Hindi ko pa din alam gusto ko..

[kittzy07]

Hi sisses! Ako din siguro asa quarterlife crisis right now. I've resigned from my job as a programmer and I've been SAHM for over 6 months na. When I tried going back to work, I've been turned down many times in my job interviews.
Till now, I'm still praying san ako nababagay talaga. Maybe we should start to pray to Him where we could better serve Him and be a good instrument to our fellowmen.

Maybe this article "How to Avoid a Quarterlife Crisis" can help you
http://www.ehow.com/how_4769962_avoid-quarterlife-crisis.html

[spensierato]

^^sis, hindi naman lahat ng may sinet na goals and vision ay nagsusucceed kasi kahit may goals and vision ka pwedeng mabago because of change in your outlook in life..

[Shery]

ako unti unti ko nang nakikita yun gusto kong mangyari... dati hindi ko din alam san ba ako papunta.. gusto ko mag abroad, gusto ko mag business, pero sa ngayon ineenjoy ko na lang kung ano un sitwasyon now..

[twix]

can i join, naka relate naman ako  dito kahit magbasa lang...

[alenski]

ako din sobrang nakaka relate. 28 na ako married na din pero hanggang ngayon hindi ko pa din alam gusto ko with regards sa career ko. naging ok naman yung takbo ng career ko previously kasi business financial yung nature ng work ko kaya lang talagang hindi ako masaya dun. feeling ko masaya ako pag nagsusulat ako kaya lang alam kong hindi naman pang published work yung mga gawa ko, more on rants lang. siguro ang career ko hindi sa corporate world, nasa bahay. maging isang dedicated wife and mother siguro. dito lang kasi ako nakakita ng fulfillment e

[claireclaire]

i'm glad meron ganitong thread. i'm 30 years old and i feel like wala akong na-achieve in life. hindi ko din alam kung ano ang right job for me. before financial ang nature ng work pero i felt like it wasn't for me. i shifted to customer service and somehow i enjoyed it pero naging problem ko ang boss ko. i'm currently looking for a new job and hindi ko alam saan magstart. gusto ko talaga sa HR pero wala naman akong background and sa age ko, mahirap na lalong makakuha ng ganun type ng work. i feel like i'm going around in circles pero stuck pa din ako sa iisang place.

[snix]

pajoin din..i failed the boards,im still jobless and im still trying to figure out what i want in life.. hindi ako makahanap ng work samantalang yung iba kong classmates mga successful na yung iba nasa abroad pa..

right now im just doin some online jobs parang sideline lang..hindi ko na rin alam kung maghahanap pa ba ko trabaho kasi parang hindi na rin ako masaya sa tinapos ko..hindi ko rin alam kung magboboard pa rin ako marami nagsasabi na dapat daw kasi iba pa rin nay lisensya.. ewan ko nahahati ako..parang gusto ko na ayaw ko magboard.. i dont know i wanna try something new..gusto ko makita kung san ako magiging masaya..inggit ako sa mga taong alam na agad kung saan sila magiging masaya..they manage to be happy and successful in what they do..i wish i was like them

[majika7777]

Right now, I am still experimenting and searching what I really (want)love to do.. I have tried different things narin kasi and still d ko parin makita kung san ako best nag-eexcel

[mirandaKERR]

Im not sure kung dito ba yung right thread pero basta..I need help sisses..

