Author Topic: After discovering that he cheated, how did u move on? ok pa kayo or hindi na?  (Read 182373 times)

Girltalker2

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^ minsan kasi nasa harap mo na ang sign, di mo lang gusto pansinin.

Hindi pa ba enough yung sign na nahuli mo sya ng ilang beses? Di pa ba sapat yung sign na hindi man lang sya magpropose? Di pa ba sapat na nag aalala ka sa papasukin mong buhay?


kim28

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^sis if di pa kayo kasal think 100x ok


stylus

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Sis alexmack, baka sabihin ni Lord "binigyan na kita  ng sign 3 times. Kulang pa ba yon?"

But seriously, ikaw ang mas nakakakilala sa fiance mo. At sa sarili mo. If you will choose to forgive him. Forgive him 100%. Pero kung mabubuhay ka na palaging may pagdududa.. hindi masaya yun sis.

Girltalker2

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^ it is hard to move on kasi you cannot impose trust. Either lokohin mo sarili mo or knowing the truth, hubby should show you that he is truly sorry and mag effort so have your trust. Nakaka inis Yung sila na nanloko, sila pa may gana magalit.




Everyday is a struggle, every single day.. I never felt he was sorry for what he did.. Yes, he said sorry but i'm expecting more from him. 


Tingin ko sis Bata ka pa siguro, in your 30s or 20s. Tanong ko lang, are you willing to live for the rest of your 50 years like this?





Do you still trust him after that? what did you do to bring the trust  back? - I am trying to trust him.  I am struggling to bring that trust back.

The ball is in his court. Wala sayo. Kahit anong cirko mo if di sya mag effort, you will never see the end of this misery.



I'm against myself.  When I found out about the affair, I wanted to leave him, but I can't kasi mahal ko sya and I can't afford to give my son a broken family.


Kung mahal mo sya, you will let him go where he can be happy.

It is not you who gave your son a broken family. It was your husband. Sya ang sumira sa relasyon ninyong mag asawa.

As it is, superficial lang na buo kayo. The truth is, broken parin ang relationship nyo.


Until now, I still don't know what to do.  Baka I need time mag isa to think kung ano ba talaga ang mas mkakabubuti para samin ng anak ko.

Pray and ask for His guidance. Eventually you will know what to do.

Take care

Wifey19

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I'm still on the recovery period.
Its too fresh and still painful.
Its just 3weeks so still working to move on from cheating of my husband

zanabee

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still hurting, confused at gustong maghiganti!

kim28

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Na accept ko na na wala ng kami at higit sa lahat mas importante ang baby ko now.

Sa una akala ko hindi ko kakayanin ang NC pero habang tumatagal marami akong narealize sa buhay ko.  Hindi kawalan ang ganung klaseng lalaki.  Mag 6 months na and thankful ako sa friends ko at family ko na laging nandyan sa tabi ko.

Girltalker2

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^^ understandable na magalit ka, but always love yourself. Don't destroy yourself or your future in the process. Otherwise di na worth mag stay sa relationship if puro galit lagi ang nararamdaman mo.


Sa una akala ko hindi ko kakayanin ang NC pero habang tumatagal marami akong narealize sa buhay ko.  Hindi kawalan ang ganung klaseng lalaki. 

Yes indeed. Lagi ko din sinasabi sa friends ko, sa una lang malungkot. Kasi akala mo di mo kaya nang wala sya. Then after a while, Ma realize mo na sobrang peaceful and di hamak mas masaya ang buhay kapag walang worries at wala kang inaaalala atbinabantayan.
« Last Edit: June 04, 2016, 10:07:31 pm by Girltalker2 »

Wifey19

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Sobrang fresh pa ang mga nangyari, its been 3weeks right after election when the confrontation has made...ayaw pa akong kausapin ng kabit...at ang tapang ha....kakausapin lang daw nya ako kung isasama ko ang asawa ko..ang tibay diba?
She don't see any reason para mag usap pa kami...ang sagot ko, I don't see any reason para hindi mo ako kausapin...
Halos gumuho mundo ko noon....I just thought tapos na sila...my husband made me believe na wala na sila..kaya pala hindi nawawala mga pagdududa ko....so dun nagsisimula ang argue naming hanggang sa everytime pala na nagkakaron kami ng away mag asawa, si girl andyan to the rescue, hanggang sa they build the emotions and eventually the secret affair....
Halos mag hysterical ako at sobra akong nanggigil sa babae....hindi sapat yung sampal ko sa kanya....pero nangyare na e...
I feel disrespected. As a wife, nothing could be painful to betrayed by your husband.... The pain was immeasurable.

kim28

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I feel disrespected. As a wife, nothing could be painful to betrayed by your husband.... The pain was immeasurable.


Relate ako dito sis isa na to sa pinakamasakit at pinakamahirap na nangyari sa buhay ko.  Muntik na ako magpakamatay buti na lang my pamangkin na 3 yo narining ako.

Lahat tayo gusto natin ng complete family, masayang family at naniniwala sa till death do us part.  Tayo lang pala yun 😔 Yung mga asawa natin hindi. Cheating is a choice sabi nga ng isang sis natin dito sa GT na hindi life sentence ang marriage.  If nagawa mo na lahat para maayos ang lahat katulad ko na umabot na sa pagiging tang** at inabuso na tama na. Darating din ang time na ikaw na mismo ang susuko at magigising.  Gusto mo ba spend ang buong buhay mo sa ganung klaseng lalaki.  Buong buhay mo hindi bale na lang.  Ok na masabihan na separada at single parent pero masaya kaysa buo ang pamilya ko pero ayun nambababae asawa ko at araw araw hell ang buhay ko.

