Hindi ko pa din alam gusto ko..

[IronLady]

the effects of social networking sites nga naman! hehe. ako i dont compare myself to other people, i dont envy maxado pagdating sa mga napupuntahang lugar etc., mas inaadmire ko nga yung mga tao kaya mas naiinspire din ako magpursige on my own..

[sofala]

^ I know what you mean sis. Pero maybe you should have a specific target of what you want to save up for. Kasi pansin ko, kung gusto mo nga mag save just for the sake of saving, hindi talga magwowork kasi wala kang motivation.

Dapat meron talagang target na specific. Let's say, ako, kelangan ko ng 100k. yan ang target amount ko. Deadline ko, December 30. Specific sya, kaya I feel rushed. haha kaya kung ayaw ko man yung ginagawa ko, feeling ko obligated akong gawin kasi need ko. kasi kung hindi ko sya need, lalampa lang ako. lalo lang ako malilito kung ano ba dapat ang gagawin ko.

Maybe this thread can help. http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/topic,247496.0/topicseen.html  ako din gumawa kasi kelangan ko din ng parang self-declaration na iipunin ko yon. This way, lagi ako reminded what I'm striving for.

[sofala]

^ state of mind lang yang hopelessness sis. Wag ka papatalo.

Sa ngayon Medyo malabo parin naman kung ano ang gusto ko talga, kasi marami talga akong gustong gawin, kaya hindi siguro ako makapili ng isa lang. Pero dahil sa responsibilities ko ngayon, mas napapadali yung choices ko. Isipin mo nalang ano muna priority mo ngayon. mas magiging easier lahat ng decision-making mo, kasi every decision you'll make must be a step closer to your goal. 
 

[ReservoirDogs]

I'll join the club! 

I'm turning 30 next month, and like of all you, I'm still undecided about what to do with my life. I'm also getting married next year so I'm really getting stressed.

I took and finished my MBA in 2008; pursued another MA a few months after. Actually comps and thesis na lang ang kulang ko.  But ayaw ko na tapusin kasi nawalan ako ng gana. 

I earn a lot from my online work, but I feel so unmotivated.  Tapos, never pang naging permanent ang online work, so dagdag-stress kasi you have to constantly worry if your client would suddenly pull out.  I've been doing online work for 5 years now, and siguro mga naka-20 na akong employers because nothing is permanent talaga kapag online work.

I really, really want to put up a business.  I've put up different businesses before (and failed), but they didn't deter me from putting up another one.  Kaya lang ewan ko, I still need that one big "push" before I decide to go full-time sa business.

[chinkyaise]

I'm turning 32 and after reading this, I realized that I'm not alone after all.

I am working overseas but my work is not related with my course, I still don't know what I want in life up to now and it's really not good. For those of you in early 20's, figure it out.

After reading this, it makes me somehow feel better, because I'm not alone in this kind of situation.  I hope to meet a MENTOR and an APPRENTICE.

[chris_mend]

I'll join the club! 

I'm turning 30 next month, and like of all you, I'm still undecided about what to do with my life. I'm also getting married next year so I'm really getting stressed.

I took and finished my MBA in 2008; pursued another MA a few months after. Actually comps and thesis na lang ang kulang ko.  But ayaw ko na tapusin kasi nawalan ako ng gana. 

I earn a lot from my online work, but I feel so unmotivated.  Tapos, never pang naging permanent ang online work, so dagdag-stress kasi you have to constantly worry if your client would suddenly pull out.  I've been doing online work for 5 years now, and siguro mga naka-20 na akong employers because nothing is permanent talaga kapag online work.

I really, really want to put up a business.  I've put up different businesses before (and failed), but they didn't deter me from putting up another one.  Kaya lang ewan ko, I still need that one big "push" before I decide to go full-time sa business.

Hi sis!

interested ako magkaron ng online work..kaso hirap makahanap ng clients eh..freelance writing gusto ko. pano yan beginner pa lang ako..

[chacha.12]

hayyy, i can totally relate. at 26 parang wala pa rin akong nararating. may gusto at plano ako sa buhay, pero parang ang onti ng resources ko. hindi ko alam pano magsisimula. a couple of years ago maayos pa buhay ko, pero i really had not-so-good year last 2010, and until now. parang nagkaloko loko na. im praying hard na sana ibigay sa kin or kahit sign lang kung anong trabaho/career talaga yung para sa kin

[chinkyaise]

hayyy, i can totally relate. at 26 parang wala pa rin akong nararating. may gusto at plano ako sa buhay, pero parang ang onti ng resources ko. hindi ko alam pano magsisimula. a couple of years ago maayos pa buhay ko, pero i really had not-so-good year last 2010, and until now. parang nagkaloko loko na. im praying hard na sana ibigay sa kin or kahit sign lang kung anong trabaho/career talaga yung para sa kin

Just be positive and hopeful, pray lang.

