Hindi ko pa din alam gusto ko..

[Wicked Rae]

  Hey, di tayo nalalayo sa age, it's called 20-something anxiety, we can jump to different jobs pa at this age, but pagdating ng 27 and up we need to know na what we really want. Isipin mo muna maging practical and priority and health. ganun din ginawa ko eh.

[lizzete]

Haha natawa naman ako dito mamundok..kasi ako naisip ko din yan haha iwanan ang lahat..haha mag mongha na lang kaya ako .

i feel you all girls :-(
i am experiencing the same thing.
minsan naiisip ko, mamundok na lang kaya ako?

[angel_babyteen]

If may choice kayo mga sis, ano pipiliin nyo, study ulit ng 2 years to be a teacher/ any career or makipag sapalaran sa botique business (not a lot of idea).

[MissChievous]

Hi, mga sissies!

I know exactly what you feel. I am a creative person trapped in a technical world. I am an engineer, pero I love writing and the internet feels. Gusto ko mag Digital Nomad. Kaya i work part time as a writer. Tapos minsan, hala natatamad ako mag write. Tapos I have been putting up a lot of websites, joined an endeavor with like-minded people sa Finance blog. And now, I have found myself studying Techno MBA.

I am on my way there, I am slowly eliminating things I don't want to do and incorporating the things I love to do. I'm going to create my dream job soon. Pretty soon. Like you, I am not sure of what I really really want to do in life. Kaya ngayon, try try lang ng mga bagay na nakakapag interest sa yo. We'll eventually figure it out someday. A day spending on the things you like doing is a day not wasted. Kaya go lang tayo. hehe.

SI Steve Jobs nga eh na incorporate yung typography sa computers di ba. Let's just keep inspiring ourselves. We'll eventually know it someday. At eto, para ma inspire naman tayo.


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Life is pretty amazing! Let's enjoy it.

[lalala718]

Ayoko talaga maging teacher. I have nothing against teaching naman pero it's not for me lang tagala. From the very start napilitan lang ako sa course ko kasi yun gusto ng mother ko (teacher kasi siya). They're expecting a lot from me pa naman kasi I graduated Cum Laude tapos I was one of the topnotchers sa LET pa. Akala nila na gusto ko yung ginagawa ko kasi nga i did well in my studies and in the exam. Naisip ko kasi noon na sayang naman kung di ko pagsisikapan kasi sayang din yung tuition fee and other expenses, considering that my parents pay high tuition fee.

And now everybody's asking me kung ano na ang plano ko sa buhay kasi since graduation i didn't look for a job.  Dakilang tambay at katulong sa bahay for more than a year. Kesyo sayang daw pinag-aralan ko, etc. Pag may nagtatanong kung ano yung gusto kong career path, wala akong maisagot. My mother suggested i take up Law. Na mas lalong ayaw ko.

But these past few days i've been thinking and asking myself kung ano ba talaga ang gusto ko, kung ano yung passion ko...I want to be a Vet and i'm praying for God's leading on this one.

My problem now is kung paano ko sasabihin sa parents ko. Of course sila pa rin magpapaaral sa akin. Haha.  Hindi ko naman concern yung years na kailangan ko pa before becoming a Vet kasi i'm still 21. But the expenses and all, tapos wala pang school for VetMed dito sa Davao. I'm targeting UPLB if they accept second coursers.

Hopefully, ito na talaga yung gusto kong gawin for the rest of my life. Haha.

[purplegravity]

^You are still young, so you still have the time.  If your parents can afford naman, then try to talk to them.  Pag nadecline ka na lang then saka ka magdecide to work. You can still go to school while working but ofcourse that would be a lot of efforts from you, mentally and physically.

My parents wanted me to take up nursing since my eldest sister is a nursing graduate but i insisted that i dont wanna take it. So i enrolled in a public school in college, para maliit lang expenses. I was not able to get the course that i like but its better than nursing.  After graduation, i rest for 4 months then work na. When i established my career, i took short courses in programming. Though im not a programmer now, i really love my work as systems/business analyst.

Just remember, you have enough time to do for what you love. Iisa lang ang buhay natin so better enjoy it. 

