Would you settle for a guy who already has a kid?

[dheive]

nope

[dumpee.o13]

For me, the ONLY instance that I'll settle for a guy who has a kid is pag deads na yung mom ng bata. I know that I may sound bad pero mahirap na e' mas mabute na yung wala kang karibal sakanya. Kahit pa sabihing, wala na sila. May past pa din sila and magkikita at magkikita yan para sa bata. So ako, game ako maging step mom, provided na wala na yung mom ng bata. Hehe' mahirap nang masaktan at ma-left aside noh'

[SPECIAL_BRANDY]

mahirap makaribal ang bata.hindi ka mananalo. A parents will choose the kids over you specially to a father side. kaya mahirap to settle with a kids. Pero kung yon ang kapalaran mo you have to accept the fact na number 2 ka sa buhay nya. (scenario asawa ka lang at kadugo nya ang bata. )

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[mishyewarians]

for me, NO! baka may chance pa na magkabalikan pa sila nung mom nung kid
and for me, parang 2 silang "inaagawan" mo. marami namang iba na single pa. iba kasi yung happy family e, kawawa yung mga bata. kahit ano mangyari, syempre, gusto pa rin nung bata na ang magkasama yung mom and dad nya

[xenos54]

For me, the ONLY instance that I'll settle for a guy who has a kid is pag deads na yung mom ng bata.

i second the motion..

mas ok pa siguro yung may asawa before kahit di annulled.. basta hiwlay na talaga at walang kid.. kasi the connection will always be there..

[dumpee.o13]

i second the motion..

mas ok pa siguro yung may asawa before kahit di annulled.. basta hiwlay na talaga at walang kid.. kasi the connection will always be there..

^ yes, totoo sis. mahirap na kase e dba?! pag may kid, may connection pa din sila talaga. and that's something na di pwedeng iwasan..

[xenos54]

yup.. and you cannot stop them naman from seeing each other kasi kawawa naman yung kid nila ang magsusuffer din..

so.. id rather remove myself from the equation..

heheehee.. kung nasa akin ang choice ah.. pero mahirap naman magsalita ng tapos diba?

 

[dumpee.o13]

yup.. and you cannot stop them naman from seeing each other kasi kawawa naman yung kid nila ang magsusuffer din..

so.. id rather remove myself from the equation..

heheehee.. kung nasa akin ang choice ah.. pero mahirap naman magsalita ng tapos diba?

 

^ yeah, or rather don't have an affair nalang w/ someone who has a kid. sabi nga, prevention is better than cure.

[xenos54]

^^ i second the motion sis..

[nicoletta]

If I don't know that the guy has a kid, I might fall in love.  Aside from the physicality, I also look at the guy's character.  I almost ended up with a man with a kid because I did not know he had one in the first place.

Swerte ko na lang that I met someone else na mas worth it, walang sabit and maayos ang family.

[izabelle]

No.. kasi lifetime responsibility nya yan and meaning nung lifetime din na kadikit ng buhay namin ang mom nung bata.. ayoko ng complicated ang mga bagay. and higit sa lahat, ayokong may IBANG bata na kahati anak ko..

[Kriman]

If mahal nya ako, ang mahalaga naman mahal ang isat isa eh.

[sixteen16]

no.. never..

[karmark16]

Honestly for me it's a NO. Not because I think na magiging burden ang anak niya sa relasyon namin pero, dahil alam kong hindi pa ako capable na magalaga ng anak. Siyempre you will have to be the child's stepmom and hindi biro ang ganung klaseng responsibility. It may also get complicated in the future.

[megansmomma]

Depends kase nga pag mahal mo ang isang mahal mo dapat ang lahat sa kanya..
oo syempre burden yon kase instead of kayong dalawa lang, me kasama na agad na alalahanin pero hindi naman magiging sagabal yun sa tingin ko. imo!

[stebsy]

Yes! Why not right? If you really LOVE the guy (love in its true essence which means unconditional Hindi yung love-love-an Lang). Been here done that. not once but twice. First is I knew he has kids. Di naman nagging problem ang 3 kids nya. They were nice to me especially the youngest. But eventually we broke up not because of the kids or wife but because of third party. Hahaha! Second relationship I've been with a guy who have kids is my recent relationship. First two years I thought he has none. Turned out he have two kids. That was not a problem for me because the kids are so adorable.

It doesn't matter if the guy has kids. Its how you deal with the situation. Love is not selective. Its not "hey I love this guy coz he doesn't have kids. He has a clean slate." How you take the circumstance, I think that is the test if until where or how much are you willing to give for that someone you say you LOVE. If you can't maybe you are not really in love or rather you love your self more.

[sixteen16]

No. Never! Para sa akin kasi if nagawa na nya iwan ang nanay ng anak nya, magagawa nya ulit ito. Hindi man ngayon sa darating na panahon.

[Mrs.T]

for me, NO! baka may chance pa na magkabalikan pa sila nung mom nung kid
and for me, parang 2 silang "inaagawan" mo. marami namang iba na single pa. iba kasi yung happy family e, kawawa yung mga bata. kahit ano mangyari, syempre, gusto pa rin nung bata na ang magkasama yung mom and dad nya

^I agree with you sis..

[toothfairytales]

It will still be depending on the situation. But personally, my answer is no. dahil may anak na siya, hindi maiiwasan na magkikita pa din yung nanay at tatay nung bata, kasi obligasyon nila yun sa isa't isa para dun sa bata. Kung kayo man ang magkakatuluyan, lagi and forever pading part ng life nung guy yung mom nung child. Tsaka nagkaanak na nga sila, tapos naghiwalay pa din, hindi malayo na iwan ka pa din nya or di magwork yung relationship nyo. Just settle for a guy that is single in my opinion though Good luck sis!

[Girltalker2]

It takes a lot of understanding/maturity for someone single to want to be with someone who was previously married na or with kids from a previous relationship.  Be it babae or lalaki yung may anak na.

Given a choice naman kasi, bakit hindi ka sa single nalang kesa someone married na?  Tapos, kadalasan, sa mga guys na married na, feeling nila nakasal na sila once at nagkamali, most likely, di na nila gugustuhin to go through all that again - kadalasan lang naman.  Pero meron parin gusto parin magpakasal.  As for the girl, di ba every girl's dream is to have her own wedding?  so, medyo may mismatch kung dating married na si guy na ayaw na pakasal and si girl na gusto pa magkaron ng wedding.