How to Bring Back Kilig, Romance, Spark in a relationship?

[hedonista]

^ lol, o nasasawa ka na sa kagwapuhan nya? hehe. sis you have to talk it out bakit ka nasstress sa relationship nyo or sa pagsasama nyo. or kausapin mo sya. baka maf ma-fall out of love ka nyan tuluyan (knock on wood)

live in ba kayo? mahigpit ba sya at seloso?

[chuvs]

^ lol, o nasasawa ka na sa kagwapuhan nya? hehe. sis you have to talk it out bakit ka nasstress sa relationship nyo or sa pagsasama nyo. or kausapin mo sya. baka maf ma-fall out of love ka nyan tuluyan (knock on wood)

live in ba kayo? mahigpit ba sya at seloso?

yup sis live in kami we have 1 child na. stress ako siguro kase parang ako lang ang gumagawa ng lahat, come to think of it na mas younger sya sa akin. minsan iniintindi ko kaso minsan kakasawa na umintindi kapag inaabuso ka.....hay...oo nga baka nga tuluyan na ako mafall out of love sa kanya, i have this feeling na kase I am just staying because of my baby...

well hindi sya ganun ka seloso at wala naman dapat pagselosan...hindi din sya mahigpit...sa sobrang hindi mahigpit naboboaring na ako LOL...

[hedonista]

^ ha-ha-ha sis i think naghahanap ka ng excitement. by the way, pareho tayo live in kami ni bf eh. pero wala pa kami baby.
when you said na ikaw lahat gumagawa...what do you mean...gawaing bagay o sa making love? lol. kung gawaing bahay, ako rin ganyan (grocery luto etc.) minsan nakakapagod pero di naman ako nagsasawa pa. also, pareho tayo, he's younger than me rin.

ilan years na kayo live in?

[ladybeatrice_25]

siguro nga ang pinakapotent na paraan is to break the routine. Mejo nafefeel ko na din kasi to dati pa, then nagtravel kaming dalawa  panorth, the experience made us more intimate kasi we rely on each other. then siguro be creative na lang sa iba pa, surprised him once in a while. kung feeling nyo nawawalan na kayo gana making love with him, try it differently. why don't you striptease for him, or magbook ka sa isang hotel then text or call him to pick you up sa room number then pagbukas nya ng pinto you're all set, with matching wine and candles, or role playing..lol
or baka naman sobrang nagsspend kayo ng time sa isa't isa kaya nauumay kana. I realized that kasi dati sa kanya lang nagrerevolve buhay ko. Ngayon ang dami ko ng me-time, nagyoyoga, my online business, time with friends, shopping ang kikay moment with my sister...then i let him have his me-time too. Minsan pinipilit ko pa sya na magstay ng ilang araw with his relatives just so I can miss him...lol

sis chuvs kung feeling mo kaw na lang gumagawa ng lahat why dont you voice it out in a nice way. baka he's not aware of it, tsaka siguro sinanay mo sya na ganun. Ask him to help you, most men want to take the stronger role. kung sya yung tipong dependent sayo kasi he's younger, the more that you have to train him to take the lead. It will not happen overnight, but you can work it out as long as you know what you want.
you don't feel kissing him?siguro dahil hindi ka na turn on sa kanya?stress ba sa work, financial, or sa kanya lang talaga?see if you can save that pa, make a list of things that your bf has that you think will turn on other girls, not just physical but also his skills. meron ba syang killer abs or long strong capable hands, is he funny or street smart. Also flirt with him, in public! My bf has the shock of his life when I kissed him in public, coz im not the type of girl who would do that or so he thinks..

[zz_c@rL]

Hi there!  It was so nice reading all your response, i know you might be wondering what the hell is a guy doing in this part of the forum.  I just hope that reading through your responses will help me in bringing the spark back in my relationship with my gf for 8years.  I do hope its not too late even if she already requested for her own space and time .
It really is hard for me of letting it go. I wouldn't give up without a fight. I hope it can still be fixed.  Your response and advices is very much appreciated. Thank you in advance

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[FridaGee]

do things na hindi nyo pa nagagawa. sometimes pag routine na yung ginagawa nyo nakakasawa na din at nawawala ang kilig. so just to freshen your relationship.

sis ladybeatrice: hindi ko pa din nahahalikan in public ang hubby ko. hehe.. parang hindi ko yata carry.

