Why can't we find love?

[CHLayson]

why we cannot find love? hindi nman hinahanp yan. kusa na lang dadating yan

[dumpee.o13]

Why can't we find love?

^ cos I'm letting LOVE find me. choss! 

[sardonyxmemoirs]

Meron po kayang makakatulong sa kin? I'm so confused kasi pag naglalakad lang ako sa mall or sa kalsada, may mga guys naman of all ages na tumitingin talaga. Maraming sumisipol. Naisip ko kasi sexy yung suot ko, pero kahit normal clothes lang ako (jeans or bermuda short, shirt) may mga tumitingin pa rin at minsan, nagsasabi ng "Hi, miss". Pero pag nasa school ako, para akong invisible sa mga boys. Ang weird kasi yung tipong bago ako pumasok sa school may mga sumisipol tapos pagstep ko sa gate it's as if I don't exist. Never pa kong nagkaboyfriend, walang ni isang nagpakita ng interes noong high school ako. Dahil dito, I hated HS, feeling ko super ugly talaga ako, big teeth, oily, pimpled skin, squinty eyes, scarred arms and legs, dry hair, as in super pangit. I feel so unlovable. Kahit tuloy na-creecreep out ako sa mga bastusin sa street, naflaflatter na rin ako. Nababawasan yung feeling ko na wala akong kwenta. Bakit kaya ganito? Pare-pareho naman silang mga lalaki, di ba?

[ettevyvi]

^Fact: guys will pay attention because they know a good looking girl when they see one. It's not that you don't exist in your school, its just that either your school are heavily saturated with girls like you and pare- pareho na kayo ng itsura. Or some guys may like you but not openly express how they feel about you.

Ano bang attention ang gusto mo? Depende yun sa sagot mo. Confused ka ba dahil hindi ka nila nililigawan o gusto mo lang talagang kumuha ng atensyon? Boys will always, always be boys. Don't be bothered kundi ka napapansin sa school nyo. Malay mo napapansin ka, hindi nga lang sila tipong papansin.

If you know you're not that bad, then don't fret. Nagbbloom ang lahat in time.

[janix athena]

feeling ko super ugly talaga ako, big teeth, oily, pimpled skin, squinty eyes, scarred arms and legs, dry hair, as in super pangit. I feel so unlovable.

Nakaka-relate ako sayo sis, coz I had protruding teeth growing up na tinutukso akong lisa simpson. Hahaha! But when my teeth was corrected by braces, it did wonders for my face, and to my self-esteem, and to my lovelife. I recommend na mag-research ka na on whether its possible to get braces now, or maybe later when you have your own money. I also suggest you try to aggressively look for skincare that would treat your pimples. Then the hair. It may sound superficial, but its a fact of life that guys won't see your beauty inside unless they can appreciate how you look outside.
 

[sardonyxmemoirs]

Nakaka-relate ako sayo sis, coz I had protruding teeth growing up na tinutukso akong lisa simpson. Hahaha! But when my teeth was corrected by braces, it did wonders for my face, and to my self-esteem, and to my lovelife. I recommend na mag-research ka na on whether its possible to get braces now, or maybe later when you have your own money. I also suggest you try to aggressively look for skincare that would treat your pimples. Then the hair. It may sound superficial, but its a fact of life that guys won't see your beauty inside unless they can appreciate how you look outside.

Tamuhhh! Hay naku sis, ang mahal kasi ng braces. Baka ma-afford ko lang yan pag ako na ang kumikita ng pera. Yung sa buhok naman at skincare super nagreresearch na ko. Magpapafacial na nga ako this week. Kaso ang mahal talagang magpaganda!

[ettevyvi]

oh yes.. Attraction naman talaga ang unang basis  for mating hindi ba? =) Pero kasama ng improvement physically ay yung alam din natin kung paano gaganda 'on the inside'. Guys have this categorization thing going on, and if you're JUST pretty without brains and bad attitude, then you're going to be just a conquest to them. Harsh but true.

[glamorosa_09]

Para maging mabili ang isang produkto, kailangan ng marketing, magandang packaging at dapat high quality ang product.

marketing - join different organizations of your interest or attend seminars, attend occasions ng friends, dami dyan. That way you will be able to widen your social horizon. Syempre hindi lang naman boys ang pakay mo, growth din. Kung office-bahay ka lang, eh walang makakakita sayo.

packaging - have a pleasing appearance din, be smiling, be friendly, wear nice clothes na madadala mo at bagay sayo.

quality - worthy character, emotionally stable (walang mabigat na baggage sa buhay), financially literate, Godly and the list could go on.

It will also be useful if you will have a list of qualities that you will adhere to. These qualities can be under negotiables (preferences) and non-negotiables (essentials).

For women, searching won't work eh, hindi naman ikaw manliligaw. Attract, filter and select. Sabayan mo ng dasal.

Before attempting to attract Mr. Right, be Ms. Right first.

