After discovering that he cheated, how did u move on? ok pa kayo or hindi na?

[barcode]

shinies pag kasama nila ko madalas naman green jokes lang, tapos group naman. Pero sa office syempre wala ako, sa kwento nya group din naman magbiruan tapos green jokes. Pero meron din personal pero about naman saken like wag daw kame masyado maingay yung mga ganun lang. Napaisip lang ako kasi bakit may alam si hubby don sa kwento ni girl na pumatol sya before sa may asawa.  Overthinking lang siguro. 

[eimerej5]

I am a widower and have a gf. My GF cheated on me and had an affair last   2016. I love her so much that i have forgiven her. She promised not to do it again.
The worst part is, that what she did still haunts me every now and then. And trust on her  has lessened. Though I continue to love as much as i can, trying to forget what happened, but it keeps coming back.
Sometimes I think of getting even, but I know it won't correct the past.
Hope someone can help me to get over this or help me go through this.

Hello POGI69! Being cheated by our partner is really devastating. It is hard to move on and you are hurting all the time. You really loved her because you had forgiven her but ofcourse the pain is still there. It takes time and acceptance. Getting even is not the key, it will only make matters worst. Trust is the hardest thing to regain and you will always be haunted by the past. You have to help yourself too, accept what happened and start over again. Go enjoy each other's company, travel, be more sweet and loving. Say nice things about each other. Have fun and rekindle the love you had once before all the bad things happened. I hope this helps. Godbless you!

[latte]

Naging ok tapos ngayon I decided  to separate na ulit. I hope huli na to kasi paulit ulit na Lang na hiwalay tapos magiging ok tapos hiwalay na naman. Hindi Lang other woman ang issue, maraming maraming bagay pa.

I don't think there is an enough reason to cheat, ang dami Kong nakita na mga asawang babae na Hindi din naman ginagawa ang mga responsibilidad Nila as a wife pero yung asawa nila faithful pa din. I think nasa cheater talaga ang issue whether a wife or a husband. When a person cheats something is not in alignment with them.

[kirsten10]

^ totoo yan sis. magiging cycle lang. ganyan din ang mahabang kwento ko. nasa last chance status ngayon. as in nilinaw ko sa kanya, na last na talaga kase naubos na pasensya ko sa kanya. sabi ko na lang, kung gusto mo pa makasama mga anak mo umayos ka. kase ako wala ng pakialam. so far, wala pa naman ako nahuhuli. pero kung meron choice na nya yun kase alam naman nya un consequence.

lagi ko pa din sya naaway tungkol sa mga nagawa nya, pero I try to remind myself na hindi dapat life sentence yun sa kanya, na paulit ulit awayin. hayaan na sya patunayan na nagbago daw.

[chinkywinky]

It haunts me. God knows how much I tried and I am still trying just to save this marriage. I can't say that we are ok, but right now we are not fighting over what happened. I told him this will be the last straw that I can pull out for him and this time, I am giving him a favor by staying in this marriage. I never thought that I will be in this kind of situation and this is seriously devastating. What's more disappointing, the other woman is not physically astounding and has 4 kids. Mind you, the other woman is still married when they had the affair. He should have gotten someone who I can be insecure of, for what it's worth. So I was thinking, was I that terrible? I am educated, I know I have the looks (not to brag, but I know I have something to flaunt), I am working and well-compensated yet he did this to me. My husband crushed my world.

Now, I honestly don't know how to move forward. I told him I want a separation. I know he's trying very hard to be a better person, but I have no emotion towards him. I want to start a new life without him in it but part of me says not to let go.

[latte]

^ I also wonder why. My ex husband's long time kabitch is not physically attractive and very much married with two kids. Like nagsasama  pa sila nun asawa Nya and ofcourse nagtatabi sa gabi. And my husband also sleeps with her when he is on vacation here in the phils. I don't understand. Hindi sa pagyayabang I am pretty and Hindi ako slim na slim but Hindi din ako mataba like his kabitch. My gosh when I saw the nude photos of the kabitch sa email ng asawa ko muntik na ko masuka lol!  Patawarin ako ng Diyos pero grabe! Pero area manager sya ng smart communications but still hindi ako nakaramdam ng insecurity. Ang naamdaman ko Lang was ganito pala ang asawa ko?? Parang ewan.

But then on the spiritual side, I know everything happens for a reason. We have to go though all of these for a lesson. Even my ex husband and his kabitch needs to be on that situation to learn a lesson that is uniquely theirs.

[shinies]

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[Girltalker2]

Minsan wala naman talagang reason eh. Talagang Sadyang tarant*do lang talaga yung hubby. Minsan ok siguro nung kinasal, puedeng nagbago din at naging *sshole.

