on wife who cheat...

[teAsingDov3]

@ miss resilient
I think it's best that you not continue your friendship with the guy especially that you seem sooo vulnerable at the moment. Besides, I honestly think it would be downright stupid to get involved with him at the expense of your marriage, letting yourself fooled by whatever emotions you may be feeling towards him. You're just another conquest-to-be and the guy obviously is not trustworthy. Having two women in his life already will not make him a better man, nor you a better wife, if you include yourself in his to "do" list.

just remember, if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you. tingnan mo nangyari sa gf nya. sa tingin mo di yun posibleng mangyari din sayo?

I agree with this. What difference will you be from the other girls? I'm sure whatever he's telling you or doing for you right now, it's all just part of his woooing strategies to make you fall for him.. I bet he's done all of those things to other women...

Also, sabi nga, "what goes around, comes around". A relationship that started out wrong will rarely work out, lalung lalo na pag may naaapakan kayong tao.. whatever "happiness or enjoyment" one feels in an illicit affair, may mga taong nasasaktan din and I believe in due time it will come back to haunt and torture BIG TIME, twice as much as the enjoyment  felt during the affair.

Isipin nalang, kung nagawang manloko ng isang tao sa partner niya, most likely magagawa din nya sa taong kasabwat sa panloloko... at yung mga hubbys/wives na nagloloko o may mga forbidden lovers(kahit pa sabihing mahal nila mga kalaguyo nila), I doubt may complete trust din sa knilang pagkatao yung mga kabit nila kase sariling mga asawa nga nagawa nilang lokohin, how much more sa mga dispensable at replaceable na mga kabit, kase hindi imposibleng di rin sila lolokohin pag dumating ang time when the "romance and all the kilig factors" have faded, or just like with their spouses, when everything becomes routinary about the affair at nagkasawaan. Mas madaling bitawan ang isang affair than a marriage.

Remember nalang sana natin yung golden rule. "Do not do to others what you would not like to be done to you".

[miss resilient]

kung minsan bakit hindi ganon kadali bitawan ang isang affair...?

[hersmart4ever]

I guess madalas dumarating ang ganitong point sa buhay ng isang married woman when she's meandering to be romantic at di niya yun makuha sa husband niya. And when a man comes that smells like a dozen of flowers, nati-tempt siya to create that romantic mood with him.

Problem kasi with most husbands, they are not sensitive enough sa needs ng wives nila. Even when making love, feeling minsan ng babae, sex object siya. Hindi alam ng most guys na ang real sex organ ng babae e ang heart niya. And if a husband cannot satisfy his wife's heart, maaari siyang ma push na mag cheat, hoping that someone out there will make her feel the kind of love and appreciation that she's looking for. Mababaw lang naman kasi ang kaligayahan ng girls pero minsan, hindi yun naiintindihan at naibibigay ng mga husbands nila. Not to mention, minsan pati ng mga anak nila.

One thing I observed, kapag ang guys ang nag cheat, normally it's got something to do about the macho image whatever. Pero most girls na nakapag-cheat, they really cannot explain bakit nila nagawa. Nilabanan naman nila. Nagpapayo naman sila. The fact is kung hindi rin ang mga husbands nila ang tutulong sa kanila to overcome the situation, mahihirapan sila. This doesn't mean naman na kelangang aminin, maliban na lang kung talagang hinihingi ng pagkakataon. Some things are better left unsaid.

Pag babae ang nag-cheat, malalim ang dahilan. Hindi basta temptation lang. There are deeper issues na hindi nata-touch at naso-solve. Karamihan sa babae na nag cheat kept the secret till the end kasi they do not really want to ruin their families or hurt anyone. It's just that merong part sa kanila ang hindi nasasatisfy. The most sensitive part of the woman --- the heart.

Why I can relate? No sorry. I didn't cheat. Pero madalas akong takbuhan ng mga babaeng nag-tsi-cheat or nasa door na of cheating. I never judge kasi lahat ng bagay may reasons, valid and invalid alike, and the person who asks for advice definitely wants to come up with the right decision.

[ayrise]

^ sis lahat ng sinabe mo totoo .. and why do i know this .. hmm.. i felt everything that you said..

at tulad ng sinabe mo .. karaniwan malalim ang dahilan .. sabihin man ng iba na kaya nagcheat ang babae eh dahil malandi sila .. or egoistic.. siguro nga .. ang itatanong ko lang sa kanila? ,,

alam ba nila ang pakiramdam ng wife na nagcheat? siguro kapag nagawa na nila saka lang nila masasabi kung bakit ito ginagawa at nagagawa..

ito ang isang bagay sobrang mahirap intindihin lalo na we as filipinos we're brought up with strong core family values..