I'm turning 24 this year and currently working as a tech support..
Di ako natapos ng college ( hanggang 3rd yr college lang then madami pa back subjects..so kung itototal, baka hangang 2nd yr lang ako )Nursing..
so yun ang kaibahan ko sa inyo mga sisses..lahat kayo graduate..and iba, graduate pa sa exclusive schools..
Sabihin na nating, di ako nag isip dati.. My MOM was a Supervisor sa Malaking Company sa Korea. Maluho ako before. Kahit papano naman, kaya ko bilhin lahat ng gusto ko. Nakapag pundar din kami ng 3 units ng taxi..Then, dumating yung time na si Mom, tinanggal na sa position niya. parang gusto nila Koreans muna before foreigners. Pero ang stay pa din si Mom dun kahit wala na siya working visa.gang naging TNT, at hanggang nahuli at nadeport. And nung super taas ng presyo ng gasolina..nabenta yung 2 units ng sasakyan para lang matustusan yung daily needs namin dahil wala na income si Mom..Ngyaon, nag aaral si sister and brother..ako work pa din and super ayaw ko na. mahirap for me. I dunno..Plan namin ni Mom, back 2 school ako next yr. and sana nasa Canada na siya that time. Ngayon, gusto ko hanap ng ibang job. si Bf, nasa SG now pero OJT lang siya. and sabi niya, hirap daw kumuha job. swertehan lang daw though di ako naniniwala sa "swerte".. Feeling ko talaga, sinakluban ako ng langit at lupa. Honor student din ako from grade school to high school.. pero nung college, puro drop drop failed..
I feel sorry for my Mom..
Parang gusto ko magwork sa ibang country.sabi ko nga,kahit saleslady alng or waitress sa SG oks lang. Di naman ako umaasa sa Mataas ng position tulad niyo dahil my diploma kayo and experience. Sa FB, mga classmates nung HS na akala mo wala mapupuntahan ang buhay, ayun! yung iba nasa Dubai, US, SG, New Zealand..iba nakakapag tour na sa Europe..My Gosh, papatayin ako ng insecurity sisses. and gusto ko din mag TESDA? kahit pang hotel lang dahil in demand daw sa SG. honestly, parang wala na sa utak ko mag aral ulit. ( feeling ko, pag tapos na ako, wala din hihire sa akin dahil old na ako, parang di ko na gusto, parang wala ng sense ) Sorry sa mga Nurses na Gtalkers..wala naman ako ibig sabihin dito..pero parang hirap na din talag hanap ng work kasi an dami nga namin. Sisses, ano ba magandang gawin? Sa buhay ba, kailangan Graduate ka para umasenso? Pero sa totoo lang, ayaw ko din naman magkapamilya ng walang college diploma. bakit kasi ganun, parang ang baba ng tingin sayo ..Ewan ko din, dami ko gusto gawin. gusto ko kumuha ng kahit certificate lang para maging qualified abroad. naisip ko din, kahit katulong na lang sa Italy kung 130K naman monthly..Kasi yung girl malapit sa amin, maid sa italy..now maganda na house niya and my 2 na siyang kotse..waaaaaa
ano ba to? Parang takot ako sa future ko..Para bang ayaw ko mawala si BF kasi siya lakas ko..kasi tanggap niya kagagahan ko..Para bang gusto ko stop ang time..Alam ko advice niyo is back to school ako next yr. pero what course po? kung tutuloy ko Nursing, magastos at not sure pa kung gaganda future ko dahil need ko pa rin naman ipass lahat ng exams. 
Parang takot na takot ako ngayon..

[brattybrat01]

Count me in. I am a consistent honor student from gs to hs then a consistent dean's lister in college. I have a one year experience related to my course diyan sa pinas. Then I continued to work here in abroad but not related to my course. Una masaya ako kasi malaki sahod pero pagtagal hindi na ako masaya dahil Hindi ko na gusto ginagwa ko. Hindi ko rin naman alam ang gusto ko. I am used to be an achiever pero ngaun ang liit ng tingin ko sa sarili ko. Tsaka mo Lang pala maiisip na Hindi importante ang pera pag Hindi mo naman  pala gusto ginagwa mo. Ngaun Hindi ko alam kung ano na gagawin ko. I am getting married this year and then siguro next year pa naman plan magkababy wish ko lang san a bago kami magkababy nahanap ko na Kung ano ang magpapasaya sakin... Hay ang hirap ng sitwasyon natin... Huhuhuhu

[_gigles_]

I'm 25 and I dont know what to do either. And partly I'm scared I feel like I'm running out of time and opportunities. Parang ang hirap naman magstart over when I'm on my 30's. So partly I feel scared and pressured to find what it is that I really want. Ang hirap ng ganitong situation, somehow nakakadepress din seeing other people to be successful and happy at a young age, tapos ako totally lost pa rin. 

[Crystal Goddess]

it's a relief to know that i'm not alone....
but most of you are lucky, time is on your side..

i'm now in my mid-30's... had a great start in IT, spent probably 7 of my best yrs. there before i left to start my family (which, unfortunately hasn't happened yet)... now i'm feel like I'm stuck, unable to move on.... i've tried going into business (several of them) with very little luck...  it's been so hard trying to start over, career-wise, I've tried looking for work again but, no luck...

i'm lucky my husband doesn't complain but i really want to help him with our finances...  i'll keep trying... and i do hope that my time comes again very soon...

[cool_chique]

oohh..quarter life crisis pala tawag dito..present din ako!

i have a small food business. eto pinursue ko few months after i graduated at yun talaga goal ko even before graduation. mag-1year na rin ang business. at first, i felt good having my own business pero now, lost nako. 1branch palang yon so the income is as good as an added income lang. i want to branch it out pero ang tagal maapprove(kung maapprove nga) ng site na gusto ko. at the same time i want to have a job na rin to augment my income, to have a new environment and social life na rin. the problem is, i don't know what job is right for me kasi priority ko rin yung daughter ko at yung small business.. hope God would give me discernment soon..

