Is it true ? Shaky years of a relationship are 2-4-8

[Karen J]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 50 months now. In 4 years and 2 months, hindi naman lahat yun happy, of course, may darating na trials sa inyo and kailangan niyo harapin yun TOGETHER. That's the key! Before we celebrated our 4th year Anniversary, sobrang dumaan kami sa maraming problema. May time na iisipin mo na, napapagod ka na pero at the end of the day, it will always be your choice to hold on or give up with your partner. If you'd ask me if our 2nd and 4th was shakey? Yes, it was but it's not just the 2nd & 4th. I'm sure every couple goes through challenges every year, yes? My point is, kahit gaano pa kayo katagal ng boyfriend niyo, kung hindi niyo naman aalagaan pareho or hindi mage-effort ang bawat isa, it's useless. Consider your relationship as a blessing kaya work things out hangga't kaya and don't give up.

[chelvin26]

talaga? hehe may ganyan pala.. kasi kami.,he cheated on me nung 2 years na kami.. pero nagbreak kami nung 3rd year namin.. in short one year niya ako niloko.. then nagbalikan after 2 months,, tapos break ulet nung 4th yr namen.. kasi sawa na ako.. then i realized na i still love him. nagbalikan after 3 months.. ngayong 5th year namen.. mejo mahirap kasi lagi kami nag aaway.. nasa comfortable stage na kasi ng relationship,.

[Periwinkle25]

asa pagdadala lang ata yun and we can never tell..sana lang kung hindi rin tatagal, wag na lang umabot sa ganun..hirap kaya magmove on..ang sakit naman ng mga 8yrs tapos nawala pa..kami almost 6yrs pero long table na after 2 months ..1st and 3rd yr kami medyo on the rocks dahil sa priorities..

[maloushky]

i didnt know about this but shaky kami when we were on our 2nd year because of his imaturities then on the 4th year din because of different priorities. and sana wala na sa 8th year.. grabe na yun.

[Churvakels]

May 2-4-8 pala akala ko dati 7th year lang, I was thinking of an explanation here it goes.

2yrs - bago pa yung relationship eh, pag naka hanap ng iba break na agad

4yrs - medyo nakakasawa na itong period na ito, kasi comfortable na kayo sa isa't isa. kailangan na ng effort para ma prolong yung relationship. dito na rin nag start mag jump up ang career natin.

8yrs - ito na yung panahon na iniisip mo kung siya ba talaga yung gusto mo sa buhay. ito yung panahon na pareho kayo ng partner na mag usap if you still want to go on kasi sayang ang oras. tsaka dito na nag start yung peak level ng career.

Usually yung mga ganitong story para sa mga taong nag start ang relationship nila noong college sila or after graduation.

[buzzhang]

From what I know, they say it's on the 7th year when your relationship become shaky....there's this term that's called 7 years glitch. But I think, it's just normal if your relationship is on the rocks...

[spiffy25]

I personally don't believe in shaky years. Normal lang mag ka problem ang couples.

Yung iba nga mas worst kase araw-araw shaky ang relationship nila, so we should be more thankful pa diba. Wala naman kaseng gantong script during breakup:

Boy: "Hon, ilang years na ba tayo?"
Girl: 7 years na, bat mo natanong?
Boy: "Wala naman, tara break na tayo!"

[andee how?]

Ang alam ko naman 3-5-7.

[airish_2]

depende sa tao talaga hindi mawawala yung magtatampuhan kayo hindi naman kasi puro lambingan lang forever gagawin nyo 8 years na kami ngayon kung kayo talaga,kayo talaga and hindi mababase yun sa years like kung nasa 7 o 8 rocky na.

[KeirEn]

baka nagkataon lang yung 2-4-8. we're on our fourth (soon to be fifth!) pero it gets better and better everyday. nasa pagdadala lang yan. kahit anong taon naman pwede mag-away ng matindi, basta may pag-aawayan eh.

[viellemacey]

for real? magtwotwo years na kasi kami ni bf next month.

[bleudskymd]

I don't know.

Coincidentally, me & (1 of) my ex-bf broke up sometime during our 4-yr relationship. Probably because hindi nag-grow yung relationship namin.

Sana sa present relationship ko magtagal na talaga kami.

[whatswithjuly]

sabi naman sa married life, 7th year ang critical. 6 years na kami ni bf  well, i'd say the 5th year was the toughest so far.

[viellemacey]

IMHO, it depends upon to the involved partners.. kasi minsan kahit hindi naman 2-4-8 year shaky pa rin.. siguro kung maniniwala ka dito baka sakali nga na maging shaky because there's a tendency na konting misunderstanding lang ayan na iisipin mo na na totoo nga ito specially kung nasa ganyang year na kayo.. mga sis walang pinipiling year ang pagkakataon, siguro those who experienced something that ain't good with this years it only happened by chance. minsan talaga shinishake tayo ni God not to break us but to make us better and closer to him.. 

[IronLady]

^ang ganda ng last na sinabi mo sis.

anyways, we're on our 2nd yr, malapit na mag3rd pero lagi kami nagaaway. ito yung masyado na comfortable kaya hindi na nageeffort at may iba ng priorities dahil ok naman na ang relationship.

[geekchiq]

Ang pagkakaalam ko naman is 4-7-10. My boyfriend and I broke up when we were on our 4th year, tapos nagkabalikan and we just recently got married at our 7th year. Medyo shaky talaga kapag 4th year na kasi you're just too comfortable with each other, na wala ng surprises and worst is yung hindi ka na nag-aayos masyado for your partner. My bestfriend naman, they broke up when they were on their 7th year, for the reason na ayaw na. but then they got back together and planning na rin to get married.

[zhajhei_08]

8 1/2 years na kame ni bf, his may first bf... ako pang lima niya ata.. naging kame nung 3rd year HS..
Madame kameng pinagdaanan, ako ang madalas naghahamon ng break pag nag-aaway kame. Alam mo yung sa sobrang galit mo nasasabe mo na lang magbreak na nga tayo para matapos na eto.. Pero thank god, si bf ko hindi bumitiw sakin,,, he keeps holding on. kase alam niya mahal ko pa din siya he knows me very well.. sabe nga niya nalalaman daw niya nararamdaman ko mula sa aking mata.. Expressive daw mata ko.. You know what sis, di dapat mahinto kase ang pangliligaw ng lalake after siyang masagot ng babae, dapat continous padin eto... Madame kameng pinagdaanan ng trials, about parents namen, financial, health, money, hobbies namen sa isat isa, time, interests atbp.

NOTE: Malalagpasan nyo yung trials pag kasama nyo si God... promise....

[glamorosa_09]

A relationship based on human love alone will not last.

But a relationship founded on God's love will stand the test of time.

For a relationship to be successful it takes "three" to tango.

So if you put your trust in God, you can be confident on whatever trials that will come along your way.

[ambisyosang babae]

glamorosa_09 - your correct.. basta nasa gitna si God sa relationship nyo walang tatalo...

[beautyfairy]

I didn't know meron palang ganito.  Pero come to think of it, I have friends who broke up with their boyfriends nung 2nd, 4th, and 8th years nila.  So scary!