[marlo]

totoo nga na pag may asawa ka na, lalong lumalapit ang boys.

may kasabihan kasi tayo na ang manok, pag nakatali, mas madali hulihin.

[hopelessromantic]

^tsaka aminin,mas madaling makipagbreak sa married woman.kasi alam ng guy na mas uunahin syempre ng mga girls ang anak nila kesa sa pansariling kaligayahan.

[miss resilient]

just wanna share what happened. nabuntis pala niya girlfriend niya at ayaw niyang panagutan..ang gusto pa niya dalhin sa harapan ko at sabihin ako yung hinihintay niya..i told him na panagutan niya yung ginawa niya at wag gawin yun dahil masakit makarinig ng ganung salita lalo at pregnant ang gf niya....isang bagay na tamang ginawa niya...he seek his dad's advise..sana tama ang maging decision nila. he told me he's sad because feeling niya..lalo akong napapalayo sa kanya because of the situation..well i am too....i'm sad because of what happened.

[magichild07]

ako din i dont have anything against sa mga wife na nag-cheat... they have reasons in doing it at tama ang mga sis natin malalim ang dahilan and one of the many reasons is that sometimes they just want to feel that they are loved....minsan kahit na alam nila na goodtime lang sila nga mga boys na lumalapit....

[angel_babyteen]

Sis thread starter,see,hindi po sya w0rth it,yung wife nga nya iniwan nya at yung pregnant gf nya balak nyang takbuhan,h0w g@g0 he is,pan0 ka nakakasigur0 na hindi nya gagawin say0 ang ginawa nya sa asawa and gf nya,baka hes just using u para matakasan si gf,pag iniwan m0 ba si hubby magiging masaya ka ba kn0wing na ganyang klase ng guy pinalit m0 sa kanya,sabi nga nasa huli ang pagsisisi,try t0 tell hubby na lang ab0ut the pr0blem baka maay0s pa,maunt0g ka mas better pala ang iniwan m0,g0odluck :-)

[miss resilient]

^thanks for the response.

but first of all, di niya iniwan wife niya. siya ang tinaboy kasi nga sa mga kasalanan niya.

i believe na di mo sasabihin ang isang bagay kung di galing sa loob mo...naramdaman ko kasi ang sadness niya ng sabihin niyang "pakiramdam ko lalo kang napalayo sa akin"..realizing na magkakaanak na siya sa gf niya.

imposible na nga ang situation namin..nagkaganito pa. siguro ito na nga yung sagot sa tanong sa kanya.."what can i do or must happen for me to forget you".

[teAsingDov3]

but first of all, di niya iniwan wife niya. siya ang tinaboy kasi nga sa mga kasalanan niya.

The more of a jerk he is, I think. The fact na ginago na niya wife niya to the point na itinaboy siya nito, it only proves how unworthy he is, isang matinding bato lang siya na ipupukpok mo sa sariling ulo mo pag nagkataon. He doesn't even have the balls para akuin din yung nabuntis nyang gf, my my..

also, a lot of women fall for the "drama" most players are good at kaya no wonder maraming naloloko.. sabagay there are also a lot of fools out there all in the name of "love".

[marose17]

I am one of those who believe that a married woman should not have a close heterosexual guy friend, especially with one whom she may be attracted to.  Close, meaning, you go out (just the two of you), text each other regularly, share secrets, maybe, even flirt.  I'm not saying that a married woman should never have guy friends ha.  My point is, married women should know their boundaries to protect their marriage.  Hindi puwedeng magkaroon ng super close friend to the point na puwede kayong matukso or ma-develop sa isa't isa.  (*By the way, this rule applies to married men too).

To the thread starter, if you are unhappy, pray to God to give you strength.  Someday, you will look back on this episode and realize that God had a purpose why things did not work out with this guy.

[ayrise]

also, a lot of women fall for the "drama" most players are good at kaya no wonder maraming naloloko..

so so TRUE!!! .. MEN i think are more dramatic than women when they really need to be .. kung ano ano ang sasabihin sa iyo .. pero asan? ganun pa rin hindi ba? other woman ka parin ..

IMHO ,,, if he really loves you like he tells you .. why don't he fixed everything then live with you "peacefully" without all the complications? How can you trust and believe a man who keeps on professing his love for you when he still is with the other woman .. who doesnt have the guts to face all odds just to be with you .. call me idealistic .. i don't know it's just that doesn't it contradicts the whole point of loving you??

can somebody love you with "BUT" .. hayy .. i learned all of this the HARD WAY ..

