How to Bring Back Kilig, Romance, Spark in a relationship?

[hedonista]

Hi there,

Siguro naman lahat ng nasa relasyon, may point na magkakasawaan or bored kayo pareho or magiging routine na ang lahat. In the event na mangyari to, ano at paano maibabalik ang spark, ang romance ang kilig factor?

Rekindle sabi nga ng iba. Suggestions please.

A year and 4 months and I think the honeymoon stage of a relationship is close to being over. I want to feel kilig again. Help.

[summersunder]

try something new. learn a new sport or whatever activity you both enjoy or even new to both of you. basta, spend more time together. 

[sweety000036]

Same feeling here. Been married for 1 year and 9 months pero baket parang wala na [textspeak!] kilig factor?
Ang parang ngayon ko lang nadidiscover kung ano talga [textspeak!] ugali ni hubby. Everyday, instead na lalo ko cya mahalin,parang, nawawalan na ako ng gana dahil sa mga bagay na nadiscover ko sa kanya.
What do I need to do? Sometimes naisip ko if I really made the right decision...Please help

[cgirl]

^ Sad naman.

Pero I believe there's already a thread like this. Paano maibabalik ang sweetness OR nawalan ng gana sa tagal ng relationship. Try to look for those threads

[cherub.rock]

i guess try new things together. get yourselves involved in activities that you haven't done before.. it wouldn't hurt to be a bit more adventurous.

travel.. just the two of you.

i guess kilig, romance, or spark is lost when the two of you become too accustomed to everyday routines. your partner becomes too familiar. everything is ordinary and can barely sustain your interest. treat yourselves with a break, an out of town getaway, an unexpected gesture of affection.. maybe it will work.

[sistah!]

take the initiative. pakiligin mo sya. leave little notes for him. dress sexy. flatter him.

im sure he would appreciate that and be more than happy to reciprocate.

[ficklemind]

been with my bf for more than years, and yes dumadating yung time na nabobored na ako, so i always make plans to travel with him alone. although kahit plans pa lang, at least there is something to look forward to.  then pag nasa vacation na kami, parang honeymoon/retreat, bumabalik lahat ng kilig 

and its nice to have some deep conversation with him once in a while kahit over dinner or beer.

and maybe try to venture into new sport or hobby

[JenTheVixen]

Oh no..
Im actually worried that me & my boyfriend would reach this stage soon..
We've been together for a year & five months..
Everything is starting to become a routine already..
I mean, we still have fun pa rin naman all the time..
Un nga lang nga, parang routine na talaga sha..
Nothing new..
I get bored easily pa naman..
I'm thinking of something else that we could to together nga eh..
Problem lang, we dont share the same interest in almost everything.. * It's actually a mystery that we lasted this long despite our differences.. *
I suggested a particular sport that I've been wanting to try, ayaw nya..
He's been bugging me to try his sport din, eh hindi ko mashado feel..
How's that?
We travel a lot naman.. Sometimes with friends, with his or my family, sometimes just the two of us..
We both love the beach * that's one of the few things that we have in common* ..
Pero we cant travel naman all the time db..
What else can you suggest that we should do to spice things up?
HELP! 

[rys]

hindi pa naman kami nagkakasawaan, (1 year  3 months relationship)

ako siguro hayaan ko muna siya to be with his friends. 
ako din magiging busy with something else.

then, kapag nagkwentuhan na madami kwento.

gulatin mo din siya with something new-hair do, etc etc

[baby_lyn]

mag 2 years na kaming kasal ni hubby ko pero feeling ko hindi naman kami nagkakasawaan sa isa't isa.

what i am doing is sinusuportahan ko sya sa mga gusto nya then eventually nagugusuhan ko na rin yung mga hilig nya.

next is bihira ako magseryoso, most of the time palagi ko syang kinukulit na parang bata, yung tipong hindi naman siya maiinis. (medyo may pagkamasungit din kasi yun kaya careful din ako sa mga jokes ko) pero i found it very effective.

one thing pa pala, kung may mapansin kayo sa paligid nyo, for example a billboard basta anything na mapapalingon ka, try nyo pagkwentuhan yung bagay na yun. kahit minsan nga nonsense na yung pinag-uusapan yo pero at least hindi niyo napapabayaan yung open communication nyo. kumbaga, nag-eexplore kayo pareho. kasi kung yun at yun lang ang pinag-uusapan niyo eh maboboring nga kayo pareho.

yun lang 

[hedonista]

try something new. learn a new sport or whatever activity you both enjoy or even new to both of you. basta, spend more time together. 

thanks sis. i tried to learn online game na nilalaro nya. nag enjoy naman ako and i nagkaroon kami ng pag uusapan kasi yun yung nag oocupy ng weekends nya unless i planned na manood kami movie or isama sya sa lakad with my friends. 

[hedonista]

Same feeling here. Been married for 1 year and 9 months pero baket parang wala na [textspeak!] kilig factor?
Ang parang ngayon ko lang nadidiscover kung ano talga [textspeak!] ugali ni hubby. Everyday, instead na lalo ko cya mahalin,parang, nawawalan na ako ng gana dahil sa mga bagay na nadiscover ko sa kanya.
What do I need to do? Sometimes naisip ko if I really made the right decision...Please help

before kayo kinasal sis, ilang years muna kayo bf and gf? we live together but we are not married sis. so naanticipate ko na yung flaws nya. and i am sure of myself na unconditional dapat yung love before kami ikasal (matagal pa kasi mag iipon pa he-he). I suggest sis, try to reminisce. places or events na kilig pa kayo sa isat isa. =) i tried it and it worked sis. minsan nadaan kami sa building namin dati and i teased him na noong nandun palang kami, may crush na sya sa akin. parang barkada lang minsan turing nyo sa isat isa. para hindi masyado obligation ang dating na you are together.

try lang sis. it might work. suggestion ko lang yan ha. he-he. wish u the best.