[emai004]

Ako din mga sis.. Grabe confusion ko sa career ko ngayon. I'm in the IT Industry and so far ok naman yung sweldo and super ganda ng path na nakalaan sa akin. Problema ko lagi ako may nakikitang negative sa mga company na napagwoworkan ko. Hindi ko alam if baka dahil hindi talaga eto ang gusto ko kaya kahit saan ako mapunta eh hindi pa din ako masaya. Yung tipong everyday nalulungkot ako sa office at iniisip pano kaya if hawak ko ang oras ko.

Hay lagi na nga lang ako nagpepray na bigyan ako ng wisdom ni Lord para maintindihan yung plano niya para sa akin.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

Thankfully i'm not like that. I've always known what i wanted and i am pretty persistent, kahit na ilang beses ako madapa and all that.

Maybe you sisses should soul search for a role model. Parang that's what i do eh.

[lalala718]

^You are still young, so you still have the time.  If your parents can afford naman, then try to talk to them.  Pag nadecline ka na lang then saka ka magdecide to work. You can still go to school while working but ofcourse that would be a lot of efforts from you, mentally and physically.

My parents wanted me to take up nursing since my eldest sister is a nursing graduate but i insisted that i dont wanna take it. So i enrolled in a public school in college, para maliit lang expenses. I was not able to get the course that i like but its better than nursing.  After graduation, i rest for 4 months then work na. When i established my career, i took short courses in programming. Though im not a programmer now, i really love my work as systems/business analyst.

Just remember, you have enough time to do for what you love. Iisa lang ang buhay natin so better enjoy it. 

Buti ka pa sis. Ako kasi noon, kahit hanggang ngayon, masyado akong dependent sa parents ko at gusto ko palagi ko silang napi-please kaya go lang ako kung ano yung gusto nila for me. Laging nasa mind ko na ayaw ko silang ma-disappoint kaya eto ako ngayon. It's my prayer talaga na mahanap ko na yung gusto ko talagang gawin. Yung tipong kahit maliit ang sahod okay lang kasi love ko yung ginagawa ko.

[lalala718]

Thankfully i'm not like that. I've always known what i wanted and i am pretty persistent, kahit na ilang beses ako madapa and all that.

Maybe you sisses should soul search for a role model. Parang that's what i do eh.

How do you do that sis?

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^ at first naattract lang ako eh. Like my parents are doctors and mukhang interesting so ayun i took up medschool. Tapos now i'm so attracted with devped kasi i really like yung lecturer so ayun sinasabi ko uun gusto. Hehe. Tapos masaya ako whenever yung ang pinag uusapan and all that. At times i'll get not so good grades in pedia or it's my lowest among all pero hehe go pa rin ako, mahal ko parin pedia lol.

[purplegravity]

Buti ka pa sis. Ako kasi noon, kahit hanggang ngayon, masyado akong dependent sa parents ko at gusto ko palagi ko silang napi-please kaya go lang ako kung ano yung gusto nila for me. Laging nasa mind ko na ayaw ko silang ma-disappoint kaya eto ako ngayon. It's my prayer talaga na mahanap ko na yung gusto ko talagang gawin. Yung tipong kahit maliit ang sahod okay lang kasi love ko yung ginagawa ko.

Well, you have to be realistic.  Do you think you are not dissapointing them right now? What i learned in life is, whatever course you've taken and school you've been to - the success will still rely on you. Go on with what you love and then prove to them you've made the right decision. Our parents should only guide us and not decide for us.  They will not be with us palagi so its better to start to make your own decisions. Always remember, most of our time will be spent at work so better get the work you love.  Yung tuwing umaga excited ka pumasok, dapat ganun yung feeling mo.

[minnie99]

sis @lalala718 ako rin gusto kong maging vet. The difference is 24 na ako. I've already inquired sa nearest vet school sa place namin, and they are inviting me to take the admission test sa kanila this month, para daw mahabol ko yung required units ko before the NVAT.

Ang problema ko, natatakot akong mag-full time student ulit. siyempre nakakahiya kasi sa parents ko. But i also haven't asked them yet. wala namang problem sa current career ko, though ang hirap kasi pag di mo talaga gusto, may times na made-depress ka at mapapa-isip kung anong ginagawa mo.

Pangarap ko lang naman mabigyan yung parents and future family ko ng magandang buhay. Pero minsan, di mo talaga maiaalis sa sarili mo yung first love mo. In my case, the dream of becoming a vet. Hay...

