Is it true ? Shaky years of a relationship are 2-4-8

[sarsingkit]

i cant tell because i stopped counting 

[chocolate]

I am leaning towards the idea ng 7 years. Marami kasi sa friends ko and saken din nangyari na the 7th year was the toughest.

But on the other hand, if you think about it... wala naman sa numbers yan...  trials will come and go anytime and you just have to be prepared for it.

[shalikah]

I've read an article about 7 years changes...

According to the article, biologically nag-change yun cells natin every 7 yrs and so does our personality...

Eto a good read: http://dreamhawk.com/body-and-mind/every-seven-years-you-change/

[chocolate]

thanks for sharing.

[fruityp0p]

I cant believe Im posting on this thread
It would have been our 8th year together this coming May.
We broke up yesterday.
So, yeah, my answer is YES.

[prettychestnut]

^ why sis? sa tagal na yan, naudlot na?

[fruityp0p]

Yup sis. I found out na nakikipagkita pa rin siya sa ex niya. Sad right? I still can't believe it's over between us. Officially, after almost 8 years, I'm SINGLE again. I almost forgot how it feels.

[sakura_bloom]

Yup sis. I found out na nakikipagkita pa rin siya sa ex niya. Sad right? I still can't believe it's over between us. Officially, after almost 8 years, I'm SINGLE again. I almost forgot how it feels.

^I wish you all the best sis. Keep strong. So sad to know na may "expiration" ang relationships.. kahit you have already invested to much.. so sad..

[prettychestnut]

oo nga sis. be strong sis. mahalin mo sarili mo.

ako nga kakabreak lang namin last week.

we've gone for more than 5 yrs na. tapos tinapon nya lang ako.

sad diba

[fruityp0p]

^^thanks sis. I hope its not like that for everybody. That would be really sad no?

Ako naman I gave him everything I could ever give and more pero hindi pa yata enough yun.

^thanks sis. Sad no? Parang up to now in denial pa rin ako.

Hindi ko akalaing wala na talaga kami. Pareho kasi naming mahal na mahal ang isat-isa. It happened so fast. I broke up with him and he just accepted it. He didnt call na.

[fruityp0p]

mga sis, we got back together. I couldnt stop myself. I called him and we talked. He promised that nothing happened between him and the girl (the girl was always there kasi whenever there's a family reunion, the last was about late 2009) and I believe him. I know I may look like an overreacting GF, but the point is kahit kailan pa yun, hindi niya pa rin sinabi sa akin, dun ako nasaktan eh. Based din naman sa mga nakalap kong evidence (oh db?) yung most recent na punta ng girl is 2009 pa nga. He told me na kaya daw he didnt call kasi he got tired explaining eh hindi naman daw ako nakikinig at ayaw ko daw siya pakinggan which I realized na tama nga siya hindi ko man lang pinakinggan ang side niya basta iyak na lang ako iyak at inaaway ko siya. He doesnt blame me naman daw for my outburst, he totally understand and for him daw we never broke up so ayun tuloy ang ligaya

I think for me, it could be anytime na pwede matest ang relationship ninyo, ang mahalaga is you keep on fighting and believing in each other. I realized that he really is worth fighting for so I'm gonna do whatever it takes for us to be together.

thank you mga sis for listening
Im gonna sleep happy tonight

[klengmorales]

Sakit 2 - 3.5 and 7years. kaya maraming nagpapakasal ng 8th year eh . at 7th year kami naghiwalay

[devilish_einjel]

kami naman 3 years and 3 months kami nung nag break kami.. and 3 months na din kaming break ngayon (LOL puro 3? hehe) pero we're patching up things again.. sana "LOVE is sweeter the 2nd time around para sa amin"

[najine]

In my case, not true... we broke up after 6yrs and 5 mos..went back after 5mos but things are not the way it used to be..though we're trying to fix everything. It made me realize that sometimes love aint enough..lalo at my asungot na umaaligid aligid.

[Maldita AKO]

for me, 3months, 8months and 2years

3Months: andun ako sa stage na "will i continue my relationship with this person or wag na lang".  yung ex ko, naghiwalay pa kami for almost 1 month and then after that naging kami uli.

8Months: "shaky months of a relationship" ko to.  Eto ang months na kinakatakutan kong dumating samin ng naging bf ko/bf ko. Eto yung stage na parang gigive-up na ko (but i'm glad na yung bf ko ngayon e ok ang relationship namin).  Yung iba nalalagpasan namin yun shaky month na to, yung iba hindi na talaga.

2Years: Ang alam ko dapat 1year ang maging shaky years, pero hindi pala..1month na lang 2years na kami pero naghiwalay din kami pero ok lang kundi dahil sa kanya di ko magiging bf ang bf ko ngayon..

happy ako ngayon kasi hindi ko narasanan yung mga narasanan ko before pagumaabot na kami sa 8months..and sana maging ok talaga yung relationship namin

[stacies83221]

weird that we had problems during our 4th year and we broke up. then nagkabalikan after 6 months then nag break uli on the 5th year. But then got OK again. We´ll be tog in 7 years na and does it mean na it´ll turn bad again next year? But i don't believe in it kasi some people want to use patterns as an excuse or something to blame for their misfortunes. There´s always a reason behind every issue/ happening.

[muahmuahmuah]

ang alam ko it's 1-3-7 it's not really a designed fact na shaky year but per theory that's the benchmark for growth as you go through the phases of coupledom better yet to take it as a milestone and celebrate in matching shirts with the words 'Yay! We survived our 1st ( or 5th or 7th) !"

[rheinfall18]

2nd year na namin ngayon ni bf, mas marami arguments compared sa 1st year ng relationship namin.

[Paperless]

we broke up after more than 7 years of being together. they say na kapag lumagpas kayo ng 7 years then okay na kayo... pero siguro case to case basis din walang pattern. kami kasi lumagpas pero nagbreak din. he was asking for another 2 years. if pumayag ako, kami parin kaso i believe na i have given him enough time to consider things. masyado ng matagal yung 7 years masyadong nagpapaimportante.

[bongbong69]

The shaky years are 1, because you have to get to know the other person, 2 because you have to move from 'in love' to love, 3 because you might get a bit bored, 4 because that's the year you would see other guys/girls which are also very attractive, 5 as you get scared of being together forever and forever is very long, 6 because your relationship is no that stable that you can afford to have a fling (NOT), 7 because of the well know itch, 8 because after the itch is cured you fall back to thinking 6 was right and I can go on to 25 or more.
All years are shaky for different reasons, it's how you react to it that makes a difference. Do you allow to break up and start all over again or do you face the challenges together and keep on fighting as a team?