[hersmart4ever]

I am one of those who believe that a married woman should not have a close heterosexual guy friend, especially with one whom she may be attracted to.  Close, meaning, you go out (just the two of you), text each other regularly, share secrets, maybe, even flirt.  I'm not saying that a married woman should never have guy friends ha.  My point is, married women should know their boundaries to protect their marriage.  Hindi puwedeng magkaroon ng super close friend to the point na puwede kayong matukso or ma-develop sa isa't isa.  (*By the way, this rule applies to married men too).

To the thread starter, if you are unhappy, pray to God to give you strength.  Someday, you will look back on this episode and realize that God had a purpose why things did not work out with this guy.

Great tip. Well honestly, isa ito sa mga bagay na inihanda ko ang sarili. Alam ko na the moment I got married, medyo mag-iiba ang level ng closeness namin ng mga guy friends ko.

[simplemind]

^ agree... sa totoo lang mas magaling magtago at magdala ang babae kesa sa lalake... 

So if ever malaman ng husband mo na matagal ka na nag stray sa kanya, ano gagawin mo? pack up your things and say bye and finally the long waiting is over? or mag rereason out at ibalik ang nagawa niyang pambabae before at sisisihin mo siya sa panlalake mo? im just wondering kung ano ang nasa isip ng mga ganitong nanlalake....are you ready for the consequences?

[spicyangel]

^i dont really know what will happen and what to do if he found out. all i know is im happy with my life now with or without my husband. i dont care kung palayasin din nya ko.. after all the pain he caused me.. wala ng sasakit pa dun... i thought i forgave him but i was wrong.. i know that having an affair is not an answer to my problem... i know the consequences and i will accept everything.... he pushed me to the wire. we dont have problems now unlike before, but i know in my heart that i dont love him anymore. ayokong sakin manggaling na maghiwalay na kami. i dont know.... i have this attitude na takot magsabi ng goodbye... but when the time comes na iwan nya ko and mag goodbye sha.. tatanggapin ko yun... i wont hold him back.. noon mahal na mahal ko sha pero ngayon hinde ko na sha mahal... yun lang yun.

[miss resilient]

siguro kaya nila nasasabi ang mga bagay na ganyan kasi nga di nila napagdadaanan....

[simplemind]

^^Thank's for your answer spicy angel

Siguro nga thats why im curious about this setuation and i got a very honest answer from you sister, kasi nga di ko napag daanan yan, and i truly respect your reasons....sa married couple may trial period talaga tayo na sana malusutan natin lalo na pag matagal na kayo nagsasama parang no more spark ika nga, and knowing someone new na magbibigay ng todong attention is really hard to resist , in my case if ever ma fall out of love ako sa asawa ko and having an affair to someone else and wait for him to find out and see whats happen next di ko hihintayin yon...medyo complicated din ang araw na yon na malaman niya

so sayo sis spicy angel, but ayaw mo nalang siya iwan and tell him na fall out of love ka na sa kanya para at least kung mahal mo ang no 2 mo ma settle ninyo ng maayos kaysa malaman at magkagulo muna

[spicyangel]

^ ewan ko sis, di ko alam bakit di ko sha maiwan. sabi ko nga sayo i have this attitude na takot sa goodbyes... alam mo yung kanta ni gary v. na PAANO? yun na yung kanta ko ngayon sa kanya.. bawat lyrics non... sanay matapos na lang ng di makapag umpisa.. kahit anong pilit ko sa sarili ko na mahalin sha ulit wala na talaga ko mapiga... friendship na lang ang namamagitan samin...

another thing is di ko sinadyang maghanap ng lalake para lang makaganti sa asawa ko. kusang dumating sa buhay ko tong tao na to, nagkataon na t**** ko at weak kaya na fall ako.. di ko rin alam kung ano nasa isip ko at di ko man lang naisip na hinde ako mahuhuli ng asawa ko... siguro nga di ako takot mahuli.

[simplemind]

Sis choose to say goodbye nalang than to wait  for him to find out...diba gusto mo na makipaghiwalay sa kanya? doon rin naman ang punta ng either sa dalawang pagpipilian mo e, at least sa say goodbye mas magaan sa kanya and he can move on na walang dala dalang baggage sa dibdib, unlike na mahuli ka and maghiwalay  medyo mahirap ang setuation, try to picture it out and see what is the best things to do

no kids involve? parang nabasa ko mga previous post mo sa ibang thread na you hate your step kid i guess