[lalala718]

^awww. 4 hours away ang nearest vet school dito sa amin. di pa ako nakakapag-inquire. every april and NVAT right? Good thing nakausap ko na parents ko. Payag naman sila pero parang may hinanakit sila sa akin kasi sayang daw ang oras kung mag-aaral pa ulit ako.

Mahirap talaga kapag di mo gusto ginagawa mo. In my case, professional teacher na ako. Okay naman ang maging teacher eh. Kaya lang kapag nakikita ko mga classmates ko, di ko maiwasan ikompara sarili ko sa kanila. Very passionate kasi sila eh, samantalang ako parang wala lang. Haha.

[purple.strawberry]

I was in the same situation before and I know how difficult it is.

Nagquarterlife crisis na ko sa first job ko pa lang. Depressed for a few months. I kept comparing myself to others -- most people already know what they want, and they're already on their way to a successful career kasi maayos ang direction nila.

After four years, I decided to do some soul searching. Stayed at home for a few months. I read suggestions here and online. Think of a couple of jobs I might shift into.

I decided to try programming. No pressure. I studied from scratch at home, took a free online course offered by Harvard. I remember consulting an FT pa nga who told me not to do it kasi daw nasisilaw lang ako ng pera, but as I knew myself better I decided to pursue it anyway. I found I'm good at programming and problem solving is actually something I'm enjoy. So eto I'm an entry-level employee but work-wise I really enjoy what I'm doing.

I still write every now and then and find that I enjoy it more since I'm doing it as leisure.

Siguro, if I'm going to give an advice - here they are:

- Don't pressure yourself too much. Everybody has his own life challenge, I decided that time na yun yung sa'kin - to find what I really want. Think of it as a journey.
- Try out different things. Di mo malalaman anong gusto mo unless maexperience mo mismo di ba. Explore.
- Find support from family and friends. This really helped a lot lalo na on those times when I would overthink and get really down.

Also from what I read:
- Focus on the NOW. You'll get depressed if you just keep on jumping ahead in the future.
- Think of what you would like to do if success and/or money is a given.
- Think of what you're naturally good at and any endeavor that gets you excited. Look what's common between these two. Maybe it's not a career in the conventional sense, baka pangbusiness ka pala.

Hope we find the path that's aligned to us.

[pinklilac]

Pasok ako dito.kala ko ako lang nakakaramdam ng ganito.
Kamusta na TS at mga sis na nag post noong 2010?
Any update?  Nahanap nyo na ba ano gusto nyo?

[angel..]

^^That's a really nice story purple.strawberry Kami hirap na hirap pa   Swak ako sa thread na to. I don't hate my job, but I don't like it either. I'm working to simply earn, I can't afford naman not to work. Nakaka-pressure kasi reaching 30's na and yet gulo pa rin ng career path

[purple.strawberry]

^I was earning well in my previous jobs but I knew it wasn't what I wanted to do for the rest of my life. So I took the leap.

Some people would give a different advice naman: stay in your job if it pays well, but enjoy the hobbies or whatever your passion is outside your work. Kumbaga work to finance kung ano man yung naeenjoy mo.

This didn't work for me as I wanted my work to be meaningful for me, but it does naman for some.

[imblack]

OMG. im not alone. Im 26, turning 27 nxt year and I dunno what I really want and im not getting any younger. [textspeak!] wala ka masyado experience sa isang field kasi palipat-lipat tas u always end up dun sa mababang position.

[sofistikada_1230]

I'm a graduate of communication in 2010. I'm 25 and have been working for 4 straight years...

2010, 1st job: BPO, back office support for an IT company, resigned after 1 yr and 4 months
2011, 2nd job: events and marketing in a restobar, resigned after 6 months
2012, 3rd job: sales officer in a training provider
2013, 4th job: account officer in a design agency

My goal is not really to job-hop but I want to really find my forte... naisip ko na din minsan na magresign na and find out what i really want. i told my parents about resigning in my current job but they advised me na look for another job muna before quitting kasi i might regret it... so i asked for God for a sign. binigay naman niya

even with the sign, im still not sure, kung ito na nga talaga yung gusto kong gawin but i would never know if i wont try it. siguro mejo ok lang na di mo pa alam what you really want to do but what matters is that we dont stop searching.