Is it true ? Shaky years of a relationship are 2-4-8

[mistiqshannen]

Hi sis.. It depends..
During the 1st yrs medyo sweet pa yan kilig kilig pa. as the yr goes by your life also change there are things that you dont expect to happen, you become busy to your career, he got promoted, you got promoted... boring days come.. feeling mo everyday is a constant day. No more kilig, no more sweet things. You see each other, you eat together, you go home.. pagpalo ng 4th yr or so feeling mo meron pa ba kayo relationship? ano ba plans nyo? nagkataon no plans pa.. so si ikaw feeling bore na bore kana.. some would even want to go to the next level kaso hindi pa ready si ganito et etc nadagdagan pa ng mga problems etc.. until napuno kana.. nag-ultimatum kana pero wala syang reaction so ending nyo dalawa bored kayo sa relationship nyo, nawala na ang spice.. then you meet someone.. he meet someone.. di naayos ang problem you end up breaking up..

but some survive and continue their relationship.. and so on and so on..

My point there is... HIndi kasi pwede ganun nalang.. both of you must always put spice to the relationship something that make you excite... pag feeling mo bore ka uli talk to your partner tell him what you feel and do something about it. kasi pagpinabayaan mo ang isang bagay nasisira yan nawawala.

[shyreen]

hmmmm i don't want to believe this. Pero parang totoo hehe, nagkaron kami ng problem on our 3rd month, 2nd year at ika- 4th+ year hehe sana sa 8th wag na naman. pero nagkakataon lang din siguro.

[cherub.rock]

i don't believe this to be true. any year, any relationship can go wrong due to many reasons. but from my personal experience, both my past relationships ended on our 2nd yr.. and there always seems to be a pattern.

1st bf --someone came along on our 2nd yr, i fell in love, left him for 2nd bf.
2nd bf--someone came along on our 2nd yr, i fell in love, left him for .. this someone.
but it all changed when the person i left my 2nd bf for didn't became my boyfriend. it turned out that i was nothing to him. talking about KARMA. it was heartbreaking.

sabi nga ng friend ko.. may curse yata yung relationships mo when they reach the 2nd yr. then again.. it looks like that pattern has finally ended. now, i am single and alone.. and finding myself. maybe next time, once i'm ready to commit again, we can get past my "2nd yr curse" lol.

[annika]

i don't believe in that!

[karmark16]

I guess its true na di talaga maiiwasan ang away lalo na pag matagal na kau. pero pag nalampasan niyo naman pareho ang malaking dagok na iyon, you both come out stronger than ever. in our case, super daming ups and downs namin naranasan lalo na at bata pa kami nun, I was 18, nagway kami sa mall dito sa dubai at di kami nagkita for 1 week, un na ata ang pinakamatagal naming di nagusap.

Reason of our fight: FOOD, parehong gutom, at parehong mainit ang ulo.

pag naaalala ko, natatawa ako sa immaturity namin, buti na lang walang pulis, kung sakali baka nakulong pa kami hahaha. Ngaun naman so far so good, mag5yrs na kami sa october. Yipeee! im so excited.

[sinosikat]

i guess it really depends if you're really compatible or not.... kasi baka naman pinapatagal mo lang [textspeak!] relationship mo, or tinitiis mo longer than you should. if you really love the person, and you're secure about the relationship, then you shouldn't be worrying about the "critical" years

[showermist]

in my experience--shaky nga yung 4yrs at 8yrs.  eto eh sa boyfriend and girlfriend stage langnamin ha.  i've been there.  it's just a matter of working it out.

[isobel]

um, never heard of that. i did bring up a major issue with him recently (this is our fourth year, going on fifth next month pa lang), but nothing that made me want to leave him or anything. (i have, after all, committed myself to this relationship and will try to make it work as best I could, so long as he's trying with me.)

[IronLady]

nagbago na ba? dati ang alam ko 3-6-9 months eh.. pero sabi naman ng isa kong friend 7 daw..

[sosychill]

i guess,, ?? with four years. my ex and i broke up after 4 years and 2 months of being together, just like that. it was 2 years ago.

[annie19]

i don't believe in that too.. tests/trials/problems will come talaga in different level of difficulty, kasi that would test kung hanggang san kakayanin. Yan din dahilan kaya nagiging mas matibay ang isang relasyon.

[patchi2012]

ours nag umpisa on our 5th yr,,,then the worst was on the 7th yr. eto nga ang karaniwang nangyayari na tinatawag nila na "the 7 year itch" and we broke up a month after our 9th year.....

[bebeloo]

when we're at our 2nd year, nagbreak kami for a month.. then now at our 4th year, feel ko, gusto ko maging single na lang weeks ago..let's wait for our 8th year haha for sure meron pa yan..

[marbleslice]

iba-iba ang sabi noh? sabi sakin 2-5-7 naman daw. i mentioned this to my bf... ayun violent reaction. bakit ko daw iniisip na ang "possible" trials on those specific years. nasa tao daw yun (i agree) so ever since then, di ko na inisip yung shaky years 

[carla27]

soo true 4th year namin jan 2011, pag pasok pa lang talaga puro away na nangyayari.

[kho_leen]

Just ended a relationship after 6years and 3months.

[health.gal]

iba-iba ang sabi noh? sabi sakin 2-5-7 naman daw. i mentioned this to my bf... ayun violent reaction. bakit ko daw iniisip na ang "possible" trials on those specific years. nasa tao daw yun (i agree) so ever since then, di ko na inisip yung shaky years 

i agree with you. we (me and boyfie, who is now my h2b) are already in our 12th year and we never went shaky. andyan lagi ang mga trials, problems, but we never reached the point of considering to break up. nasa tao lang yun. 

[marbleslice]

wow sis 12yrs na kayo!  ang fulfilling ng pakiramdam niyo na you've reached that long di ba. hmm kami din kahit may trials, d namin immediate option yung break agad. 

[ladyisabella]

6 years kame ni ex nung nag break

[bossamarga]

dpende naman yun, long lasting relatioship is base on trust, understanding, and respect