What do you do, while moving on with your breakup?

[chuvaeklavu]

Girls, i just had a break up last November we've been together for more than 3yrs and im really struggling now with my feelings cos this is my first time na nakipag break ako and i decided na i dont want to replace him...i want to be free muna.
we really love each other but we dont agree in many major things in life.... "so, love is not enough"

Now, i want to move on... sobrang nahihirapan ako, i need advise???
what to do in my days in hell ?

[cristyles]

Sis i've been there too. A lot of people are caught up in the past and choose to remain there because that is where their beautiful memories linger. Stepping out of it would mean a reality that hurts. And most of us choose to remain in the past because that is where there is less pain.

Yes, it's true that time heals all wounds, that one day our hearts will heal and when that day comes, we will be able to love again.

Let us always remember that the broken pieces of ourselves are the foundation with which we build a stronger and better us. Many who have loved have experienced pain. Look everywhere. There are people who bear the scars of their failures but they are happy. And when we ask them why, they would tell us that they are happy not because they have failed but because they have moved on and given themselves the chance to find love again.
 
I hope this helps you sis

Just grieve for a months, just let it out all you pain and someday things will turn out well.. Just take it one day at a time...

[Beng01]

Cry alot. Give yourself a month or so to "grieve". After you cry, you will feel better again. Basta if there's a need for you to cry, do it.

[chuvaeklavu]

actually, i look back the reasons kung bakit ko siya hiniwalayan...
and tama talaga na hiwalayan ko siya...

kaya lang ang problem ko ngayon is i break up with him na may mga utang siya sakin... kaya ngayon un ang mas worry ko kesa [textspeak!] breakup namin eh... yes i misses him from time to time pero i know i made the right decision....nahihirapan tuloy ako maningil... 

[chuvaeklavu]

im thinking nga, to pay everything para maka move on na ko...
ito ata talaga ang consequence ng sin... 
pero ang laki pa!!!! huhuhu

[daria]

are you sure you're not me?! iba rin ang similarities natin! broke up with my ex of 3+ years last november, and may utang siyang MALAKI  sa kin. in my case, sisingilin ko talaga siya, hindi pwedeng walang singilan!
might get the help of one of my friends to do that, since i don't want to contact him. di ko pa naman ginagawa kasi nakakahiya din yun on both sides, pero i don't want to deal with him e.
bahala na, dapat lang talaga magbayad siya.

[chuvaeklavu]

sis daria, mas mahirap siyang singilin lalo na ngayong wala na kame....
I always pray day and night but i always ending up imagining great revenge -- sobrang hate ko every time nagiisip ako ng masama...

EX told me that on Jan 15 2011 padating ang papa niya, he will ask his father if they can pay me... so ngayon pinapasa-Diyos ko muna and entrust everything to the Lord.....

[skysenshi]

Hm. Take up a new hobby and also try to see if you can sign up for a few short courses. Kelangan maging sobrang busy ang mind. Minsan kasi women tend to overanalyze while the wound is still fresh. Usually pag medyo nag-seep na ang time, dun pa lang lumilinaw ang lahat...

[chuvaeklavu]

Hi skysenshi, I really would love to try mag scuba dive....
kaya lang natatakot ako kase may mga nakapending na utang...
kaya takot ako gumastos ngayon...

sana God will take away din all my worries with the kautangan...
para makapag spend ako ng money for myself and move on....

hirap sis, lalo na ngayon wala akong makasama kundi [textspeak!] mga friend kong lasengera...ayaw ko na nga ganung stuff eh....

God Help me! huhuhu

[ice_princess]

hi sis! kakagaling ko lang sa break-up from a relationship na 3 years mahirap talaga pag may money concern na.. ang hirap maningil goodluck sa part na yan! pero kung gusto mo talaga maka pag move on.. itago mo na lahat ng mga bagay na pwedeng makapag-paalala sa kanya, hindi healthy sis! mas lalo mong iisipin na sana kami pa... then try mo iengage yung sarili mo sa sports or anything na hindi mo siya maalala. something na malilibang mo yung sarili mo... and acceptance na wala na talaga kayo. try to mingle with your friends. keep yourself busy yun kasi yung mga ginawa ko. pero ayun processing pa din ako sa pag momove on GOOD LUCK SA ATIN!