[bookworm_ako]

Para maging mabili ang isang produkto, kailangan ng marketing, magandang packaging at dapat high quality ang product.

marketing - join different organizations of your interest or attend seminars, attend occasions ng friends, dami dyan. That way you will be able to widen your social horizon. Syempre hindi lang naman boys ang pakay mo, growth din. Kung office-bahay ka lang, eh walang makakakita sayo.

packaging - have a pleasing appearance din, be smiling, be friendly, wear nice clothes na madadala mo at bagay sayo.

quality - worthy character, emotionally stable (walang mabigat na baggage sa buhay), financially literate, Godly and the list could go on.

It will also be useful if you will have a list of qualities that you will adhere to. These qualities can be under negotiables (preferences) and non-negotiables (essentials).

For women, searching won't work eh, hindi naman ikaw manliligaw. Attract, filter and select. Sabayan mo ng dasal.

Before attempting to attract Mr. Right, be Ms. Right first.

Agree. Also, you need to love yourself first If you don't, and let insecurities prevail din, even if you attract the right guy, baka ma disappoint sila sa iyo and leave you. Be very confident and love yourself first 

[janix athena]

^Very well said sis. Great job as always.

[ettevyvi]

Before attempting to attract Mr. Right, be Ms. Right first.

Agree. We also have to be selective with the people we want to be with. Never settle. Learned this the hard way!

[sardonyxmemoirs]

Thanks sa lahat ng feedback, people. I will try hard to keep all that you said in mind. 

[molybdenumstudios]

I guess it's because I have a domineering personality, which most Filipino guys do not like, unless they're torpe. hehe.

[t_r_i_s_h]

Love is everywhere. Sometimes we're just too blind to see it.

[blackroseMD]

I feel every girl in this thread.. i feel so upset being single.  i miss the feeling of being with someone. One reason for me, kaya walang love life is super busy... wala din talagang nagkaka genuine interest... kung meron man obvious na chorvet lang ang gusto. Oh well ill just focus on my career.. and be one of those old maid doctors....

[onilord]

Kasi sa maling lugar natin hinahanap e.. learned it the hard way.

[Filipinasadhart]

Kasi sa maling lugar natin hinahanap e.. learned it the hard way.

It just pop out in my mind.... Eh Saan ang Tamang lugar??

[Eunoia]

It's not about love because it's everywhere and it's within ourselves. We can't find the right person because we choose to surround ourselves with the wrong people.

[onilord]

It just pop out in my mind.... Eh Saan ang Tamang lugar??

it was a reply/post intended to myself.. lam mo, may mga tao na pag nalaman nila na naghahanap ka ng atensyon/affection, gagamitin nila yan para pagisipan na gawan ka ng masama o pagsamantalahan ang kahinaan mo. I'm talking about meeting people online (sa mga chat/forums) as well as meeting strangers kung san san lang. The internet is a dangerous place.

Pero let me try to answer your question na rin tutal anjan na e hehe..

People who are at least in the circle of friends of people you know. Kaibigan ng kapatid mo, ng kaibigan mo, kaibigan ng kamaganak mo, kapitbahay mo, ka-batch mo sa college or friend ng ka-batch mo, etc..

Ako olats e, kinukulit ko nga ang mga kapatid ko baka may friends sila na pede nila ipakilala sakin kaso ayaw ako tulungan. Pero sa totoo lang yang mga reto reto na yan, ok yan e, kasi yung magrereto sayo ang iniisip nyan baka mapahiya lang sya kung sino sino lang irereto nya. So kung alam nya na panget ugali ng tao, hindi nya yan irereto sayo. Sabi nga ng kapatid ko sakin nung tinatanong ko kung may bf yung isang friend nya, "alam ko ugali nyan, maarte yan, b**** yan bat ko ipapakilala sayo" makes sense?

Yung isang kaibigan ko, ang payo sa kanya ng isang pastor, pumunta ka sa mga binyagan, sa mga kasalan, burol baka dun may makilala ka hehe.. Ayun, yung pangalawang asawa nya, nakilala nya sa burol ng kapitbahay nya, yung anak ng namatay e yun yung nakatuluyan nya.

Mag join ka ng mga clubs, organization for a chance to meet people na meron kayong common interest (Example:Surfers club, mountain hikers, photographers club, etc). Sa church mo din siguro or kung sa work naman may mga parang non-work related groups. Like etong sa Company namin merong isang group ng mga singers nagpapa audition to invite more people to their club. Balak ko nga mag audition haha.

Speed dating is not bad rin. I recently attended an event kahit mejo olats ako hehe. Pero dun mo makikita na marami talaga ang naghahanap. Yung mga makikilala mo naman sa event e sigurado mga naghahanap din yun, lalo na kung mahal ang bayad sa event. Sino ba naman gagastos ng 1k para lang makipag bolahan lang diba?

La na ako maisip e, pero pag may naisip din kayo, share nyo rin sakin dahil gaya ng iba sa inyo, naghahanap pa rin ako e hahaha 

[onilord]

It's not about love because it's everywhere and it's within ourselves. We can't find the right person because we choose to surround ourselves with the wrong people.

This!