>we refrain from talking about things that are unpleasant like:
conflicts with people who are not important to us, situations beyond our control, past mistakes (even stuff that may trigger the memory)
>we find time to talk about our feelings for each other --- mind you, even our husbands would want to hear us say "you mean the whole world to me" --- wouldn't you feel kilig if he tells u the same even though you've been married for years?
>i set aside money for a date at least twice a month (be it a simple movie and fastfood meal or a fabulous dinner and dance night out)
>we buy each other gifts just because
>we give ourselves "me time" twice a month (he plays airsoft, i go out with my girl friends)
>we try not to let trivial things bug/annoy us
>we made a pact that we will always let each other know how we feel if we are upset and not say "ok lang ako" tapos magmumukmok (sus, kakainis yan pag di umiimik sa yo tapos di mo naman alam kung bakit)
>when we fight and i start saying hurtful things, he would say "tama na, masakit na yan" and if i can't stop, i would leave the house and blow off steam (i usually get a facial or a foot spa) then, when i come home and i'm no longer angry, we'd talk about it
>when he's angry, madali lang amuin kasi ---- yakap, lots of kisses, embrace embrace pa hanggang di na sya galit, then i give him my "best performance" for the day
>we sextext, have phone sex and i let him take videos of me in seductive poses to bring with him if we're going to be apart for more than 1 week
>we have sex all over our place
kusina, salas, banyo, garahe, dining room
>(this may sound kaloka but) i kiss his thing every after bath before he gets dressed --- you could only imagine how "sipag" he is to take a bath hehe (depending on his mood and time constraints, it may lead to a blow job or a quickie or just a simple kiss on his bogart --- no pressure on my part)
>i send him naughty messages when he's at work... (he goes home early in anticipation of my "promises")
>when we're out in public, i sexually tease him by pressing my breasts to his arm and give him a naughty look, or when no one's looking, i'd casually graze my hand on his thing as i pretend to reach for something
>i initiate lovemaking
>when he's on the phone with a friend (i make sure it's not an important call), i sexually tease him --- he loves it when i do that kasi he gets super aroused
for the past three years that we have been doing these, hay naku, i should say, effective sya. our marriage went through a lot and when we decided to give it another shot, we promised, we will do everything to make it work. dapat siguro, parehong determined ang isa't isa to keep the passion alive. minsan din naman kasi, sa tagal nyong magkasama, nagigi nang komportable sa isa't isa and you start taking each other for granted.... my hubby would call my attention when he feels neglected (pag andami ko nang paperworks at puro pc ang kaharap ko, he would say, --- "bimbi, don't you find me sexy anymore? kakatawa, hehe but that's enough to make me get up and give "it" to him...tapos nun, tulog sya, and i can get back to work again)
when i feel that romance is starting to fade, i'd just simply say, "hmp! break na tayo!" ---- lam na nya na K S P na naman ako hehe.