[hedonista]

Pero I believe there's already a thread like this. Paano maibabalik ang sweetness OR nawalan ng gana sa tagal ng relationship. Try to look for those threads

ay sis, may thread na bang ganito. di ko pa nakita yun. baka i-merge na lang ni admin or moderator. (Sorry po, pakimerge na lang if ever.)

Thanks for the heads up sis.

[hedonista]

i guess try new things together. get yourselves involved in activities that you haven't done before.. it wouldn't hurt to be a bit more adventurous.

travel.. just the two of you.

i guess kilig, romance, or spark is lost when the two of you become too accustomed to everyday routines. your partner becomes too familiar. everything is ordinary and can barely sustain your interest. treat yourselves with a break, an out of town getaway, an unexpected gesture of affection.. maybe it will work.

yes agree ako. minsan sanay na sanay ka na sa amoy nya, so to speak. parang there is even no need to text or check what he's up to kasi alam mo na routine nya. i remember the last time we travel na kami lang is 2 months in a relationship pa lang kami nun. we went to puerto galera. then drop by sa batangas city to introduce him to my mom. with our busy skeds, hindi na kami makatravel. and isa pa expenses dumarami na rin specially nung nag upgrade kami ng apartment. mall na lang kami or friend's house. I'll wait siguro till September, bday ko, baka makapagtravel ng bonggang bongga, Meanwhile, have to make it work with what's there. Try siguro magbadminton.
 

[hedonista]

take the initiative. pakiligin mo sya. leave little notes for him. dress sexy. flatter him.

im sure he would appreciate that and be more than happy to reciprocate.

yes is. thanks for the advise. i started doing the notes since magkaiba na kami ng schedule. pagkagising nya may food na sya tapos may post-it with my message. then when he comes home, para ko kid na asking for a hug. i think it makes me kilig in some way and sya rin, i feel. iba rin yung may konting space para may mapag usapan and mabalik yung longingness. magpapamiss...parang ganun.

dressing sexy naman...i went over the top. ha-ha. nagshorts ako at tank top un pala hindi pantay B**bs ko. end up pinagtatawanan nya ko. pero mas ok na rin, kasi we take things lightly and no pressure.

[hedonista]

been with my bf for more than years, and yes dumadating yung time na nabobored na ako, so i always make plans to travel with him alone. although kahit plans pa lang, at least there is something to look forward to.  then pag nasa vacation na kami, parang honeymoon/retreat, bumabalik lahat ng kilig 

and its nice to have some deep conversation with him once in a while kahit over dinner or beer.

and maybe try to venture into new sport or hobby

nice one sis. i like what you said, "bumabalik lahat ng kilig" 
once pa lang kami ng travel as in getaway. di pa nauulit. tapos once pa lang kami nag deep conversation over beer. he likes spontaneous stuffs. ayaw nya masyado nagpaplan.

[hedonista]

mag 2 years na kaming kasal ni hubby ko pero feeling ko hindi naman kami nagkakasawaan sa isa't isa.

what i am doing is sinusuportahan ko sya sa mga gusto nya then eventually nagugusuhan ko na rin yung mga hilig nya.

next is bihira ako magseryoso, most of the time palagi ko syang kinukulit na parang bata, yung tipong hindi naman siya maiinis. (medyo may pagkamasungit din kasi yun kaya careful din ako sa mga jokes ko) pero i found it very effective.

one thing pa pala, kung may mapansin kayo sa paligid nyo, for example a billboard basta anything na mapapalingon ka, try nyo pagkwentuhan yung bagay na yun. kahit minsan nga nonsense na yung pinag-uusapan yo pero at least hindi niyo napapabayaan yung open communication nyo. kumbaga, nag-eexplore kayo pareho. kasi kung yun at yun lang ang pinag-uusapan niyo eh maboboring nga kayo pareho.

yun lang 

Thanks sis, i'll keep this in mind.

[orangerain]

Note: Ako kasi yung tipong mabilis magsawa sa kahit anong ginagawa ko. Haha!

The relationship I'm currently in is my first. Siguro, 3/4 months pa lang kami nun, nakakaramdam na agad ako ng sawa. LOL! May point na gusto ko nang makipagbreak kasi "na-mimiss" ko na maging single. Super pinagtatawanan ako ng friends ko dahil dun. Yung bf ko naman eh yung type na taking it seriously talaga. Buti na lang ganun siya. Haha! Super patient niya sa akin, kasi palagi na lang ako may time na gusto makipagbreak dahil lang sa naiinggit ako sa mga single o kaya simply nagsasawa na ako. Yan ang scenario namin for almost a year. Haha!

What he does is, nililigawan niya ako ng paulit-ulit para feel ko yung kilig factor palagi. Until now ganyan siya. Sabi niya sa akin he will make me fall for him over and over. Haha! May ganung drama. Dahil sa effort niya na yun, ngayon hindi na talaga ako nagseselos pag nakikita ko yung friends ko na single... kasi happy ako with him kaya wala akong reason na magselos sa single friends ko.

On my part naman, I always tell him na love ko siya and that I appreciate everything na ginagawa niya for us. Kita ko kasi yun nagpapakilig sa kanya. Haha!

We're nearing our second anniv na. No regrets pa rin na I stayed in our relationship. I'm as happy as can be.

[misteryosa]

Will read this thread regulary para may matutunan ako

[cgirl]

For us, travelling really does the trick.