Ibang usapan kasi if he tried to make your marriage work or talked to you several times about not being happy and telling you he is giving up... tsaka sya naghanap ng iba. Iba din yung kasal pa kayo at wala kang kaalam alam eh may kabit at gf na sya. The later is 100% jerk *sshole and t*rantado

[kim28]

Unang year ang pinakamahirap sa separation due to infidelity ups and down and super super down.

Basta hindi magwork ang marriage nyo pag isa lang ang may gusto na maayos. Been there done many stupid things last year para lang sa inaakala mo na kailangan at pinagpipilitan na maayos pa.  Kung hihingi lang ng sorry at patuloy naman sa kabitch stop na.  Let go ayan ah let go hayaan nyo na sya minsan need natin maranasan at dumaan sa matinding problem to know na may God na sya ang pupuno sa love and peace na hindi kayang ibigay sa atin ng husband natin.

Mas mahalaga na may peace of mind ka araw araw masarap matulog na alam mong wala kang tinatapakan o ginawan ng masama.  Sa mga kabitch at mga asawa natin na nangapitbahay o nalunod sa mainit na sabaw hahahah hindi rin yan matatahimik. 

Time yan ang bestfriend natin kasi darating din ang panahon na magiging ok ka yung sakit na nararamdaman mo ngayon lilipas yan promise.  Iiyak lang ng iiyak mararamdaman mo habang tumatagal ang panahon gumagaan na pakiramdam mo at yung sakit nawawala na.  Now, sila parin ni kabitch pero dedma na ako alam kong nagsasama na sila pero wala na akong pakialam.  Mas pinili ko na maging masaya kapiling ng baby ko. 

Maraming maraming maraming prayer yan ang need para maka move forward and choose peace

[chinkywinky]

^ I also wonder why. My ex husband's long time kabitch is not physically attractive and very much married with two kids. Like nagsasama  pa sila nun asawa Nya and ofcourse nagtatabi sa gabi. And my husband also sleeps with her when he is on vacation here in the phils. I don't understand. Hindi sa pagyayabang I am pretty and Hindi ako slim na slim but Hindi din ako mataba like his kabitch. My gosh when I saw the nude photos of the kabitch sa email ng asawa ko muntik na ko masuka lol!  Patawarin ako ng Diyos pero grabe! Pero area manager sya ng smart communications but still hindi ako nakaramdam ng insecurity. Ang naamdaman ko Lang was ganito pala ang asawa ko?? Parang ewan.

But then on the spiritual side, I know everything happens for a reason. We have to go though all of these for a lesson. Even my ex husband and his kabitch needs to be on that situation to learn a lesson that is uniquely theirs.

Nung nakita ko yung girl sa picture, umakyat talaga dugo ko sa ulo. I told my husband, "Seriously?! Pinatulan mo 'to talaga?!  Insulto yan sa akin big time." He told me it's just a short time affair, they didn't even had sex. The woman was having a rough time with his husband and my husband was there to comfort her. But still, he cheated on me and that's the ugly truth. Nakausap ko yung other woman, she told me my husband was her light during those times and gave her positive outlook. I told her, babae siya. Nasa kanya yung control. Kahit anong paramdam ng lalake sa kanya kung ayaw nya, hindi nya papatulan. At pareho silang may asawa. Sabi ko if there's one person to blame, siya yon.

Nakakatulong din yung mga homilies sa church for us to cope up with this. Last Sunday, it was about temptations and forgiveness, that we are humans vulnerable to temptations. The past Sundays, nasunog yung asawa ko sa homilies dahil sapul sya lagi. Sinisiko ko talaga sya to listen dahil nagkukunwari syang tulog. I told him lagi kasi syang tulug-tulogan kaya 'di nya naaabsorb yung mga aral sa simbahan.

[latte]

^atleast walang nangyari sa kanila. Sa tingin ko may dignidad pa din ang asawa mo. Yes maraming temptations pero if sure tayo sa Kung ano ang mahalaga sa buhay natin kahit ano pa ang lumapit na tukso kayang labanan.

Iba iba ang stand ng tao, marami na Kong narinig na story ng mga asawang babae na dahil Hindi sila masaya sa marriage Nila naaattract sila sa ibang lalake which most of the time eh married din. Para sa akin even before nun Hindi ko pa nadidiskubre ang mga babae ng asawa ko my stand was if di masaya at wala na talagang lunas then makipaghiwalay na Lang saka makipag relasyon sa iba. That way mas malinaw ang sitwasyon. What is the use of staying married Kung parehas naman kayo May iba ibang kabit. We are not here to please other people, we have to love ourself first.

[dion0819]

Nakakapagod magbigay ng 2nd chance lalo na kung di naman pinapahalgahan ng partner. Ang sakit pero kailangan na nga sigurong bumitaw lalo na kung ikaw lang mag-isa ang lumalaban. Kahit mahirap dapat kayanin para kay baby.

I hope na maging okay din ako soon. 

