How to deal with this pain alone?

[gurlzat03]

hi mga sis! i'm currently in this situation right now... very fresh pa kasi last Sunday lang... ang masakit pa, hindi ko alam kung anong reason... sa fb ko lang nalaman... sobrang sakit kasi LDR kami... at hindi man lang kami nakapag-usap sa naging decision nya...
mahirap sa situation namin kasi we were supposed to be married last July but it didn't pursue... first bf ko pa sya kaya ang hirap talaga...
i copied all the advice written here... i know in time i'll get over the pain...   

[clueless_girl]

^sad naman nun sis. ganu katagal na kayo? wala na ba chance na maayos pa?

[gurlzat03]

sobrang sad talaga.. we were supposed to be 7 years this Sunday... hindi ko alam kung maayos pa, especially right now na hindi nya sinasagot ang tawag and emails ko.. baka need nya need muna ng time, un na lang ang iniisip ko..

[lizzete]

hay ang dami pala katulad ko depress ..its been 10 days since we broke up ..grabe nagulo mundo ko..i dont know what to do and think.im still hoping maging ok kame..kahit alam ko imposible..gusto ko pa din ipagdasal kay god na sana ibalik siya saken ..sana..kahit katangahan na to..im so weak..im trying my best to be happy..pero deep inside i cant..i just want to be with him..

[gurlzat03]

^ hindi ka nag-iisa sis... we have the same thought, pero pilit ko syang nilalabanan kasi pakiramdam ko, walang mangyayari sa 'kin pag nagmukmok lang ako. so better yet, leave it all to God. We will know the answer in God's time.

[misao]

^^yup you're not alone... keep yourself preoccupied and just stay strong.

[petlovah]

At one time in our lives, if not at most, we will all experience the pain. Hatred and angst may not be present but let’s not ignore the fact that these are all part of our challenges in life. We may not know for now what the real reasons are but God knows that He is doing these things because He loves us. No matter how hard things may have been doing, always keep in mind that nothing is impossible with Him. Trust Him. Besides, love is God. Don’t pray to Him that you ex couples will be together someday but rather pray that He will give you the right person. If he is that person, good.. But if he isn’t, well maybe then that’s better.

Let go of the past and little by little, we will all move forward. It may not be as perfect as how we see it but someday, I know – even if it is still hurting now, HE will just be another face in the crowd.

Some of the great readings/articles or whatever you may call it that helped me move are:

Closing Cycles by Paulo Coelho
Prayer of Rupert Mayer
Footprints in the Sand

The meanings were great and I am glad I came across with them..

Let me share to you the Prayer of Rupert Mayer:


Lord, what You will let it be so
Where You will there we will go
What is Your will help us to know

Lord, when You will the time is right
In You there's joy in strife
For Your will I'll give my life

To ease Your burden brings no pain
To forego all for You is gain
As long as I in You remain

Because You will it, it is best
Because You will it, we are blest
Till in Your hands our hearts find rest
Till in Your hands our hearts find rest


We will all be okay. Just trust God. 

[gurlzat03]

^ thanks for sharing sis. i've copied the prayer in my cp para lagi ko syang dadasalin 'pag pinanghihinaan ako ng loob...

[lizzete]

thanks mga sis..tama kaya natin to..kung kaya nila wala tayo sa life nila dapat mas kaya natin

hay

god has the reason for this

[xxpetitexx]

Nabasa ko kanina sa article ng isang heartbroken man, sabi niya, the only way to deal the pain is through grieving. Don't try to kill the feeling. Let yourself be depressed, time comes, you will stand up and become stronger again after the fall. Grieving has it's stages... Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. Any misfortunate person encountered these stages. 