[ladybeatrice_25]

sis FridaGee: I feel you,pero I can just imagine kung ano expression ni hubby mo kapag ginawa mo yun... and it's kind of fun...
if you can't do it yet, try subtle ways muna...assuming walang nakakakita, slightly spank his butt one time lalo na kapag paalis sya..haha... basta do something out of your character minsan, tignan natin kung di malaglag panga nya...

hello zz_c@rl, that is indeed sad to hear esp if she already requested space and time, that means it has already reached a certain point... I had a male friend who has the same situation dati, he's so desperate to act on it. but I told him to relax,be cool and casual. I don't know the details of your relationship, but with him kasi nasasakal yung gf, so the more na nag eeffort yung guy lalong naaalibadbaran yung gf.I told him to give the girl her space and time but be sure his presence is felt once in a while. In the meantime, enjoy life and do things he want to do like hang out with friends, but be sure not to do stupid things. Tapos just be a friend to the gf, wag ipagsiksikan ang sarili. And it worked, namiss siguro ng girl yung guy at naturn on sa pagiging cool ni guy. So if you have the same situation, try it. anyway there is no right or wrong f*** on that...

[harlet]

i agree pag routine na ang ginagawa boring na rin....parang yun at yun na lang...

do something extra-ordinary na kakaiba sa kaniya...

i like the butt spanking, he he, di ko pa nagagawa....

[wildheart2386]

hmmm.. i must agree na nawawala talaga yung sweetness.. mag fo-four years na kami ng bf ko, and halos lahat na-try na namin. Minsan talaga nakakabore na, so what i usually do is i take the the initiative. Nagpplan ako ng surprises. Minsan kasi kaya nagiging boring ang relationship is because nagkakatamaran na. Like tinatamad na maglambing. And instead of trying new things, i would suggest do the things that would bring back the memories of your past. Like going back to the back places you had special memories. Kasi ganun ginagawa namin ni boyfie 

[raven12]

I posted here way back about my on-off relationship with my bf because nasasakal siya sakin. Now, we're still together but things are really different! I give him the space that he needs and he gives me mine. I no longer ask him what he's gonna do or he's plans for the day,, basta hinahayaan ko nalang siya. Ang result nun, kusa na siyang nagsasabi kung anong plans niya or nagkwento na siya sakin palagi kung ano ngyari sa day niya. May times pa na kapag hindi ako nakareply kagad, tatawag na siya kasi hindi siya sanay na late reply ako. Never niyang ginawa yun before! hehe..

Today till saturday asa out of town bf ko. Pa-cool efect lang ako. Hindi ko sinasabi na magkita kami or what unlike before nako pipilitin ko talaga siya. I was so surprised when he called to ask me if I had the time after work to meet him. Iba na talaga! I'm really happy now with the way things are going.

Basta, hindi na ako babalik sa dati na nasasakal ko siya. Pwede naman pala na ganito kami kaayos. I just hope that things will remain this way para hindi kami nagkakasakitan..



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[paula17]

boyfie and i are in LDR. so i think mas mahirap to keep it burning kasi walang physical contact (which is essential talaga). i go home every year to be with him. we keep in touch online, then every now and then we reminisce on the things we do together, sometimes we exchange questions pa from different topics here sa gt. mostly from here sa the thing called love. i ask him on his side on a particular issue, tapos he will return the question naman para malaman niya side ko. hindi siya yung super sweet na way, pero it keeps the communication constant and gives us an idea kapag we get ourselves in a certain situation, esp. kapag nagkakapareho and nangyayari samen sa mga issues ng mga sisses and bros dito sa gt.

[x-y]

So para bang nakakasakal yun lagi na lang sweet? Nakakasawa din sa kanila yun? Kase ako every now and then nilalambing ko talaga siya. Yun tipong gusto ko lagi ko siyang napapakilig para di nawawala.

[emostef]

hmm di naman maiiwasan yung tipong magsawa kayo.. kasi kami ni boyfriend, magkasama kasi sa work even since.. so imagine magkasama kami sa work kadalasan pag uwi pa. may times na tipong madali kami mag-away sa di malamang dahilan (pero meron lang sigurong 'away' season) then after that we'll tell each other na 'i guess miss lang siguro kita kaya i act this way' or 'i think we need a date' minsan kasi kulang lang kau sa date. imagine kami pa na lagi magkasama kulang sa date.
may times kasi na magkasama nga kami pero casual lang. parang mag asawa, di naman lagi lambingan diba..

[x-y]

Yeah ganon din naman kame. Di lagi lambingan. Pero I make it a point na once in a while nilalambing ko siya. Kase baka mamaya sa iba na pala niya nahahanap yun lambing.