[kvandenhaak]

^2nd chance lang, sister para hindi ka mapagod. Sa third, wag na. Unless you want to part of the statistics na mga Gtalkers na magulo ang buhay.

[dion0819]

Di ko matatanggi na mahal ko pa rin siya almost 7 years kami pero ang hirap tanggapin na ganun katagal niya din pala kong niloloko....I gave him a 2nd chance pero sinayang niya di pa rin siya tumigil...naaawa ako sa baby namin kasi di siya lalaki na kumpleto kami pero di ko na kayang pakisamahan pa asawa ko   

[Girltalker2]

^ di ba mas Kawawa si baby if makalakihan nya ang panloloko at pagcheat ng tatay ng tatay nya.
You both are better off away from a cheater/liar.

[mysterioza_me]

Kung wala ka ng peace of mind at sapalagay mo hindi ka na magkakaroon ng peace of mind habang nagsasama kayo hiwalayan mo na lang. Hindi nakakaawa ang baby na walang ama, mas nakakaawa yung makalakihan ni baby na miserable ang sitwasyon ninyo dahil sa ama niya.

[Girltalker2]

^ in fact if wala kang peace of mind, you won't be able to sleep well, laging stressed. Before you know it, it could take a toll on your health. Mas lalong kawawa ang kids Pag Hindi mo sya maalagaan mabuti.

[Ann_2128]

I recently found out that my husband cheated on me. By accident lang, biglang nag pop out yung messenger nya while I'm reading a post from his facebook na pinabasa nya sa akin. I just asked him, sino yun..nagalit sya sa akin at inagaw ang phone nya..So my instinct revealed it to me.. I asked him again and he admitted who the girl is.
My husband and I has been married for 15 years. we have two kids. Never kaming nag away ng malala.. if iisipin ko nga petty quarrels lang yun na madali lang naming nareresolve.

But recently, napansin ko napaKAseloso nya..lagi syang text nang text sa akin..at laging pinagdududahan na nanlalaki ako...One time sinagot ko sya, siguro ikaw ang may babae at binabato mo lang sa aking ang lahat ng yan, para di ako magduda sa yo..Di sya kumibo..

Pero my instinct is telling me that something wrong is going on, pero binalewala ko..hanggang dumating nga yung big revelation. I'm not a confrontational person..I'm not a nagger.. t**** siguro.. when I asked him why?  sabi nya kasalanan ko daw. So I asked him again, anong kasalanan ko? I want to know.. he walked out the door..

When he came back that night..he just say sorry, kinausap na daw nya yung babae..wala na sila..ganun lang kadali?  Ako daw talaga ang mahal nya..natukso lang sya.. maniniwala ba ako?

Right now, di ko alam kung ano ang dapat kong gawin, ni di ko nga alam kung ano ang feeling ko ngayon.. di maprcocess ng isip ko o ng damdamin ko yung nangyari.. di ko alam na pwedeng mangyari ito sa akin..

wala akong pinagsasabihan ng pinagdadaanan ko.. natatakot akong mahusgahan ng tao...

sa ngayon, pina uwi ko muna sya sa parents nya, para makahiga ako .. clueless ang mga anak ko pati ang parents ko..

pero parang sasabog ang didbdib ko.. ang dami kong gustong malaman, pero dapat ko pa ngang malaman ang lahat? naguguluhan ako..

please help

[latte]

^I understand how you feel dahil napagdaanan ko din yan. Una sa lahat Hindi mo kasalanan, yung asawa mo ang hindi naka allign.

For now, hayaan mo Lang muna if you feel like you want to cry umiyak ka lang and let it all out. Wag ka munang mag isip Kung Ano ang dapat mong gawain. At the height of emotions it is not good to make a decision. Darating din yun araw na Kaya mo ng harapin Kung anuman ang nangyari. Sa ngayon give yourself time to process what has happened. Believe that whatever it is that you are going through will pass, dahil lahat ng bagay sa mundo maganda man o pangit eh lumilipas lahat. There is always a lesson after every heartbreak.


Pray, pray, and pray. Sa Diyos ka kumuha ng lakas na kailangan mo.

[Ann_2128]

We talked about it and promised that he'll never do it again. Pero di ako mapakali something is not yet right I still feel that he's still hiding from me. Kahapon pinakialaman ko ang messenger nya, nakita ko ang sweet conversation nila ng girl. To think na that same night nag sorry sa akin ang husband ko at matagal na daw silang break ng girl. Mababaliw ako sa nabasa ko, I never comfronted him about it. I just ask him kung may sasabihin pa sya. Nasabi na daw nya lahat. I even ask the name of the girl. Ibang name ang binigay nya. Muntik na kung mapamura. Gusto ba nya talaga na magkaayos kami? Do I need to tell him my discovery? Or wag na. Gulong gulo talaga ako...