Wives, can you be SUBMISSIVE to your husbands ba talaga?

[feisty_angel4]

Not so. My husband just thinks that I am submissive just because I follow his decisions but he doesn't know that my subtle suggestions and ideas leads him to make MY decisions his. ^^

[suikorayne]

yes... biblical po kc na wives should submit to their husbands. for me and my husband, it works...

[cassiopeia]

yes... biblical po kc na wives should submit to their husbands. for me and my husband, it works...

im with you sis!

[aquacharly]

How tiring. 

That Marriage is regarded as  just another power play, like any relationship be it fleeting, or long-term.

How great it would be if couples contemplating a comitted relationship can be BOINK-ed!  into realizing that positive communication, kindness and good humor are the keys to long-term harmonious relationships.

[ishi90210]

Not so. My husband just thinks that I am submissive just because I follow his decisions but he doesn't know that my subtle suggestions and ideas leads him to make MY decisions his. ^^

haha! ganyan din ako. ewan ko ba. si hubby kasi medyo mataas ang pride. kina-career nya talaga yun pagiging head of the family kaso minsan nangingibabaw yun pagiging procrastinator nya so ayun minsan puro plano lang pero walang nangyayari. so gagawin ko lang konting lambing tapos konting suggestion dito, konting ideas dyan and voila! meron na syang plan of action (parang political advisor )

di ko naman matawag na submissive ako kasi ako yun tipong pag ayaw, ayaw talaga e. so dun papasok yun pag-compromise. minsan kung maliit na bagay lang naman, hinahayaan ko na lang sya.

[electricpink17]

our marriage is about compromise love respect communication etc. i don't feel i have to be submissive kasi we both agree kung alin ang tama for our family/marriage.

[cloudy]

In every way, wife  must be submissive to your husband, and give him respect all the time,,, in return you will receive the love from him... because he feels you support and  feel love when he receive respect from you....

there are exceptional of course ,  if he ask you to do bad... syempre hindi na submit dapat. 

[cher03]

Yes. Being submissive naman doesn't mean na hindi ka na mag voice out ng opinion mo or wala ka ng part pagdating sa decision making. Kami ni hubby, we make it a point na pag-uusapan muna namin bago kami mag decide sa mga bagay bagay. Wives must be submissive to their husbands while husbands must love their wives as they love themselves.

[artegirl]

yes, if I want something badly.  I always tell my husband that I will be the most obedient and most docile wife if only he will give me what I want

[mbeeyap]

we can be submissive if we really want to. pero iba na ngayon. dapat laging may "say" si wife sa mga decision-making affecting the family.

may nabasa akong quote noon:

                           

A happy wife is a happy life!

.. i think may point naman ang quote na 'to. 

[hairt mini]

Hubby and I discussed this submission thingy as part of our marriage prep course before our wedding. Na-clarify naman between the both of us that submission is not the same as martyrdom, as what sis k00lit said, and should be a natural response to love.

So ang nangyayari, hubby has the general leadership sa amin. that means for big issues, we discuss, compromise, pero he gives the general and final direction... and i'm going to support that. pag may further issues na nag-arise, pag-usapan na naman ulit. he appreciates that. Actually, dahil we both recognize his role as the head of the family, pinagbinigyan na nya ako sa mga maliliit na bagay. eh sa marriage namin, andami maliiit na bagay hehe. and bec. secured sya, it becomes his joy to say yes to what will make me happy.

Same "set-up" tayo sis. Ganyan din sa amin ni hubby, sa kanya ang final decision for big issues pero we have to discuss it first and sa mga small things eh ako na bahala dun

Before marriage sabi ko sa kanya I'll submit my self to him but it doesn't mean na bow lang ako ng bow sa kanya and ok naman kami sa ganitong set-up

[kathon]

Kmi naman sis equal lang palagi. Pero syempre i let him decide After ko sabihin yung opinion ko. Minsan naman sya din yung nagiging submissive lalo na pag di sya familiar sa mga bagay like sa house decors etc. It's more on open communication sa aming dalawa.

[rianne_mallows]

hubby and i submit to each other.. kasi we respect each others strengths and knowledge.. we discuss things before deciding on any major stuff.. the key is listening to each other..

usually, if its in his forte (business, financial, etc) he has the final say.. but if its within mine, (baby stuff, home management, etc) ako ang may final say..

[coffeeflava]

i wish, one of the hardest to do..

[gnrn_026]

it depends, kung worth it.. why not..

[jennyg]

at some point you have to. But sis not all the time of course. :-)

[pressany]

I can be submissive but I CHOOSE not to be!  Compromise is better than submission!

[darkchild]

Not so. My husband just thinks that I am submissive just because I follow his decisions but he doesn't know that my subtle suggestions and ideas leads him to make MY decisions his. ^^

lup-het mo sis a....  taray nun.... hehe....

ako, submissive ako.. sabi din sa bible kasi regalo daw sa isang lalaki ang isang mabuting asawa... hehe.... so nagpapakabuti ako....

kidding aside, i leave most of the decision making to my husband. call me old=fashioned pero i believe that mas nararapat masunod ang nagsusuot ng pantalon sa isang relasyon, which is the husband nga. pero salamat naman sa diyos, i have a very respectful and responsible husband. aware sya sa respeto at tiwalang meron ako for him pero he never takes advantage. palagi nya din hinihingi ang opinyon ko about things. we talk pero ang endng nga i leave the decision making to him. kahit nung bf ko pa lang siya ganun na kami. 9 years ko sya bf wala naman kami naging problema sa bagay na yan. hopefully sa buhay namin ngayon as mag asawa na, wala pa din maging problema sa ganung sistema.

[rjaye_2000]

i like this hehe. hubby and i just got married and i'm thinking how can i be submissive to him. sa totoo lang kasi medyo strong ang personality ko and i'm the type na kapag ayaw ko talaga di ako mapipilit.

siguro nasa adjusting period pa ako kaya medyo hirap akong gawin to. pero since i love my husband i will try my best to become a submissive wife. 

[babaengmahiwaga]

yes... biblical po kc na wives should submit to their husbands. for me and my husband, it works...

Same here.  Sometimes lang, I tend to insist my ways, but I try very hard to let him be the final say.  Thankfully, he is a very understanding guy.