I have been asked here how I will treat my daughters.
Kaming mag asawa... we commit to support fully our kids hangga't saan gusto pumunta with their brains -- regardless of sex.
God permitting, we may be able to set aside something beyond educational needs....(you never can tell with life eh di ba. God helps those who help themselves. But some big deals are not in our hands. Think of the current global financial crisis.. mga ganoon. Hindi mo masasabing I have it all now... and I will have it forever!)
But it will never be a cradle-to-grave arrangement. Ano?! Ano yon? Welfare? Eh kahit na US hindi na kaya such expense!
We will not say... like my parents, may mana ka hija or hijo. ah hindi!
You can study anything under the sun... pero may time limit.. So many years in GS, so many in HS, so many College tapos... MBA so many years lang. Hindi katulad ni FB eh forever irregular 1st year College. hehe
Right now, I cuerdas my husband.
Every kid, kahit na you wake up one day ayaw mo ang face, kahit na matigas ang ulo... etc... Compulsory Heir. He said, whatever... basta gusto ko ang mga anak natin ang makikinabang, hindi ibang tao, sa pinaghirapan natin. Amen.
Ngayon pa lang, kahit na malayo pa ha... I cuerdas my girl... kelangan may pre-nup. Ano yon? Sweetie, you see this? This pretty lady is Catherine Zeta Jones! Pretty, and pretty smart..... dahdahdahdahdah... LOL
Sweetie, a man must pay for your time!
Pero hindi ka intelligent if he pays only for a short time. LOL!
If a man promises you the moon, you must see the moon -- hindi photo lang. Something like that. Paglakilaki mo mas getz mo.
(Gusto akong batukan ni Achi when she heard this lecture of mine... to nieces na -- hoy! bata pa mga yan. Bata pa daughter mo! Sabi ko mga wise na rin yan! Brainwashing must start early per Hitler.)
There is a thread on pre-nups (not the photo pre-nups ha) and I posted there medyo as usual, mahaba.... eh hay naku macuento nga kasi ako. (I do hope some of you get amused.)
Well, I will bring up my daughter thinking pre-nups are practical, no big deals... another tool to orderly co-existence.
It is not a matter of raising a feminine child...
But a matter of raising someone with no borders on her dreams... sige, sige go for it hangga't kaya.
Kelangan hindi ka Maria Clara. Kelangan makapal ka like Korina ... ooopz, baka ma X ako dito ah. Sorry.
It is not a matter of raising a feminine child nga... but a matter of raising someone who does not think her dream is less than that of her male sibling, partner/spouse.
If there is a dream that is just as good, as important as any body else's dream, regardless of gender...... then it follows that she will always value herself and not put herself in harm's way nor be a victim of abuse of any kind.
It is not a matter of raising a feminine child nga.. but a matter of raising someone who respects herself and respects her spouse and others.
If there is respect for herself and for others... all other things like kindness, consideration, fairness, etc. follow di ba.
My son is into taekwando.
My daughter will take aikido.
I am very particular about her growing up to be physically adept at defending herself vs sexual harassment.
So there, pantay pantay. What the son has, the girl has too -- as far as is practical/feasible.
Of course, como mother tayo di ba.. there is the skill of flirting to be taught. hehe (hindi ko na gets yan sa mother ko eh... na gets ko sa mga classmates ko!)
For the son naman, kelangan sabi ko kay hubby may mag teach what are the traps girls na hmmm spring. Pano mo lulusutan ang mga ganoon? Kasi you know most young men... sige lang nang sige, pasok ng pasok saka na isipin pano lusutan. Hay buhay.
Saka na daw, bata pa. Sabi ko eh, per Hitler you gotta start them young!