[xxxloixxx]

I prayed a lot. I started going out with friends (including dating  ). I still date, medyo recently exclusive na haha. Then I plan to open up a business. One of the advantages ng break up for me is I lost weight! Tapos I started mag-ayos ulit and eventually nagkaron ako ulit ng confidence especially when people start to notice.

Advice: keep yourself busy and mag-makeover haha. Tapos never ever look back! 

[chuvaeklavu]

hi sis, sana makalabas labas din ako with friend kaya lang all of them are busy and have na their own family....

i was so shock, before i was 27 sabi ah' bata pa ko marami pa kong gagawin sa relationship ko...
pero ngayong 28 ako parang natakot ako na wala pang direction relationship ko...kaya eto ko ngayon talaga waiting for mr.right.

sana God will give me a second chance para sa business and sa taong magmamahal sakin for lifetime...

[xxxloixxx]

^Be optimistic. Sabi nga sa bible, ask and you shall receive.

[daria]

hi sis, i'll be incoming 31 this year. ikaw 28 ka pa lang. believe me, mas marami pang matatanda satin. i also feel fear in my bones thinking about my age. that was one of the reasons why i was asking my ex if we were to get married. good thing, after 3+ years, nalaman ko rin na ayaw niya pala.
kung mahirapan man tayong sumingil, ok lang. basta makabalik ang pera, and that we move on.
let us heal first, masakit kung masakit. pero wala naman tayo choice but to move on.

[chuvaeklavu]

sis daria, malabo kase after 3yrs naging blinded tayo ng love natin dun sa tao... for sure ikaw na-feel mo na in your 1st yr na may mali...

cos ako feel na feel ko iba [textspeak!] taong kasama ko eh....
grabe sobrang FAKE ng personality niya...naawa na lang ako sa kanya ngayon eh... cos nakikinita kinita ko na his future...

[daria]

you know what's true? i felt that he wasn't the one for me on our first year pa lang. but i thought, how could he not be the one for me, when he was such a devoted boyfriend. so i looked for evidence that he was, i was talking about marriage, etc. but then, God has a different plan for me. I asked if he was the one for me, and He answered that he wasn't.
Lesson learned: we are not in control of our lives. no matter how much we believe that this way is our path, if God/universe thinks that it isn't, He will find a way to make us know that.

[needhelp]

Make urself busy. Try to attend or join any activity that would relax you and at least would make u feel good

[mayalogy]

ako nagretreat magisa. sobrang affected kase ako that time na feeling ko ang hirap magheal ng pain, that was 2 yrs ago. hanggang ngayon i cant find someone na gusto ko talaga magseryoso, though nakikipagdate na ko., its just that ayaw ko pa talaga pumasok sa serious relationship.

[chuvaeklavu]

grabe cecily [textspeak!] experience na 10yrs then break!
parang di ko ma-imagine sarili ko na relationship na ganun katagal.....

actually, kaya ko na to move on... kaya lang may utang na naiwan kase sakin si EX kaya medyo mabigat for me....

Pero sabi sakin ng isang GT na its not worth for another year ng paniningil -- tama siya!

Pinapasa Diyos ko na lang ang lahat ng bagay ngayon... I know naman that God will help me sa laki ng utang niya.... haayyy...

If God allow this things to happen, He will also find a way how to bless me....

[eich]

wow sis cristyles the best comment! 

years and years ago, flirting na lang ako lage..I never had a serious relationship after my messy break up.. i don't want to talk to anyone talaga.. hindi ako nagpaka busy, lage lang ako magisa don't want to socialize either.. hinarap ko talaga yung pain dinama ko lahat ng sakit until it reached the point na wala na ko maramdaman, nung wala na ko naramdaman, I live life to the fullest na ule and regain myself..I'm not saying na magpakalugmok ka..we have different approach kase...

para kang nag club? nung una super saya pagtapos ng music back to reality, you'll cry again...inubos ko muna lahat before ako nag move on