[yabbikins]

Go back to where we first dated. It always put us in the "lambing" mode

[KENZIE]

ofw asawa ko we've been married for five years. two years and 3 months nsa canada sya. nung nagbakasyon sya talagang excited ako yun lang one month [textspeak!] bakasyon nya. nung mga last week nya talagang wala akong ginawa na di ako naiiyak ultimo paghihiwalay ng labahin namin [textspeak!] dadalhin na nya clothes nya sa canada ulit talagang iyak lang ako ng iyak, naalala ko tuloy yung mga times noon na di pa sya nagwork sa canada na talagnag minsan talagang nagkakabad tripan kmi araw araw. sayang pala yung mga ganung pagkakataon kahit minuto lang.

isipin mo [textspeak!] ano ang magiging buhay mo pag di mo sya katabi or kAsama ng matagal. . . dun mo maappreciate value nya and dun marerekindle yung spark or kilig mo [textspeak!] maalala mo mga nice moments nyo together pag naalala mo malamAng you'll have to urge to text, write or email him how much you love him kahit pa dis oras ng gabi

[yvaine]

hai ive been in a 4 year relationship before...i thought he was the one na kasi kahit ang tagal na kami, i still feel the kilig factor, etc....

pero wala,, naghiwalay din kami...dumating na sa point na parang naging bored,, nagsawa,, and eventually na fall out of love na rin ako....

siguro mas maganda kung simula pa lang,, be with someone na talagang compatible kau,, ex. u both love to travel, etc.... hindi madaling magkasawaan if u have the same interests di ba?

[ashley_afiah]

Payo ko lang sa mga nabobored na sa hubby o BF.
Ako mag 11 years na kami ng hubby ko bata kme nagasawa so madami temptations dumating. It came to a point na wala na akong feelings sa kanya dahil sa pambabae niya at parang gusto ko patulan yung iba gusto manligaw saken khit may asawa na ko. pero naisip ko married kami ilang beses na kme naghiwalay pero nalampasan namin yun.So gumawa ako ng way para di boring marriage namin.
1. I see to it that once a week may date kame kahit sa house lang inom kme at feeling nasa resto ang set up luto ako ng masarap na food yung unusual.

2. I see to it na maganda pa din ako lage ako nagaayos not only for me but for him.
3.When it comes to lovemaking research ako sa internet to max new styles, ideas sa lahat ng bagay parang first time lage fdapat as in minsan naka outfit p ako. hehe
4. todo asikaso sa hubby, wag puro problema usapan maging sweet sa isat isa.
5. Isipin mo lahat ng happy thoughts together hindi yung mga galit mo sa kanya.
6. Have time for yourself too huwag puro laba luto maaga ka tatanda

 Ganyan ginawa ko at now I know siya pla talaga mahal ko and no need na maghanap ng iba.

[m0nlin]

2 years palang kami ng hubby ko nun,magsyota palang kami noon,hanggang sa nag ibang bansa sya 3 years sya roon,cellphone at sa internet lang kami nagkakausap at nagkakakitaan,ginagawa lang namin kapag naka online kami naghahanap kami ng movie sa youtube at sabay namin papanuorin yon,sabay rin kami kumain ng almusal ha ,umuwi na sya ng pinas tapos nagsama kami,kaso 1month lang bakasyon nya bumalik ulit sya don,ngayon 5 years na kami sa internet parin kami nag uusap at nagkakakitaan,nanunuod parin kami ng movie na sabay manuod at habang kumakain ng almusal,andyan pa yong magbibigay ako ng joke na bigla naman syang tatawa,tapos magkukwento ako ng kung ano ano,ako kasi madaldal kaya sabi ng hubby ko na buti nga ako pala kwento atleast hindi kami naboboring,andyan yong nag pipinoy henyo rin kami.hay naku tawanan talaga,tapos question and answer kayo,ako nga panunuod nga ako ng who wants to be a millionaire susulat ko pa yon ha para pag nag online kami tatanungin ko sya,tapos sya intresado talaga,pag tama sagot sya papalakpakan ko pa sabay sabing galing talaga ng mahal ko sabay kiss hahaha ,nakaka enjoy talaga,nung nagbakasyon sya rito pumunta kami ng star city lahat ng rides sinakyan namin tapos sa mall alam nyo yong may basketball magshoshoot ka ng bola,naglaro kami nun tag isa kami ng court tapos paramihan ng mashoshoot grabe ang saya,ngayon nga katatapos lang namin mag online ng hubby ko kaya eto nakishare ng hehe pasensya na kung mahaba,try nyo question and answer kahit pang grade 1 ang tanong hay naku masaya talaga lagyan nyo timer ha hahaha

[ficklemind]

travel together na kayong dalawa lang..

do something na first time nyo both gagawin.