[waynesmyl]

hindi kayo nagiisa ganya din me hindi ko alam kung anong gusto kong work...kasi super sawa na sa papers work n work gusto iba nman 11 yrs ko n syang ginagawa paulit ulit feeling ko hindi nadedevelop yong knowledge ko..until dont know kung anong field gusto kong gawin...

[banana10]

very helpful yung mga comments dito mga sis. thanks!

ako naman, 23 palang ako. i spent 2 years in med school, flunked most of my subjects.  i stopped studying due to financial reasons. i worked in a call center for 1 1/2 months but i resigned due to health reasons. ngayon, jobless for a month. im currently looking for a job that's related to my course, actually there's only one company that's really related to my course, i already applied but until now i haven't received a call from them yet. ever since i can remember , all i wanted is to become a doctor and now, para akong nasa desert, clueless how to start again...

[pressany]

there's only one company that's really related to my course, i already applied but until now i haven't received a call from them yet. ever since i can remember

Sis, if you don't mind ano course mo?  And bat isang company lang ang related dito?

[cherry*coke]

i'm in the same predicament. I'm already 26 and still trying to figure out what career i really want to pursue. i finished I.T pero wala akong balak na pasukin yung I.T related careers.. hindi naman talaga yun ang gusto ko in the first place.. hayz..gusto ko talaga maging interior designer before but i was discouraged by a friend.. kaya diko tinuloy.. and now i'm full of regrets.. parang too late na kasi.. wala nako time and resources para mag aral pa ulit.. gusto ko din mag culinary.. since i discovered years ago na may talent pala ako sa cooking.. dami ko din naiisip minsan kaya lang tinatamad ako.. hehe.. and i don't know where to start. 

[banana10]

^^sis pressany, biochemistry course ko.  kaya nasabi ko na 1 lang company kasi gusto kong work about stem cell research yun talaga yung best work for a biochemist. (para sa akin lang ah) 

[katcarneo]

Hello mga sis, I'll just share my story. When I was a kid nagkaron ako ng Best in Computer Class award at sabi ng mga tao, "You can be a computer Engineer!" So yun ang pangarap ko nun, maging computer engineer. Nung high school ako nanalo ako ng prize sa journalistic writing, at sabi ng mga tao "You can be a journalist!" So nag-masscom ako ng college. Tapos 8 jobs na sunod sunod (including call center) at puro months lang ang tinagal ko. Hindi ko malaman kung ano ba gusto ko. Tapos kakatingin sa diyaryo, nakit ko yung job na "Online English Teacher for Koreans Students." I applied, got hired, and now 5 years na akong online english teacher.  Now I'm furthering my studies to be eligible to take the Licensure Exam for Teachers and be a school teacher.

Tapos I have another job. Even with a full time job, naghanap ako ng kung [textspeak!]-anong part time. Tapos hindi ko nagugustuhan so alis ng alis. Tapos swerte my kumuha sakin para tumulong at maging assistant ng coordinator sa wedding. I love weddings pala. So now coordinator na rin ako.


So basically, I didn't figure out what I wanted until I tried out many things. People told me that I could be this or that, but in the end ako lang din ang nakahanap ng gusto ko.Gusto ko palang mag-teacher at mag-wedding coordinator. Ni minsan di ko naisip na yun ang gusto kong gawin until masubukan ko.

[beevere]

sali ako dito, nakakarelate ako, ang kaibahan lang eh wala pa ko work experience.. Dati gusto ko talaga accountant pero dahil di ako nakapasa sa course na yun sa gusto kong school, nag-take na lang ako ng ibang course, naka-grad na ko at nakapasa ng board exam.. Kahit di ko first choice yun, pinagbutihan ko pa din mag-aral kaya matataas grades ko pati sa board exam, pero sa course ko kasi may ibat-ibang field kami na pwede mapuntahan (hospital, food service, gym, public health). Ang gusto ko hospital, ang problema, di naman ako tinatawagan or tinetxt ng mga pinasahan ko ng resume. ayun, parang naisip ko na baka di para saken ang hospital.. Di ko alam kung [textspeak!] ba talaga ang para saken..