[yellow_bell]

i didnt forsee this will also happen to me. we were together for 2 1/2 years. he was my everything. he was ideal. almost perfect. hindi ko alam ano nangyari, bigla na lang, he told me wala na siya nararamdaman for me. kasi na accumulate daw ang mga masakit na nangyari in the past na hindi niya ma overcome. hindi na daw niya ko naaappreciate at hindi na niya nakikita future niya with me. ang sakit kasi ako ipinaglaban ko siya pati pride binigay ko. akala ko siya na. hay... bigla na lang ako itinapon ng ganun. ang hirap kasi sa kanya umikot mundo ko. hindi kasi ako magala, hindi ako magimik. at wala akong friends masyado dito sa manila. sobrang nagunaw mundo ko. hindi ko alam pano ako sa mga susunod na araw. bakit ganun? pinanghahawakan ko na lang ang sinabi niya na walang 3rd party. mukha naman siyang sincere. ang hirap talaga kasi ako lang mag isa dito wala ako family kaya pagdating ng bahay wala ako makausap. wala makasama sa pagkain. iisang opisina pa kami. 2 floors lang pagitan. ang hirap mag let go.

[lizzete]

i didnt forsee this will also happen to me. we were together for 2 1/2 years. he was my everything. he was ideal. almost perfect. hindi ko alam ano nangyari, bigla na lang, he told me wala na siya nararamdaman for me. kasi na accumulate daw ang mga masakit na nangyari in the past na hindi niya ma overcome. hindi na daw niya ko naaappreciate at hindi na niya nakikita future niya with me. ang sakit kasi ako ipinaglaban ko siya pati pride binigay ko. akala ko siya na. hay... bigla na lang ako itinapon ng ganun. ang hirap kasi sa kanya umikot mundo ko. hindi kasi ako magala, hindi ako magimik. at wala akong friends masyado dito sa manila. sobrang nagunaw mundo ko. hindi ko alam pano ako sa mga susunod na araw. bakit ganun? pinanghahawakan ko na lang ang sinabi niya na walang 3rd party. mukha naman siyang sincere. ang hirap talaga kasi ako lang mag isa dito wala ako family kaya pagdating ng bahay wala ako makausap. wala makasama sa pagkain. iisang opisina pa kami. 2 floors lang pagitan. ang hirap mag let go.

sis i feel your pain..iuf you need someone to talk to im just here

[yellow_bell]

thank you talaga sis. it has just been 2nd day since we officially broke up. But I think kaya ko naman pala. I always talk to God. kahit mukha ako baliw kasi kahit naglalakad ako kinakausap ko siya. And amazingly, i felt better. everytime na naalala ko at nalulungkot ako, i tell myself that I am way stronger than this. Someday, he will regret what he lost because he will never find another me. Maswerte siya makatagpo siya ng magmamahal sa kanya ng higit sa binigay ko. wala siya maireklamo sakin, kaso lang daw wala na siya nararamdaman. I realized hindi ko siya kelangan. Masyado lang ako na attach siguro. He cant sustain a long term relationship. Im sure someone out there will be better for me. I swear, after this I will come out better if not best, stronger and independent. I will not give him that pleasure to think to himslef na karapat dapat nga ako iwan. Someday when he finally see my worth, it might be too late. Na realize ko hindi ako pwde maglupasay dito dahil lang sa iniwan niya ko. Sayang ang ganda at talino kung ububuhos ko lang lahat sa kanya. LOL    hay mga sis, girl power ito. wag tayo patatalo! 

[gurlzat03]

^ go gurl! basta keep on praying lang and everything will be okay.. i know how you feel sis, i've been in your situation about 3 weeks ago... nag-leave ako ng 1 day para malabas ko lahat ng luha ko... until now, naaalala ko pa din sya. pero lagi kong sinasabi sa sarili ko, gaya nga ng sabi ng iba nating sis dito na "this too shall pass"... everything will happen at the right time. at 'pag nangyari 'yun, i agree with what you've said, it's their lost, not ours.. goodluck!

[misao]

@yellow_bell, may 2 ex akong tig-3 years. naka-move on naman ako. i think we will always find someone better than the last one. halos same situation kami ni gurlzat03. etong last ko almost 7 years, kakahiwalay lang namin,  medyo kinakaya ko naman. just stay strong and cut him off your life.

