i confirmed my hubby's illicit affair 5 months after ko sya pinalayas. pinalayas ko sya the night i saw him with another girl kaso lang hindi ako sure kung sila ba talaga at that time kasi the girl he was with was the girlfriend of his bestfriend. pero 1 week before that night, hindi na sya umuuwi sa oras sa amin. he comes home at 3am, 5am and well rested na. then leaves for work at 9am. whenever i text him i love him, he doesnt reply anymore kaya i decided it was unhealthy for me and my then 2 1/2 yr old daughter that he treat us that way kasi naiinis ako sa kanya and affected din si daughter kasi nga moody na ako. when i packed his stuff and sent them to his mom's house, 2 days after, he packed again and left without telling his family where he was staying. then sa ka tangahan niya, 5 months after kinuha yung car na ginagamit ko at pinalitan nya with the car he was using. then na iwan nya receipt inside with his current address. even at that time, wala talaga akong alam whether he was staying with another girl na or on his own na. as God's way of letting me know the truth, ayun, nagpasama mom in law ko para kumustahin anak nya since only son sya, and favorite pa ng mom nya. when we got his place, yung kabit ang sumalubong. hindi pa namin inakala na sya na pala ang kabit kasi staff house daw yun ng company where he is working. todo lie ni girl na wala daw si hubby dun that time, umalis daw etc. pero nakita ko cellphone sa sala so i said "ma, hindi yan umalis. basahin nalang natin phone nya baka mai malaman pa tayo". at dun namin nalaman na yung kausapa na pala namin ang kabit nya. umakyat na yung girl sa room at tinawag si hubby. hindi naman ako nag wild nor caused any scene there. nag usap kami tatlo ni hubby and his mom sa dining table nila. iyak ng iyak mom nya habang ako naka upo lang. feeling ko naman kasi, si hubby pa rin ang lugi kung tutuusin kasi i have our adorable daughter with me who keeps me happy and knowing ive done nothing wrong, i sleep well at night. after we left his house, i didn't even text him or what. sya ang nag communicate and all pero i kept my cool. just 3 months ago, he started saying he's sorry and all. pero hindi pa rin ako nagpa dala sa emotions ko. after all i've been through, hindi yata ganun ka dali yun lahat. i just told him, if you're really sorry, you'd leave that girl and come home to your mom's place. to think, wala akong trabaho kasi ayaw nya ako ipa work. sya lang taga provide sa amin. pero when he left, i immediately got a job para lang meron kami pang everyday ni baby na pang gastos. then eventually i put up my own eatery with my friend which kept me busy and my sanity intact. i focused all my attention to my daughter and business while trying to figure out what to do for our future. until now, hindi pa rin nya iniiwan kabit nya and he tries to communicate once in awhile pero ignore ko na talaga kasi wala naman siyang mabuting nadudulot sa amin. puro lang disappointments. to think ok na sana kami 3 sa new zealand nung 2009 pero hindi nya nagustuhan dun kaya we decided to come home and i gave up evrything there. pero now, i'm working on my papers again para makabalik hopefully next year with my daughter. mahirap isipin ang magiging set up namin 2 dun pero im sure makakaya ko if it's the only way na magkaka peace of mind ako. hindi na ako nagpa support sa daughter namin para hindi na rin cya mag visit sa kanya and hindi ako mag hope na magka balikan. kung sino pang kabit, siya pang malakas ang loob mangaway sa amin mag ina... i don't want to stoop down sa level nilang dalawa kaya hindi ko pinapatulan. i just want to rise from all these and live peacefully with my daughter. through prayers talaga, nabibigyan ako ng lakaw ng loob. excited nga ako mag christmas kami lang 2 ng anak ko. and i can't imagine life with ex-hubby now because of all the pain, betrayal and deceit he has done. i still love him naman kasi happy din memories namin sa 10 yrs kaming mag asawa pero love is simply not enough for me to take him back. i don't want to relive each day the pain he caused if i would take him back kaya i'd rather be without him and be happy.