[buzzhang]

haaayz, same here. but for now, i think having a job is more important. maybe eventually, i'll realize what really my heart desires.

[ceejhei]

Im in this situation now. im 25 and i still don't know what to do and what i like to do. feeling ko kasi simula palang na tumuntong ako ng college, hindi na yung gusto kong course and nasunod so nagkanda loko loko na. call center din bagsak ko after, pero i really don't feel like i can work in a call center forever, moody ako at to be honest wala akong pasensiya at mabilis mag init ang ulo ko so hindi para sakin ang customer service. nag aral din ako ng culinary arts pero short course lang kasi eto naman talaga ang gusto kong kunin kaya lang nakielam ang dad ko kaya napilitan akong pumili ng technical course. Ang hirap naman humanap ng work sa kitchen. nag ttry na nga din ako mag apply sa abroad baka sakaling palarin ako kaya lang wala naman akong experience. I am asking for God's guidance nalang. wala din akong work for now, kasi akala ko makukuha ko na yung work na gusto ko which is to be a chef. Still hoping and praying, but for now, eto umiiral nanaman yung mentality ko na to get any job basta may sahod. Hindi ko talaga alam. nahihirapan na ako.

[_gigles_]

hay nakakadepress.. I'm 25 and I feel like I'm at the point in my life whereas I would start my career path already, so with that thinking ayoko pumasok just for the sake na magkaroon ng trabaho lang, gusto ko yung papasukan ko yung gusto ko talaga ang somewhere that I can see myself working at for years. But whats sad is I dont know kung ano ba talaga ang gusto ko, gusto ko sa make up/cosmetics industry or an industry that got something to do with it but sadly parang wala akong mahanap na opening sa gusto ko. Hindi ko na alam gagawin ko, should I take it as a sign that its not the industry meant for me or ewan ko. Sad talaga, I feel helpless and worthless. 

[CityHunter]

Okay.  At least ito medyo kaya ng powers ko to assist on.  Take me for example.  We had a shipping company.  I worked rin in the rent-a-car business and ang pinag-aralan ko is aviation electronics.  Look where I ended up in.

The key to finding the right path for you is to find time to sit down and take a good look at yourself.  Remember what we used to do back when we were kids?  Yun magsulat ka ng likes and dislikes mo.  Do the same.  Then pick the top 5 of each.  Obviously, you don't go to something which you do not like.  Now, connect the dots with what you can do to achieve those wants sa present circumstances and resources mo. 

IF you think that there is simply no opening for you on those then you aren't looking well enough.  Do note that the path is always not the direct one.  It may require you to pass on some other door kaya you may need to compromise a bit to achieve your objective.  The key is to never lose that sight and set yourself a sked. 

Last but not the least.  Avoid choosing something like mine.  Its definitely something not for those with weak stomachs and even more of weak in faith.

[snowhite_12]

i love this thread. i belong here. i thought ako lang nag-iisa or nababaliw na ba ako dahil palipat lipat ako ng work.
the first one was a telecommunication company (8 yrs of stay)
the second one was a real estate developer (5 months lang)
the third one was a call center (3 months lang) AWOL AKO
the fourth one was a cosmetology company (5 days lang) kaka send ko lang ng resume this day.

i also had other offer from other companies but when after interview or when i get hired, nawala yung gusto ko. ewan ko bah. i have this thingking na attract ako una sa job offer but when you're there na its like,ganito pala to? i can't take it anymore.
my family thinks maarte ako dahil palipat lipat ng work. hayyyy i need to find myself sinong may flashlight dyan para makita ko na sarili ko....

[_gigles_]

^sis anong cosmetology company yung inapplyan mo?

hay ang sad talaga ng hindi mo alam gagawin mo, and its even more sad when the people around you dont understand

[iheartkulot]

waaaaaah

ako din! I turned 27 last May and I am still clueless kung ano ba talaga gusto ko. Oh well, basta gusto ko yung work na on-the-go, masaya, ganyan. Nag work ako sa tv before, kaso umalis ako dahil tyaga talaga dun bago ka magkaposition. Well kahit saan naman, pero thing is, umalis ako dahil sa sweldo.

Now, compared sa sweldo ko before, malaki talaga to. But still, di pa rin ako masaya.

Saan ba yung work na happy ka and well compensated ka naman>

Ganyan din ako, achiever sa school, pero naku, yung mga batchmates kong loko-loko lang sa school, parang sila yung mas stable sa career.

Help!!!