namin sa U-belt. Even my badminton buddies, friends niya. Classmate ko, friends niya. Lahat nalang friends niya.
Siya na! haha!
Try mo muna ilessen yung bonding mo with his friends talaga by that time maiiwasan mo din issues or mga balita or anything about him.
Parang yung ginawa ni Popoy. atska kana mag reach out sa friends niyo pag ok na ang lahat. like hindi na mahihiya, maiilang or magagalit sa ibang bagay.

Cheer up!
Give time to yourself, explore and have fun!

Angelite

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #114 on: October 08, 2014, 08:24:49 pm »
Be with your support group, friends or love ones who will be there for you.

Look at the brighter side. Maybe it is for the best that you parted ways. Maybe you are meant to meet a much better person and this relationship is just a small sacrifice to prepare you with much happier relationship in the future.

superjuzh

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #115 on: October 08, 2014, 08:54:57 pm »
sabihin na nating dalawang oras pa lang kaming nagbbreak o tatlo, ang plano ko lang ay umiyak ng umiya hanggang magsawa ako tapos mag apply sa ibang trabaho. plano ko na rin magresign at magpahinga muna. wala na akong ibang maisip pa kundi ayusin ang sarili ko kasi ako din naman ang nagsimula ng break up na to. umayaw na din naman sya at ayoko na rin sana makipagcommunicate pa sakanya kaya sabi ko lahat ng means communication putulin nya, kahit di sya sumago alam kong gagawin nya yun.

belladejour

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #116 on: November 07, 2014, 10:40:30 pm »
focus on yourself (make-over), socialize more, shopping, go to places youve never been to

purple.strawberry

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #117 on: November 10, 2014, 10:58:41 am »
Ako I do something I've never done before.

Like this year I took to baking, meditation, and then did the career shifting na from writing to IT. Kumbaga inayos ko na din ibang aspect ng buhay ko. Some weekends sumasama sa mountain climbing. Nagtry ng wakeboarding kahit di ako lumangay so stuck ako sa gitna after mahulog sa board. Hahaha. Met a lot of new people, madami rin dito sa GT. :)

Juricks

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #118 on: November 10, 2014, 04:13:20 pm »
Stop yourself from looking back, kahit nakaka-tempt. And if you catch yourself na nag-eemo ulit, muster enough willpower na pigilan ang sarili mo and shift your focus on your other goals.

The Greatest Is LOVE

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Re: What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?
« Reply #119 on: November 10, 2014, 04:24:27 pm »
you create and discover new hobby like photography, gun shooting, etc.
sometimes you go out of town alone discovering the wonders around.
most of the times you go out with friends, make yourself busy.
you chat, gain new friends online at marami pang iba...

 

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