[yellow_bell]

hi mga sis, super thanks ha. tama, makakapag move on din tayo. nasa utak lang yan. if we help ourselves, we'll be better sooner than we thought. hindi pa katapusan ng mundo. hehe.. honestly, sobrang hirap ako kasi we were so ok. ala kami pinag awayan. umuwi lang sa probinsya hindi na nagparamdam. hindi naman daw kasi niya ako namiss. at all. grabe di ba? habang ako nagpupuyat mag abang ng promo sa airfare pang surprise anniv gift sana next year, kaloka! 

tapos saabihin niya lang na hindi na kasi pareho nararamdaman niya. ganun na lang ba yun? ganun kadali mawala? tsk..

the first 3 days i was devastated. nag iiyak ako dito sa office. wala akong piniling lugar. kasi nga iisang company kami so everybody knows him, us. mula sa guard hanggang sa nagtitinda ng kape sa canteen. imagine araw2 may nagtatanong hinahanap siya sakin, all i can do is smile back at them.

i live kasi alone here. lahat ng friends at family ko nasa province. siya lang talaga kasama ko sa araw2. iisang street lang apartment namin. everyday madadaanan niya house ko. lagi siya sa house so everywhere i look i can see him and our memories together. ang hirap. but when i saw myself at the mirror, grabe payat ko! as in payat na ko to start with and underweight sa height ko pero parang nasobrahan. bagsak ang shoulders na parang sobrang stressed. well, i lost appetite din kasi.

surprisingly, wala ako galit or hatred sa kanya. wala naman kasi ako magagawa if that's what he feels. at least he was honest.

now, everytime i feel sad i talk to God. sobrang casual na talk. parang super friends lang kami. hehe.. it helps. I realized I have so much to be thankful for in life. I may have lost him, but i still have my own life. mahirap mag isa.. but i'm happy kasi naglabasan ang friends ko. super support sila. and my mom, grabe. imagine, she keeps her webcam open, and mine too para daw hindi ko ma feel na im alone. wow, grabe i was so touched.

ngayon, i always see to it i look good. people here in the workplace tells me that he looks sad. he looks really affected. bigla siya naging mailap. sabi ko kasi nakokonsensya yun kaya ganun. hindi ako pwede mag lungkot lungkutan kasi mag isa nga ako. i have no one but myself. hindi ako pwede magkasakit.

kahit siya, nahihiya kasi ang babaw ng reasons niya. alam niya na wala na siya mahihiling pa sakin. pero what can we do? he wants me out of his life. i believe him naman na walang 3rd party so at least may pa consuelo. haha..

i swear, after him, i will enrich myself. Financially, emotionally and spiritually. I know one day, he will regret what he did. Kinakaya ko lahat kasi I know and I can feel, God is with me thru all these.

So mga sis, i'm sorry if napahaba yung post ko. All I wanted to say is, a heartbreak will always be a part and parcel of life. Isipin niyo nga, kung eto lang ay hindi niyo na kaya pano pa kaya yung mga mas malalaking unos na haharapin natin sa future di ba?

So smile, pray. ANd thank God for everyday. Try to see the beauty in life. Again, nasa utak lang yan. When you start to think positively, everything else follows -- all for the good. May we all find our peace and happiness soon. And if you need someone to talk to, pm niyo ko. we'll have girl bonding. it's time to meet new friends. 

