INFIDELITY does not only happen when your spouse shows interest - or actually follows through on that interest - in someone other than you, the rightful spouse. Other acts of infidelity to one's spouse are:
- taking one's spouse for granted
- failing to keep promises to one's spouse
- belittling one's spouse
- use of internet pornography
- alcohol or drug abuse
- other addictions
- gambling
- putting the children first, that results to one's spouse not being the priority anymore
- work-a-holism, that results to one's spouse not being the priority anymore
- volunteerism, that results to one's spouse not being the priority anymore
- putting parents first
etc.
How do you move on after an infidelity? How do you mend your marriage?
I found this very enlgihtening article from MAYO CLINIC that you might want to read:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/infidelity/MH00110The article says you could also consider counseling, but understandably many of us adults do not really want to be told that we were the one who made the mistake or that we were wrong, nor do we want to be told what we should do. If you don't think counseling will work for you, you might try doing what my husband and I did: we did the RETROUVAILLE Program,
While doing the program, no one told us what we should do. We only heard those team couples talk about their lives, their realizations, what they opted to do, and how they continue to work at improving their marriage and love relationship. Siyempre nainggit kami sa mga puede palang makamit if we work at improving our marriage and love relationship, kaya we agreed to embrace all the concepts, tools and techniques we learned about in the program and try to work them in our lives. At siyempre rin, nahirapan kami pareho to make changes in our own selves, after all ingrained habits can be difficult to unlearn. But, for the sake of improving our marriage and love relationship, up to now we each and every day make our respective positive decisions to make positive changes in our own selves.
And all I can say now is salamat na lang na we had arrived at a mutual agreement to do the program, and to work what we learned into our daily life. Wala na kami sa hellhole where we used to be. At masaya na ang mga mata ko ngayon pag ngumiti ako. Hindi kagaya noon when nakangiti nga ako, pero malungkot ang mga mata ko.
Mommy Fe
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