[caterpillar-girl]

Well I can somehow relate. I wasn't one of those people who grew up knowing what they want to do for the rest of their lives. I envy people who know that they're just "meant to be" doctors, or ballerinas, or journalists, or whatever. I knew I was somehow smart (hehe) and I actually didn't NEED to work dahil awa ng Dyos I don't need to contribute to our household. Kumbaga the world was my oyster and I can do whatever I want to do. And therein lies the problem. I was paralyzed by choices. Mejo buti nalang and my first job was in development work. I worked for a small nonprofit and I realized I like it. I like the work despite the low pay. Hindi talaga ako yayaman dito pero ganun talaga. Sometimes I still daydream of working in a job that pays well, like be a brand manager or hotel manager or whatever but for the most part I'm ok working in development work like nonprofits or multi national development agencies like UN or ADB. Marami namang options sa field na to.

Anyway, what I want to say is, knowing what you want to do won't just COME to you. You can't just sit there and suddenly have an "epiphany" of sorts about what it is you're passionate about.   You have to cultivate your passion. You have to WORK at knowing what you want to do and that means trying out everything and then you'll know what you really want.  You'll know what you're willing, and not willing, to put up with.  In every job may bad points and good points. It's just a matter of knowing kung san ka talaga magtataya. Good luck sisses.

[Beyatch]

hi mga kumare! pa advice naman po. 26 yr old and turning 27. all my life hindi ko alam ang gusto ko. ang dami ko ng course na Pinasukan pero hindi ko natapos dahil hindi pala yun ang gusto ko. puro una lang ako. pero this time parang may calling ako na gusto ko maging HAIR and MAKE UP artist. i have my regular job abroad. gusto kong mag resign to pursue my  deram  career  sa pinas. kaso mataas ang expectation saken ng nanay ko right now kasi medyo malaki naman ang sahod ko. so parang sobrang naka depende sila saken ngayon na pati bagong bahay na pinapagawa nila eh pina take over saken which is hindi biro ang halaga. gusto ko din mag business ng sariling clothing line and canteen. kaso lahat ng yan di ko magawa kasi yung bang kinikita ko ngayon eh kikitain ng dream job ko sa pinas? at ang dream job ko ba eh talagang gusto ko na? walang problema saken ang sumugal, pero bubungangaan ako ng nanay ko ;(

[pressany]

This is a nice article: http://www.forbes.com/sites/bonniemarcus/2011/10/27/choose-the-right-mentor-to-advance-your-career/

hope you guys can find time to read it!

[jowawie21]

Nice to know that Im not alone.. So pajoin sa club!  Im 22 palang naman, kakapasa ko lang sa nursing board last Feb.. at up to now, hindi pa ako nakakapagwork sa kahit saan, kaya eto feeling worthless dito sa bahay. nagtry naman ako magapply... kaso, yung mga inaapplyan ko,natatanggap naman ako.. mga 1st day palang, ayoko na kaagad.. kasi hindi ko gusto ko yung ginagawa ko. Sa totoo lang kasi, simula pagkabata, akala ko gusto ko maging nurse, because my mom is.. pero mali pala, 2nd year palang ako, sumusuko na ako... pero ayoko tumigil, so tinuloy ko lang.. nagaral ng mabuti, thinking na magugustuhan ko din! Pero, review palang sa school namin last year, sinabi ko na ayaw ko maghospital.. ayko na yata maging nurse, pero magboboard pa rin ako para lang masabi na professional! Tsk. And now that I am a professional.... hirap naman hanapin kung anong gusto ko! Kasi, apply nga ng apply, in the end, maback out din kasi ako.. ayaw ko kasi magtagal gawin sa isang bagay na hindi ko gusto... ang problema is, i dont know what I really want.
Sabi nga ng mother ko, magsoulsearching daw ako, dahil nga nurse ang mother ko.. kilala siya halos nung mga inaapplyan ko, at siya ang natatanong kung bakit hindi ako tumutuloy.. Kaya siya daw ang napapahiya. Sabi nila, magaral daw ulit ako, pero parang hindi ko na ulit kakayanin.. malaki kasi na namang gastos, tapos malapit na mag1 year stagnant ang utak ko, baka di kayanin.. saka anong course naman na magugustuhan ko na...
Will try doing yung ibang mga nasabi na dito.. Yung list ng likes and dislikes..hindi na magopen ng FB.. at saka blog.. pero nagbablog talaga ako pero to vent out lang yung depression ko.
Thanks din for this thread. Nakakagaan ng loob to know that Im not alone. 

[shielala]

Ako naman I'm already 22 turning 23 in a few days pero I just started college pa lang this year, nagwork ako agad right after high school. Medyo nakakasawa na din magwork kaya next school year mageenroll na ko full time. Right now, I'm taking up AB English sa AIDE which is a distance learning school. And unfortunately, di ko pa din alam kung ano talaga gusto ko.