[lizzete]

hi mga sis, super thanks ha. tama, makakapag move on din tayo. nasa utak lang yan. if we help ourselves, we'll be better sooner than we thought. hindi pa katapusan ng mundo. hehe.. honestly, sobrang hirap ako kasi we were so ok. ala kami pinag awayan. umuwi lang sa probinsya hindi na nagparamdam. hindi naman daw kasi niya ako namiss. at all. grabe di ba? habang ako nagpupuyat mag abang ng promo sa airfare pang surprise anniv gift sana next year, kaloka! 

tapos saabihin niya lang na hindi na kasi pareho nararamdaman niya. ganun na lang ba yun? ganun kadali mawala? tsk..

the first 3 days i was devastated. nag iiyak ako dito sa office. wala akong piniling lugar. kasi nga iisang company kami so everybody knows him, us. mula sa guard hanggang sa nagtitinda ng kape sa canteen. imagine araw2 may nagtatanong hinahanap siya sakin, all i can do is smile back at them.

i live kasi alone here. lahat ng friends at family ko nasa province. siya lang talaga kasama ko sa araw2. iisang street lang apartment namin. everyday madadaanan niya house ko. lagi siya sa house so everywhere i look i can see him and our memories together. ang hirap. but when i saw myself at the mirror, grabe payat ko! as in payat na ko to start with and underweight sa height ko pero parang nasobrahan. bagsak ang shoulders na parang sobrang stressed. well, i lost appetite din kasi.

surprisingly, wala ako galit or hatred sa kanya. wala naman kasi ako magagawa if that's what he feels. at least he was honest.

now, everytime i feel sad i talk to God. sobrang casual na talk. parang super friends lang kami. hehe.. it helps. I realized I have so much to be thankful for in life. I may have lost him, but i still have my own life. mahirap mag isa.. but i'm happy kasi naglabasan ang friends ko. super support sila. and my mom, grabe. imagine, she keeps her webcam open, and mine too para daw hindi ko ma feel na im alone. wow, grabe i was so touched.

ngayon, i always see to it i look good. people here in the workplace tells me that he looks sad. he looks really affected. bigla siya naging mailap. sabi ko kasi nakokonsensya yun kaya ganun. hindi ako pwede mag lungkot lungkutan kasi mag isa nga ako. i have no one but myself. hindi ako pwede magkasakit.

kahit siya, nahihiya kasi ang babaw ng reasons niya. alam niya na wala na siya mahihiling pa sakin. pero what can we do? he wants me out of his life. i believe him naman na walang 3rd party so at least may pa consuelo. haha..

i swear, after him, i will enrich myself. Financially, emotionally and spiritually. I know one day, he will regret what he did. Kinakaya ko lahat kasi I know and I can feel, God is with me thru all these.

So mga sis, i'm sorry if napahaba yung post ko. All I wanted to say is, a heartbreak will always be a part and parcel of life. Isipin niyo nga, kung eto lang ay hindi niyo na kaya pano pa kaya yung mga mas malalaking unos na haharapin natin sa future di ba?

So smile, pray. ANd thank God for everyday. Try to see the beauty in life. Again, nasa utak lang yan. When you start to think positively, everything else follows -- all for the good. May we all find our peace and happiness soon. And if you need someone to talk to, pm niyo ko. we'll have girl bonding. it's time to meet new friends. 

hehe tama sis ..2 thumbs up for you..

be positive ..lahat ng to happens for a reason..

well be ok in the right time..

good idea lets meet hehe

gusto ko din ng new friends

[yellow_bell]

yey! sino pa gusto join? pm niyo ko sis ha? im free on weekends.

[lizzete]

yey! sino pa gusto join? pm niyo ko sis ha? im free on weekends.

san ba area mo sis

[rjohncam14]

All I wanted to say is, a heartbreak will always be a part and parcel of life. Isipin niyo nga, kung eto lang ay hindi niyo na kaya pano pa kaya yung mga mas malalaking unos na haharapin natin sa future di ba?

Tama yan ms. yellow bell, positive attitude lang. darating din ang panahon na marerealize nia din yung halaga mo. move on and enjoy  and always pray to god.

nangyari din saken yan nung iniwan ako ng xgf ko. dumaan ako sa minor depression for 2 months. positive attitude lang ginawa ko and pray kay god. inisip ko na blessing pa un dahil binigyan ako ni god nang mabigat na problema at nalagpasan ko un. smile lang lage ^^,