How to Bring Back Kilig, Romance, Spark in a relationship?

[Kady_14]

^ find a common day na pwede kayo and i-book mo na para sureball. Gawain ko yan kaya wala na magawa ang asawa ko.

Promise it would both do you good. As a Mom, narerefresh ako. Minsan di ba nakakapagod dami natin iniisip, mga bata, school, minsan ultimo costumes nila and school projects, mga biglaang bring a chorvah tom, atin pa din yan. Ano ba namang malay ng yaya di ba. Saka if ever, tayo pa din masisisi jan if walang dala.

Plus the things we need to finish at home. House repairs, tawagan si manong ganyan... etc.

Find time for it, Magbook ka in advance. Kasi kapag walk-in lang and plano plano lang, mas may posibilidad na hindi matuloy. The stay home and cook dinner or sumptous meal really doesn't work for me. Kasi madami ko nakikita sa bahay, mga kalat ligpitin, gagawin. So hindi din nakakarelax. Nakaka distract.

Saka ang kids they tend to interrupt and ask questions lalo kapag nguusap kami. I understand that they want to involve theirselves too and they have tons ok kwento about school so maganda date talaga sa labas. Iba pa sa family dates.

Goodluck sis. Sakto mag Vday na.

[caramelli]

^agree ako sa sinabi mong maraming kalat sa bahay, iisipin mo pa nga naman yung mga ligpitin. planuhin ko na yan. thanks sis!

[hedonista]

@ sis Kady_14
"Promise it would both do you good. As a Mom, narerefresh ako. Minsan di ba nakakapagod dami natin iniisip, mga bata, school, minsan ultimo costumes nila and school projects, mga biglaang bring a chorvah tom, atin pa din yan. Ano ba namang malay ng yaya di ba. Saka if ever, tayo pa din masisisi jan if walang dala."

- super nakakarelate na ako dito. the son is not in school yet. pero in order for the household + home not to fall apart, we need to be SUPERWOMAN mode. and then we have to think pa how to be pretty for the husband and not to lose the so called spark.

We have to be a JUGGLER in order to do all the things we need to do without losing that spunk - and not be losyang and keep the husband insterested. not for him to veer his attention away from us the reyna ng tahanan.

[imyourangel]

Bumping this thread.. any more ideas guys?

[hedonista]

true sis.

more.

natotoxic na ko sa mga kabit at infidelity ek ek,

kung ito man ang solusyon sa mga namamaklang relasyon, lord help me

[frappysabz]

always flirt with each other. hehe

[snix]

true sis.

more.

natotoxic na ko sa mga kabit at infidelity ek ek,

kung ito man ang solusyon sa mga namamaklang relasyon, lord help me

ako din.. Because this was the sole cause of my breakup before.. Ngayon that i'm in a relationship again, I try to find ways na hindi mawala spark sa amin.. So any more ideas? May God always bless all of our relationships and keep us away from temptations

[chai88]

Just want to share my story regarding this topic...

How to bring back the kilig, romance and the spark in the relationship....

What happened was, I got pregnant... Though hindi naman siguro nawala yung love pero aminado akong nawala talaga yung kilig, yung romance and the spark in our relationship. Medyo nagkaroon kami ng gap. With all the pressures, stress and problems, parang pakiramdam ko lumayo kami sa isa't isa... Hindi na kami sweet sa isa't isa. Hindi na kami ganun ka vocal about our feeling towards each other. No more i love you's, i miss you's. Basta alam namin na ginagawa namin mga responsibilities namin... Parang nakuntento na kami doon. Alam ko rin naman na mula noong mabuntis ako, naging unfair ako sa kanya. Especially sa pangangailangan niya, talagang tiniis ko talaga siya dahil ayoko talaga...

So, right after i gave birth bumawi ako... Lagi ko siya niyayaya lumabas na kami lang. Magpapamassage kami kahit madaling araw na. Magfo-food trip kami sa manila kahit dis oras na ng gabi. I always make time for him. Pinagluluto ko siya halos everyday kahit pa nga hindi talaga ako magaling magluto at tamad ako. Bumawi talaga ako hanggang sa naramdaman ko na bumalik kami ulit sa dati na masaya. Na para bang naalis na yung gap samin...

