i so feel what TS is going through...my story goes like this, medyo parehas lang din...we had 3 yrs and 10 months relationship, dapat 4 yrs na this december, ayun, we never had any problem regarding 3rd party or anything. everything was just SUDDEN (akala ko sudden), we had dinner then work but had a rough day, then i texted him to vent out but he never replied, i was really pissed off, then tried text him again, nothing, told him just throw your phone, no reply, till we ended our shift already, i tried to call him but i can't contact him, then called the house but still none, i was really freakin out i dnt know what happened to him, even crying while praying hoping he's ok, then at 4pm he texted he decided to shut his phone off and then he went with his teamates, i was like WTH, i was just so hurt that time, then i just message him, no response at all, i let it for a day, then hindi na ako nakatiis, yun i texted him and asked him what happened, told him, i was so hurt and i want to talk to him about things, but he said sorry for hurting me, but he said he need time...i can't just give him time without talking to him,i went to his office and then ask, he said he need space for his family and himself (what? we only see each other like once a week...) then he said but there's one more thing (why? may iba ba?) sabi ko grabe ka naman, its not fair, pero ikaw pa rin naman mahal ko eh, hindi ko lang talaga alam nangyayari sakin ngayon...i just want a single life, i told him but i don't want to, i won't give up on you, what will i do ( he told me, fight for me, i was like huh?!) but then i said yes...then after that day we talked about, as if nothing happened but still he doesn't want to have commitment, i was like really really crying over and over again to him, asking what happened, what went wrong, but then i gave in, i gave him the time he needed and told him that i understand, i understand that he is enjoying all the priviledge he is getting in his life right now. then the last we saw each other, i just knew that he was dating with that person already, kawork nya, i just read the text msgs from the phone, not that sweet yet but i know they met up and enjoyed the company of each other, he's not cold yet whenever we are seeing each other but he's not texting anymore...so i tried to pull myself together...really really hard, ang bigat, sobrang hirap, ang sakit sakit talaga, yun kahit na pinapakita mo na mahal na mahal mo na yung tao pero parang hindi ka talaga pinagbbigyan na magcommit ulet siya, so yun...ITS A BIG DECISION, YOU HAVE TO JUST LET GO, GIVE HIM THE SPACE HE NEEDED, AND THEN HELP YOURSELF, DON'T GO FOR PANIC STAGE ( the more needy you are, clingy you are, you're just pushing him away) GIVE THE TIME, WHILE HE'S HAVING THE TIME, CHANGE YOURSELF...BE WITH FRIENDS, then next time you see each other, make sure you look better than before...you're better than what he is expecting you to be..no one will help you now but yourself...NOW, i'm still trying....kaya nga ako andito sa thread na toh...pero ngayon, mas nakakatulog na ako ng maayos (2 weeks pa lang) its just a matter of acceptance and helping yourself..hindi na rin ako umaasa masyado na itext nya...there's still an urge to text him, but pinipigilan ko talaga, why? you'll never know if you're important to that person if ikaw lagi magiinitiate ng contact, so just be it...now, bumabawi ako sa pagkain, medyo hirap pa appetite ko eh, pero i need to gain weight in a week...let's be strong!!