Need natin tulungan sarili natin unti unti hindi naman madali mag move on.  Mas mag focus tayo kung ano meron tayo like family, friends and anak natin. 

Ako 7 yrs bf/gf at 4 yrs married  and now pregnant with our first baby pero pinili pa rin ng asawa ko ang kabit nya.   Masyadong maikli buhay para masayang lang sa pag iyak at pag iisip ng bakit? Ano ginawa ko? May pagkukulang ba ako? 

Pray and ask God to reveal bakit nangyayari sa atin to.  Sure na may reason lahat ito hindi man ngayon natin malaman but in the near future. 


Girltalker2

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^^ sis wifey19, I think you're barking up the wrong tree. Yung asawa mo ang may sala at sya ang puede mo pagsabihan.

No point in talking to the Mistress kasi ma high blood ka lang and wala syang obligation makipag usap sayo. The fact that they're mistresses, sadyang matatapang sila at kaya ng apog nila gawin mangabit, so ano ba naman iyang makipag away sa asawa?

Wala din naman kayo Ma achieve sa pag uusap, mag aaway lang kayo. Ang culprit eh Yung asawa mo - dapat tigilan Na nya ang kalandian nya or Kung gusto pa mag buhay binata, eh di mag sarili sya.

As a wife, nothing could be painful to betrayed by your husband.... The pain was immeasurable.

Yes, and what's worse is it lingers forever. Lalo pa kung hayop napangasawa mo, lifetime of pain, misery na walang pinagkaiba sa impyerno.



Ako 7 yrs bf/gf at 4 yrs married  and now pregnant with our first baby pero pinili pa rin ng asawa ko ang kabit nya.   Masyadong maikli buhay para masayang lang sa pag iyak at pag iisip ng bakit? Ano ginawa ko? May pagkukulang ba ako? 

Pray and ask God to reveal bakit nangyayari sa atin to.  Sure na may reason lahat ito hindi man ngayon natin malaman but in the near future.

Sis God bless you and your baby. Mas marami pang blessings na darating, after going through the trauma. Ako din di Ko akalain na magiging masaya ako ulit. Sunod Sunod na blessings binigay ni Lord after the storm. I had my share of 10 yrs married and 10 years BF/gf. Sucks back then. But it made me who I am now. Just following God's plans for us. Life is full of mystery talaga and bottomline, always trust in God that He continues to guide us to make the right choices.
« Last Edit: June 04, 2016, 10:23:28 pm by Girltalker2 »

Purple10

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Mga sis ask ki o lang, what will you do or how will you react if you found out that your partner had a one night stand with an OJT sa work nya or how about to a prostitue? Need you inputs pleaseeeee..

lenjeearroyo24

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hindi. ayaw naman niya aminin that he cheated on me.that is why it easy for me to move on

Girltalker2

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Mga sis ask ki o lang, what will you do or how will you react if you found out that your partner had a one night stand with an OJT sa work nya or how about to a prostitue? Need you inputs pleaseeeee..

Syempre hindi ok. It just shows that he is not yet ready for a serious relationship. Magpa mature muna sya bago ka ulit mag commit. He is not worth your time, sleeping around. Baka May sakit na iyan, mahawahan ka pa.

Purple10

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what if asawa mo na?

shinies

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Mga sis ask ki o lang, what will you do or how will you react if you found out that your partner had a one night stand with an OJT sa work nya or how about to a prostitue? Need you inputs pleaseeeee..

Kadiri :-X

snowkeis

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@Purple10 : what if asawa ko na gumawa nyan. If sa prostitute papa test ko sya baka mamaya mahawaan pa nya ko. Hindi ko alam kung kaya ko pa magtiwala ulit. If sa co-worker naman pag resign ko sya sa job nya kase pwedeng maulit ng maulit ang ginawa nila. Sakit nyan kaya naku hindi ko alam kung ano pang pwede ko magawa hahaha.

Girltalker2

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what if asawa mo na?

Dati siguro if I was younger, I wouldn't know what to do rin. But now I'm older and wiser, I would leave the marriage. Kahit pa may anak kami. At i-highlight ko lang na sya sumira ng pagsasama namin, hindi ako. Inayos ko lang.

If sa co-worker naman pag resign ko sya sa job nya kase pwedeng maulit ng maulit ang ginawa nila.

Sometimes problema kahit pa ipag resign mo pa, kung talagang malandi, kahit san office pa iyan, magkakaron at magkakaron ng kabit.
« Last Edit: July 11, 2016, 08:45:33 pm by Girltalker2 »

shinies

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Korek!

Kahit naman asawa mo na eh di na mawawala yung katotohanan na manloloko siya. Kahit may anak pa kayo.

At totoo, hindi yung kumpanya na pinagttrabahuhan ang problema kung di ang asawa.

Inaayos lang ang marriage kung pareho ay gagalaw at makikita na nagsisi yun nagkamali. Pero yung ganyan na nakikipag-one night stand sa kung sino sino, ano pa dapat ayusin? Di naman magbabago yan.

Saka paano niyo makakayanan makipagsex pa kung alam niyo naman na nakikipagsex sa iba? Kahit ipatest pa yan. Nakakadiri talaga!

hotbabe925

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Sa panahon ngayon, sa dami ng paraan magcommunicate kahit hinde na sila magkasama sa opisina makakapagusap at makakahanap yan ng oras para magkita at sumaglit ng quality time.

 

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