So, ang mamasabi ko rin naman it was also our call na ayusin yun. It takes two to tango, ikaw nga... Kasi kung ako lang ang may gusto noon, I doubt na magiging maayos kami. Mahal pa namin ang isa't isa kaya siguro bumalik kami sa dati... 

[super bratinella]

Prayer and Fellowship together >> very important most especially kung about relationship ang bible verses at very applicable sa mga family situations we learn alot.


Date Night/ Out of Town trip >> We make sure to take a night just the two of us, or atleast 3 days out of town trip together. Nakaka refresh ng relationship pagbalik sa house good as new.

Own life >> Need to have own life apart from work, family life. That is why I really like joining groups to meet new people, to socialize. It pays to have a life outside work and home.

[Marquita]

Okay yung after niyo magsama ng matagal four years kaming magkasama araw araw dahil sa work
away rin ng away

tapos eventually nagkahiwalay ng work. minsan nakakatamad na mag away saka mas madalas narin ng uusap about random things unlike before katamad na magusap.

so i guess some distance and space once in a while

May isa pang unconventional way akong alam pero im sure most of you won't agree
minsan kasi pag wala ako magawa nagttinder ako or skout and sometimes i realize lang na even if ma bore ako sa current bf ko parang kahit maghanap ako ng iba siya parin naman ang okay.
so ayun balik ka sa pag appreciate sa kanya.

[CaraLuisa]

problem namin to ngayon..

We're 6 years married na, with 2 kids. 7 and 3.

ako actually yung parang nawala na kilig. Siya sweet pa rin.
Nag-away kami recebtly kasi well apart from araw araw na maliliit. Nasabi ko na di na ko masaya, and he put two and two together na hindi ako masaya sa kanya, at di ko na siya mahal. Hindi ako nakareact nun.

Anyway, got time to think. I do love him it's just that wala na yung kilig feeling. And I so want to get it back.

So now, he feels hurt, even if I explained to him na mahal ko siya etc.


I want to bring the kilig back.... and also want to prove to him that I love him and I am happy with him... di talaga ko kasi showy ever since....


Any tips?


PS: sa ngayon galit pa siya sakin, di ako pinapansin, and nagsasabi pa ng mga hinanakit, kept saying sorry and explaining myself.. ang sabi lang "I acknowledge your sorry"

[simang]

Two years together and still very much kinikilig everytime. I don't have specific tips on how we do it but basically we laugh with each other most of the times. We even laugh at each other but not in a mocking way naman, more of reminding each other that it's okay to be imperfect. We travel together din. We do things we both enjoy -- kitchen bonding mostly. Walang pilitan or basagan ng trip. We cuddle, we hug, we have amazing sex. Wala kaming major arguments, just very few petty tampuhans. I say sorry, he says sorry, and then we forget what happened and start fresh. We always choose to be in the honeymoon phase.

[chaylyn]

Tama si sis simang.

kami naman 4 years boyfriend and girlfriend and now magpapakasal na kami (syempre ibang kilig level ngayon). naniniwala padin ako sa open communication, kasi sa sobrang busy na ng ibang tao ngayon nawawalan na sila ng communication, ng bonding (sex is one, para daw gumana ang mga hormones) hehe. We pray together, kulitan, harutan, tawanan, sabay kumakain. di naman din mawawala ang away samin feeling ko, isa din yun kasi namimiss namin ang isat-isa.

[simang]

^i guess that's the secret -- to always have fun and a good laugh together! it makes the relationship lighter and just, well, fun. haha! and oh, we're engaged too! love love!

[mebpa]

vacation just to get away from work-house routine.

[diyasharma3489]

This thread has given me lot of tips. Thanks for that.

i agree that there is nothing like a long vacation to bring back the spark in a relationship.

some suggestions regarding some romantic holiday destinations would be helpful